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By *coobys OP Man
over a year ago
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Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had this at a couple of places was so mithered by singles i didnt play with anyone.
And it wasnt touching or anything just followed stared at and asked without so much as a hello how are you whats your name.
I think the minority can sometimes spoil the fun but in general the main people i have met have been lovely and respectful.
Its a learning curb the 2 clubs it happened in i wont go back to. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
did you report it to the club management at the time to allow them to eject/ban the offenders, if appropriate |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
next time lock the door if it has one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's why we like the jail at cupids! They can watch but have to be invited in. But just because you're on an open bed, it's not an open invitation for anyone to join in. How rude!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go to a different club, never had this problem. Only ever had one single guy come close to the bed we were on and wanking too close to my face, but when he was told no, he moved away.
I have had a woman though try to play with me uninvited, so it isn't just single guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
Confused!!!! Are you saying ckubs shouldn't allow single guys.....except you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just one of a number of reasons why I don't fancy going to a club esp as I don't have to to get meets. Much prefer to accom or travel to meet. Stories like this put me right off going to any club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just one of a number of reasons why I don't fancy going to a club esp as I don't have to to get meets. Much prefer to accom or travel to meet. Stories like this put me right off going to any club."
Not all clubs are like this and your experience may well be entirely different.
Also we only have the OP's word (no offence intended) that this is what happened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just one of a number of reasons why I don't fancy going to a club esp as I don't have to to get meets. Much prefer to accom or travel to meet. Stories like this put me right off going to any club.
Not all clubs are like this and your experience may well be entirely different.
Also we only have the OP's word (no offence intended) that this is what happened."
I have read lots of complaints by couples about clubs allowing too many single guys over the years I have been on swinging sites. Like I said there are more reasons why I don't fancy going to a club. I also have no need of them to get meets as I also said. I much prefer a relaxing meet here at my place where I can entertain. I also enjoy socials before meets and you don't tend to get that at before meeting at a club. I understand some people like clubs or can't accom that's fine but not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things like this will make it very interesting for me on my first club visit next Saturday coz I'm not one who won't tell someone to feck off if they are out of line  "
Hope you have no need to but just be prepared for any Richard Head who might try to spoil it for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just one of a number of reasons why I don't fancy going to a club esp as I don't have to to get meets. Much prefer to accom or travel to meet. Stories like this put me right off going to any club.
Not all clubs are like this and your experience may well be entirely different.
Also we only have the OP's word (no offence intended) that this is what happened.
I have read lots of complaints by couples about clubs allowing too many single guys over the years I have been on swinging sites. Like I said there are more reasons why I don't fancy going to a club. I also have no need of them to get meets as I also said. I much prefer a relaxing meet here at my place where I can entertain. I also enjoy socials before meets and you don't tend to get that at before meeting at a club. I understand some people like clubs or can't accom that's fine but not for me. "
You will also have read many people complaining about single females and couples behaving inappropriately in clubs then  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"We go to Pleasures in Kent on a Friday night when single men are allowed. Must admit I have never had the scenario you describe. There again that's why I prefer a room that can be locked"
bingo... thats why i go to a club that you can locked the doors... so if it does get too much, or people get handsy without asking, I can suggest a locked room
the other thing about the ops post... he was keen to point out everyone else was "very overweight" where he was "slightly overweight".... why?????
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surely all the problems come down to communication. or lack of, in the case of the single people..
whats wrong with, can i join in or at least striking up a conversation.. at the appropriate time obviously  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We go to Pleasures in Kent on a Friday night when single men are allowed. Must admit I have never had the scenario you describe. There again that's why I prefer a room that can be locked
bingo... thats why i go to a club that you can locked the doors... so if it does get too much, or people get handsy without asking, I can suggest a locked room
the other thing about the ops post... he was keen to point out everyone else was "very overweight" where he was "slightly overweight".... why?????
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Because they were "bigger" and could push him out of the way?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes but I'm a single guy so its different for me lol. I also know what I want need and prefer none of which would offer me anything I can't have accommodating. Simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometime single men are like lemmings at clubs and it can be a little intimidating until in the end you think well if you want to follow me to the toilet mate then thats up to you  it pisses my OH off more than me especially if they just stand there staring and don't say a word,and im talking social areas not play areas,we don't play in open areas so that cuts out a whole lot of other issues
I would say on the whole mostly well behaved and we do only play with single men but thinking about the ones that wer'nt I just want to laugh at their very strange behaviours because some really are very odd |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things like this will make it very interesting for me on my first club visit next Saturday coz I'm not one who won't tell someone to feck off if they are out of line "
Bloody spoilsport  |
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I don't think i'd want to play at a club where single guys weren't allowed but it's good when it's controlled.
I know i always praise Our Place 4 Fun but their white line rule works well (any single guys have to stand behind it unless invited to join in). I've always felt safe there and know that the staff, and other guests, would have issues with anyone behaving inappropriately.
i've had some fun times with single guys and look forward to more  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Open beds do seem to confuse some people and they think it's a free for all. Locked rooms are great. You invite in who you want.
Don't let this experience put you off. I am off to a club tonight. I also enjoy the social aspect.
After a nasty experience I won't be doing any home meets any time soon. Hotels can be expensive. So it's clubs for me at the moment. I feel safer in that environment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must admit I do like clubs who have the option of closed rooms...nothing worse than being invited to play and then 10 guys trying to bundle in ,,,
tho I have had some great plays in open areas |
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By *coobys OP Man
over a year ago
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Clubs are great and lots of single men are ok. However there is the minority that have no tact or respect and treat women in clubs as sure things maners cost nothing.
The up shot was i was invited to have some fun with a stunning woman and had it ruined by ignorant non respectful singles. I do think limiting the number of singles is the way to go. Trouble is the singles bring the club a lot of revenue its a vicious circle really |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Clubs are great and lots of single men are ok. However there is the minority that have no tact or respect and treat women in clubs as sure things maners cost nothing.
The up shot was i was invited to have some fun with a stunning woman and had it ruined by ignorant non respectful singles. I do think limiting the number of singles is the way to go. Trouble is the singles bring the club a lot of revenue its a vicious circle really "
did you report them to management |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You should have just got whip out and sort them out lol.
Im still a club virgin. This needs to change in due course. Then we can all share some stories.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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depends how much single men were charged to get in, at some clubs, they seem to be paying for sex, so single women free and couples at subsided price, so the straight men expect sex,
depends on clubs policy, some just in it for money, which is fine, just don't be surprised the single guys want something for the admission fee.
If everyone paid the same, this wouldn't happen, it would be an even playing field, so if your getting in at cheaper prices, you can expect advances. |
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"Just one of a number of reasons why I don't fancy going to a club esp as I don't have to to get meets. Much prefer to accom or travel to meet. Stories like this put me right off going to any club.
Not all clubs are like this and your experience may well be entirely different.
Also we only have the OP's word (no offence intended) that this is what happened.
I have read lots of complaints by couples about clubs allowing too many single guys over the years I have been on swinging sites. Like I said there are more reasons why I don't fancy going to a club. I also have no need of them to get meets as I also said. I much prefer a relaxing meet here at my place where I can entertain. I also enjoy socials before meets and you don't tend to get that at before meeting at a club. I understand some people like clubs or can't accom that's fine but not for me. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
I hate posts like this. Why slag guys off for how they look? How does that strengthen your argument?
Or is it to highlight that you are not only a decent respectable male but you are also not fat so women considering meeting you win on all counts. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have only ever expereinced couples and girls nights, and on those nights the men (in couples) have always been totally respectful.
I still am curious on a single guys night :p |
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful.
I hate posts like this. Why slag guys off for how they look? How does that strengthen your argument?
Or is it to highlight that you are not only a decent respectable male but you are also not fat so women considering meeting you win on all counts.
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There's another thread floating around that suggests fat people shouldn't be allowed in clubs at all!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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dont understand why you feel the need to specify most of the other single men were bigger than you.
does that make them less worthy of being there?
did their weight make them act like animals?
wonder if there will be a thread later on saying some skinny bloke came into the club and acted like he owned some blokes missus and scared them away from a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I won't go to a club. I've had a similar experience when playing with a lady (not in a club) and yes, it's very annoying but I've never had any real trouble with single guys muscling in on action when not wanted. |
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
I lost interest at 'really old git' ..... what's his age got to do with his ignorance ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as others have said
its one reason why i dont go 2 a club
as being single also
having to pay more than others
an dont get anything back ion return
so the clubs is a no no for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is what scares me about going to a club"
Going on a couples night so that the problem is limited.
Or go to a decent club which vets and limits the number of single males attending on any given night and keeps an eye on their behaviour.
The behaviour highlighted in the opening post is far from typical in many clubs. |
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i do go to clubs cos as a single female
its a safe place for me to go ,i can go and socialise and play if i want to ,i play with the single guys and go into rooms where i lock the door ,not gone anywhere near an open bed ,cos altho im an experienced swinger not got the courage to in case i get swarmed  |
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful.
I hate posts like this. Why slag guys off for how they look? How does that strengthen your argument?
Or is it to highlight that you are not only a decent respectable male but you are also not fat so women considering meeting you win on all counts.
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I'm sure you're wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as others have said
its one reason why i dont go 2 a club
as being single also
having to pay more than others
an dont get anything back ion return
so the clubs is a no no for me
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What do you mean pay more than others and don't get anything back in return ? |
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
I do agree that these other guys were in the wrong I have to ask what has their weight got to do with it. What is this thing that's develop with people hating on us fatties when it has nothing to do with the subject. Being fat does not make you a bad person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"depends how much single men were charged to get in, at some clubs, they seem to be paying for sex, so single women free and couples at subsided price, so the straight men expect sex,
depends on clubs policy, some just in it for money, which is fine, just don't be surprised the single guys want something for the admission fee.
If everyone paid the same, this wouldn't happen, it would be an even playing field, so if your getting in at cheaper prices, you can expect advances."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"depends how much single men were charged to get in, at some clubs, they seem to be paying for sex, so single women free and couples at subsided price, so the straight men expect sex,
depends on clubs policy, some just in it for money, which is fine, just don't be surprised the single guys want something for the admission fee.
If everyone paid the same, this wouldn't happen, it would be an even playing field, so if your getting in at cheaper prices, you can expect advances. "
Why should they expect anything it's a swingers club not a brothel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as others have said
its one reason why i dont go 2 a club
as being single also
having to pay more than others
an dont get anything back ion return
so the clubs is a no no for me
What do you mean pay more than others and don't get anything back in return ?"
single men pays more than a couple an single females |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as others have said
its one reason why i dont go 2 a club
as being single also
having to pay more than others
an dont get anything back ion return
so the clubs is a no no for me
What do you mean pay more than others and don't get anything back in return ?single men pays more than a couple an single females "
I understand that then you state and don't get anything in return, what should you get in return, you've payed for entry into the club you've gained entry what else should you get ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as others have said
its one reason why i dont go 2 a club
as being single also
having to pay more than others
an dont get anything back ion return
so the clubs is a no no for me
What do you mean pay more than others and don't get anything back in return ?single men pays more than a couple an single females
I understand that then you state and don't get anything in return, what should you get in return, you've payed for entry into the club you've gained entry what else should you get ?"
yet another thing to ad to the list of reasons not to go to clubs.
the sense of entitlement felt by some because they have put their hand a little deeper in their pockets than we have.
just remember, it costs a couple or single woman a lot more than it does a bloke to go out for a night.
outfits, make up, preening all costs more than a spray of old spice and a shirt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found the sense of entitlement in couples more offensive than the single men. Offensive people should be called on the carpet whether single or not. I hope you alerted management. "
I think you will good and bad in all groups, I think some people will never understand swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think i'd want to play at a club where single guys weren't allowed but it's good when it's controlled.
I know i always praise Our Place 4 Fun but their white line rule works well (any single guys have to stand behind it unless invited to join in). I've always felt safe there and know that the staff, and other guests, would have issues with anyone behaving inappropriately.
i've had some fun times with single guys and look forward to more "
The 'white line rule' is nothing new - effectively the same thing was employed around the party network I used to go to in the 80's. You KNEW as a single guy that the door frame was a 'do not cross without permission' line and, as far as I can remember, there were very few infringements. On returning to the scene five years ago, I was surprised to find that very few people had heard of this and the 'touching/stroking standard' (which I find incredibly invasive) had replaced it - and NOT for the better.
Anyway, I don't go to clubs as a single guy - it's not for me, and don't want to get tarred with the same brush as in examples such as that described by the OP.
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By *coobys OP Man
over a year ago
north west lancs |
For all those having a dig due to my weight comment. It was maybe worded wrong all i meant was my first impression was that i had no chance due to how many singles were there. I maybe foolishly felt i had a better chance due to a high number of very overweight others there. At no point do i say that being overweight means someone is not a nice person. In fact one of my better friends from the clubs is a big guy.
The point was that myself and another single guy were invited to have some fun. Other singles of differing sizes decided to muscle in uninvited. Result the fun stopped and the couple left shortly after. At no point do i say that its my right to solely have fun or that i should i be the only single there and no i did not report it. Thought the couple may have done that.
All i am saying is respect and tact plus manners not a lot to ask for. |
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By *coobys OP Man
over a year ago
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You have a dig for the word overweight then i put different sizes because people are slim medium etc ffs get a life answer the post and stop being numb its about respect etc not sizes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been there and don that... had the same happen to us as a couple!!! now we only go to clubs on couples nights and dont do single guy meets..And so many single guys moan in here that they cant make contact..makes you wonder if they ever bother reading these forums..Good luck to you..maybe you should start a link on etiquet for single guys in clubs!!!!! lol... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have a dig for the word overweight then i put different sizes because people are slim medium etc ffs get a life answer the post and stop being numb its about respect etc not sizes "
Okay... with respect then.... the central point of your OP was the 'disgraceful behaviour' of about 10 single guys who 'muscled in' on your planned/expected/anticipated fun, was it not? What did either their size or their age (quote - "one old git in particular") have to do with it?
Concentrate on their behaviour and leave out the thinly veiled bigotry and you might find your argument taken in the way you would have preferred... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought that this comment was more than a little ironic:
"All i am saying is respect and tact plus manners not a lot to ask for."
But following a matter of minutes with this:
"You have a dig for the word overweight then i put different sizes because people are slim medium etc ffs get a life answer the post and stop being numb its about respect etc not sizes "
I mean seriously, how can you talk about manners and then get abusive?
The problem with starting a thread selling yourself as a white knight at the expense of your peer group is that many on here see straight through it. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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did you report them, that way the club management can deal in the moment.
by ejecting/barring the single guy or the male partner of a couple who is roaming whilst female partner sits in the social area |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For all those having a dig due to my weight comment. It was maybe worded wrong all i meant was my first impression was that i had no chance due to how many singles were there. I maybe foolishly felt i had a better chance due to a high number of very overweight others there. At no point do i say that being overweight means someone is not a nice person. In fact one of my better friends from the clubs is a big guy.
The point was that myself and another single guy were invited to have some fun. Other singles of differing sizes decided to muscle in uninvited. Result the fun stopped and the couple left shortly after. At no point do i say that its my right to solely have fun or that i should i be the only single there and no i did not report it. Thought the couple may have done that.
All i am saying is respect and tact plus manners not a lot to ask for."
you cant complain at people having a go at you about you singling out larger people, when you said it.
why would you say most were grossly overwieght (paraphrasing) when you now say the trouble was with varying people?
you really think you had a better chance than others because of your size?
would almost guarantee they probably have better personalities than you have, and being in a club situation they have every chance of putting that across, so guess what, you wouldnt have a better chance. |
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"We go to Pleasures in Kent on a Friday night when single men are allowed. Must admit I have never had the scenario you describe. There again that's why I prefer a room that can be locked"
Oh me too !! What a fantastic place Pleasures is !! and I have never experienced this type of behaviour at any club ive been too and go as a single girl. I have however been watched by lots of single guys but make it firm if Im not inviting them. It seems to bother guys im with more than me xx |
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"We go to Pleasures in Kent on a Friday night when single men are allowed. Must admit I have never had the scenario you describe. There again that's why I prefer a room that can be locked"
Oh me too !! What a fantastic place Pleasures is !! and I have never experienced this type of behaviour at any club ive been too and go as a single girl. I have however been watched by lots of single guys but make it firm if Im not inviting them. It seems to bother guys im with more than me xx |
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By *coobys OP Man
over a year ago
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Ok no personality and being abusive to someone who does not get the point fair play.
But the question remains is it right for single males to help themselves uninvited just because some other single males have been invited to play. In hindsight wonderful thing myself and the other guy should have suggested a private room because some of the others don't understand basic swinging etiquette. |
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If someone is behaving badly in a club, be it a single guy, single female or a couple, then report them to management, let the staff then deal with it. Also most clubs have lockable rooms so as to avoid this kind of thing happening. |
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This can happen alot at clubs,its all abt manners fri night i went in locked rooms, but one accasion went in open room with 3 polite guys asking permission,a cple polite guys watching
Accasionaly i get bombarded i control it or End it if gets too much,i tell them to back off,tere just excited horny men whethet fat,thin,hot or not l,ike u op they just wanted in on the action,shame u got pushed out,accasionally u will get the pushy ones,no way i would like less single guys in clubs tho or it be boring for me
Just be nice if all had manners,another night u go it could be very different,dont let it put u off |
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This can happen alot at clubs,its all abt manners fri night i went in locked rooms, but one accasion went in open room with 3 polite guys asking permission,a cple polite guys watching
Accasionaly i get bombarded i control it or End it if gets too much,i tell them to back off,tere just excited horny men whethet fat,thin,hot or not l,ike u op they just wanted in on the action,shame u got pushed out,accasionally u will get the pushy ones,no way i would like less single guys in clubs tho or it be boring for me
Just be nice if all had manners,another night u go it could be very different,dont let it put u off |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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these types of threads end up putting people off from going to find out for themselves, which is a real shame for the club & people concerned. reporting the offenders allows the establishment to deal with it and try and make the experience great for everyone.
there will always be pests of all groupings, reporting them & the club having roaming security to keep tabs on it goes a long way. |
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"Ok no personality and being abusive to someone who does not get the point fair play.
But the question remains is it right for single males to help themselves uninvited just because some other single males have been invited to play. In hindsight wonderful thing myself and the other guy should have suggested a private room because some of the others don't understand basic swinging etiquette."
Haven't read the whole thread - but as a club regular anytime I've seen males behave in this way the couple in question will make their displeasure known immediately - as I've had to do a whole once myself in umpteen visits!
Did they seriously put up with unwanted attention for half an hour?
Can't help thinking there's more to this story we're not aware of! |
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"Ok no personality and being abusive to someone who does not get the point fair play.
But the question remains is it right for single males to help themselves uninvited just because some other single males have been invited to play. In hindsight wonderful thing myself and the other guy should have suggested a private room because some of the others don't understand basic swinging etiquette.
Haven't read the whole thread - but as a club regular anytime I've seen males behave in this way the couple in question will make their displeasure known immediately - as I've had to do a whole once myself in umpteen visits!
Did they seriously put up with unwanted attention for half an hour?
Can't help thinking there's more to this story we're not aware of! "
I'm glad you said that coz I was just looking on eBay for a cattle prod to zap any cheeky fuckers!! Lol x |
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By *coobys OP Man
over a year ago
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They left the club approx 30 mins later not sure if they reported the matter. like anything some people don't report things they just up and leave and don't go back. There's no more to it the lady wanted some fun but when she was swamped she changed her mind and quite right to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been to a lot if clubs, from our experience clubs who actively invite large numbers of single males are doing it for the money and not giving their club a chance to build a good reputation.
Most males at these places are a pain, we have lost count the amount of caps we have needed to straighten out.
If you have a look many excellent clubs which advertise couples only always have 2 or 3 selected single males, these guys are never a problem.
It's all down to vetting, unfortunately not many clubs do this bit very well. |
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"Ok no personality and being abusive to someone who does not get the point fair play.
But the question remains is it right for single males to help themselves uninvited just because some other single males have been invited to play. In hindsight wonderful thing myself and the other guy should have suggested a private room because some of the others don't understand basic swinging etiquette."
Right. now we've got to the nub of it... sounds a bit like the couple themselves don't understand or are unfamiliar with club etiquette tbh. Are they regulars at this or any club? There's no clear evidence they reported it - usually there'll be some indication they have in the changed behaviour of the 'guilty males'. One thing you haven't said is if YOU reported it? Why leave it to the couple? If YOU were annoyed at their behaviour, then YOU have as much right as the couple to make a complaint - their disrespectful behaviour would have reflected on YOU wouldn't it??? |
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"Ok no personality and being abusive to someone who does not get the point fair play.
But the question remains is it right for single males to help themselves uninvited just because some other single males have been invited to play. In hindsight wonderful thing myself and the other guy should have suggested a private room because some of the others don't understand basic swinging etiquette.
Haven't read the whole thread - but as a club regular anytime I've seen males behave in this way the couple in question will make their displeasure known immediately - as I've had to do a whole once myself in umpteen visits!
Did they seriously put up with unwanted attention for half an hour?
Can't help thinking there's more to this story we're not aware of!
I'm glad you said that coz I was just looking on eBay for a cattle prod to zap any cheeky fuckers!! Lol x "
You'll be fine!
Nice as I am - in that situation the offenders get to see a different side! |
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What about greedy girl nights where couples and single ladies expect lots of single guys to play with?
Surely it would only be fair for the couples and single ladies to pay more on those nights and the guys get a reduced entry fee for a change? |
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful."
Quite agree although sometimes it works to my disadvantage I am very much in favour of clubs strictly limiting the number of single men allowed, unless of course it's a greedy girl night or similar. Some single guys need to learn manners and only join in after being invited. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't be arsed reading all the comments on the thread, but I'll offer my penny's worth.
If you want to play with someone at a club, and want to play alone without anyone else joining in (or even watching), then go to a private room where you can close the door. Anyone who understands swinging etiquette will know that a closed door means stay out.
Not exactly rocket science, is it? |
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over a year ago
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Oh, and by the way, before anyone become judgmental about me, I am a single male who's been going to clubs for 23 years, and absolutely hate the minority of single guys (pigs) who push their way in on things. So in no way am I condoning desperate single guys who crash in on fun uninvited in my previous past.
Jez saying............... |
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".....if they'd carry on pushing id push boat out and they'd get an indian burn!"
They have, and I did. I've clouted one person who did just that, he just said sorry and ran off. Never saw him again after that!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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never got the whole pushing and shoving over 1 women,fuck that !
when do you hear about a greedy guys night,women pushing and shoving over a guy,a guy having a gang bang
UP THE BOYS!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as others have said
its one reason why i dont go 2 a club
as being single also
having to pay more than others
an dont get anything back ion return
so the clubs is a no no for me
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Obviously a club isn't for you. Save your hard-earned cash and go to a brothel instead. |
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".....if they'd carry on pushing id push boat out and they'd get an indian burn!
They have, and I did. I've clouted one person who did just that, he just said sorry and ran off. Never saw him again after that!
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Given the choice between a male that shows a lack of respect or someone that appears to casually resort to violence, it's a tough call but give me bad manners and a lack of respect any day...
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".....if they'd carry on pushing id push boat out and they'd get an indian burn!
They have, and I did. I've clouted one person who did just that, he just said sorry and ran off. Never saw him again after that!
Given the choice between a male that shows a lack of respect or someone that appears to casually resort to violence, it's a tough call but give me bad manners and a lack of respect any day...
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Hmm, always a judge isn't there? It was one occasion (thankfully) where he was insistent, and wouldn't be told twice - it was the only way to get through him A THIRD TIME.
As an aside, I don't approve of violence, but no use me saying so - I'll just continue to let you make up your own theories about me, shall I? Not that I have to go out of my way to prove myself to anyone.......... |
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"Went to a club last night, as soon as I got in I thought no fun tonight,too many single men albeit most of them were mega overweight whilst I am slightly overweight.
Sat in a room chilling when this woman came in with her other half, she was simply stunning great figure and good looking. They started talking to me and another guy and then she climbed on the bed. We asked politely as she did seem to invite us to play, they both said yes, but within in about 30 seconds she was swamped by about 10 singles that came from nowhere, I even got pushed out none of them asked if it was ok to play, then she got nervous and her and her other half called time, within 30 mins they had left the club.
I think it was disgraceful one really old git in particular. Its hard enough being a decent single guy without the richardhead singles behaving like animals, what do other people think, I am always polite and respectful.
Confused!!!! Are you saying ckubs shouldn't allow single guys.....except you?"
I think his post is plain enough, he was invited to play but that play was spoiled by people who think they can just join in when they want without an invite, I don't think it matters if the couple wanted 1 guy, 2 guys or 100 guys, each one should wait for the nod, wink, be asked to join in.
Paying your entrance fee does not give you a god given right to join in |
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"Paying your entrance fee does not give you a god given right to join in "
Well said. Now if only the minority had the intelligence to understand that..... |
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".....if they'd carry on pushing id push boat out and they'd get an indian burn!
They have, and I did. I've clouted one person who did just that, he just said sorry and ran off. Never saw him again after that!
Given the choice between a male that shows a lack of respect or someone that appears to casually resort to violence, it's a tough call but give me bad manners and a lack of respect any day...
Hmm, always a judge isn't there? It was one occasion (thankfully) where he was insistent, and wouldn't be told twice - it was the only way to get through him A THIRD TIME.
As an aside, I don't approve of violence, but no use me saying so - I'll just continue to let you make up your own theories about me, shall I? Not that I have to go out of my way to prove myself to anyone.......... "
The only way? You couldn't have just reported him to the club staff?
And it may have been the only time that you have used violence in a club but I bet that you have still resorted to it more than the vast majority of clubgoers. |
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".....if they'd carry on pushing id push boat out and they'd get an indian burn!
They have, and I did. I've clouted one person who did just that, he just said sorry and ran off. Never saw him again after that!
Given the choice between a male that shows a lack of respect or someone that appears to casually resort to violence, it's a tough call but give me bad manners and a lack of respect any day...
Hmm, always a judge isn't there? It was one occasion (thankfully) where he was insistent, and wouldn't be told twice - it was the only way to get through him A THIRD TIME.
As an aside, I don't approve of violence, but no use me saying so - I'll just continue to let you make up your own theories about me, shall I? Not that I have to go out of my way to prove myself to anyone..........
The only way? You couldn't have just reported him to the club staff?
And it may have been the only time that you have used violence in a club but I bet that you have still resorted to it more than the vast majority of clubgoers."
Tell you what - how about not trying too hard to be a know-it-all, and visit a club while your're at it? |
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By *ealfunCouple
over a year ago
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We have been going to clubs (mostly Chams) for several years and generally choose the mixed nights and usually have a preference for open rooms.
We have found that the vast majority of guys are polite and seek approval before joining in and respond to a nod or a shake of the head.
We do play in open rooms with the knowledge that the guys will be a cross section of sizes and looks. We would,of course, prefer toned well endowed goodlooking men but you have to be realistic and if you want to be particularly selective you should use locked rooms.
Infact we find it more of a turn off when you get women hovering around but not wishing to join in and just standing there giggling and making stupid comments. |
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"We have been going to clubs (mostly Chams) for several years and generally choose the mixed nights and usually have a preference for open rooms.
We have found that the vast majority of guys are polite and seek approval before joining in and respond to a nod or a shake of the head.
We do play in open rooms with the knowledge that the guys will be a cross section of sizes and looks. We would,of course, prefer toned well endowed goodlooking men but you have to be realistic and if you want to be particularly selective you should use locked rooms.
Infact we find it more of a turn off when you get women hovering around but not wishing to join in and just standing there giggling and making stupid comments. "
Yes - I find the same at Kestrel. The majority of guys there know how to behave and adhere to etiquette. On a plus side, it's a turn on to be watched by the occasional female, and that does happen. Thankfully, not had any gigglers or any make any stupid comments yet! |
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I went to a club few weeks ago, it was my first time in ages. I agree with the comments of one chap on here regarding club etiquette. Men used to wait to be invited to play. But this time when I went downstairs I was groped in a corridor by several men and two actually tried to put their hand up inside me. Now that is not acceptable and it's put me off going again |
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"I went to a club few weeks ago, it was my first time in ages. I agree with the comments of one chap on here regarding club etiquette. Men used to wait to be invited to play. But this time when I went downstairs I was groped in a corridor by several men and two actually tried to put their hand up inside me. Now that is not acceptable and it's put me off going again "
That is bang out of order. Hope you reported them, and don't let it put you off. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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I have now been a few times to a club. Never been groped. Followed, yes. But I will go have a look if I think any action is going on as I like to watch.
I do think these incidents are unusual rather than the norm.
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Is amazed how many people seem to brush over the OP obvious point and instead concentrate on picking faults with aspects of his post?? Must make you feel big and clever ay?  |
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I`ve only been to one club and that only a few times over a couple months.
Before the party starts you can have a drink or two relax and take the opportunity to say hello.
But I notice some people, that includes men, women, couples etc don`t.
So I have thought the owners should organise a "break the ice" game for the more shy people. ??? |
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"I`ve only been to one club and that only a few times over a couple months.
Before the party starts you can have a drink or two relax and take the opportunity to say hello.
But I notice some people, that includes men, women, couples etc don`t.
So I have thought the owners should organise a "break the ice" game for the more shy people. ??? "
I fail to see how a club could or should take steps to make up for a customer's lack of social skills
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