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Wwwhhhyyy can't I cum?!?!?!?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can make myself cum within a minute or 2, but no man has ever made me cum .... Ever! I just don't know what it is. I try my hardest to empty my head of wandering thoughts, relax and just enjoy it, but it just doesn't happen! I enjoy sex and I have a very active sex life, but I'd enjoy it a lot more if I could climax! Any help or suggestions would be gratefully received 
Am I a freak lol???? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah I tell him exactly what I like and how I like it, and I can be on the brink of an orgasm for ages but it just never happens 
maybe trying too hard  "
Yeah I've thought that myself lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I tell him exactly what I like and how I like it, and I can be on the brink of an orgasm for ages but it just never happens "
I'm exactly the same only a couple of guys have ever made it happen. That's why I'm here to find a regularly maybe playing with a couple of nice guys regularly will help?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have a lovely black FB who pushes all the right buttons and I find him very attractive, but I think because I'm thinking about cuming, it doesn't happen (does that make sense?!?!? Haha). I'm looking for a woman to experiment with so only time will tell I suppose haha x |
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"I can make myself cum within a minute or 2, but no man has ever made me cum .... Ever! I just don't know what it is. I try my hardest to empty my head of wandering thoughts, relax and just enjoy it, but it just doesn't happen! I enjoy sex and I have a very active sex life, but I'd enjoy it a lot more if I could climax! Any help or suggestions would be gratefully received
Am I a freak lol????"
No you aren't a freak...unless you want to be  .
Turn this on its head, you're having a great time, you're enjoying sex and you can have an orgasm alone, stop thinking that you're missing out, forget about it and just enjoy what you do have.
I can have an orgasm with A but not with anyone else I'm not going to bother about it anytime soon life is just too short.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe without realizing it you're subconsciously holding something back for that one special man ? The mind is a very complex thing best just to go with the flow or you can create problems that don't really exist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you may be worried about it so much it gets in the way when having fun, forget orgasms and just enjoy what you have if it happens it happens , however a good position is to sit on the guy laying on his back faceing him and grind yourself on him as you play, that way you control the pressure and pace but don't concentrate on cumming just enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It could be the fact that you expect him to make you cum. Your placing too much stress abs expectations on yourself so may not be able to enjoy it fully.
..im not judging you. But maybe you just need to let yourself go and go with the flow. Its times like this it gets explosive.
Good luck for the future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes thats a good position on top of a guy
so you can control him.
in my younger days i got taught that position by a erm lovely policeman "
I guess your gonna say you was being a naughty girl and the policeman was punishing you for it , |
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I cant either.. its a mental and physical thing with me. Not cum during sex in 20 plus years.wasnt a regular thing then either if i was lucky 4 times in a year.
wish i had known about vibrators back then would have helped enormously.
Only ever alone now. Im on antidepressants that does make it much harder tho. dont bother mostly its not worth getting screwed up over.  |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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There are times when my partner is f****** me and he gets in a position so i can get my fingers on the button, that and the grinding and i come like a steam train. If your happy to rub while they f*** then do it that way, you may just break the dam xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are times when my partner is f****** me and he gets in a position so i can get my fingers on the button, that and the grinding and i come like a steam train. If your happy to rub while they f*** then do it that way, you may just break the dam xx"
I don't think there are many things I haven't tried .... But I shall have fun on my quest |
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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
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"There are times when my partner is f****** me and he gets in a position so i can get my fingers on the button, that and the grinding and i come like a steam train. If your happy to rub while they f*** then do it that way, you may just break the dam xx
I don't think there are many things I haven't tried .... But I shall have fun on my quest "
Don't worry I'm exactly the same Hun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I tell him exactly what I like and how I like it, and I can be on the brink of an orgasm for ages but it just never happens "
you are to worked up about it. try to relax and let happen it if not does try later. xxx |
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"Yeah I tell him exactly what I like and how I like it, and I can be on the brink of an orgasm for ages but it just never happens "
Yur certainly not a freak I'm in the same boat. Can make myself cum but very few guys can. Even my last buddy who only had to kiss me to have me dripping never got me there.
Te female theory is interesting though as the one time I played with a fem she had me orgasming within minutes!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a similar issue to this. Try playing with yourself before you're with a guy, say an hour or so before. When you climax, remember the feeling. When he plays with you/goes down on you, remind yourself of the orgasm feeling, imagine how horny he'll get when you cum for him. Imagine your pussy tightening around his fingers as he pleasures you, think of him as your pleasure toy, he wants your orgasm and you want to give it to him. Think about how naughty you'll feel when you've let your orgasm happen with him, how it's your little secret that only you can do alone...
Usually does the trick for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe it's a matter of editing yourself. You say you try to empty your head of wandering thoughts. Sure they can be a distraction, but even more so if you try to suppress them at that moment. Really depends what you're thinking, but most often you shouldnt ignore what your mind is telling you. |
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