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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We've only recently started using the forums but we are both shocked at the amount of thought police on the site!
The one place we thought we would find and embrace an open minded group of people would be here, but it seems as with general life there are a lot of people willing to judge and condemn others for having a differing opinion.
What happened to the old live and let live, different strokes for different folks, variety being the spice of life?
We swing partly because we have an open _iew to the world. We try not to judge others. If we are all adults we should be capable of making our own decisions in life, whatever they may be.
Lets not judge each other so quickly xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess what you find here is simply a cross-section of average people who meet here because their common denominator is a love for swinging. That doesn't stop them from having an opinion about any other topic that crops up on the forums. I agree that a judgmental attitude is rarely pleasant, but hey - it's unavoidable, I fear. If I spot a new thread I read the first and maybe the second post, which is often enough for me to make up my mind whether to continue reading or not.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Agreed, but we thought there would be a more open minded _iew to the general sexual side. After all, we all have our own personal kinks and quirks that we have stumbled across during our individual journeys through life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There will always be folk who are compelled to argue, disagree, point fingers, enter into competitions - the list is long.
All it really should be about is pleasure/pleasuring - simple as that. But unfortunately that is not feasible.
Nowt is queer as folk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fix your profile, and you'll come up smelling like roses *blows kiss*
Will try tomorrow to be fair change it every month no interest ;( "
Same here mate a lot harder for the guys on these sites  |
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"Fix your profile, and you'll come up smelling like roses *blows kiss*
Will try tomorrow to be fair change it every month no interest ;(
Same here mate a lot harder for the guys on these sites "
Allot impossible |
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"..... That doesn't stop them from having an opinion about any other topic that crops up on the forums. I agree that a judgmental attitude is rarely pleasant, but hey - it's unavoidable, I fear.....
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I agree and add that just as people have certain _iews, others will have _iews on those _iews! To be fair, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Not sure though, when does an opinion become a judgement? |
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I cannot speak for anyone else but I am human, therefore I judge people, I look at their _iews and opinions but I am a realist and as such know that it is a human trait to judge people.
It is not always a bad thing to do that, what if we were all non-judgemental, who would make laws preventing crime ?
What if we didn't judge criminals and decide that murder, rape, robbery were wrong, should we accept paedophiles for what they are and what they do or should we judge them to be wrong.
I judge according to my _iews, my _iews have no bearing, I don't make laws, I don't pass down sentences to criminals but they are my _iews and often they are judgmental in what I think.
I don't believe being gay is wrong, I don't judge people for wanting multiple partners or having bareback sex, it is their choice providing they are don't involve me in bb without my knowledge.
I believe that when I do judge people it has some basis for being, but again that is my opinion and sometimes I may be wrong in my judgement, another human trait  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've only recently started using the forums but we are both shocked at the amount of thought police on the site!
The one place we thought we would find and embrace an open minded group of people would be here, but it seems as with general life there are a lot of people willing to judge and condemn others for having a differing opinion.
What happened to the old live and let live, different strokes for different folks, variety being the spice of life?
We swing partly because we have an open _iew to the world. We try not to judge others. If we are all adults we should be capable of making our own decisions in life, whatever they may be.
Lets not judge each other so quickly xx"
Site life is what it is .....when I see or am affected by a moral judgement I let it slide thinking just two thoughts as I do so .
People in glass houses should not throw stones and he who is innocent of any crime can judge me but only him .
I find the minute I think of these two sentences a smile crosses my face and I move on thinking small people in a small world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cannot speak for anyone else but I am human, therefore I judge people, I look at their _iews and opinions but I am a realist and as such know that it is a human trait to judge people.
It is not always a bad thing to do that, what if we were all non-judgemental, who would make laws preventing crime ?
What if we didn't judge criminals and decide that murder, rape, robbery were wrong, should we accept paedophiles for what they are and what they do or should we judge them to be wrong.
I judge according to my _iews, my _iews have no bearing, I don't make laws, I don't pass down sentences to criminals but they are my _iews and often they are judgmental in what I think.
I don't believe being gay is wrong, I don't judge people for wanting multiple partners or having bareback sex, it is their choice providing they are don't involve me in bb without my knowledge.
I believe that when I do judge people it has some basis for being, but again that is my opinion and sometimes I may be wrong in my judgement, another human trait "
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"Agreed, but we thought there would be a more open minded _iew to the general sexual side. After all, we all have our own personal kinks and quirks that we have stumbled across during our individual journeys through life. "
Do you mean the pubic hair is vile, all people should like oral sex or they're weird brigade? The people who think that sex their way is the only way? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Just because people swing, doesn't make them open minded. Horny, but not open minded.
This is the Eureka moment many who stick around eventually have. Well said."
2 sets of 1 for the orginal and the second for Blackshadows |
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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago
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"Just because people swing, doesn't make them open minded. Horny, but not open minded."
how very true this is. In fact I think some I have seen on this forum seem like extremely rigid, judgemental and close minded folk I have ever come across.
Plus if your nice and friendly here you will be critisized for that too. You cant please everyone so you just got to please yourself. I will remain as I am even if it annoys people...especially the hyper critical squad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It puzzles me why some think swingers will be any different to vanilla people ? The swinging community is no different to the community we all live in. You also have to be thick skinned to post on any public forums,not exclusive to swingers. Swingers may well be liberated but that doesn't necessarily make them more compassionate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It puzzles me why some think swingers will be any different to vanilla people ? The swinging community is no different to the community we all live in. You also have to be thick skinned to post on any public forums,not exclusive to swingers. Swingers may well be liberated but that doesn't necessarily make them more compassionate."
Ah but they are different as there engaging in a minority past time that at the very least is frowned apon by normal vanilla society .
So logically its natural to assume a more liberal forgiving outlook will be shown by those on the fringe of normal society .
Sadly logic has no place in the argument when dealing with your fellow human beings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another great thread. More fairness on the Forums needed. Negativity stamped out where possible, more liberal input included would be nice too. Etc.. back to work for me. Cioa for now.
"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree. There is a post at the moment where someone said they are leaving.
Many people started saying things like "bye then" ect and just having a dig.
To me if you have nothing sensible to say then don't join the forums.
I understand that people will criticise which is fine but maybe it should be constructive criticism and not bullying !.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just because we all engage in sexual behaviour with other people, doesnt mean we all think the same way.
hell, we dont all swing the same way, so straight away the basis of a happy utopia is flawed lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because people swing, doesn't make them open minded. Horny, but not open minded."
haha 
I think a lot of people confuse oped-minded for 'should-think-like-me'
You can have an open mind and still state an opinion - that's what differs from an empty mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've only recently started using the forums but we are both shocked at the amount of thought police on the site!
The one place we thought we would find and embrace an open minded group of people would be here, but it seems as with general life there are a lot of people willing to judge and condemn others for having a differing opinion.
What happened to the old live and let live, different strokes for different folks, variety being the spice of life?
We swing partly because we have an open _iew to the world. We try not to judge others. If we are all adults we should be capable of making our own decisions in life, whatever they may be.
Lets not judge each other so quickly xx"
People on this site are no different to anyone. Some are easy going, some argumentative, some think they are gods gift, some very modest. Just as they are anywhere. We have had as much success, if not more, finding people to swing with via a totally different approach to actually using a swingers site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cannot speak for anyone else but I am human, therefore I judge people, I look at their _iews and opinions but I am a realist and as such know that it is a human trait to judge people.
It is not always a bad thing to do that, what if we were all non-judgemental, who would make laws preventing crime ?
What if we didn't judge criminals and decide that murder, rape, robbery were wrong, should we accept paedophiles for what they are and what they do or should we judge them to be wrong.
I judge according to my _iews, my _iews have no bearing, I don't make laws, I don't pass down sentences to criminals but they are my _iews and often they are judgmental in what I think.
I don't believe being gay is wrong, I don't judge people for wanting multiple partners or having bareback sex, it is their choice providing they are don't involve me in bb without my knowledge.
I believe that when I do judge people it has some basis for being, but again that is my opinion and sometimes I may be wrong in my judgement, another human trait "
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