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This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying |
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying "
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else. |
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A statement regarding ethnic preference (or non-preference) seems to be relatively common in profiles so it does sound like it makes sense to enable a filter for it so searches can be refined...
However, we could be left with a large amount of check boxes for people to consider..?
Also, on occasion I find my profile has been viewed by people who 'don't prefer Asian guys'...which pleasantly surprises me...and suggests people aren't always rigid with their preferences....unless they just simply wanted to have a closer look at my bottom?
The exhibitionist within me doesn't mind this objectification, so perhaps the status quo is fine. |
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else."
I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in? |
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else.
I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in? "
If you look at my profile you'll see which race i am sexually interested in, and by a process of elimination you will then work out the answer to your question |
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else.
I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in?
If you look at my profile you'll see which race i am sexually interested in, and by a process of elimination you will then work out the answer to your question"
cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise. |
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"I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in?
If you look at my profile you'll see which race i am sexually interested in, and by a process of elimination you will then work out the answer to your question
cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise."
In a way i see your point and maybe i should've said race i sexually prefer rather than race i'm sexually interested in.
I'm well aware there are many sexy women around of all races, I've met many myself when going out and in the workplace, but when it comes to swinging and meeting people on here, i like everyone else have my preference. You may say, well that rules everyone else out and i should give them a chance, but why should i? I'm not here on a moral crusade i'm only here to swing and have fun with people who i choose to meet.
Who i find attractive is who i find attractive, you may not like it, you may not agree with it, but thats how it is. You can't help who you're attracted to mate so there's no point in telling people what they find attractive is wrong. Each to their own i say and i believe there's someone for everyone on here |
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I always hate having to categorizing my ethnicity for search options because i am biracial and i do not look a bit like either one of my races. Most people mistake me for Hispanic/latina and react to me as such so if someone wanted and idea of what i look like, specifying my ethnicity wouldn't help at all. Many people who are attracted or not attracted to "insert one of my races here" have felt differently about me because i look "exotic". The problem for me is that i would not want to meet anyone who excluded either of my races because although i understand, it is still a part of who i am. I think it is better to not exclude based on ethnicity and just look for those whom you find attracted to. |
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"I always hate having to categorizing my ethnicity for search options because i am biracial and i do not look a bit like either one of my races. Most people mistake me for Hispanic/latina and react to me as such so if someone wanted and idea of what i look like, specifying my ethnicity wouldn't help at all. Many people who are attracted or not attracted to "insert one of my races here" have felt differently about me because i look "exotic". The problem for me is that i would not want to meet anyone who excluded either of my races because although i understand, it is still a part of who i am. I think it is better to not exclude based on ethnicity and just look for those whom you find attracted to."
Imagine this, if a guy was looking for an Hispanic woman and contacted you because he thought you were, imagine the embarrassment when he found out you weren't Hispanic? Wouldn't it have been better all round that he knew you weren't before he contacted you? |
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This is a difficult one. We try to go by the person. There are black and white people we've met that we would love to play with. Equally there are black and white people who we wouldn't play with. However I understand the point of view that there are races that some people don't want to play with. For us that is Asians. Now I know we have only met a few within the swinging world but we have had two or three bad experiences with asians so proportionately that is not good. I know that tarring everyone with the same brush is not right but it does happen. So we probably wouldn't look at an Asian guy on here, if we met one in a club and he made a good impression we may change our minds.
No offence intended... |
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"I always hate having to categorizing my ethnicity for search options because i am biracial and i do not look a bit like either one of my races. Most people mistake me for Hispanic/latina and react to me as such so if someone wanted and idea of what i look like, specifying my ethnicity wouldn't help at all. Many people who are attracted or not attracted to "insert one of my races here" have felt differently about me because i look "exotic". The problem for me is that i would not want to meet anyone who excluded either of my races because although i understand, it is still a part of who i am. I think it is better to not exclude based on ethnicity and just look for those whom you find attracted to.
Imagine this, if a guy was looking for an Hispanic woman and contacted you because he thought you were, imagine the embarrassment when he found out you weren't Hispanic? Wouldn't it have been better all round that he knew you weren't before he contacted you?"
It doesn't bother me that people mistake what i am. I agree that i look Hispanic so i dont feel anyone should feel embarrassed for making that mistake. Its not a bad thing. Now if he specifically said he was only looking to meet hispanic women then i would not meet him. I would not like it if he said "well you look like it so i'll make an exception for you". obiously he tends to be drawn to hispanic women because they have features he likes not necessarily their ethnicity. Better to describe features that you are attracted to and request pics upfront to avoid the embarrassment later. |
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And think if there were ethnic categories then imagine i would never get a meet lol
If someone clicked black or white they would pass me by because i dont look like what they are looking for. Then if someone clicks hispanic i wouldn't even show up in their search. See why i dont like having to specify? Lol |
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"Better to describe features that you are attracted to and request pics upfront to avoid the embarrassment later."
Supposing they have no pics on their profile and none in private to send you, like so many people on here? How do you then avoid asking the embarrassing question, "what race are you"? Especially if someone's race is important to you? |
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"And think if there were ethnic categories then imagine i would never get a meet lol
If someone clicked black or white they would pass me by because i dont look like what they are looking for. Then if someone clicks hispanic i wouldn't even show up in their search. See why i dont like having to specify? Lol"
Yes i can see and its a good point. Many websites have a 'other' option and maybe this would suit you, if not, maybe a 'Mixed Race' option would suffice. |
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Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex , the feelings, sensations and the ultimate ending of an orgasm !! I love women of all races , as long as I find them attractive It never matters where she is from or what colour she is , black , white, East Asian , south Asian , Latin , European .....the list goes on ! I guess everyone has there preference but IMO the ones that stick with there own race as a strict sexual preference on fabs have slight racist undertones in my opinion as how can you not wanna experience other races ....we only have one life so explore it to the fullest ....especially sexually !!! |
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"Better to describe features that you are attracted to and request pics upfront to avoid the embarrassment later.
Supposing they have no pics on their profile and none in private to send you, like so many people on here? How do you then avoid asking the embarrassing question, "what race are you"? Especially if someone's race is important to you?"
Well is it truly race? Or is it certain skin shade, eye color, hair color etc? I think on a site like this pictures/physical discription are important. of course its not everything but i do believe people should have pics available to send privately at the very least. even if they were the correct race there is a possibility you might not be attracted anyway. If someone refuses to send a pic i personally would not continue to entertain the Idea of a meet. |
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"And think if there were ethnic categories then imagine i would never get a meet lol
If someone clicked black or white they would pass me by because i dont look like what they are looking for. Then if someone clicks hispanic i wouldn't even show up in their search. See why i dont like having to specify? Lol"
Why would it be just black and white as choice 
On other sites the race has hispanic as well as many other choices |
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"And think if there were ethnic categories then imagine i would never get a meet lol
If someone clicked black or white they would pass me by because i dont look like what they are looking for. Then if someone clicks hispanic i wouldn't even show up in their search. See why i dont like having to specify? Lol
Why would it be just black and white as choice
On other sites the race has hispanic as well as many other choices"
Yes i was referring to my two specific races. I am black and white but i look Hispanic. I was making the point that specifying my race would not be a good indicator of what i looked like. |
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"Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex , the feelings, sensations and the ultimate ending of an orgasm !! I love women of all races , as long as I find them attractive It never matters where she is from or what colour she is , black , white, East Asian , south Asian , Latin , European .....the list goes on ! I guess everyone has there preference but IMO the ones that stick with there own race as a strict sexual preference on fabs have slight racist undertones in my opinion as how can you not wanna experience other races ....we only have one life so explore it to the fullest ....especially sexually !!! "
I am most definitely not racist in any way just because my personal preference is to meet white people! Same as I choose not to meet smokers!  |
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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in?
If you look at my profile you'll see which race i am sexually interested in, and by a process of elimination you will then work out the answer to your question
cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise.
In a way i see your point and maybe i should've said race i sexually prefer rather than race i'm sexually interested in.
I'm well aware there are many sexy women around of all races, I've met many myself when going out and in the workplace, but when it comes to swinging and meeting people on here, i like everyone else have my preference. You may say, well that rules everyone else out and i should give them a chance, but why should i? I'm not here on a moral crusade i'm only here to swing and have fun with people who i choose to meet.
Who i find attractive is who i find attractive, you may not like it, you may not agree with it, but thats how it is. You can't help who you're attracted to mate so there's no point in telling people what they find attractive is wrong. Each to their own i say and i believe there's someone for everyone on here "
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Issue i have with this and in general is when you have these ethicity forms etc is for example white british i see myself as white english as born in england.
Personally we have way too ethnicity details as it is without fab adding to it. If someone puts at end of profile prefer blacks asians etc or not after blavks asians etc so what. They do not have to put at beginning at least it shows profiles have been read and if folk find it frustrating get over it. It only takes seconds to read profile.
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else.
I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in?
If you look at my profile you'll see which race i am sexually interested in, and by a process of elimination you will then work out the answer to your question
cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise."
I thought I wasn't interested in Asian guys until I met the most wonderful Asian guy at a club and we ended up meeting quite a few times. That proves what you are saying.
I have my preferences but doesn't mean I should rule everyone else out |
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else.
I'm intrigued. Which race are you not sexually interested in?
If you look at my profile you'll see which race i am sexually interested in, and by a process of elimination you will then work out the answer to your question
cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise.
I thought I wasn't interested in Asian guys until I met the most wonderful Asian guy at a club and we ended up meeting quite a few times. That proves what you are saying.
I have my preferences but doesn't mean I should rule everyone else out "
I can remember you changed your profile to include Asians, at which point we did chat for a while. |
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"Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex "
The race thing in swinging is massive for some people.
Its important for them to find the right sexual partner and often that includes self filtering them to find what they're looking for.
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"Well is it truly race? Or is it certain skin shade, eye color, hair color etc? I think on a site like this pictures/physical discription are important. of course its not everything but i do believe people should have pics available to send privately at the very least. even if they were the correct race there is a possibility you might not be attracted anyway. If someone refuses to send a pic i personally would not continue to entertain the Idea of a meet. "
Very good comment again and i agree people should at least have pics they can send privately or if not, at least put a short description on their profile. |
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"Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex
The race thing in swinging is massive for some people.
Its important for them to find the right sexual partner and often that includes self filtering them to find what they're looking for.
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Another great comment, couldn't agree more |
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I agree that there should be a filter for race preferences. I come across loads of profiles saying 'no black or Asian' or 'black men only' after I read half a novel.
I know a few women on here have had abuse for stating this on there profiles, being calked racist but it's better to be straight up than waste people's time in the long run.
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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".. cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise."
I'm not interested in white photography specialists from north of the border 
Joking aside this is a topic i gave up on in fabs. Though i agree with the quoted post there's nowt you can do about it. If someone has no black / asians / oriental / spanish/ what ever i accept it rather than question it. Why anyone wishes to limit themselves to a certain colour/race/ethnicity is their choice. I grew up in the 80's / 90's and have had several bad experiences of racist hate from white folk, so should tar all white folk with the same racist brush 
It maybe bad experiences, it may be racist views but whatever it is life's too short to question it and i'm not going to waste my time to prove that all people of a particular race are not the same. If they wish to limit who they meet by tarring all with the same brush then good luck to them.
I have my own preferences i'm looking for open minded people, who bleed red and are colour blind. If anyone knows where they are point them out to me please  |
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For me if the woman floats my boat my cock will get hard
Even tho we call it race when we refer to skin colour the truth is there is only 1 race human
Cat dogs monkeys apes dolphins to name a few there are not of r are race and I'm defo not sexually attracted to
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Its so wrong that people get abuse for stating their sexual preferences and its not racist to find a particular race in general sexually attractive. At the end of the day you can't help who you're attracted to so what's the point in telling someone they're wrong and who they should find attractive? At least if someone does state a preference you know then whether its worth your time contacting them or not. There's someone for everyone on here so why waste time harrassing someone who just wants to make sure they find the types of people they'd really prefer to have fun with. |
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If someone puts at end of profile prefer blacks asians etc or not after blavks asians etc so what. They do not have to put at beginning at least it shows profiles have been read and if folk find it frustrating get over it. It only takes seconds to read profile.
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".. cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise.
I'm not interested in white photography specialists from north of the border
Joking aside this is a topic i gave up on in fabs. Though i agree with the quoted post there's nowt you can do about it. If someone has no black / asians / oriental / spanish/ what ever i accept it rather than question it. Why anyone wishes to limit themselves to a certain colour/race/ethnicity is their choice. I grew up in the 80's / 90's and have had several bad experiences of racist hate from white folk, so should tar all white folk with the same racist brush
It maybe bad experiences, it may be racist views but whatever it is life's too short to question it and i'm not going to waste my time to prove that all people of a particular race are not the same. If they wish to limit who they meet by tarring all with the same brush then good luck to them.
I have my own preferences i'm looking for open minded people, who bleed red and are colour blind. If anyone knows where they are point them out to me please "
I truly struggle to understand why people see choosing playmates on ethnicity as racist or exclusion is due to bad experiences.
I only play with white, straight, sub men over 50. Do I have "issues" with other ethnicities? Hell...no! Do I find bi men disgusting? Hell...no! Do I find dominant men off putting? Hell...no! Have I had bad experiences with under 50s? Hell...no!
Add to that my playmates are all high flying alpha males. I like having the managing director collared and gagged wearing gates of hell hanging from brackets and chains from my wall. Aesthetically and sexually it wouldn't work with a 30 year old black man say.
I'm here for my own hedonistic pleasure with white men: this is fantasy, my fantasy! If people are offended by my audacity in choosing who I invite between my legs, I can't stress enough how little I care about that.
I think a filter would be a good idea. |
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"For me if the woman floats my boat my cock will get hard
Even tho we call it race when we refer to skin colour the truth is there is only 1 race human
Cat dogs monkeys apes dolphins to name a few there are not of r are race and I'm defo not sexually attracted to
#smh #just saying "
I totally agree there is only one race and that's the human race.
But we come in all different shapes, sizes, features etc and that's where preference comes in.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well i am multicoloured and face the same its a preference and should be seen as such...i dont like blonde women. Yes my profile says caucasian only because nothing else turns me on!!! Simples |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Well i am multicoloured and face the same its a preference and should be seen as such...i dont like blonde women. Yes my profile says caucasian only because nothing else turns me on!!! Simples "
Makes a note for when I'm visiting Scotland not to contact
I once had a bad experience with a Jehovah's Witness (could not get the bugger off my fecking doorstep), I'm now going to add that to my profile followed by brackets, my preference, close brackets
Seriously though, I have no issue with anyone having no blacks/whites/Asians/Jews/7th Day Adventists/heathens/Zoroastrians or whatever on their profile, it's only taken me a minute to read it, if I get to the bottom and it says no fat, gobby, blonde bints (sorry, just my preference) then I'll move onto the next one.
However, for those who've mentioned having bad experiences with certain ethnicities, then I do wonder if a bad experience or two with the preferred ethnicity would then put them off meeting that skin tone? |
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I don't get this at all. I have found myself gazing at people from all races, creeds, continents etc with lust that if I were to define as a preference I wouldn't be able to.
We are all human beings, well mainly, and as such are all individuals. Surely it's the person you are attracted to, physically, emotionally even by pheromones perhaps. Not the colour if their skin or the language they speak.
All you have to do is say "sorry, but you're not my type".... No offence should be taken.
Personally I've had this said to me and I've said it to others.... I wouldn't be so rude as to say, "I'm sorry but one legged, green Martians with there eyes and pendulous tits don't turn me on"! |
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"Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex , the feelings, sensations and the ultimate ending of an orgasm !! I love women of all races , as long as I find them attractive It never matters where she is from or what colour she is , black , white, East Asian , south Asian , Latin , European .....the list goes on ! I guess everyone has there preference but IMO the ones that stick with there own race as a strict sexual preference on fabs have slight racist undertones in my opinion as how can you not wanna experience other races ....we only have one life so explore it to the fullest ....especially sexually !!! "
It has nothing to do with racist undertones as you put it. So every male on here that is straight and doesn't want to do anything with another man must have homophobic undertones going by what you say.
It's a preference. That's all.
No one ever seems to complain when people are only looking for black men. |
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However, for those who've mentioned having bad experiences with certain ethnicities, then I do wonder if a bad experience or two with the preferred ethnicity would then put them off meeting that skin tone? "
The answer to that is no. We have met played with and made friends with black guys. We have had one black guy cause a bit of a problem but he soon got the message and left. So as we have had so many good experiences we won't go off black guys. For us the bad experience with Asian guys has been two touching without asking, one of those quite roughly. And the other day we were having a bit of outdoors play at a club and we wouldn't do it if we minded people watching but I could feel his breath on my shoulder when I had my head between Friskys legs... Other people at least stood back a little. No seeing how things have changed for us since we started swinging I wouldn't say never. But we wouldn't arrange a meet with an asian guy. However if we met one in a club then we would treat him as an individual and go from there. If an Asian guy contacts us from here if he has a good profile we'll say we will be at this club at this time. Come and say hello if you like. We make no promises until we have met a person what ever their race. It all comes down to personality. We've seen peopl who we thought mmm then on meeting them you realise that we don't click and others we've thought not our type but on getting to know them have changed our minds because they are such great people...
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I think its a brilliant idea to have an ethnicity box or filter. My profile is very brief and quite clearly states I only wish to meet white guys (and straight guys). Its not racist, it is my preference as to who I have sex with. Quite simply, I do not find black/asian men attractive. Just as some men don't find me attractive. But guess what, regardless of what it says in my profile, black/asian (and bi) guys still message me. What a waste of time that is for both us. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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can I have a filter for the people who want a filter please...
it would probably save me hours of time
oh... while I am at it...
can you also write my profile...
and my messages...
and arrange the meets for me as well!!!
if that lot still doesnt help... its all the sites fault.... |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"On a lighter note I enjoy all races but the 100m's is by far the best. All the tension and excitement and it's over in under 10 secs lol "
tension & excitement & over in 10 seconds hmmmmmm sounds like you've been talking to someone i've played with |
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"I'm happy to meet with members of the human race, I don't give a flying fig what shade of skin they are wrapped in.
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Well, good for you Not everyone likes every type of person though That's all this boils down to. And anyone suggesting things to do with racism is just trying to incite racism. |
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"I'm happy to meet with members of the human race, I don't give a flying fig what shade of skin they are wrapped in.
Well, good for you Not everyone likes every type of person though That's all this boils down to. And anyone suggesting things to do with racism is just trying to incite racism."
Interesting post by the op, i dont think it should be turned into a race issue. it is simple preference. Most people have an ideal type they would go for, so if a woman ideally wants a athletic black or mixed race or white or asian man between the ages 30 and 40 why cant she search for her ideal, instead of having to trawl through profiles. There are not enough filters on this site compared to others, which is more the issue. happy swinging |
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else."
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"I'm happy to meet with members of the human race, I don't give a flying fig what shade of skin they are wrapped in.
Well, good for you Not everyone likes every type of person though That's all this boils down to. And anyone suggesting things to do with racism is just trying to incite racism.
Interesting post by the op, i dont think it should be turned into a race issue. it is simple preference. Most people have an ideal type they would go for, so if a woman ideally wants a athletic black or mixed race or white or asian man between the ages 30 and 40 why cant she search for her ideal, instead of having to trawl through profiles. There are not enough filters on this site compared to others, which is more the issue. happy swinging "
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"I think its a brilliant idea to have an ethnicity box or filter. My profile is very brief and quite clearly states I only wish to meet white guys (and straight guys). Its not racist, it is my preference as to who I have sex with. Quite simply, I do not find black/asian men attractive. Just as some men don't find me attractive. But guess what, regardless of what it says in my profile, black/asian (and bi) guys still message me. What a waste of time that is for both us. "
Another great comment and i 100% agree with everything said, and those using the racist card are just totally missing the point. The thing with a filter is, if you don't like it you don't have to use it, but for those who want to be a bit more specific it will prove to be a very useful tool to quickly narrow down to the types of people they really want to meet. What can be wrong with that? If you don't like a filter you don't have to use it. |
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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex , the feelings, sensations and the ultimate ending of an orgasm !! I love women of all races , as long as I find them attractive It never matters where she is from or what colour she is , black , white, East Asian , south Asian , Latin , European .....the list goes on ! I guess everyone has there preference but IMO the ones that stick with there own race as a strict sexual preference on fabs have slight racist undertones in my opinion as how can you not wanna experience other races ....we only have one life so explore it to the fullest ....especially sexually !!! "
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"This topic has been raised a few times. Why can't there be an option of who people want to meet. Nothing wrong with preference. I hate reading long profiles and when I get to last sentence it says no black or asians. so annoying
I fully accept that everyone has the right to choose who and what race they want to meet with, but i have to agree with the OP that its so annoying to read a novel only to find right at the end, "by the way no blacks" arghhh!! If only this important point was put at the beginning somewhere?
Another point with race is i also think 'ethnicity' should be made as another category alongside age, build, smoker and drinker, as it is on many other sites and i'll tell you why. Not long ago i contacted a woman whose profile looked good but had no pics and after chatting for a while she turned out to be of a race i'm not sexually interested in and it was so embarrasing to say i'm sorry but...
So with an ethnicity category in place it would stop that from happening again, not only to me but to anyone else."
I agree with the point about a separate category in the search, but nothing can be (or should be) done about how peeps chose to write their profiles. |
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"I don't get this at all. I have found myself gazing at people from all races, creeds, continents etc with lust that if I were to define as a preference I wouldn't be able to.
We are all human beings, well mainly, and as such are all individuals. Surely it's the person you are attracted to, physically, emotionally even by pheromones perhaps. Not the colour if their skin or the language they speak.
All you have to do is say "sorry, but you're not my type".... No offence should be taken.
Personally I've had this said to me and I've said it to others.... I wouldn't be so rude as to say, "I'm sorry but one legged, green Martians with there eyes and pendulous tits don't turn me on"!"
as a very mixed race (Irish, Welsh, Scots, bit of French somewhere lurking) caucasian person I dont think I could reject anyone with a clear conscience.  |
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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago
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I can reject all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons - don't like their tatts, bitten nails, fuckin ugly,stupid, whatever. Why would I want to limit my choices still further by ruling out black, brown, yellow, green (well, okay green maybe a no-go)people. People are just that - people. If you are attracted to them as PEOPLE not as meat or as an easy fuck then you shouldn't discount them on the grounds of ethnicity Don't care how you dress it up it's bigotry |
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"I can reject all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons - don't like their tatts, bitten nails, fuckin ugly,stupid, whatever. Why would I want to limit my choices still further by ruling out black, brown, yellow, green (well, okay green maybe a no-go)people. People are just that - people. If you are attracted to them as PEOPLE not as meat or as an easy fuck then you shouldn't discount them on the grounds of ethnicity Don't care how you dress it up it's bigotry"
But its your choice not to limit your search so therefore you would have no need to use the filter. However, it is my choice not to meet black or Asian. I really resent the inference that because of somebodys preference as to who they are attracted to automatically means they are a racist or bigot. I am neither. Its about saving time for the person messaging and the person receiving the message. All dating sites have this option so why not here? |
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"I can reject all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons - don't like their tatts, bitten nails, fuckin ugly,stupid, whatever. Why would I want to limit my choices still further by ruling out black, brown, yellow, green (well, okay green maybe a no-go)people. People are just that - people. If you are attracted to them as PEOPLE not as meat or as an easy fuck then you shouldn't discount them on the grounds of ethnicity Don't care how you dress it up it's bigotry"
So your allowed to have your preference but no one else is. |
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cant stand this!
an entire race u are not sexually interested in, and i will argue till I'm blue in the face, until u have met every single person from that race, past/present/future u will never know.If u believe it is about certain features? then thats also a mistake..we all share a basic genetic makeup and it can have such a wide range of variance in one race that u may not even be able to tell their exact race that clearly features wise."
God...this! So much this! You can find individuals unattractive but you really can't find a whole race unattractive...without also meaning you find EVERYONE of a particular race attractive. |
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"I can reject all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons - don't like their tatts, bitten nails, fuckin ugly,stupid, whatever. Why would I want to limit my choices still further by ruling out black, brown, yellow, green (well, okay green maybe a no-go)people. People are just that - people. If you are attracted to them as PEOPLE not as meat or as an easy fuck then you shouldn't discount them on the grounds of ethnicity Don't care how you dress it up it's bigotry"
It's not bigotry, it's sexual preference |
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"I think more filters are a good idea. If they were made available to site supporters only, it would encourage more to support. "
Hold on a minute Glad you like the idea of more filters, but why just site supporters? Sounds like a whole new thread to me lol |
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"God...this! So much this! You can find individuals unattractive but you really can't find a whole race unattractive...without also meaning you find EVERYONE of a particular race attractive. "
I've already said in this thread that i have met many attractive women of all races, but i do have my preferred race when it comes to sexual activity. It doesn't mean i will rule out women of any other race, and neither does it mean i will want to meet all women of my preferred race, it just means in general there are women of a certain race i prefer to play with. |
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"Wouldn't thought in swinging the race thing would be an issue as we are all here because we love the pleasure of sex , the feelings, sensations and the ultimate ending of an orgasm !! I love women of all races , as long as I find them attractive It never matters where she is from or what colour she is , black , white, East Asian , south Asian , Latin , European .....the list goes on ! I guess everyone has there preference but IMO the ones that stick with there own race as a strict sexual preference on fabs have slight racist undertones in my opinion as how can you not wanna experience other races ....we only have one life so explore it to the fullest ....especially sexually !!! "
Race thing in swinging is pretty big. It would be easy for everyone to have option to tick a box. I understand people have preferences. That's fine. So a tick box makes sense. |
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As far as I can see, racism is an idea of superiority...believing that one race has the right to subjugate another. Although quite a few profiles indicate a racial preference, I feel it's unlikely that this is because these people feel they are 'better' due to their phenotypical traits...bearing in mind race is merely a social construct.
And even IF there were SOME individuals who felt this way towards other ethnic groups/races/nationalities and are dressing it up as preferences - thus hiding behind those people who are simply and honestly indicating preference - you're hardly going to change any prejudices by making accusations of racism or bigotry - no matter how well founded or accurate they may be.
In the end, my philosophy is to try my best to be genuine, decent, courteous...both to myself and others... Hopefully people will recognise my efforts...and if some still don't like me... c'est la vie |
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"As far as I can see, racism is an idea of superiority...believing that one race has the right to subjugate another. Although quite a few profiles indicate a racial preference, I feel it's unlikely that this is because these people feel they are 'better' due to their phenotypical traits...bearing in mind race is merely a social construct.
And even IF there were SOME individuals who felt this way towards other ethnic groups/races/nationalities and are dressing it up as preferences - thus hiding behind those people who are simply and honestly indicating preference - you're hardly going to change any prejudices by making accusations of racism or bigotry - no matter how well founded or accurate they may be.
In the end, my philosophy is to try my best to be genuine, decent, courteous...both to myself and others... Hopefully people will recognise my efforts...and if some still don't like me... c'est la vie "
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After last weekend when an other Asian guy again failed to follow club etiquette I'm actually starting to think it may actually be a cultural thing rather than race. I am wondering if they are the first or second generation of their family in the Uk. We were in the hot tub an 8 seater. One guy in one corner an Asian guy in the other corner and Frisky sitting right up close to me in an other and a free corner. Loads of room between us and the others. The white guy gets out and then the Asian guy suddenly slides over and sits next to frisky. Next thing his hand is on the seat resting against her leg... I know that is not too bad but please at least try and chat to us or make eye contact.... The only other people we have found to be like this is a couple of eastern European males... One of which went up to Frisky as we were leaving and said " 10 minutes left now... We fuck" having never met her before She walked back to me after saying a polite no thanks. He followed and to her " I talk to your husband then we fuck." To me he says " I take your wife to room. We fuck then I bring her back to you. " I politely decline on her behalf... So I'm thinking that some cultures have either no idea how to act at a swingers club type venueor we have been really unlucky just to meet the rude ones... |
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Your world view is shaped by your experiences and more critically, your evaluation of these events...
Inductive reasoning would lead you to the conclusion your veering towards, however in my opinion, a wiser, fairer opinion to hold would be that you've been a little unfortunate.
I suspect there have been some people who have had similar experiences with Western Europeans of light pigmentation too.
Some people have a streak of selfishness and impatience in the melting pot that makes up their character. They thus make decisions that reflects this. People aren't the same and can hold very different values..even when they share the same DNA, originate from the same country or share a similar skin pigmentation.
I don't represent this Asian man who behaved so poorly in the hot tub with your wife, and he doesn't represent me.
"After last weekend when an other Asian guy again failed to follow club etiquette I'm actually starting to think it may actually be a cultural thing rather than race. I am wondering if they are the first or second generation of their family in the Uk. We were in the hot tub an 8 seater. One guy in one corner an Asian guy in the other corner and Frisky sitting right up close to me in an other and a free corner. Loads of room between us and the others. The white guy gets out and then the Asian guy suddenly slides over and sits next to frisky. Next thing his hand is on the seat resting against her leg... I know that is not too bad but please at least try and chat to us or make eye contact.... The only other people we have found to be like this is a couple of eastern European males... One of which went up to Frisky as we were leaving and said " 10 minutes left now... We fuck" having never met her before She walked back to me after saying a polite no thanks. He followed and to her " I talk to your husband then we fuck." To me he says " I take your wife to room. We fuck then I bring her back to you. " I politely decline on her behalf... So I'm thinking that some cultures have either no idea how to act at a swingers club type venueor we have been really unlucky just to meet the rude ones..."
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"Your world view is shaped by your experiences and more critically, your evaluation of these events...
Inductive reasoning would lead you to the conclusion your veering towards, however in my opinion, a wiser, fairer opinion to hold would be that you've been a little unfortunate.
I suspect there have been some people who have had similar experiences with Western Europeans of light pigmentation too.
Some people have a streak of selfishness and impatience in the melting pot that makes up their character. They thus make decisions that reflects this. People aren't the same and can hold very different values..even when they share the same DNA, originate from the same country or share a similar skin pigmentation.
I don't represent this Asian man who behaved so poorly in the hot tub with your wife, and he doesn't represent me.
After last weekend when an other Asian guy again failed to follow club etiquette I'm actually starting to think it may actually be a cultural thing rather than race. I am wondering if they are the first or second generation of their family in the Uk. We were in the hot tub an 8 seater. One guy in one corner an Asian guy in the other corner and Frisky sitting right up close to me in an other and a free corner. Loads of room between us and the others. The white guy gets out and then the Asian guy suddenly slides over and sits next to frisky. Next thing his hand is on the seat resting against her leg... I know that is not too bad but please at least try and chat to us or make eye contact.... The only other people we have found to be like this is a couple of eastern European males... One of which went up to Frisky as we were leaving and said " 10 minutes left now... We fuck" having never met her before She walked back to me after saying a polite no thanks. He followed and to her " I talk to your husband then we fuck." To me he says " I take your wife to room. We fuck then I bring her back to you. " I politely decline on her behalf... So I'm thinking that some cultures have either no idea how to act at a swingers club type venueor we have been really unlucky just to meet the rude ones..."
I understand exactly what you are saying. The trouble is such a high percentage of asian men we have met have behaved poorly it has made us wary. I also understand that within the swinging world we have met very few asian guys... |
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