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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi guys and gals just a quickie from me

Recentley been interacting with a couple on here and after a few back and forths and 2 social meets they were ready for action. However on the 2 hour train ride to meet i get the following text: sorry today is cancelled my hubby got the feeling that you would want to touch him during a 3some and his is very homophobic so we will be unfriending you.

This because i mentioned once at uni (12 years ago) i had kissed a bloke as a dare. I am not bi sexual or curious i am very much each to their own i just felt this was a very unfair accusation and assumption to make.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys and gals just a quickie from me

Gutted.

Oh well, next couple!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a car

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get a car "

pmsl

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By *roovytwoCouple over a year ago

burnley

Sounds like they we not ready to meet but unfair not to have let you know before yoy set off on the journey to meet them.

You have been upfront and honest which is the best way and some guys are very wary of others even in a 3 sum scenario where with the best will in the world there is likely to be some non deliberate male contact.

We were at a party and J was on top of N when the host(male)was watching and then stroked down jans back to her bum and then kept going onto N,s cock and balls...just a brief stroke but unexpected and quite erotic actually

Just put it down to experience and knowing that you did things honestly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Did i say i didnt have a car??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hmm so they shouldnt have given me any notice

I couldnt give a toss if they wanted to fuck or not a text or a phone call before i travelled would have been nice plus assuming i wanna touch her fella do he didnt wanna meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

I agree, I don't count any meets as truly on until one of us is naked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It was wrong of them to treat you like that when you had already got your train.

Would be mighty fooked off if it happened to me

Block and move on is my advice x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was wrong of them to treat you like that when you had already got your train.

Would be mighty fooked off if it happened to me

Block and move on is my advice x "

this.. had this been a woman posting the original post everyone would be up in arms.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did i say i didnt have a car??

Well use it then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was wrong of them to treat you like that when you had already got your train.

Would be mighty fooked off if it happened to me

Block and move on is my advice x

this.. had this been a woman posting the original post everyone would be up in arms. "

Aye hoping for a meet with her, nobody really gives a shit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How about no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

I agree, I don't count any meets as truly on until one of us is naked

And shagged!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did i say i didnt have a car??

Well use it then "

not being funny but why should he have to. It's bad of the couple for not letting him know before he set off

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ahh the keyboard warriors are out in force on here today nowt better to do than troll posts. Cheers for all HELPFUL replies

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By *lackCherryCouple over a year ago

Bristol

I think what they did to you is pretty out of order, they clearly crapped out at the last minute and he wasnt ready to share his partner. The idea is one thing actually going through with it is a whole other thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off."

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Could have let him though couldn't they???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Again we understand that people have to do what feels right but to leave it until a persons on their way is just plain wrong.

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By *lackCherryCouple over a year ago

Bristol

he also had TWO socials with them, TWO, if you are still unsure after the second then just dont proceed with the meet, simple.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

Such a shame I would of been well pissed off if that was me. Probably more to it then they make out. Such a shame you had already set off x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was wrong of them to treat you like that when you had already got your train.

Would be mighty fooked off if it happened to me

Block and move on is my advice x "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Yes like commenting in forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahh the keyboard warriors are out in force on here today nowt better to do than troll posts. Cheers for all HELPFUL replies"

I'll tell you to your face to stop moaning about it, and if you ARE referring to me as a "keyboard warrior",

Name calling..? Really?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"he also had TWO socials with them, TWO, if you are still unsure after the second then just dont proceed with the meet, simple.

He should name and shame lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Yes like commenting in forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Then more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Yes like commenting in forums

No like posting on public forums, very enjoyable!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd have gone dogging instead once I'd heard. That may be pretty hard when you are on a train,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"he also had TWO socials with them, TWO, if you are still unsure after the second then just dont proceed with the meet, simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Again we understand that people have to do what feels right but to leave it until a persons on their way is just plain wrong. "

But YOU can't change the way others behave, all you can do is change how you react to it, if he moans on forums every time he gets let down, will he appeal to you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Then more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Yes like commenting in forums

No like posting on public forums, very enjoyable!

But the fella is understandably pissed off like most people would. He's allowed to vent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But YOU can't change the way others behave, all you can do is change how you react to it, if he moans on forums every time he gets let down, will he appeal to you?

it is something that would annoy most on here. I know it's bloody annoying when it happens. It's why I mostly meet at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Again we understand that people have to do what feels right but to leave it until a persons on their way is just plain wrong.

But YOU can't change the way others behave, all you can do is change how you react to it, if he moans on forums every time he gets let down, will he appeal to you?

While I don't disagree with your notions, clearly this couple hasn't acted how they should... They should have been grown up enough to realise what they want, and let this guy know beforehand. Just because he's a single guy doesn't mean he hasn't got things he could be doing or other plans he could have made.

Sure, no point crying over spilt milk I agree, but I am also sure that I would be annoyed about it to some degree before thinking 'sod em' and moving on, and I don't think that's wrong either. In fact as much as you say it, no doubt you wouldn't be overjoyed at it happening to you.

To the OP, I guess just take it as a learning experience, there was probably some signs in there coming from them that they weren't sure about it. Though I have never met someone twice socially and had this happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Again we understand that people have to do what feels right but to leave it until a persons on their way is just plain wrong.

But YOU can't change the way others behave, all you can do is change how you react to it, if he moans on forums every time he gets let down, will he appeal to you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It seems a shame that after TWO social meets, they then bottled out of the third meet .....Even more of a shame that they didn't let you know, before you had set off.

However, everyone has the right to change their mind about playing, at any time.

Block and move on.

Incidentally, this highlights why I won't let anyone travel so far to meet me. I am afraid that I would feel under pressure to play, even if I had changed my mind. Maybe concentrate on people who live more locally to you. That way, if either party changes their mind, no one has wasted very much time.

I hope you have better luck with the next people!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks change their mind all the time, they sure as fuck shouldn't have to meet and fuck you just because you were on the train!

Really this is a bit un called for if anyone arranges a meet then cancels at the last minute we would be mighty pissed off.

Them more fool you, I've got better things to do with my time than be pissed off at strangers for doing what felt right for them!

Again we understand that people have to do what feels right but to leave it until a persons on their way is just plain wrong.

But YOU can't change the way others behave, all you can do is change how you react to it, if he moans on forums every time he gets let down, will he appeal to you?

I can promise you I been fucked about more than the OP on this site, if you allow yourself to be put in that position, you can only blame yourself! Yes its rude and sometimes cruel, but he's not a fkn baby or even a child!

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Regardless of what others think, this, to me, is the definition of a timewaster. They must have known you were already on the way. You spent time and money getting the train.

Report, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He has every right to be pissed off as would we be! I dont feel he deserves some of the comments and how he chooses to travel is his business. I also dont believe its your own fault that you get let down just because you "put yourself in that position"

It sounds to me like hes gone in slow and met them a couple of times ( which shows he is patient and non pushy) but for some reason or another they have changed their minds. Hes well within his rights to vent and if people dont like it the dont read/comment or post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No but theres some right dummies been spat out today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whether you know people well in person or just via pc screen or phone screen don't be surprised at anything on the swinging scene.

However there's some top people out there that are brilliant on all fronts and always will be. There's others that will leave you wondering.

Live & learn, smile and walk on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He has every right to be pissed off as would we be! I dont feel he deserves some of the comments and how he chooses to travel is his business. I also dont believe its your own fault that you get let down just because you "put yourself in that position"

But that's kinda the point of a forum, if he or you don't like it then follow your own advice and don't post in first place!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Regardless of what others think, this, to me, is the definition of a timewaster. They must have known you were already on the way. You spent time and money getting the train.

Report, block and move on."

Yep don't let their hang ups and bad manners get you down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But that's kinda the point of a forum, if he or you don't like it then follow your own advice and don't post in first place!

Yes but some people get quite angry and abusive which just comes across as childish too

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

" He's allowed to vent

Actually thats not true, as he is airing dirty washing on the forum

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