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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi Male half of couple here. I just wanted to get peoples opinions on kissing or not kissing people your meeting and playing with.
We enjoy Kissing but have found out lately that we do not like seeing our partners kissing the people they are playing with. Also on that point we have never done same room fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We avoid non kissers and people with similar rules to avoid possible tension."
alarm bells for me also(and having been as a cpl a few times(in the proper sense), there is nothing worse than a jealous partner.
of course, as the OP has said its been separate rooms...still alarm bells, as it makes me think either half may be really uncomfortable in a group situation...I see little point in one on one sex...if everyones effectively together... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Male half of couple here. I just wanted to get peoples opinions on kissing or not kissing people your meeting and playing with.
We enjoy Kissing but have found out lately that we do not like seeing our partners kissing the people they are playing with. Also on that point we have never done same room fun "
Forget the kissing bit for now... 'NEVER' done same room ..???? Now that HAS got my attention!
I don't think I have EVER come across a couple that started that way round - nerves and safety (particularly on the part of the fem) almost dictate starting off same room and progressing to sep room - many couples never progress to sep room, ever.
Whose choice was it to go separate room from the off..?? Did you discuss this first before you started meeting couples? And how do the couples you meet feel with going straight into sep room??
I am getting the feeling that one or both of you is not comfortable seeing the other play with someone else and, if that is the case - you need to sit down and have a very frank talk about this. The 'kissing v not kissing' debate is secondary (the symptom, not the cause) and this feels like the thin end of what could become a nasty wedge unless you sort it... 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Male half of couple here. I just wanted to get peoples opinions on kissing or not kissing people your meeting and playing with.
We enjoy Kissing but have found out lately that we do not like seeing our partners kissing the people they are playing with. Also on that point we have never done same room fun
Forget the kissing bit for now... 'NEVER' done same room ..???? Now that HAS got my attention!
I don't think I have EVER come across a couple that started that way round - nerves and safety (particularly on the part of the fem) almost dictate starting off same room and progressing to sep room - many couples never progress to sep room, ever.
Whose choice was it to go separate room from the off..?? Did you discuss this first before you started meeting couples? And how do the couples you meet feel with going straight into sep room??
I am getting the feeling that one or both of you is not comfortable seeing the other play with someone else and, if that is the case - you need to sit down and have a very frank talk about this. The 'kissing v not kissing' debate is secondary (the symptom, not the cause) and this feels like the thin end of what could become a nasty wedge unless you sort it...
ted."
forget the never done same room but for now
You do bareback but don't like to see each other kiss?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We started out with the no kissing rule but as we got more comfortable we began kissing opposite partners and love it never. Very erotic. As for separate room play that won't ever happen with us. We love watching each other have horny fun.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Male half of couple here. I just wanted to get peoples opinions on kissing or not kissing people your meeting and playing with.
We enjoy Kissing but have found out lately that we do not like seeing our partners kissing the people they are playing with. Also on that point we have never done same room fun
Forget the kissing bit for now... 'NEVER' done same room ..???? Now that HAS got my attention!
I don't think I have EVER come across a couple that started that way round - nerves and safety (particularly on the part of the fem) almost dictate starting off same room and progressing to sep room - many couples never progress to sep room, ever.
Whose choice was it to go separate room from the off..?? Did you discuss this first before you started meeting couples? And how do the couples you meet feel with going straight into sep room??
I am getting the feeling that one or both of you is not comfortable seeing the other play with someone else and, if that is the case - you need to sit down and have a very frank talk about this. The 'kissing v not kissing' debate is secondary (the symptom, not the cause) and this feels like the thin end of what could become a nasty wedge unless you sort it...
ted.
forget the never done same room but for now
You do bareback but don't like to see each other kiss? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A meet without kissing is like a day without sunshine."
How perfectly true 
Kissing is a major turn on for me wouldn't meet anyone who didn't want to kiss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is where the passion, the chemistry and the anticipation are hiding. I can't imagine it without kissing.
For me, my erection starts through kissing, stroking, massaging, exploring. Its the erotic start to something magical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think i prefer to respect the couples requirements, its quite obvious dynamically they dont like kissing and fair enough, the meet itself and the exploring with them makes up for that extra bit of intimacy.
Its their boundary they have set |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A meet without kissing is like a day without sunshine."
we live in England there are far too many days like this
back to the topic. people say they don't kiss because its intimate. How is having rudies with someone not intimate? Our view is that our intimacy is when were laid in bed snuggling up.
Kissing on meets is all part of it for us. Not kissing makes it feel a bit mechanical |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Male half here, regarding the kissing, clare doesnt really want to meet anybody that wont kiss. I dont really mind whether the lady wants to kiss or not.
Our last couple meet was a non kissing event as the cpl didnt want kissing. We totally respect that but went along with the meet because we got on with them so much (our veris is excellent)
i love watching Clare seduce a guy so kissing is a big part of that. |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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We don't kiss other people, we did try it recently with a couple we met, lots of fun but not something we want to do again, however I like Ted am more shocked by the never tried same room fun.
But then I guess not everyone is the same but we like to watch each other have fun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We turned a lovely couple down because of their no kissing rule, just seems alien to us, but each to their own.
The first couple we ever met play separate rooms, so us being new just took it that's what happened. Now with lot's more experience we know this isn't for us, sad as we'd like to meet them again, but they won't play same room and we're not going to change what we're comfortable and happy with now that we know more. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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If it's something that you are not happy with then keep kissing for yourselves. There isn't a rule that says you have to kiss others. 
Personally I love kissing and find it very difficult not too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to keep kissing meets to a minimum as for us the meets arent about passion, closeness, or been erotic, they are an extension to our sex life, so we make it pure raw sex with our meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have done meets with and with out kissing at the end of the day most couples have something that's just for them wether that be kissing,anal or cim as such we never read anything into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As in all things, it's each to their own.
We would not contemplate meeting with anybody where kissing was not allowed, for us its essential. Plus of course, for me watching Louise snog another woman is just one incredibly horny thing to watch.
On a side note, we also won't meet people where the profile has a long list of do's and don'ts, as for us, if we do get to the play stage you end of trying to remember what's allowed and what's not.
The "Interests" section is fine, but then detailing list's and list's of do's and don'ts is for us OTT.
We once got chatting to a couple in a club and found ourselves a room at which point the bloke of the couple then started to explain what I could and could not do to his Partner .... This list included no kissing, although it was ok for him to kiss Louise ....
After about a minute of listening to his crap, we got up and left.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends
Sometimes we do, sometimes we dont.. when it feels right.. "
This is something me and the wife have always been in a quandry about. The first time she didn't the second time she did and I found it such a turn on to see her totally immersed in what she was doing, she agreed it made it more enjoyable. So I guess its when it suits and if it suits all as long as eveyone enjoys! |
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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago
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In our experiences we have tended thus far to not do kissing. It has never been a jealousy factor, but something we have made a conscious choice to save for ourselves since we share so much already.
I must admit that reading some of these posts has me rethinking the issue, at least from an erotic viewpoint. I can see the value in it as an extra turn on.
I think it depends a lot on the fantasy scenario being played out as well. If its use and abuse to the pleasure of all, kissing seems completely unnecessary to us. If its a passionate more intimate, tender kind of action, it would seem pretty strange and unnatural without it. Almost impossible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we are with a couple and everyone is happy kissing then we go for it, if Ced is watching me with another guy... I don't kiss in front of him (my choice) but Ced tells me to meet him at the door and we have a good snog before Joining Ced. Sometimes we get carried away and end up fucking in the hall or me taking him to the bedroom and forgetting Ced  No complaints from Ced as it's a huge turn on when he fucks me as I tell him what happened |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do think people who don't like kissing should say so on their profile - it is very important. But I'm bemused and a bit bothered by those couples who don't mind girl to girl kissing and yet won't tolerate girl to guy kissing, as though girl on girl isn't real sex. |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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"I do think people who don't like kissing should say so on their profile - it is very important. But I'm bemused and a bit bothered by those couples who don't mind girl to girl kissing and yet won't tolerate girl to guy kissing, as though girl on girl isn't real sex."
Agreed, or just that they struggle in some cases to meet single fem |
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I think the best thing is to take what people say at face value and don't worry too much about what it says about their motives or their relationship.
Preference and choice are the key words when it comes to swinging, if someones preferences don't suit you choose not to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We turned a lovely couple down because of their no kissing rule, just seems alien to us, but each to their own."
We've recently done the same....for us, sex without kissing would just be an act (like those you pay for)....but it is a free world and it'd be boring if we were all the same... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I would say most people don't even try to kiss me, so for me it's not an issue.. yet funny enough I've recently found I enjoy it but only certain people |
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""We turned a lovely couple down because of their no kissing rule, just seems alien to us, but each to their own."
We've recently done the same....for us, sex without kissing would just be an act (like those you pay for)....but it is a free world and it'd be boring if we were all the same..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could not meet anyone if they did not kiss . To me kissing is a massive part of the foreplay .A passionate kiss sets the tone for the rest of the meet xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could not meet anyone if they did not kiss . To me kissing is a massive part of the foreplay .A passionate kiss sets the tone for the rest of the meet xxx"
see for me I can't see how you start with kissing.. lol.. but all my meets till recently I just told them to get their cock out. I can't say most men have even tried either lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kissin can be a massive turn on
or turn off.. lol im bein positive x "
I've recently started to kiss on meets and my play partner can tell from my reactions when someone isn't any good.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am sure that works for you but if a lady just said to me get your cock out that would not do it for me .. When im on a meet wether it be for 2 hours or a all night meet . I like to treat it like i would if it was a date . Just for them few hours xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aww see I don't do dates... I only spend social time with a few people. Mostly it's fuck and bye bye...
I am slowly doing other things but it's not something I am yet comfortable with.
I have only spent more than an hour with one guy on here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kissin can be a massive turn on
or turn off.. lol im bein positive x
I've recently started to kiss on meets and my play partner can tell from my reactions when someone isn't any good.. "
i like to think im ok at it but you are right in what you say x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I to be honest hadn't been kissed properly till very recently so I am on catch up...but it just seems odd with someone I may only see for that 30mins or so. I would rather have my mouth elsewhere.
I prefer to stoke and kiss bodies mostly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could not meet anyone if they did not kiss . To me kissing is a massive part of the foreplay .A passionate kiss sets the tone for the rest of the meet xxx
see for me I can't see how you start with kissing.. lol.. but all my meets till recently I just told them to get their cock out. I can't say most men have even tried either lol"
Cali im with you on this one.... I prefer not to kiss and Mr would prefer if I did, Mr likes to kiss others too is ok if they dont, saying that he could sit and happyly watch me play without joining in!
Its not a rule as such for me and it has nothing to do with jelousy or intamacy, like Cali says theres men out there that dont even try to kiss so this works for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a watcher and don't like seeing Kate kissing or playing with another guy.
Kate says she doesn't like watching me with another woman.
We don't swing anymore, but when we did, we prefered seperate room play, although we did same room too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I to be honest hadn't been kissed properly till very recently so I am on catch up...but it just seems odd with someone I may only see for that 30mins or so. I would rather have my mouth elsewhere.
I prefer to stoke and kiss bodies mostly"
that can still be part of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aww see I don't do dates... I only spend social time with a few people. Mostly it's fuck and bye bye...
I am slowly doing other things but it's not something I am yet comfortable with.
I have only spent more than an hour with one guy on here lol"
Yeah maybe thats why we are different . Nearly all my meets have been overnight meets . So to go all night without a good snog would not be right lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Aww see I don't do dates... I only spend social time with a few people. Mostly it's fuck and bye bye...
I am slowly doing other things but it's not something I am yet comfortable with.
I have only spent more than an hour with one guy on here lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah maybe thats why we are different . Nearly all my meets have been overnight meets . So to go all night without a good snog would not be right lol "
don't know I was with my ex husband for ten years and spent most nights with him and never kissed him.. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah maybe thats why we are different . Nearly all my meets have been overnight meets . So to go all night without a good snog would not be right lol
don't know I was with my ex husband for ten years and spent most nights with him and never kissed him.. lol"
Lol yes thinking about it now . Cannot remember snogging my xwife either lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But seriously I do love to watch my play mate kissing the women when we meet couples... Although sometimes I've noticed the guys don't seem to enjoy it as much..
I think there is someone for everyone.. I am slowly getting less ice bitch. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We want to thank everyone who posted to this topic. We have not had many meets 7 and only played on 3. So still virgins lol We have decided to try same room and see where it takes us.
Once again thanks folks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We must be an odd couple the coz we have gone full on seperate meets and then got off by telling each other all about it.
We have spoken about sex (in all forms) in front of each other and feel that maybe easing our way in at a club, meeting pwople we both like is possibly the way forward. But until then we play alone  |
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forget the never done same room but for now
You do bareback but don't like to see each other kiss? "
I love a good snog
Before we started playing with others I thought seeing my man kiss someone else would be awful but actually i really enjoy watching him have fun and he is a damn good snog so i would be selfish to keep him all for myself |
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No kissing would drive me insane  . I guess its a little bit of an initial ice break at first but it drives me wild and makes me very horny for the person.
Dont even get me started on neck and thigh kissing. Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing soft, then slight tongues, then little gentle lip bite, thendown to kissing chin around to neck climbing the neck with little kisses and nibbles to a tiny ear suck then i whisper i really want you......my fave bit |
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