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Hi guys we have had a few meets with couples and singles but now my partner meets the same guy without my consent or me even knowing about it she don't even tell me. Would that be classed as swinging or cheating! I know what my thoughts are on just want a few opinions thanks |
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If you are in a committed relationship then I would definitely say she is cheating.
If you are just "friends" then it is more open to interpretation.
But if you are getting your feelings hurt then you need to speak up! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I had my suspicions then she admitted she had being seeing him I did speak up but she thinks its ok because we swing?"
would she feel the same if you met ladies without her knowledge
it is cheating in my book  |
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Our opinions don't matter if you feel its wrong then it is. If you're going to swing you need to have discussed in advance what your boundaries are so no one can assume anything. If she thought it was ok why did she keep it from you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why on earth is she cheating on you like this. Surely you wouldn't mind if it was out in the open. If it wasn't OK then perhaps you are not for each other. You are building a wall of resentment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had my suspicions then she admitted she had being seeing him I did speak up but she thinks its ok because we swing?"
For me that would most definately not be ok,its a shitty pathetic excuse for her to cheat and try to justify it
I hope you both manage to sort it out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's easy for lines to be crossed. I've always said that the swinging scene is like Pandora's box and once it's opened you have to be prepared to deal with anything. I would say that its cheating with mitigating circumstances. If you love her talk with her, draw a line under whats happened and establish boundaries for the future.
Find out if she's not getting something from you either emotionally or sexually which she is compensating for by sex with others. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi guys we have had a few meets with couples and singles but now my partner meets the same guy without my consent or me even knowing about it she don't even tell me. Would that be classed as swinging or cheating! I know what my thoughts are on just want a few opinions thanks "
The answer is in your question. Without your consent or knowledge = cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as one person has said, you got into a situation where you both agreed having sex with others is ok.
she has just obviously decided to take it a little further than you wanted, or indeed can.
however, yes, she is probably cheating.
swinging has the prepencity to be make or break for couples that may feel they are strong, but find out they arent.
the thing i find a little a miss about the OP is you dont actually say whether you like the fact though, just that she hasnt told you until afterwards.
do you like the idea of her fucking others without you? |
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If you are both openly swinging why did she not tell you before hand why do it behind your back, it sounds to me like she has feelings for this other man and it has turned into something more than just sex x Jess x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on earth is she cheating on you like this. Surely you wouldn't mind if it was out in the open. If it wasn't OK then perhaps you are not for each other. You are building a wall of resentment."
Mrs N has a different _iew. She feels that you may have encouraged the situation. So beware of doing anything hasty and look at what you may have done to cause this to happen. |
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"I'm actauly gutted she doing behind my back we had made rules but she has kinda went beyond our rules to suite herself and not ours"
I think its time to hide your profile and sit her down and set new ground rules its cheating no doubt about it would she say to you oh yes darling you can shag any female on here you like because we swing ? I very much doubt it .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm actauly gutted she doing behind my back we had made rules but she has kinda went beyond our rules to suite herself and not oursI think its time to hide your profile and sit her down and set new ground rules its cheating no doubt about it would she say to you oh yes darling you can shag any female on here you like because we swing ? I very much doubt it ."
can almost guarantee she would say that now, because it would suit her to.
then when it all falls apart with this other bloke, then the OP will be back on rations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If she felt the need to hide her liasons,then maybe its time to call it a day on swinging.
Is she meeting the same person every time or is she playing around ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she felt the need to hide her liasons,then maybe its time to call it a day on swinging.
Is she meeting the same person every time or is she playing around ????"
hopefully it will only be the end of their swinging.
lets hope the OP can save his relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone else has said, it doesn't matter what we think: if it's made you feel uncomfortable, and you feel she's crossed a line then she has. End of.
Personally - I would class it as cheating. Anything behind your back is cheating, and I can guarantee if you started fucking other women on this site without okaying it with her, she would also class it as cheating.
She's felt a need to hide it from you and only admitted it after you told her of your suspicions, so deep down she KNEW she was crossing the line!? It appears that your trust has been broken and I really hope you can both sort it out but I imagine that you can no longer swing together without that trust.
Good Luck xx (Mrs P) |
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