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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hope you have your helmet ready..... lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do u know that ur wifes not cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your life, your reasons, not for us tho as we don't want to cause hurt in our lives.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

How would you feel - really - if you found out your wife was cheating on you? Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

This'll go well......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This'll go well......

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol"

Why don't you talk to her about it? Z

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reckon half the people on here cheat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol

Why don't you talk to her about it? Z"

Trouble is as he is already verified he would have to fess up to past crimes

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

Why not put it on your profile if you're so proud?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh dear, fab suicide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

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By *opping_candyWoman over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol"

If she was cheating on you what makes you think she would want to swing with you as a partner?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally refuse to be complicit in infidelity, but I applaud people on here who are upfront about it, and allow others on the site to make an informed decision on meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

Are you one of these strange people who thinks they are honest to come here and be above board about committing adultery?

You know what, I don't care about your circumstances I just would not want any part of it. Once upon a time I used to don an agony aunt mantel. Now I just couldn't give a fuck, as I give my energies to deserving people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

Why not put it on your profile if you're so proud?!!

Exactly!

And OP asking a bunch of strangers for help? Seriously! It is your marriage, deal with the problems and if not do the honourable thing and tell your wife.

I am pretty sure she will know already, lies & deceit catch up on you very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

These r all fair points but there are many cheaters on here, male and female and whether or not u except it, it happens for what ever there reasons r x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

He is sitting there inciting judgement, or at the very least welcoming opinions, so what's your problem?

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

Woe is me posts incoming. That train is never late.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These r all fair points but there are many cheaters on here, male and female and whether or not u except it, it happens for what ever there reasons r x"

Just because there are others does not make your actions right!

Take responsibility for your own actions & marriage instead of trying to condone it because others do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol"

Yet another one that thinks cheating is swinging when they are nothing to do with each other.

Yeah people have their own reasons for doing what they do, none of my business. But having been cheated on in the past I will not knowingly aid someone in their cheating.

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By *andWCouple over a year ago

Pontypridd

"I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

It's Thursday, I think rants are allowed on a Thursday lol

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By *ifes journeyCouple over a year ago

scotland

One thing I have learned on my time on fabs ...watching people and learning from experiences is to never judge.....you never know what happens behind closed doors or the reasons why some look else where....I used to be totally against any kind of adultery but my time on here has proved to me to never judge.....

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I must say, I've noticed quite an amount of double standards regarding this subject.

If a "single" man says he's cheating on his wife or partner then this seems to prompt almost universal condemnation. On the other hand, if a woman says the same (and I've encountered quite a number of "single" women's profiles where this is stated quite proudly) then the reaction seems to be more along the lines of "yeah, you go sister ... girl-power!"

Hypocrisy is such an unattractive trait.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say, I've noticed quite an amount of double standards regarding this subject.

Hypocrisy is such an unattractive trait.

Not me - a cheat is a cheat regardless of gender.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

Why not put it on your profile if you're so proud?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say, I've noticed quite an amount of double standards regarding this subject.

Hypocrisy is such an unattractive trait.

Not hypocrisy if there are different members commenting upon the threads.

I for one am not gender biased when it comes to adultery.

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"I must say, I've noticed quite an amount of double standards regarding this subject.

Hypocrisy is such an unattractive trait.

Not hypocrisy if there are different members commenting upon the threads.

I for one am not gender biased when it comes to adultery."

Sure, I'm not denying there are plenty of individuals with integrity - but I've still noticed that, on the whole, infidelity is tolerated more in women than in men around here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it wasnt for married men on here i doubt i would have met so many men because all the best ones are married and available in the daytime, which suits me, so it seems at times.

there are an awful lot of married men who dont tell you they are married either and a lot of women on here dont mind meeting them, just not the ones on the forums so much.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

I allways tell the women I meet I'm married what's the point in cheating anybody wife or person being met .and wife does the same .we can tell each other what we got up to .and she says guys find it horny knowing she is gonna go home and give details.but we do prefer playing as couple .we get more meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I allways tell the women I meet I'm married what's the point in cheating anybody wife or person being met .and wife does the same .we can tell each other what we got up to .and she says guys find it horny knowing she is gonna go home and give details.but we do prefer playing as couple .we get more meets

You sound like you're in an open relationship (sorry if the label doesn't fit). What I mean is you are both honest with each other and it's your accepted lifestyle. IMO that is a far cry from cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to say any married couple or long term relationship would also be deemed as an open relationship for the mere fact you have sex with others regardless of whether you are both present.

But yes it is not "cheating" when both are fully aware and in mutual agreement.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

Huh?!!

The op has started a thread about cheating husbands of which he is one inviting comments. So your problem is?!!

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"These r all fair points but there are many cheaters on here, male and female and whether or not u except it, it happens for what ever there reasons r x"

In our personal opinion its wrong, does it happen on here ... loads and loads of it male and female oh and probably married cheating partners both here without the others knowledge.. Does it bother us ... yes, but only if our wishes NOT to meet marrieds is not respected.. if married cheats are happy to accept we don't want anything to do with them then its upto them what they do. If it sits right with them or they are not bothered about other half that's their own business not ours. It only becomes our business when we get marrieds trying to push us for a meet stating that their wife is nothing to do with this site. If they respect what our profile makes clear about marrieds then, go for it do what you like, just show us the respect and leave us the hell out of it .. basically..

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By *exdexMan over a year ago

formby lanzarote

hi ...has your missus ,still got the mole at the top of her right leg ...xxx lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldn't judge although we often point out that their wives might love some fresh, new cock between her legs.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

You know I don't really care what people who play away do, it is their life and their conscience....but your post sounds really flippant which sounds really disrespectful for the woman you married and I am guessing still love

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By *az1312Woman over a year ago

Somewhere near Coventry

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

May I ask for how long have you been married?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

not suprised to see someone taking up for 'their own kind' as it were.

OP, if you want to ruin your life, the life of you poor wife, and those of your children (if you have any) not to mention any others effected by the fallout from your relationship breaking up, eventually, then thats your luck out.

however, as has been said, we will not aid or allow someone to cheat where its in our control.

oh, and that would go for both genders.

its bad to have a screaming woman on the scene baying for blood, but a red eyed bloke angry and baying for vengeance isnt what we find sexy

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

I would not call it a full open relationship as we only play 3or4 times a year we have been happily married for 24 years and this just helps to spice it up a bit .we have been known to attend club and just play with each other if it were more often I would tend to agree with you

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By *tud1967Man over a year ago

rye

"I reckon half the people on here cheat"

yer i cheat as in a sexless relationship and wank off no one to tell me off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

I don't think it's affecting my life matey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol"

To swing as a couple you need honesty and trust. You're cheating on your wife and hoping she's cheating on you??? Epic fail.

Anyone who is so proud of cheating on their partner probably shouldn't be with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supposed to be a look at me thread, not throw rocks at me

No interest to us so if you don't mind we won't look or throw rocks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally refuse to be complicit in infidelity, but I applaud people on here who are upfront about it, and allow others on the site to make an informed decision on meeting."

Agreed

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By *razy-CplCouple over a year ago

and surrounding areas

U should talk to ur wife and tell her why ur swinging if u cant talk to her why are u married . Sorry but its not for us as a relationship is only as strong as the two people that can communicate in it .

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

What you do doesn't bother me in the slightest, why should it?

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By *olfgangvwMan over a year ago

Mansfield

Cheating here too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheating here too!"

Woohoo! Go team!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are people judging & condemning. Isn't this site for everyone to be able to have NSA fun. Married or not, if partner knows or not is not my problem. I meet with 2 guys on regular basis both of them married.

They have their own reasons for being here & that is fine, they have expalined their situation which I wa not bothered about.

People have their own choices and preferences so why not agree to disagree & let's all have the fun we are looking for. xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheating here too!

Woohoo! Go team!"
Maybe they will get a club together here on fab . You get a lot of victims of cheating coming on fab to find people so this is a two way road some will hate it as been very hurt from it all .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are people judging & condemning. Isn't this site for everyone to be able to have NSA fun. Married or not, if partner knows or not is not my problem. I meet with 2 guys on regular basis both of them married.

They have their own reasons for being here & that is fine, they have expalined their situation which I wa not bothered about.

People have their own choices and preferences so why not agree to disagree & let's all have the fun we are looking for. xx"

Everyone has their own opinion/ set of morals. Personally mine comes from having it done to me in the past. I know how it feels to be on the receiving end and don't agree with one person doing that to another (whom usually they claim to love).

If the OP didn't want to be judged then he shouldn't have asked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally refuse to be complicit in infidelity, but I applaud people on here who are upfront about it, and allow others on the site to make an informed decision on meeting."

Yes this is a sensible compromise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally refuse to be complicit in infidelity, but I applaud people on here who are upfront about it, and allow others on the site to make an informed decision on meeting.

Yes this is a sensible compromise. "

At the end of the day there may well be people who would prefer to meet other cheating people as it does mean they are likely to be discrete. It's not a crime is it, just rather unwise, but hey aren't we all guilty of doing unwise things once in a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A question for people who don't want to meet attached people ...how can you tell? apart from the obvious wedding ring, there are many attached people who don't wear rings?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most amazing thing about this thread given the way other "married" threads have gone is that it's still here and not either closed by a moderator or too big

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By *exycleanerWoman over a year ago

pontefract

cos some of us not like it cos it goes against our principals ,and if you like

me are suffering the pain that cheating and adultery cause ,then you hate them

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"A question for people who don't want to meet attached people ...how can you tell? apart from the obvious wedding ring, there are many attached people who don't wear rings?"

reading between the lines and gut feeling.. and all the singles i have told i beleive they are married or attached have either admitted or have never replied to that message or deleted their account. some hide it well but most of the time you can tell..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

Why not put it on your profile if you're so proud?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not sure why you sound so proud of yourself. If your marriage is crap then end it.

Oh and i agree, you should be honest on your profile about it if you are going to shout it from the rooftops in forums.

Each to their own, everyone has their own reasons blah blah blah but my opinion is that I don't have tolerance for people who cheat, either be an amazing partner or be single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your life your reasons your choice. Just don't be contacting us as we would not meet you.

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By *punkloverCouple over a year ago

hatfield

"How do u know that ur wifes not cheating "

Classic ! lol, she maybe on here too !!!

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By *olfgangvwMan over a year ago

Mansfield

Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They have their own reasons for being here & that is fine, they have expalined their situation which I wa not bothered about.

People have their own choices and preferences so why not agree to disagree & let's all have the fun we are looking for. xx"

and if you are happy with the wives of these 'gentlemen' banging on your door, screaming that you have stolen their husbands and letting the neighbours know exactly what you are, or actually are not, then all power to you.

personally, we can do without the potential hassle

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"hope you have your helmet ready..... lol

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thats what he cheating with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere. "
Do you know I have known 3 couples over the years one was playing away and happy and married got on well. But really they both was she was doing it too . Was there way of staying together for the family.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A question for people who don't want to meet attached people ...how can you tell? apart from the obvious wedding ring, there are many attached people who don't wear rings?"

first indicator is accommodating and if they cannot take a phone call when you want, rather than when they want.

everything after then either falls into place or you just trust your judgement.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere. Do you know I have known 3 couples over the years one was playing away and happy and married got on well. But really they both was she was doing it too . Was there way of staying together for the family."
And what I am saying to you is ...... You never know , woman can be as bad as men at this ...

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By *olfgangvwMan over a year ago

Mansfield

"Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere. Do you know I have known 3 couples over the years one was playing away and happy and married got on well. But really they both was she was doing it too . Was there way of staying together for the family.And what I am saying to you is ...... You never know , woman can be as bad as men at this ..."
Just seems taht men get all the stick over it and it's fine for a woman to do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They have their own reasons for being here & that is fine, they have expalined their situation which I wa not bothered about.

People have their own choices and preferences so why not agree to disagree & let's all have the fun we are looking for. xx"

the main point with this when people are cheating its not n.s.a. as there will always be strings there, although i do agree if people are cheating they should put it on there profile so people can make a choice rather than been dragged into a web of lies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest "

Well that would make a change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere. Do you know I have known 3 couples over the years one was playing away and happy and married got on well. But really they both was she was doing it too . Was there way of staying together for the family.And what I am saying to you is ...... You never know , woman can be as bad as men at this ... Just seems taht men get all the stick over it and it's fine for a woman to do it!"

point out the posts that say its fine for women please

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"A question for people who don't want to meet attached people ...how can you tell? apart from the obvious wedding ring, there are many attached people who don't wear rings?"

You can't always be 100% sure

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple over a year ago

Bristol

I'm too Ugly to cheat, even with wifes permision no bugger wants me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

WOW, Just think while your confessing to all on here, your good lady,whom you think.has nipped out to do some shopping.

might just be having a great time in someone else`s bed and she will be lying there after its finished thinking, and HE thinks I don't know about his life on fab, right Guys we ready to go again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

Are you one of these strange people who thinks they are honest to come here and be above board about committing adultery?

Totally agree with you....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

WOW, Just think while your confessing to all on here, your good lady,whom you think.has nipped out to do some shopping.

might just be having a great time in someone else`s bed and she will be lying there after its finished thinking, and HE thinks I don't know about his life on fab, right Guys we ready to go again"
And the weird thing is a lot of the men think no she has a family loads going on and she is just not into sex..... lol God things I have known some woman to do to get out the house to have sex as gone of sex with the other half but playing same game .. woman know a lot more then they let on .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A question for people who don't want to meet attached people ...how can you tell? apart from the obvious wedding ring, there are many attached people who don't wear rings?

You can't always be 100% sure

We use the cant accom = married philosophy when meeting single guys.

The only time married men could fool us is in a club scenario, we trust our instincts but know that's not foolproof

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I caught my wife cheating and after the 4th time, I never let her play Scrabble with me again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

WOW, Just think while your confessing to all on here, your good lady,whom you think.has nipped out to do some shopping.

might just be having a great time in someone else`s bed and she will be lying there after its finished thinking, and HE thinks I don't know about his life on fab, right Guys we ready to go again And the weird thing is a lot of the men think no she has a family loads going on and she is just not into sex..... lol God things I have known some woman to do to get out the house to have sex as gone of sex with the other half but playing same game .. woman know a lot more then they let on .

god how true this is, although i wasnt cheating, she was, and seemed to find time to do it.

women have a fantastic sense of time management that us men could only ever envy lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My name says it all, I'm not proud of it and wish I didn't need to, but I do.

Anyone offering opinions needs more info before they judge or condemn.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My name says it all, I'm not proud of it and wish I didn't need to, but I do.

Anyone offering opinions needs more info before they judge or condemn. "

Sorry, but unless the person you're being honest with is your other half then there's no such thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

WOW, Just think while your confessing to all on here, your good lady,whom you think.has nipped out to do some shopping.

might just be having a great time in someone else`s bed and she will be lying there after its finished thinking, and HE thinks I don't know about his life on fab, right Guys we ready to go again And the weird thing is a lot of the men think no she has a family loads going on and she is just not into sex..... lol God things I have known some woman to do to get out the house to have sex as gone of sex with the other half but playing same game .. woman know a lot more then they let on .

god how true this is, although i wasnt cheating, she was, and seemed to find time to do it.

women have a fantastic sense of time management that us men could only ever envy lol"
my friend she would keep a set of clothes and things in her car so he could never see her dressed up she had this down to a fine art .. He was a real player out playing bowles really shagging thinking he had the boring housewife , lol but really a sex kitten and to this day together lovely home and family and get on as people .. weird how some live .. see swinging would never be for her .. she liked to keep same man to have sex with and been going on years now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My name says it all, I'm not proud of it and wish I didn't need to, but I do.

Anyone offering opinions needs more info before they judge or condemn. "

need?

or want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My name says it all, I'm not proud of it and wish I didn't need to, but I do.

Anyone offering opinions needs more info before they judge or condemn. "

Twaddle.

I'll say it again, the OP is inviting opinions!

You have put yourself on the same slab as OP but since my opinions are already out there I don't need to repeat myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Errrmmm we were asked our opinions so telling us to keep our opinions to ourselves is a stupid thing to say....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They have their own reasons for being here & that is fine, they have expalined their situation which I wa not bothered about.

People have their own choices and preferences so why not agree to disagree & let's all have the fun we are looking for. xx"

i dont understsnd this thinking... you know why they cheat but dont judge yet decided it was ok to get involved and become thevtool he cheated with

is that not judging and being involvrd

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hope your wife is cheating too behind your back!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"My name says it all, I'm not proud of it and wish I didn't need to, but I do.

Anyone offering opinions needs more info before they judge or condemn. "

Surely that's an oxymoron..

or a total contradiction..

as for opinion, folks will give theirs freely based on what is said..

that's the joy of an open forum..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope your wife is cheating too behind your back!

Whats good for the goose.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"I hope your wife is cheating too behind your back!

Sounds like you would approve if she was

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope your wife is cheating too behind your back!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally refuse to be complicit in infidelity, but I applaud people on here who are upfront about it, and allow others on the site to make an informed decision on meeting."

^^ This ^^

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By *john121Man over a year ago

staffs

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol"

generally people don't cheat unless emotional needs are not being met and they feel neglected buy their other half who's acting like a total dick head.

sex is just a happy by product of cheating, so the likely hood she'd want to swing with you are slim and non existent!

by the way shes gorgeous and says your little willy wouldn't satisfy a gnat?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a cheating husband too but with the wife's permission lol she likes seeing and hearing about me with other women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say, I've noticed quite an amount of double standards regarding this subject.

Hypocrisy is such an unattractive trait.

Not for me. I loathe cheating whether your a male or female

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I'm a cheating husband too but with the wife's permission lol she likes seeing and hearing about me with other women "

That's not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a cheating husband too but with the wife's permission lol she likes seeing and hearing about me with other women

That's not cheating."
it was at first but when I found out he had cheated it turned me on more than it made me angry

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

It's all over 10 years ago but after many years of mainly happy marriage I wanted more sexual variety. I didn't want to have an affair because that would mean being involved with someone which I didn't want as that would mean being unfaithful to the woman I loved. I never thought of swinging, instead went with escorts, met one I ended up involved with and then divorced.

The time, (12 months) I was involved before getting caught out and divorced were hell. How anyone can live a double life I don't know. I'd never want to live such a life again, I like the general honesty of my life now, it's a lot easier on me as a person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No tin hat here.

I'm cheating, not proud of it, but there has been no physical activity between us for years. I don't know why, I've never asked, nor has he asked to discuss it. I dread getting caught and have had 2 near misses, but I need the attention that Im not receiving, whether it is sexual or social. I'm happy with either. Head above parapet, ready for anything.

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"No tin hat here.

Let he who is without sin", etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I reckon half the people on here cheat"

What only.half

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"A question for people who don't want to meet attached people ...how can you tell? apart from the obvious wedding ring, there are many attached people who don't wear rings?"

It's quite easy for me, the way I play is not conducive to maintaining married. Hard to explain to your wife where your pubes vanished to, the crop marks on your arse, the rings around your cock and the red patches where wax has been dripped...let alone the "property of Miss Vee" temporary tattoo on your arse.

Add to that I don't meet anyone that doesn't accommodate...if only all of lifes miscreants were so easy to spot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere. Do you know I have known 3 couples over the years one was playing away and happy and married got on well. But really they both was she was doing it too . Was there way of staying together for the family.And what I am saying to you is ...... You never know , woman can be as bad as men at this ... Just seems taht men get all the stick over it and it's fine for a woman to do it!"

no one has ever said it was fine for women but the truth is more men just don't really care about marital status and so cheating women are a lot more successful here than cheating men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think this will be a problem for anyone except the cheating husband, because he won't be a husband much longer when the wife finds out, as she always does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never cheated since I was in my teens!

In four longterm relationships with each partner we have clearly set out our boundaries that we could both have other sexual escapades but not other relationships. That worked fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say, I've noticed quite an amount of double standards regarding this subject.

Hypocrisy is such an unattractive trait.

Reaction same from me whether cheating husband or wife, wouldn't play with either as have been cheated on in the past myself, I think about the unsuspecting spouse sitting at home thinking they have a loyal and loving husband/wife. So they can come up with any excuse in world to justify actions, but sorry in my eyes no excuse.

If looking for sex behind partners back then can't be truly happy in the marriage, do that right thing either leave and play as a single person or quit Fabs and other sites on and work at marriage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

I don't mind if it is stated on your profile, then I can avoid or block as necessary...I do mind if you happen to casually drop it into the conversation just as we are getting to the lets meet up stage!! honesty is always the best policy even though some ppl wouldn't know what truth was if it bit them on the bum!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not sure on the actual % of cheating people on here and I don't care to be honest.

I can hold my head high and say I've never cheated and never would cheat, I respect myself and my husband far too much.

No excuse in the world makes it right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesnt matter if you are male or female if you are married and on here meeting people behind your partners back then you are cheating.

This is a swinging site if you want to find people who dont give a shit about if you are married or not go find a site that caters for that ! No you wont because on sites like that you have to pay up front and your credit card will show you've joined a sex site.

And for those that say in the profile your wife knows about you meeting people and enjoys hearing about it afterwards np at all get her on the phone and let the people you are looking to meet with confirm this with her ......No ? as they dont like her/his nose rubbed in it c'mon get real we've heard just about every excuse being used for someone to get extra sex.

Here's an idea why not try having sex with your own partner or speak with them about why you dont have sex anymore ?

There's no point being honest on your profile about being married to others on here when the only person you really should be honest with is your other half they are the ones sat at home when your off getting your jollies. Alex

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By *iker ladMan over a year ago

Hinckley

"to be honest id be glad so we could actually swing lol"

But what if the guy (who's cum is still on her lips as you kiss her when you get home)

Doesn't want to share this woman who he finds totally adorable any more than he has to?

Maybe he's already managed to convince her that as she's cheating on you then she should confess & finish with you & go & live with him, after all, he's a very successful man, big house, lots of money, fantastic gym fit body & knows how to bring her to climax again & again effortlessly???

How would you feel then?

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By *ondonpride69Couple over a year ago

Blackpool

"One thing I have learned on my time on fabs ...watching people and learning from experiences is to never judge.....you never know what happens behind closed doors or the reasons why some look else where....I used to be totally against any kind of adultery but my time on here has proved to me to never judge....."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's the saying "cheats never prosper" or something like that.

There is never any excuse to cheat, regardless of gender. If you are in a relationship and feel the need to look elsewhere, you need to stop & take a long hard look at your life and either work it out with your partner or leave.

Honestly is the most important thing in a relationship

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

sadly what goes on behind closed doors is often shared on a forum, usually detailing the sexual failings of the partner who is not a member and these alleged shortcomings are used to justify why the person who is cheating is on here. Their personal stuff, illness, low sex drive is there for all to see, bar them.

People should do their own thing but spare their loved one a little dignity .

Mention it on a profile, people can make an informed choice to meet or not.

enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Marriage is not crap but it is completely sexless. We have a great relationshop but there is no sex in it so get my sex elsewhere. Do you know I have known 3 couples over the years one was playing away and happy and married got on well. But really they both was she was doing it too . Was there way of staying together for the family.And what I am saying to you is ...... You never know , woman can be as bad as men at this ... Just seems taht men get all the stick over it and it's fine for a woman to do it!

no one has ever said it was fine for women but the truth is more men just don't really care about marital status and so cheating women are a lot more successful here than cheating men.

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Ive had some meets, some social, some sexual, not all are displayed, I wouldn't consider myself that successful, haven't got lots of verifications. Just want someone nice, hopefully achieving that soon

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"sadly what goes on behind closed doors is often shared on a forum, usually detailing the sexual failings of the partner who is not a member and these alleged shortcomings are used to justify why the person who is cheating is on here. Their personal stuff, illness, low sex drive is there for all to see, bar them.

People should do their own thing but spare their loved one a little dignity .

Mention it on a profile, people can make an informed choice to meet or not.

enjoy

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

Me And wife can't accom at home and we prefer not to use house phone for swinging

And maybe others have valid reAsons for not playing at home .so thAt is not a bulletproof way of catching out cheaters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People should do their own thing but spare their loved one a little dignity .

Mention it on a profile, people can make an informed choice to meet or not.

enjoy

"
my marital status is on my profile. guys look, but stay away but ive had some fun. I just like coming here for the messaging I get and the forums. If guys ask why im here, I tell them everything. Nothing to hide

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Me And wife can't accom at home and we prefer not to use house phone for swinging

And maybe others have valid reAsons for not playing at home .so thAt is not a bulletproof way of catching out cheaters

If my ex-husband was on here he wouldn't be able to accommodate. He's 100% single and lives alone, but he sold his home to move into his mums flat to take care of her.

She died earlier this year. He's old school, he'd never entertain in her home, so I know not accommodating is not fool proof.

I simply don't invite anyone into my home who doesn't invite me into theirs: the cheats get caught in that by default!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

Wife has spoken on phone to women I have played .they have met and played with each other. Too .we try to keep our solo meets for people we have played with as a couple .makes setting up meets easier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me And wife can't accom at home and we prefer not to use house phone for swinging

And maybe others have valid reAsons for not playing at home .so thAt is not a bulletproof way of catching out cheaters

If my ex-husband was on here he wouldn't be able to accommodate. He's 100% single and lives alone, but he sold his home to move into his mums flat to take care of her.

She died earlier this year. He's old school, he'd never entertain in her home, so I know not accommodating is not fool proof.

I simply don't invite anyone into my home who doesn't invite me into theirs: the cheats get caught in that by default!"

same here.

why should you be invited into our home, to share our relationship, even if just for a short time, when you havent the ability to share anything of your own life with us, so by default, all those that cannot accomodate because missy/mr and the kids are at home waiting for the ever loving partner to come home from 'friends' save themselves a little bit of petrol money

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can usually accommodate anytime due to being single and having my own place. Apart from weekends when hj have my two boys staying with me. I once said to a lass i couldn't meet that day or accom (it was a saturday), due to that reason and was then accused of cheating by her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't get it at all that you come across as being proud about the fact that you're a cheater, you think you're a top bloke or a bit of a legend or something?

I'm married and very open about it and only play with my wife's permission and in fact at her request because its a massive turn on for her!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't get it at all that you come across as being proud about the fact that you're a cheater, you think you're a top bloke or a bit of a legend or something?

I'm married and very open about it and only play with my wife's permission and in fact at her request because its a massive turn on for her!

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By *razy-CplCouple over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"I reckon half the people on here cheat"

Id say alot more than half

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

It matters not to me if someone is married or not.I am swingibg for sex not teach morals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it wasnt for married men on here i doubt i would have met so many men because all the best ones are married and available in the daytime, which suits me, so it seems at times.

there are an awful lot of married men who dont tell you they are married either and a lot of women on here dont mind meeting them, just not the ones on the forums so much."

Exactly

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

It matters not to me if someone is married or not.I am swingibg for sex not teach morals"

We don't meet married or attached guys knowingly we don't teach anyone morals either, wouldn't dream of it. I don't really understand why you would think we would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

It matters not to me if someone is married or not.I am swingibg for sex not teach morals

We don't meet married or attached guys knowingly we don't teach anyone morals either, wouldn't dream of it. I don't really understand why you would think we would."

Omg.. talk about twisting what someone says! I dont know you, never heard of you, and have never said you would do or think anything...I answer a question put in a forum about married men. I (not you) am not bothered if a guy is attatched or not and I (not you) dont teach morals....jeeez.

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By *ootleCouple over a year ago

Romford, Essex

The whole point of swinging is great sex, and a swinging couples relationship is based on trust and honesty with each other - ffs that called a relationship.

If you'r not honest with (supposedly) the most important person in your life then you shouldn't be with her (you probably wont be if she finds out!)

It's called 'swinging' not 'affairs' none of us wants to be mentioned in a divorce course.

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By *obb2upCouple over a year ago

Bangor

for us swinging is about no one getting hurt ..........we have had the angry wife (who knew nothing about his profile on here) on the phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love swinging.

I love my husband swinging.

We have honesty and trust.

I would not love being the one who helps a man cheat on his lady.

I would not want to meet a lying cheating scumbag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

The simple answer to your post? He asked for peoples opinion! So he got it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know..lets all sit in judgement over each other and make snide and snipey comments!!

Everyone has something to say on whether someone is married/single/likes older/likes younger/likes men/likes women...ffs people live and let live....

so you may not like the fact that the OP is a cheating hubby... dont talk to him or dont meet him.. he has his reasons i am sure...

*rant over*

Where the f*ck did that come from? Perhaps i have been reading the forums for far too long.....

Dave

The simple answer to your post? He asked for peoples opinion! So he got it!"

Yep

And on the way he a lot of people got suckered into it!!

Wake up guys!

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"for us swinging is about no one getting hurt ..........we have had the angry wife (who knew nothing about his profile on here) on the phone"

Bet he contacted you, not you him

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By *adja_lazloCouple over a year ago

Solihull

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

don't bother us none, we just block you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cheats cheat only themselves. If you snuggle up to your wife and tell her how much you love her, you only have to answer to yourself when you know deep inside you are behaving in a way that could wreck your marriage if caught. Your problem - not mine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too? "

maybe your success in arranging meets with the ladies / couples on here will be an indicator of what people think.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

It matters not to me if someone is married or not.I am swingibg for sex not teach morals

We don't meet married or attached guys knowingly we don't teach anyone morals either, wouldn't dream of it. I don't really understand why you would think we would.

Clearly I misread your post and thought by saying that you don't teach morals you were implying some of us were making a moral point. My mistake obviously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone cheats and lies - some or more blatent than others. You may think many things, but I bet you don't say or carry them out. Life is about balance - and its very short. So as long as your careful and do not cause pain to other - then enjoy this short time on this planet.

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By *adgodCouple over a year ago

Greensburg

No married men for us. We won't even meet them. Too much potential for drama and guilt. To each their own, but since you asked, no thank you. I hope neither of you get hurt from it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey, im a cheating husband, how many people does this bother or dont u mind? Any other guys wanna confess too?

Why not put it on your profile if you're so proud?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

just saying

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan over a year ago

Wigan

Cheating is just wrong in my opinion.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

just saying

Cheating is going with someone else behind your partners back. Not when you both agree to do it together. Totally not the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone cheats and lies - some or more blatent than others. You may think many things, but I bet you don't say or carry them out. Life is about balance - and its very short. So as long as your careful and do not cause pain to other - then enjoy this short time on this planet.

'Everyone cheats and lies' Yet another sweeping statement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It still goes against marriage vows no matter how you want to dress is up or defend it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

When we got married we asked for that line not to be in our vows as we were already meeting other people for fun in fact 6 of the guests were swingers but were also good friends of ours Icecold

just saying

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"It still goes against marriage vows no matter how you want to dress is up or defend it. "

Yes swinging goes against marriage vows but its not cheating if both parties are aware and in agreement. Cheating is about the deception and there's no deception between swinging couples

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

just saying

we married in a civil ceremony, didn't make any vows before God, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It still goes against marriage vows no matter how you want to dress is up or defend it.

Yes swinging goes against marriage vows but its not cheating if both parties are aware and in agreement. Cheating is about the deception and there's no deception between swinging couples "

Me and my husband swing.

Please don't tar us with the same brush as cheaters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So swinging goes against marriage vows. . . .

cheating goes against marriage vows. . . .

Each to their own. No one should judge anyone else's lifestyle choice and how the choose to live their lives. I appreciate those who air on the side of caution for not wanting to potentially get caught up in a mess ie texts/calls from gf or wife. But judgement on people, no one has that right.

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

always arrange to stay the night and quite often the weekend at their place ..not foolproof but works for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets see how honest the OP is when his wife catches up with his account on here especially when he's asleep with a big pair of scissors !

I expect like any cheat male or female they will squirm and try to lie the way out of it, and in the meantime some unsuspecting person who they have also lied to about being single will end up in court in a divorce case

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

just saying

forsaking all others means anyone who would break the marriage up and was added as a way to get couples to live together and not with parents for ine.

so if swinging isnt breaking up the marriage then no vow is broken.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So swinging goes against marriage vows. . . .

cheating goes against marriage vows. . . .

is it not judging if u choose to go with a chester as ur judging it ok to.

Its not judging to want nsa no hassle no chance of a comeback and quite frankly not to cause problems for others through your own actions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

just saying

forsaking all others means anyone who would break the marriage up and was added as a way to get couples to live together and not with parents for ine.

so if swinging isnt breaking up the marriage then no vow is broken."

like I said, dressed up in frilly knickers and a bow tie, it still goes against what is meant to be a purely monogamous relationship. And let's face it, most people who do take that vow, or one similar, are pledging their fidelity and commitment to that ONE person.

I'm so glad I'm not a judgemental person. Live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so glad I'm not a judgemental person. Live and let live.

Your non judgemental

But you think its OK for a man to cheat on his wife.

Well done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it amusing to see how a lot of people condemning and judging the cheaters are swinging married couples. . . .

Now I have been married. . .

I seem to remember the vow "and forsaking all others"

just saying

forsaking all others means anyone who would break the marriage up and was added as a way to get couples to live together and not with parents for ine.

so if swinging isnt breaking up the marriage then no vow is broken.

I'm so glad I'm not a judgemental person. Live and let live.

Where does it actually say the relationship must be mongomous?

Your assuming the commitment thing.. the vows are about being a psrtnership for life and respecting each other and couples can do that in many ways

if you go with cheaters then you are judging it ok to do so without knowing the facts. Also shows lack of compassion for others.. thats just fact

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where does it actually say the relationship must be mongomous?

Your assuming the commitment thing.. the vows are about being a psrtnership for life and respecting each other and couples can do that in many ways

if you go with cheaters then you are judging it ok to do so without knowing the facts. Also shows lack of compassion for others.. thats just fact

now, I find that judgemental. You don't know if I play with cheaters or not. So whether I have compassion for others or not is not something you know.

And you are splitting hairs a little, pretty sure it's pretty well known that a marriage, at the least, it meant to be a monogamous relationship, otherwise there would be no point in doing it. . .

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

For someone who is glad to be non judgemental you're making a pretty good job of judging other peoples marriages and how they should interpret their vows.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All I'll say is I don't agree and would never cheat. It has happened to me and I would rather keep as much integrity as I can but each to their own.

One word of advice to OP, try and sort out what is wrong with your marriage. start talking and seeking help if that's the case. things have a tendency to hit back hard when you practice to deceive and other parts of your life may suffer.

I will give you credit for coming clean though and agree that you may want to add that to your profile so those who wouldn't want to entertain a cheater won't.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"For someone who is glad to be non judgemental you're making a pretty good job of judging other peoples marriages and how they should interpret their vows.

Ironic, huh?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where does it actually say the relationship must be mongomous?

Your assuming the commitment thing.. the vows are about being a psrtnership for life and respecting each other and couples can do that in many ways

if you go with cheaters then you are judging it ok to do so without knowing the facts. Also shows lack of compassion for others.. thats just fact

now, I find that judgemental. You don't know if I play with cheaters or not. So whether I have compassion for others or not is not something you know.

And you are splitting hairs a little, pretty sure it's pretty well known that a marriage, at the least, it meant to be a monogamous relationship, otherwise there would be no point in doing it. . ."

arent swingers a prime example of why a marriage doesnt have to be monogomous..marriage is a lot more than just sex. so there is a point.

i have based my opinion on you meeting cheaters from whst you have said. You said that anyone who doesnt meet cheaters arevjudgemental and you arent.

thats how i read it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For someone who is glad to be non judgemental you're making a pretty good job of judging other peoples marriages and how they should interpret their vows.

see that's where you're completely wrong I'm not judging what anyone does, married or not. I'm merely stating the fact that no one has the right to judge anyone else for the lifestyle they choose to lead.

but people don't like to acknowledge that, because people love to judge. No one knows anyone else's circumstances.

You will play with couples, yes? You may play with a couple who's marriage is in crisis. Where the wife/ husband may feel they HAVE to swing to keep their marriage. That woman/man who cheats that you won't play with who is married may have a terminally ill partner, and is now a carer, rather than a life partner.

My point is, no one ever knows what goes on behind closed doors. So don't label all cheaters as rats, and don't assume all couples or singles are perfect play buddies.

And before anyone else wants to assume I may be married/attached and cheating, I'm not. As for other people's statuses, I never ask, and couldn't care less if they tell me. So if you feel the need to judge me for that, that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cheating is selfish. Fact. Not judgemental.

you make a commitment to stand by that person for better or worse. Do if u end up a carer that does not give u the right to cheat. Infact i would find that attitude disgusting and worse than just cheating if spouse is healthy.

cheats only cheat for their own selfish reason with no regard to the person they made a commitment to.

i dislike selfish behaviour

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I don't label all cheaters as rats

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't label all cheaters as rats

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lol, I wasn't specifically meaning you, just what seems to be the general consensus.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I don't label all cheaters as rats

lol, I wasn't specifically meaning you, just what seems to be the general consensus.

I see.

Lots of people do hold strong opinions on this as I see it that's their prerogative.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The most amazing thing about this thread is how long it's taken to get close to closing. Lots of opinions dressed up as facts as usual. Also the usual strong opinions about whether we're judging, being judged, judgemental or non-judgmental. Glad to see also that no matter what anyone has said, no one has changed their minds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This place never ceases to amaze me. Some people are so easily wound up and played to some extent. I do wonder if its insecurities not dissimilar to that you get when you meet a couple and she gives you funny looks when you start to get intimate with him.

If only people could just stand back or ignore but I don't see that happening as I think some people just relish jumping in aggressively.

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By *obb2upCouple over a year ago

Bangor

"for us swinging is about no one getting hurt ..........we have had the angry wife (who knew nothing about his profile on here) on the phone

Bet he contacted you, not you him

yes he contacted us ...and our profile says single guys only .....but it dosnt stop them mailing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's your thing, do what your gonna do. I can't tell you who to sock it to

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