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over a year ago
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this intrigues me.
Seems alot of couples we've chatted to have been together a long time, me and my girlfriend have been together for less than a year, but have know each other for a long time. Our relationship was a kind of shock for us both to be honest, both of us always thought the other was attractive but didnt think we were each others type.
right from the start the sex was explosive, and it didnt take long for us to start exploring each other fantasies and both agreed swinging would be fun.
Both of us have been with possessive partners before and its great to be able to share anything with each other without fear of jealousy or judgement.
We now feel like soul mates, we're both so in-sync both sexually and emotionally.
The only thing that seems to bother her every now and again is that we,ve started this too soon, like we're the odd ones out because most swinging couples have been together years, this is only a slight doubt in her mind, i think shes just scared we're that sexually adventurous so soon that we'll soon have nothing new to try. I say if it feels right and we're both comfortable with it theres no problem. Ive told her that Id never want to push her to do it, I need to know shes getting as much out of it as i am.
so, can any one share their reasons for swinging,
is it predominantly couples who have been together for years or is it common for couples who have not been together long to get into swinging? |
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I don't think it matters how long you have been together. We had only just met when we swapped fantasies and realised they matched. Quite quickly we were finding our feet in the swinging world. That was 10 years ago and we wouldn't of changed a thing. We've changed over the years, made some right royal cock ups, met some amazing people and most importantly of all become more in love with each other than we could of possibly dreamt.
If it feels right for both of you fill ya boots and have a wonderful sexual adventure. You won't regret it I'm sure 
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We began with close friends twenty years before now but only recently with finding this site on the internet have thought about it again.
Reading forums and actually talking to each other about it has been something eye opening.
Sexually we have always been active but I suppose the excitement factor had worn off. Just more of love and comfortableness these days. Which is great but a bit of passion does everything good. Heart body and soul.
That's why we are on here. My sex drive is more than Tom's too so it is really more for me.
Hope that answers some questions 
Penny X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this intrigues me.
Seems alot of couples we've chatted to have been together a long time, me and my girlfriend have been together for less than a year, but have know each other for a long time. Our relationship was a kind of shock for us both to be honest, both of us always thought the other was attractive but didnt think we were each others type.
right from the start the sex was explosive, and it didnt take long for us to start exploring each other fantasies and both agreed swinging would be fun.
Both of us have been with possessive partners before and its great to be able to share anything with each other without fear of jealousy or judgement.
We now feel like soul mates, we're both so in-sync both sexually and emotionally.
The only thing that seems to bother her every now and again is that we,ve started this too soon, like we're the odd ones out because most swinging couples have been together years, this is only a slight doubt in her mind, i think shes just scared we're that sexually adventurous so soon that we'll soon have nothing new to try. I say if it feels right and we're both comfortable with it theres no problem. Ive told her that Id never want to push her to do it, I need to know shes getting as much out of it as i am.
so, can any one share their reasons for swinging,
is it predominantly couples who have been together for years or is it common for couples who have not been together long to get into swinging? "
We met at a munch, 2 weeks later we went to a fet club and ended up playing in the couples room... Didn't see much point in stopping after that! I would stress that we have both swung before and group sex and open relationships are far from new to either of us.
But does it matter why or when others started? This is a great post and you clearly know why you are swinging and feel that it's the right thing for you 2. Ultimately that is what it boils down too. |
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we were similar to you guys I think from what I read. We never intended this to be a long term relationship, great sex no commitment etc. Talked about our fantasies after a very staid relationship.started this lifestyle to live out those fantasies.7 years on now married and very happy. Swinging to us is just a naughty part of our great relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies guys.
I guess swinging reinforces a relationship if there are strong foundations to start with. It makes us feel closer because we have a secret only the 2 of us know. |
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What a great post OP. We met 6 months ago and although neither of us were looking for a relationship, we couldn't overlook how we felt about each other. We have such a special connection in so many ways, we communicate really well, we like doing the same things socially, we enjoy our time alone just being with each other and the sex, well it has been mind blowing for both of us.
We both came out of very long term relationships where although swinging was discussed, our former partners felt either insecure or possessive to try it for real but liked fantasizing about it.
We have talked about our desires and fantasies a great deal and although there is still a lot to learn about each other, we feel comfortable this is for us and we know it will only add to our fantastic sex life and if at any point we have any concerns, we can talk about them, pause or totally stop as the most important element in this is us and our relationship.
So don't let the length of time of your relationship and when you ventured into swinging be a huge worry. We all do things at the pace that suits us and as long as you put each other first, you should be fine - and that's how we see it. |
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Because we want to.
Mind we do scratch our heads at new couples swinging because we think they should just be enjoying each other. Lots of other things to do before involving others. |
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