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Love them or hate them....Bi guys
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love bi guys and bi group fun.
Hate is a strong word, I don't think people hate them, they just don't want to meet them as a preference.
Anyone who hates someone because they are bi needs to give their head a wobble  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im all for trying everything at least twice to make sure... Played with 3 Bi men and it really does nothing for me and 2 of them were totally selfish and very very greedy... even arranged another meet straight after one left just to sort myself out...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't change, even if I tried, even if i wanted to ... live long and be yourself. Dont often take my cue from modern tunes recomended by my 11 yo son but Macklemore's 'Same Love' kinda hits home. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"I can't change, even if I tried, even if i wanted to ... live long and be yourself. Dont often take my cue from modern tunes recomended by my 11 yo son but Macklemore's 'Same Love' kinda hits home. "
I wouldnt dream of asking anyone to change...I wouldnt change for anyone, why should you!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't change, even if I tried, even if i wanted to ... live long and be yourself. Dont often take my cue from modern tunes recomended by my 11 yo son but Macklemore's 'Same Love' kinda hits home.
I wouldnt dream of asking anyone to change...I wouldnt change for anyone, why should you! "
you can't change ... but i guess that there are many who can deceive for three minutes |
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Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Putting hard hat and flack jacket on.
This debate is one we have found to be very tricky in the past on here due to us lacking an understanding on how this works. For us as much as anyone we all have our preferences when it comes to choosing a meet.
Most of which are visual such as height,race build and so forth and cannot be changed. So when it comes to bi guys or girls if they are playing straight you wouldn't notice a difference.
Add to this a lot of people who are straight on fab have and do play with same sex
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"Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock. "
no one said you were |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock. "
Why do you assume its the male half of couple that has problem with them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't love or hate anyone just because of their sexual preference. It's the personality and attitude which makes me decide that.
Although I can find really camp people that go well over the top a bit annoying
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Why do you assume its the male half of couple that has problem with them?"
Simply because I've never come across that yet.
I should explain my rant a little I fear. It has happened in the past where we have met and even played with a couple (who haven't read our profile properly) and its been great and I've played straight with no problems. Then after the 3rd meet we get a message. Sorry I can't be naked around a guy who likes cock.
What? You've been naked around me for hours and didn't care? Now because I have a lable on my profile I'm to be avoided? Grrr.
Now I make a loud point of telling everyone and anyone - even if they are mingers that I'm bi.
Thats the worse thing that's happened, but others do come up from time to time and it can be humiliating and hurtful.
How about all homophobic people add - no bi men to their profile. It would make it less of a minefield to us sensitive types. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock. "
Totally this
And not directly but every 'personal preference' not to meet with a guy who happens to also be bi insinuates that there is a negative aspect to it, aka a fear that he will have ideas about wanting to connect with the male
It's an outdated juvenile way to _iew things |
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Why do you assume its the male half of couple that has problem with them?
Simply because I've never come across that yet.
I should explain my rant a little I fear. It has happened in the past where we have met and even played with a couple (who haven't read our profile properly) and its been great and I've played straight with no problems. Then after the 3rd meet we get a message. Sorry I can't be naked around a guy who likes cock.
What? You've been naked around me for hours and didn't care? Now because I have a lable on my profile I'm to be avoided? Grrr.
Now I make a loud point of telling everyone and anyone - even if they are mingers that I'm bi.
Thats the worse thing that's happened, but others do come up from time to time and it can be humiliating and hurtful.
How about all homophobic people add - no bi men to their profile. It would make it less of a minefield to us sensitive types. "
have I got this right? Are you saying that because I don't want to have sex with bi men that makes me homophobic. In that case I'm racist to cos I wouldn't sleep with Asian men either. Just because someone has a preference as to who they have sex with does not make them an ist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"because I don't want to have sex with bi men "
What am I missing then, what it the key reason that a lot of people would avoid someone of that preference |
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"because I don't want to have sex with bi men
What am I missing then, what it the key reason that a lot of people would avoid someone of that preference"
its called choice. Something everyone is entitled to in this lifestyle. And really hun people do not have to justify why they have their own choices. |
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"I love bi guys and bi group fun.
Hate is a strong word, I don't think people hate them, they just don't want to meet them as a preference.
Anyone who hates someone because they are bi needs to give their head a wobble "
I like that "... give their head a wobble."
I'll remember that one 
and where the hell was I at 11am?
Damn!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock.
Totally this
And not directly but every 'personal preference' not to meet with a guy who happens to also be bi insinuates that there is a negative aspect to it, aka a fear that he will have ideas about wanting to connect with the male
It's an outdated juvenile way to _iew things "
We can probably figure out what you are insinuating that they think.
Some people find the idea of two men having sex disgusting. Therefore they would not want to have sex with such a man. Why is that so hard to understand??
Some people don't want to play with me. I don't chuck my dummy out of the pram though. Weird huh.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its called choice. Something everyone is entitled to in this lifestyle. And really hun people do not have to justify why they have their own choices. "
Is it choice though. Really, there has to be a tangible reason it would make you say no
Iam out of this bi convo now each to their own just hope those that have this ridiculous _iew will maintain a comment on their profile so the ones to avoid are clearly visable |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock. "
well said guys think straight guys and straight cpls think just because bi is on ur profile we cant play straight which is total nonense for us anyway. Bi is much more fun but if a meet has to be straight were more than happy with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have no problem with bi men or gay men, however we don't like the ones that because they are gay or bi, gives them the right to touch woman up or follow them in to the toilets or changing rooms. And why the need to talk camp can't see why they just can't talk normally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people don't want to play with me. I don't chuck my dummy out of the pram though. Weird huh. "
Totally appreciate it looks that way but it isn't iam no longer looking for meets or sex, done that it was fun now iam just here poking about the forums. But as said iam out each to their own opinion an all that (even though mine is the only right one  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people don't want to play with me. I don't chuck my dummy out of the pram though. Weird huh.
Totally appreciate it looks that way but it isn't iam no longer looking for meets or sex, done that it was fun now iam just here poking about the forums. But as said iam out each to their own opinion an all that (even though mine is the only right one )"
That made me smile.  |
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"What about the guys that have tried it and decided its not for them "
Well according to some on this thread that would make you discusting and they would avoid you.
I think it would make you a better lover personally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about the guys that have tried it and decided its not for them
Well according to some on this thread that would make you discusting and they would avoid you.
I think it would make you a better lover personally x"
So do we it's just if its all about the other people finding the idea of two guys disgusting then do they check that a guys never done it or is it a case of ignorance is bliss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it all gets talked about so much that people see others and tend to add them to groups. If your attracted to the person then whatever happens is going to be enjoyable whether bi or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about the guys that have tried it and decided its not for them "
I once met a group of guys for some bi fun a few years ago and in my head I was really up for it. Once I was there amongst it I didn't really enjoy it so I politely left.
Ive had a few group meets since and had lots of fun and thoroughly enjoyed them I think it was just a bit soon back then. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
I won't meet openly bi guys - thats my preference, and also because having an intimate relationship with a bi or gay guy affects the things that are important to me...
You cannot donate blood/plasma etc (or eggs which I have done in the past too) for AT LEAST 12 months after having sex with a guy who has had sex with other men.
I'm a regular blood donor, and thats something that is important to me.
Also, from some of the bi guys I have known, they are more prone to risky behaviour (from my experience before anyone jumps on me) so its a no thanks to that lifestyle for me - and I don't care if anyone thinks that hypocritical because I'm a bi lady. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do you assume its the male half of couple that has problem with them?
Simply because I've never come across that yet.
I should explain my rant a little I fear. It has happened in the past where we have met and even played with a couple (who haven't read our profile properly) and its been great and I've played straight with no problems. Then after the 3rd meet we get a message. Sorry I can't be naked around a guy who likes cock.
What? You've been naked around me for hours and didn't care? Now because I have a lable on my profile I'm to be avoided? Grrr.
Now I make a loud point of telling everyone and anyone - even if they are mingers that I'm bi.
Thats the worse thing that's happened, but others do come up from time to time and it can be humiliating and hurtful.
How about all homophobic people add - no bi men to their profile. It would make it less of a minefield to us sensitive types. "
Haha. And yet again a bi/gay/tv/ts guy comes up with the homophobic card. Get a grip. Its called PREFERENCE! |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do straight guys have it in their heads that bi-guys will automatically want them. Ego or what? Here's an idea. I might actually only fancy your wife! I know its a new concept but think about it.
We are not sharks who home in on the smell of cock. well said guys think straight guys and straight cpls think just because bi is on ur profile we cant play straight which is total nonense for us anyway. Bi is much more fun but if a meet has to be straight were more than happy with it "
And this. Gen bi guys and gen bi couples are more fun of course by the fact that the possibilities are greater. We are lucky that our open mindedness is something we both enjoy with those we connect with or are attracted to. In all honesty though it is hard to find couples to play with, a lot of couples don't do it for us and of course we won't play for the sake of things.
Maybe a bi night at a club would be better but they tend to be midweek. Work and sitters being an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But have a couple ever looked at a female profil wanted her to join them just for the mans pleasure found out she is bi and said oh no we don't want to meet up with her now?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love them...and probably 80% of the messages we get are from 'Straight' guys who don't want to put Bi or curious on their profile....so those people you think you are meeting who are straight..possibly aren't! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Straight or bi.. If they tick all the box's for me I won't say no. I've met two Bi guys and they have been fantastic meets x just need to get them both together for a MMF now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love them...and probably 80% of the messages we get are from 'Straight' guys who don't want to put Bi or curious on their profile....so those people you think you are meeting who are straight..possibly aren't!"
I completely agree with this. At least people with bi on their profile are being straight up honest about their intentions and preference.
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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago
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"I love bi guys and bi group fun.
Hate is a strong word, I don't think people hate them, they just don't want to meet them as a preference.
Anyone who hates someone because they are bi needs to give their head a wobble "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Haha. And yet again a bi/gay/tv/ts guy comes up with the homophobic card. Get a grip. Its called PREFERENCE! "
No lets be clear here, actually it's called CHOICE. A preference is when someone says "I like tea and coffee, but prefer coffee". A choice is when someone says "tea is disgusting and I won't drink it or touch anyone who does".
This subject is weird. It's in no way the same as choosing not to meet say Asians or Orientals, because that is all about visual stimulus and those skin colours not doing it for you, which clearly ISN'T racist.
This is about a mental stimulus, this person has had some form of same sex and that repulses me. Which is mildly phobic as it's based on an irrational fear of something you haven't been witness to.
So it's actually quite shallow, because if someone doesn't tell you'd be quite happy. It's like a child happily eating something, then being told what it was and then saying they don't like it.
And finally theres the old chestnut that bisexuals are more prone to sti's. True. But only statistically because the gay/bi community are more likely to be tested than the straight people. As it's been drummed into us since the 80's. So alot less straights than gays get tested. I believe the most At Risk group at the moment is actually young adults generally as they never went through the Aids thing so think they don't need protection. But again that is based on numbers tested.
To the bi people I'll say this. Fuck the straights, we have way more fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get such a mixed response !!!! "
I used to not meet any bi guys.. I realised over time that it was a prejudice that was very outdated... HOWEVER, while I dont mind.. It does sometimes make me a bit nervous.. as I dont want guys touching other guys.. I have had this happen a few times.. So I prefer straight guys for this reason.
I know not all bi guys will not touch the guys... but.. its happened to me on more than one occasion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Haha. And yet again a bi/gay/tv/ts guy comes up with the homophobic card. Get a grip. Its called PREFERENCE!
No lets be clear here, actually it's called CHOICE. A preference is when someone says "I like tea and coffee, but prefer coffee". A choice is when someone says "tea is disgusting and I won't drink it or touch anyone who does".
This subject is weird. It's in no way the same as choosing not to meet say Asians or Orientals, because that is all about visual stimulus and those skin colours not doing it for you, which clearly ISN'T racist.
This is about a mental stimulus, this person has had some form of same sex and that repulses me. Which is mildly phobic as it's based on an irrational fear of something you haven't been witness to.
So it's actually quite shallow, because if someone doesn't tell you'd be quite happy. It's like a child happily eating something, then being told what it was and then saying they don't like it.
And finally theres the old chestnut that bisexuals are more prone to sti's. True. But only statistically because the gay/bi community are more likely to be tested than the straight people. As it's been drummed into us since the 80's. So alot less straights than gays get tested. I believe the most At Risk group at the moment is actually young adults generally as they never went through the Aids thing so think they don't need protection. But again that is based on numbers tested.
To the bi people I'll say this. Fuck the straights, we have way more fun. "
What difference does it make if it's a choice or a preference though? Either way, they don't want to meet bi men. Same as some don't want to meet asian or whatever. Why can't they be allowed their choice?
Some people don't like the idea of two guys having sex. Some people find it disgusting. Some people find bi women disgusting. Some people find swingers disgusting.
My partner's a bi guy. We meet bi guys, bi couples, tv's. Even some straight people!
However we respect (and understand) other people that don't want to meet us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Surely the point is that they are bi not gay! Just because they are bi doesn't mean they will necessarily want to play with other men. I (fem) label myself as bi as I sometimes like to play with other women, but I have to want to play bi & will not automatically pounce on another woman who says she is bi.
I know it's each to their own, but if bi women can play straight, who says bi men can't either! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I remember visiting a club with my wife and this guy came on to her so they went off and had some fun together. Later she was having some fun in an open room and again he joined in. When he was finished he sat and chatted to a couple. I could hear them talking and the subject went on to bi guys and I heard him say he wouldn't touch a woman who had been with a bi guy. Well the joke was on him really seeing he just had.
At the end of the day some will say it's preference but at least those who say they are bi are being honest as opposed to some of the guys who message me with straight profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get such a mixed response !!!! "
once again it's an 'each to their own' response....I will and have met bi guys..i don't really see the problem as long as everyone wears a condom!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The main thing we find about meeting bi guys is that if we are all on the bed having a bit of fun and a hand touches another bit of a guy they dont pull away like they've had acid chucked over them.
At some point in an MMF situation there is bound to be some contact between the guys and if both guys are bi or curious it just makes it easier to not worry about it.
Besides that i quite enjoy watching 2 guys play in front of me, Icecold xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What difference does it make if it's a choice or a preference though? Either way, they don't want to meet bi men. Same as some don't want to meet asian or whatever. Why can't they be allowed their choice?
Some people don't like the idea of two guys having sex. Some people find it disgusting. Some people find bi women disgusting. Some people find swingers disgusting.
My partner's a bi guy. We meet bi guys, bi couples, tv's. Even some straight people!
However we respect (and understand) other people that don't want to meet us. "
I'm not trying to change anyone's attitudes here to try to make them start doing something they don't want to. I WOULD like people to start being honest and stop hiding behind the "It's my preferences!" defence when they clearly don't understand the difference between that and choice.
As for respecting that choice, well I'm unlikely to respect someone who thinks I'm disgusting am I? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See it as your destiny to spread the word ... one day all men will be made this way (maybe) ??"
all men are made this way, its just admitting that they will fuck any hole,
full balls = empty head |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I am cooler than cool that people can choose not to meet me because I am bisexual and I would never dream of asking them to justify it.
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I would never ever ever justify my choices on here. |
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