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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the risk (again) of getting my head bitten off lol can i invite comments on why there are so many sensitive people on here?"
In what way? Some are built that way I guess  |
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Well as we're all swingers i would've thought we were amongst the most open minded people around, but seeing how upset some people can get on certain threads on the forum i was just wondering why get so upset? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people are very sensitive on here, they sometimes take things you say too seriously and get the wrong end of the stick. they judge you by every little word you say. sometimes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would view it as certain people being passionate about certain things rather than sensitive and i think passion is the common denominator on a site like this rather than open mindedness so of course there are going to be strong opinions expressed in a passionate way.
Plus, you know what women can be like
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would view it as certain people being passionate about certain things rather than sensitive and i think passion is the common denominator on a site like this rather than open mindedness so of course there are going to be strong opinions expressed in a passionate way.
Plus, you know what women can be like
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yes i know what women are like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"people are very sensitive on here, they sometimes take things you say too seriously and get the wrong end of the stick. they judge you by every little word you say. sometimes. "
Yes to this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes there are. But there's also insensitive people, people who pay no heed to how their actions affect others, people who don't realise they're being insensitive and people without the intelligence both emotionally and intellectually to comprehend others position (or just don't care). |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Well as we're all swingers i would've thought we were amongst the most open minded people around, but seeing how upset some people can get on certain threads on the forum i was just wondering why get so upset?"
Whilst you might expect that, I've read some of the most narrow minded and judgmental comments ever on these yere forums. We are people - no different to those on any other forum and there will be a strange brew of folk as per anywhere else. I agree that some are sensitive (see some of the "why do people send abusive messages" for example), but others as already said maybe passionate is a better descriptor |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Well as we're all swingers i would've thought we were amongst the most open minded people around, but seeing how upset some people can get on certain threads on the forum i was just wondering why get so upset?"
As you've probably guessed by now, being sexually active does not mean people are open minded. I've come across some of the most bigoted, narrow minded people ever since starting to read the forums.
Best thing to do is not to worry about it, and concentrate on the positive people you come across. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes there are. But there's also insensitive people, people who pay no heed to how their actions affect others, people who don't realise they're being insensitive and people without the intelligence both emotionally and intellectually to comprehend others position (or just don't care)."
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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago
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"Well as we're all swingers i would've thought we were amongst the most open minded people around, but seeing how upset some people can get on certain threads on the forum i was just wondering why get so upset?
As you've probably guessed by now, being sexually active does not mean people are open minded. I've come across some of the most bigoted, narrow minded people ever since starting to read the forums.
Best thing to do is not to worry about it, and concentrate on the positive people you come across."
ditto ditto ditto  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes there are. But there's also insensitive people, people who pay no heed to how their actions affect others, people who don't realise they're being insensitive and people without the intelligence both emotionally and intellectually to comprehend others position (or just don't care)."
and there are also people who complain about people saying the wrong things who have also said some pretty nasty things as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I normally say, it is mere words on a screen!
And people have to realise when posting in an open forum not everyone will have the same opinion as you.
Also the written word can easily be misinterpreted and taken out of context and the meaning lost easily.
If anyone or a specific thread is grating your nerves, just log off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes there are. But there's also insensitive people, people who pay no heed to how their actions affect others, people who don't realise they're being insensitive and people without the intelligence both emotionally and intellectually to comprehend others position (or just don't care).
and there are also people who complain about people saying the wrong things who have also said some pretty nasty things as well."
Very true, which is why we should reflect, and be open to all balanced perspectives and opinions no matter who is delivering them. |
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"Yes there are. But there's also insensitive people, people who pay no heed to how their actions affect others, people who don't realise they're being insensitive and people without the intelligence both emotionally and intellectually to comprehend others position (or just don't care)."
Exactly this! Also peoples life experiences shape the way they react.
Everybody feelings are valid and we all have a right to express them without them being belittled or patronised as "sensitive". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the risk (again) of getting my head bitten off lol can i invite comments on why there are so many sensitive people on here?"
Thats the reason i always have a box of tissues next to me when im on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some take it wayyyy to seriously too!
...and some people like to poke the hornets nest.
Nothing better than stoking the fire "
Or burning the hornet's nest!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's many reasons for this. Some people just love taking offence, even on behalf of someone else. Some just like trolling.
Sometimes people aren't very good at getting themselves across in text and what they mean isn't necessarily what they write. You can't express tone and emotion very well this way without resorting to bloody smileys.
It's an open forum, I'd just be prepared for anything and be ready to report any abuse. Give as good as you get. |
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"There's many reasons for this. Some people just love taking offence, even on behalf of someone else. Some just like trolling.
Sometimes people aren't very good at getting themselves across in text and what they mean isn't necessarily what they write. You can't express tone and emotion very well this way without resorting to bloody smileys.
It's an open forum, I'd just be prepared for anything and be ready to report any abuse. Give as good as you get."
Great comments from you all so far on this thread and as a new user of these forums i've certainly learned a lot in the last few days and i think a bit more about understanding people's emotions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Open minded"
You are kidding right?
Some of the threads in the lounge are like attending an EDL rally. The reality is that swingers are into swinging (although some come with a very narrow view of what that is) and are a cross section of society with the same number of differing views on many subjects often forcefully put.
Challenging someone's firmly held opinion or beliefs can create quite a lot of upset/ anger etc |
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""Open minded"
You are kidding right?
Some of the threads in the lounge are like attending an EDL rally. The reality is that swingers are into swinging (although some come with a very narrow view of what that is) and are a cross section of society with the same number of differing views on many subjects often forcefully put.
Challenging someone's firmly held opinion or beliefs can create quite a lot of upset/ anger etc"
Think i'll stay away from the lounge then  lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Some take it wayyyy to seriously too!
...and some people like to poke the hornets nest."
this is the answer....
its the firebomb thread where people know what they are doing... then try to whistle innocently over the carnage they create...
trolling for entertainment.....
either that, or some people just dont take rejection well and place up a whinge thread.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sensitive people are everywhere! Only yesterday I told someone they were cool, calm and great in a crisis and managed to offend them!! Yep-I give up (and that's probably offended someone somewhere!)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the risk (again) of getting my head bitten off lol can i invite comments on why there are so many sensitive people on here?"
to be fair there are a hell of a lot of people who only seem to come on here to post what they think will get the biggest reaction
I've seem a few certain people who only seem to post when they are being rude or negative towards others so some will get a bit hacked off with it and react accordingly |
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Lot of good comments on this post.
If you are a single guy who is 'sensitive', you'd better man up quickly!
My definition of a man? A guy who can take being ignored or flatly refused or even abused for simply messaging a lady or couple with a polite, friendly introduction, when you do fit their requirements too.
I've sometimes been very tempted to send a rant back, but taken a deep breath, counted to ten, and just let it drift away...its not an easy skill to learn, and even now I get het up and want to put the person/people straight...
Luckily there are some fab people on here too...so save up all your sensitivity and good humour for them!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the risk (again) of getting my head bitten off lol can i invite comments on why there are so many sensitive people on here?"
Because you have a selection of people from all walks of life and some people are just sensitive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the risk (again) of getting my head bitten off lol can i invite comments on why there are so many sensitive people on here?"
Think its the heat some hate being hot ,
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the risk (again) of getting my head bitten off lol can i invite comments on why there are so many sensitive people on here?
to be fair there are a hell of a lot of people who only seem to come on here to post what they think will get the biggest reaction
I've seem a few certain people who only seem to post when they are being rude or negative towards others so some will get a bit hacked off with it and react accordingly "
yes your right in saying that .. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes there are. But there's also insensitive people, people who pay no heed to how their actions affect others, people who don't realise they're being insensitive and people without the intelligence both emotionally and intellectually to comprehend others position (or just don't care)."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people speaking their minds one thing but people who critisise others for the sake of it are something else.
people who acuse others of things and twist their words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"people speaking their minds one thing but people who critisise others for the sake of it are something else.
people who acuse others of things and twist their words."
For some its there views and there views only ...
My mum was like that and still is . Drives me nuts .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"people speaking their minds one thing but people who critisise others for the sake of it are something else.
people who acuse others of things and twist their words. For some its there views and there views only ...
My mum was like that and still is . Drives me nuts . "
My much older sister is too, very scarey woman, never got married. |
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Maybe some people are not used to having their opinions, on a range of subjects, challenged either at work or home.
However the nature of internet forums is such that your views can be challenged instantly and by many. For some that is hard to take.
We are all entitled to our opinions, but that comes with a responsibility and enough maturity to accept that they will be questioned.
When I say challenged I mean cogent and genuine responses, not abuse
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By (user no longer on site)
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"people speaking their minds one thing but people who critisise others for the sake of it are something else.
people who acuse others of things and twist their words. For some its there views and there views only ...
My mum was like that and still is . Drives me nuts .
My much older sister is too, very scarey woman, never got married. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One time I would take everything to heart what people said ......... Then I could see some love doing that so now I let it all pass over don't get upset don't worry... as we all have different views on things be very boring if all the same here. And at times we can lean from others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People do offer up their opinions, some aren't always as articulate as they could be.
Others do tend to think though that when someone disagrees or states that a certain viewpoint is offensive, that they personally are affronted by it, that they are sensitive about that subject, they may not be, it just could be their
opinion that a viewpoint could be deemed offensive. I think of many of us would find a racist comment offensive, but we don't have to be necessarily of that race. It's not always a personal thing and people aren't necessarily offended, they are solely giving an
opinion.
A lot of people don't like disagreement and do take it very personally, on nearly every thread we get the 'don't bite my head off for this, I hope I'm not slated for this' etc which signifies to me that many people are worried about being disagreed with. They always put this down to other people ganging up on them, again usually not the case, some people may just have the same opinion.
Whatever you say expect it to be challenged. I am not offended, affronted, sensitive, about anything on here. I may post a disagreement, those words may sometimes be direct and not nicey nicey sugar coated. That doesn't mean I'm sensitive about that subject, I'm affronted by it etc, I just debate in a certain way and I am sometimes less tolerant of certain statements that appear silly to me.
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"People do offer up their opinions, some aren't always as articulate as they could be.
Others do tend to think though that when someone disagrees or states that a certain viewpoint is offensive, that they personally are affronted by it, that they are sensitive about that subject, they may not be, it just could be their
opinion that a viewpoint could be deemed offensive. I think of many of us would find a racist comment offensive, but we don't have to be necessarily of that race. It's not always a personal thing and people aren't necessarily offended, they are solely giving an
opinion.
A lot of people don't like disagreement and do take it very personally, on nearly every thread we get the 'don't bite my head off for this, I hope I'm not slated for this' etc which signifies to me that many people are worried about being disagreed with. They always put this down to other people ganging up on them, again usually not the case, some people may just have the same opinion.
Whatever you say expect it to be challenged. I am not offended, affronted, sensitive, about anything on here. I may post a disagreement, those words may sometimes be direct and not nicey nicey sugar coated. That doesn't mean I'm sensitive about that subject, I'm affronted by it etc, I just debate in a certain way and I am sometimes less tolerant of certain statements that appear silly to me.
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