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Been here over a year but we have not yet found what we looking for
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By *lassy pair OP Couple
over a year ago
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We have been here for well over a year now and we are not looking for just one off meeting, as love to make new friends but we find it hard to reveal who we are, we try to be as discreet as we can, as we still have teens at home, very hard for a newbies any help well be appreciated |
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"We have been here for well over a year now and we are not looking for just one off meeting, as love to make new friends but we find it hard to reveal who we are, we try to be as discreet as we can, as we still have teens at home, very hard for a newbies any help well be appreciated "
if you want the kind of relationship you're after you will need to reveal who you are at some point and drop the discretion. You don't need to shout it from the rooftops but a degree of openess with your potential friends is necessary. Most people want to keep this side of their life seperate from the rest of it so you needn't worry about others discretion too much.
The kind of relationship you're looking for sounds lovely but will in truth be difficult but not imposssible to find, Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with nicecouple but equally we'd suggest re-wording your profile?
When I read the comment of first timers, noting you'd been here a year, it does look like you haven't updated it.
Perhaps that might help too
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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For a profile where you joined over a year ago, I don't think you can really class yourselves as newbies anymore... perhaps inexperienced is a better way of putting it?
A small point, a comma doesn't need a space either side - it makes your profile look a little odd. Also, a spell check or good run over to check for typos wouldn't go amiss.
It reads as slightly desperate to me - and the comment about it being hard for you just screams that you are actually unsure if this is what you want, and that would be really off-putting to me.
I would also suggest you think about the upper age limit of your profile, as you are both approaching the age of your cut off.
I can understand the need for discretion - lets face it, none of us have to advertise our sexual likes and preferences... but a couple of public photos wouldn't go amiss - they don't need to be easily recognisable - torsos, bums, a few "headless" shots are fine - just gives people an idea of who they are talking to.
And the not interested in meeting hardened swingers comment, is to me, a bit offensive. Trust me, the most hardened of swingers are not going to strip you off and do things that go against your wishes. In my experience, I have found the more experienced swingers to be the most understanding and best to meet, as they have been there and done it - and seen/heard/experiences both good and bad meets.
Sorry if thats a bit harsh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been here for well over a year now and we are not looking for just one off meeting, as love to make new friends but we find it hard to reveal who we are, we try to be as discreet as we can, as we still have teens at home, very hard for a newbies any help well be appreciated "
Maybe fabswingers is not the right site for wot u r looking for perhaps??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a profile where you joined over a year ago, I don't think you can really class yourselves as newbies anymore... perhaps inexperienced is a better way of putting it?
A small point, a comma doesn't need a space either side - it makes your profile look a little odd. Also, a spell check or good run over to check for typos wouldn't go amiss.
It reads as slightly desperate to me - and the comment about it being hard for you just screams that you are actually unsure if this is what you want, and that would be really off-putting to me.
I would also suggest you think about the upper age limit of your profile, as you are both approaching the age of your cut off.
I can understand the need for discretion - lets face it, none of us have to advertise our sexual likes and preferences... but a couple of public photos wouldn't go amiss - they don't need to be easily recognisable - torsos, bums, a few "headless" shots are fine - just gives people an idea of who they are talking to.
And the not interested in meeting hardened swingers comment, is to me, a bit offensive. Trust me, the most hardened of swingers are not going to strip you off and do things that go against your wishes. In my experience, I have found the more experienced swingers to be the most understanding and best to meet, as they have been there and done it - and seen/heard/experiences both good and bad meets.
Sorry if thats a bit harsh "
I have to agree with this having read your profile. It's not harsh, it's truthful and helpful if they want to get on in their swinging life. xx |
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