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Who has ever admitted to being a swinger?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me, I'm perfectly happy to admit it and discuss it. It's not something I'm embarrassed about"
Good why have you hidden your profile then?? Hiding something lol  |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
South London |
Not me. Never have and never will. Not because I am worried my closest friends would be judgemental, but because they are so open-minded they would want to know every little detail and I'm not prepared to give them that! They actually think I'm pretty sexually deproved I think  |
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either.
Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???"
Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)? |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Most of my close friends know I see more than one person at a time. If they came out and asked if I was a swinger, I'd say yes. I'm fairly openly bi, but I've never seen the importance of having to label every part of my life.
Being bi or being a swinger is just part of what makes me who I am. And I'm happy with that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either.
Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???
Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)?"
Would put escorts and massage parlours out of business! |
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either.
Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???
Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)?
Would put escorts and massage parlours out of business! "
Honesty isn't always good for business |
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we also have admitted we are swingers to ppl out side the swinging world most of our close friends know and family we personally don't think we are doing anything wrong so don't find the need to hide it xxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have not taken out an ad in the parish magazine declaring what positions I fucked J in last week either! Don't discuss our sex life with family and friends so why would the need to tell them we are swingers crop up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me, I'm perfectly happy to admit it and discuss it. It's not something I'm embarrassed about
Good why have you hidden your profile then?? Hiding something lol "
No, I'm seeing someone from the site exclusively and having "not currently meeting only using the site to chat to friends or reading the forum" didn't stop people wasting their time messaging me, so hide my profile.....
I'm pretty active in the forums & have attended site organised parties, do nothing to hide. |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either.
Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???"
So that organisations can prove they're not discriminating against certain groups on the grounds of sexuality.
It's an odd one. If you don't ask, you can't know so you can't discriminate but if you don't ask, you can't produce stats to prove you don't discriminate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't go telling everyone but family know and some very good friends know too. If someone asked us I wouldn't deny it at all. I would say why we have this lifestyle and let them decide for themselves I'm proud of what we do. It means we have a loving relationship and a trusting relationship now how many non swingers have that ? Truthfully |
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In a stranger- stranger situation ie train or plane for example I love the reaction when asked what I do, I reply 'swinging' !!!!!! Certainly puts you in control of the situation !!!!......it's often lead to the most horny of conversation - and even a 'meet' , occasionally . |
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My friends all know I'm a swinger and bi, most of my family do too. The people I work with all know, but that will change in my new job. I currently work in a pub, so it's not really an issue, but my new job is a local authority based one, so I'll have to be a little more discreet.
I'm not ashamed of what I do, and I'll openly and honestly answer any questions about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not many people atall know about this addiction of mine !
I like to keep it as my private pleasure !
As a singlr father u dont get to do much for yourself so this is my escape from the everyday world ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sat in a bar the other night and was randomly approached by a local young lady. We had a drink and a chat - she asked what I usually did when visiting with work - so I told her!
Showed her the site, she was fascinated - and by next morning after a fun filled night she was talking about signing up! Just shows that there's a lot of folk out there with serious misconceptions about the scene and the kind of people who participate in this lifestyle! |
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I don't tell anyone - it's our business and nobody else's.
I was wondering though - do you think it's easier for a single swinger to admit it than a couple? Would society's perception of a couple swinging still be 'adulterers' even if it was consensual? |
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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago
westmeath & roscommon. |
The question id like to know is that with your friends knowing, have they ever came on to you and its led to a great time under the sheets or has it even couraged them to try the scene |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm working for my ex wife's sister at the mo and we have had lots of sexual chats this week about what we have both done. Told her I'm a swinger and she looked at my pics. Good job I'm not shy lol |
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me never noone knows about it my ex told his brother and a mate.
as he ran off with a girl we met through
swinging i had to lie to folk as to how
we met them as i did say she was someone i had met.
may have been easier to deal with the pain
if she had been a stranger  |
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either.
Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???
Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)?"
They are.Just had to answer all those questions on an online one.
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"Nope, have no need or reason to."
Looks like me and thee are in the minority. Don't discuss my bank balance, colour and consistency of my stool either! Honestly, we really don't need to share the minutiae of our lives!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who has ever admitted to being a swinger in every day life?"
I (Lynn) told my Ma, my brother and sister in law.
And Mark told his ex wife !! And they all know we are both bisexual
Don't understand why it is judged as morally unacceptable |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
All my good friends know plus a couple of work colleagues that I car pool with...my parents and any workmates that ask know I "date" different blokes and that I've met them via t'interweb. I'd prefer my parents not to find out I'm bisexual and shag loads of people, but that's cos they're a bit old fashioned - if push came to shove though I'd sooner 'fess up to being a muff munching cock addict than submit to blackmail (for example) |
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"We don't go telling everyone but family know and some very good friends know too. If someone asked us I wouldn't deny it at all. I would say why we have this lifestyle and let them decide for themselves I'm proud of what we do. It means we have a loving relationship and a trusting relationship now how many non swingers have that ? Truthfully"
Sorry, don't see the correlation. |
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"I don't tell anyone - it's our business and nobody else's.
I was wondering though - do you think it's easier for a single swinger to admit it than a couple? Would society's perception of a couple swinging still be 'adulterers' even if it was consensual? "
I'm single and compos mentis: I just don't think my sex life is anyone's business. It wouldn't cross my mind to question my friends on their private life and they show me the same courtesy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldnt deny it if we were asked by a friend as we think a couple of them may already have a good idea that we are swingers the amount of weddings we have been to in the last 5-6 years covering for meets etc they must we are ministers actully conducting the wedding ffs lol
We did tell a couple of people we were swingers when we found their profiles and recognised their pics on here and other sites , made for an interesting coffee morning aswell x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest "
Which employers would need to know that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We dont hide what we do ....... in fact most people are intrigued and happy that we are honest (deep down they are probably a bit envious that we are doing what they wish they could  ) |
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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest
Which employers would need to know that?"
Those where you would need to be vetted and get security clearance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest
Which employers would need to know that?
Those where you would need to be vetted and get security clearance "
I need to be vetted ie. CRB enhanced - it's not part of that. Was just wondering which employers would be allowed to ask about people's sex lives - secret services perhaps? Although they'd already know of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest
Which employers would need to know that?
Those where you would need to be vetted and get security clearance
I need to be vetted ie. CRB enhanced - it's not part of that. Was just wondering which employers would be allowed to ask about people's sex lives - secret services perhaps? Although they'd already know of course"
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i admitted it and now i have my whole wor place discussing it and well i get the shit for it i didnt bring it to work they did i get the shit for it at work coz some one was curious so i answered questions and it all alnded on my shoulders i got in to trouble for it all and i did nothign wrong
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
Someone I know had the police stop them and ask questions about it when it came out in an explanation of what was going on...and where they had come from etc...they said they police found it interesting and had too many questions! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friends would think of swinging as the party/keys in fruit bowl moment... Not what we do in here... So no they don't know the word 'swinger' but they do know I have a selection of man friends who I like to see on an irregular basis for adult fun... They all just think I'm a raging nympho   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I openly admit to everyone at work that i'm a swinger , but for obvious reasons dont tell them that i'm a tv , especially in my working envoirement workin on buildin sites lol  |
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Have a told a few people in the past(3 in fact).i regret telling two of those,the other one is fine.Jsut after new year i met a girl through a mutual female friend and within 5 mins we both knew each otehr were swingers
We were having a drink in her kitchen before going to a gig adn i asked what she would be doing if she wasnt coming out with us.She replied"Going to Rios" Rios ,i replied.She said,"yeah,its a swingers naturist cluB2 i replied " iknow,just surprised you mentioned it" we are great friends now and whilst don't play with each other, we have a good giggle swapping "war stories"
And have a few wild nights out planned |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest
Which employers would need to know that?"
My work. I have a DV clearance (developed vetting), it's reviewed annually, 2 of my referees were interviewed as was I. On my original interview I told them I was bisexual and promiscuous and that I had previously been a swinger, when I joined Fab, I put it on my review form. It's mostly if you work with sensitive material (in my case it's the nuclear industry) and they're more interested in seeing if you're bribable |
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest
Which employers would need to know that?
My work. I have a DV clearance (developed vetting), it's reviewed annually, 2 of my referees were interviewed as was I. On my original interview I told them I was bisexual and promiscuous and that I had previously been a swinger, when I joined Fab, I put it on my review form. It's mostly if you work with sensitive material (in my case it's the nuclear industry) and they're more interested in seeing if you're bribable "
More blackmailable than bribeable. If you're open and honest about yourself they've got buggar all to blackmail you with, (just don't mention the sheep ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been asked if I was by one of my superiors at work on a night out. I neither denied or confirmed it. What I did say was'you know where I am if you need me' then walked off. |
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"Not me. Never have and never will. Not because I am worried my closest friends would be judgemental, but because they are so open-minded they would want to know every little detail and I'm not prepared to give them that! They actually think I'm pretty sexually deproved I think "
LOL - I know the feeling - I'd never hear the last of it....questions galore. I suspect that they suspect anyway!  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms
Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest
Which employers would need to know that?
My work. I have a DV clearance (developed vetting), it's reviewed annually, 2 of my referees were interviewed as was I. On my original interview I told them I was bisexual and promiscuous and that I had previously been a swinger, when I joined Fab, I put it on my review form. It's mostly if you work with sensitive material (in my case it's the nuclear industry) and they're more interested in seeing if you're bribable
More blackmailable than bribeable. If you're open and honest about yourself they've got buggar all to blackmail you with, (just don't mention the sheep )"
That's what I meant...and a sheep was one of my referees |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My friends all know I'm a swinger and bi, most of my family do too. The people I work with all know, but that will change in my new job. I currently work in a pub, so it's not really an issue, but my new job is a local authority based one, so I'll have to be a little more discreet.
I'm not ashamed of what I do, and I'll openly and honestly answer any questions about it. "
How can you be discreet if everyone already knows? Surely once everyone knows sonething you can't hide it. People have very long memories. |
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either."
Same here......my Aunt had been told by my cousin (not her son) that I'm a swinger.....so she asked me......not really arsed, she wasn't shocked at all....she was shocked however when I told her I am submissive to my partner....she had me down as a domme.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of my close friends know I see more than one person at a time. If they came out and asked if I was a swinger, I'd say yes. I'm fairly openly bi, but I've never seen the importance of having to label every part of my life.
Being bi or being a swinger is just part of what makes me who I am. And I'm happy with that. "
 This.
I can only second the whole of it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i admitted it and now i have my whole wor place discussing it and well i get the shit for it i didnt bring it to work they did i get the shit for it at work coz some one was curious so i answered questions and it all alnded on my shoulders i got in to trouble for it all and i did nothign wrong
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Same happened to me. Now I just say it's not fit discussion at work. |
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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago
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"Nope, have no need or reason to.
Our sex life is our business, it's not something we go round discussing with family, friends or work colleagues.
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However some of us have to fess up at work.. The DV process. They could give a flying F&&k if you are honest, if your aren't then that's when the security vetting problems arise. Ie you are available to be compromised |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't tell anyone - it's our business and nobody else's.
I was wondering though - do you think it's easier for a single swinger to admit it than a couple? Would society's perception of a couple swinging still be 'adulterers' even if it was consensual? "
I think as a couple it has to be more discrete, when I was a single male I wouldn't have given a hoot. |
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By *GR2014Man
over a year ago
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Yes I have I met a woman on a dating site who had been swinging twice with a previous partner and she took me to my first event sadly we split so told anouther open minded vanila dating partner and again I did it with her too... I'm a catch and get dates easily so if someone wants a relationship with me if there not open minded I move on. I've also told other people because I'm open and why hide it. In my life I don't do things I'm ashamed of! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any time the question has come up we've been totally honest about it and never had a problem.
Lots of interest and probably a few converts but never any problems.
If ever anyone has put the lifestyle down, due to a T.V programme or whatever, we'd always stand up for what we believe in, not in our nature to do otherwise or sit in embarrassed silence.
It's great that so many people on this thread are open about it, the more people that are, the more chance of swinging becoming accepted in general.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are just a couple of friends that know but most do not. not necessarily because we are hiding it we just don't bring up our sex life in regular conversations. I'm not worried about anyone asking. most would never in a million years think that we were swingers. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I don't class myself as a swinger since I'm a single woman looking for single men. However I have made it known that I use the net to 'hook up' with men. I don't go into details. Most also know I have an fb. |
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