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getting grief for loving sex with multiple partners
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason?"
if u single and having fun nothing do with anyone else!
and as for being called a Slut.. as long as ya change ya knickers and wash ya fanny...you aint a slut  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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So many men think that telling you that you are girlfriend/wife material, that you are too good for this site - is a quick way to make you drop your knickers.
Take whatever anyone says with a pinch of salt.
They may mean it and want you to swing with them, or exclusively just with them.
Either way, you just enjoy yourself. Remember you don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Just enjoy yourself. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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do they say this after you've said no thanks by any chance,,you do what you enjoy hunny your not hurting anyone and all parties involved sound like there enjoying it too so you keep doing what your doing and tell them to fook off |
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x"
Verbal abuse, nip down to his station and make a complaint and watch him fill his pants  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason?"
How dare you come onto a swingers site and look for sex!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This makes me Mad !! Its a swinging site ! Tell them to go to a dating site if they want a partner !!!! Its mad ! Enjoy your self hun its your life ... And just ignore them and find someone who's on the same page as you ! Its there problem not yours x like someone said there just jealous  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually yes it was after saying I wouldn't be exclusive and liked the lifestyle! X"
well its up to you if you wish them to control you .....? if not tell them to take a run and jump its your life .  |
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The only reason they want to be exclusive is because they've found the site harder than they expected and have struggled to get one fb let alone a selection so they want to call dibs on the sure thing - you!
If they had the choice and variety available to you they'd be reminding you that this is a swingers site and nsa means they owe you no exclusivity.
Sod em. There are plenty on here who get it so keep looking and you'll establish your own stud selection in no time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had the same... I've even had to hide some lovely (not crude) verifications as some guys were being nasty and going and reading the verification i had left for others.. why do some assume that they're the only ones you're chatting to?
who i have fun with, and when, and what we get up to, is my business... no one else's!!
Can't help being horny and I'm not looking for my "forever" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason?"
Lol...no, we are all on here for our OWN reasons, very unlikely that any are the same! 
In answer to your other question...why are you getting grief? Could it be because you haven't shagged them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're happy then it really shouldn't matter what anyone else says... Especially a random stranger. My concern is that it really seems to upset you... Even to the point of tears and making you feel dirty?
If someone becomes abusive or is clearly not on the same wavelength as you then just block them.
It just seems that these comments are making you second guess yourself and that can't be a good thing.
Only you know what is right for you, what you want and how you want it so don't let 'haters' tarnish your experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had the same... I've even had to hide some lovely (not crude) verifications as some guys were being nasty and going and reading the verification i had left for others.. why do some assume that they're the only ones you're chatting to?
who i have fun with, and when, and what we get up to, is my business... no one else's!!
Can't help being horny and I'm not looking for my "forever" "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just tell em to bollox. Ive had a couple of messages slaging me of cos ive got afew veris. They obviously cant read that a lot of them are from repeat meets and parties.
All said and done its a sex site. Enjoy it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is more than obvious is that we all here to have fun that is not name calling or finger pointing, don't let it get to you these guys are wasting valuable time life is so so short we have to grab every moment and enjoy to the max for some that's cars etc for us all on here that's sex so what!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Altho I adore sex and I'm a proper dirty girl, I've got a soft centre. I treat everyone with respect and love to have a proper giggle, so when I come across such haters its always a real shock. I'm still pretty new to all this but I'm toughening up. I'm so lucky to have met some of the best guys I think this site has to offer. And they know who they are!!! Lucky enough to be seeing one tomorrow I hope. And I know he'll put a massive smile on my face! Xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont let others put you down. Your here for your own pleasure and not theirs. Do what makes you happy...your on this site for a reason, and if they dont respect that. Tell them FUCK OFF!!
...Oh and i like you lol. Sent you a message
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's easier said than done but don't let them get you down. I always feel awful when someone starts giving me abuse over nothing but it just proves it really is their loss. There are plenty of great guys round here who do understand what this site is about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good for you sweetie girl of my heart this is a lifestyle choice. Some guys think we are victims of society, perhaps some of us are just born with a naughty gene and these kinda guys need to get over it. What an idiot he is... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x"
thats nasty. i think some men say things like that about women on here just not to their face though. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I've turned down more than I've met (I know, it probably doesn't look like it from my veri summary  ) and I've never yet had any abuse...mind you, my block list is full of guys, couples and fems who didn't read my profile to start with so maybe I'd have got abuse off them if I'd replied to their messages. Having said that, I also couldn't give a flying fuck if some randomer off t'interweb wanted to insult me so it would never be a problem to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell him to bollocks, typical selfish bloke with an "if i cant fuck her why can others" attitude!!!"
Agree. Babies throwing their rattles out the pram!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x"
I'm slightly concerned that you only ALMOST left. If anyone treats you disrepectfully, don't almost leave - LEAVE! Sounds like you didn't have 100% confidence in yourself, and I hope all the support you've received in this thread gives you more confidence, so that you don't let a man treat you like this in future x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feelmyfunbags,
Let me tell you this, if I could an the women I here would have me I'd have my cock inside any woman that turned me on and wanted it, and my lips on as many wet pussys as possible would that make me a dirty bastard or a horny swinger who loves sex. I have always said there is nothing more horny than a woman who openly says they love sex they love cock and they want it as much a they can. It's healthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After some of the things that were said to us we seriously thought about stopping and we definitely don't lack confidence or experience.
Very nasty and personal, something that is happening with more regularity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x
I'm slightly concerned that you only ALMOST left. If anyone treats you disrepectfully, don't almost leave - LEAVE! Sounds like you didn't have 100% confidence in yourself, and I hope all the support you've received in this thread gives you more confidence, so that you don't let a man treat you like this in future x"
why should she walk away from lots of nice men just because one was mean to her? That would be twice the punishment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ooops, sorry I didn't make myself clear!
I mean she should have walked away from the ONE meet, the copper who called her names/said awful things/made her feel dirty. I wish she had had the confidence to walk out THAT MAN, right there and then, when he was mean to her.
I don't mean walk away from Fab, or walk away from all men - I've met some lovely men from Fab, and the vast majority of fabsters treat people with kindness and respect. Keep of using Fab to get the sexy fun you like, and just dump the (occasional) idiot who doesn't treat you right.
Sorry for the misunderstanding. |
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"I am single, and happily so. And I always have a whip round with the corner of a damp tea towel in between! Lol!  "
Such class
Their idiots though these people giving you grief, for the love of Pete it's a swinging site, you'd think the name of the website would have been a bit of a clue? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all your support. Lots of good people out there. Oh and trust me the copper was blocked as soon as the abuse started. Just so unnecessary! I'm discovering that us swingers are our own breed and really good people, its those who like to think they are swingers and aren't who have the problem. I'm gonna keep swinging! I'd love my next fella to be into it as much as I am. I admire these couples who adore each other and are so much in love, and they swing!! My ideal!!! But for now I'm a single girl enjoying new adventures. Thanks again guys. BIG kiss xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many men think that telling you that you are girlfriend/wife material, that you are too good for this site - is a quick way to make you drop your knickers.
Take whatever anyone says with a pinch of salt.
They may mean it and want you to swing with them, or exclusively just with them.
Either way, you just enjoy yourself. Remember you don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Just enjoy yourself. Xx"
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have learnt over the years that swinging isn't just sex although it is a factor of it your doing what you enjoy they are just small minded and don't understand |
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x"
Worst ones are coppers first one i met bloody stalked me .. had to tell him i would go to the station and report him if it carried on ... soon stopped |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut..."
I think it's an old fashioned bit of male self-loathing mixed with a bit of hypocricy - these are guys who claim to think there's something wrong with you if you will sleep with them. Bet they don't say this before they've had sex with you though... |
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ive met you twice ... both times having the time of your life getting all the attention from three or four guys ... go for it .. i love sharing greedy girls ... the only thing that may get up some guys noses was the money towards the room ... which if you stayed for a few hours would come to a few bob... maybe some guys would think you wasnt swinging .. more of a working girl... ive no objection if you was .. some of my best friends have been working girls, please pardon my frankness ... id love to meet you one to one some time but as for you being mine ... or me being yours .. we dont want or need it .. just stay as greedy and amusing as you are .. xxx roger |
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I think it's a great lifestyle, if everything goes to plan by the end of this Saturday night I'll have had 5 sexual partners this week, 1 of whom I've had sex with on 3 separate occasions this week, another one on 2 occasions plus 3 who'll I'll have just have had one meet with this week. Does this mean no one on hear will want to marry me? Damn, my dream is in ruins  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it's a great lifestyle, if everything goes to plan by the end of this Saturday night I'll have had 5 sexual partners this week, 1 of whom I've had sex with on 3 separate occasions this week, another one on 2 occasions plus 3 who'll I'll have just have had one meet with this week. Does this mean no one on hear will want to marry me? Damn, my dream is in ruins "
I have already bought a hat x
Btw - when do you sleep? |
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"I think it's a great lifestyle, if everything goes to plan by the end of this Saturday night I'll have had 5 sexual partners this week, 1 of whom I've had sex with on 3 separate occasions this week, another one on 2 occasions plus 3 who'll I'll have just have had one meet with this week. Does this mean no one on hear will want to marry me? Damn, my dream is in ruins
I have already bought a hat x
Btw - when do you sleep?"
Sorry but it looks like the hat may have been a bad investment.
As for when do I sleep? Not every week is like this, it's like buses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know fab is the home of swinging but there seems to b a lot of people unhappy with their sexuality or sex lives or insecure, so if ur happy then ur sorted x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason?"
This is so sad, but unfortunately far from unique.
I know of at least 2 of my friends from Fab, that have experienced similar situations.
It seems there are all too many guys on here, that after having fun, or even just chatting, with ladies or couples, get all possessive, and even abusive, once it sinks into their thick heads, that this is a Swingers site, and even though they may have had fun, they have not earned sole exclusivity.
Try to ignore the idiots, and keep doing what YOU want.
Then hopefully, one day you'll find that very special person that you can spend many happy years swinging together with.
Untill though keep doing what your doing and have Fun!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am sure the avalanche of support will reassure you that your attitude is right. Here is another male perspective: I agree that few things are as erotic as a lady who is openly hedonistic - there is a place for the word slag- playfully in the bedroom (or wherever)in the heat of role-play. But never calculated to demean a human.
Something that is quite clear in my mind is the difference between making love and having recreational sex. It is possible to have both with one person and just because you have a great deal of recreational sex does not mean you are incapable of loving someone if and when they turn up. But when they do, make sure they love you like Bridget Jones was loved- "just the way you are". Wanton sex god with a voracious appetite for cock- sounds like ideal wife material to me! You like the idea of a solitaire diamond or are you a sapphire girl? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So many men think that telling you that you are girlfriend/wife material, that you are too good for this site - is a quick way to make you drop your knickers. "
This goes to show that they have the misconception that women here have low self-esteem and are looking for some validation through sex. I wouldn't be flattered if someone here said this because then i would believe they were only here to take advantage of women they believed were easy targets. I feel true swingers understand and respect sexual freedom and expression without judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x"
I'm afraid that's maybe what ticks his boxes being so disgustingly rude. I have met a couple of coppers and I wonder if they see too much which makes them the way they are.
I am sure there are many nice ones and I just had a couple of bad experiences |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"So many men think that telling you that you are girlfriend/wife material, that you are too good for this site - is a quick way to make you drop your knickers.
This goes to show that they have the misconception that women here have low self-esteem and are looking for some validation through sex. I wouldn't be flattered if someone here said this because then i would believe they were only here to take advantage of women they believed were easy targets. I feel true swingers understand and respect sexual freedom and expression without judgement."
Exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The most judgmental of them was a copper. The names he called me and the things he said were so awful. Almost left as he made me feel so dirty x
I'm afraid that's maybe what ticks his boxes being so disgustingly rude. I have met a couple of coppers and I wonder if they see too much which makes them the way they are.
I am sure there are many nice ones and I just had a couple of bad experiences "
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"So many men think that telling you that you are girlfriend/wife material, that you are too good for this site - is a quick way to make you drop your knickers.
Take whatever anyone says with a pinch of salt.
They may mean it and want you to swing with them, or exclusively just with them.
Either way, you just enjoy yourself. Remember you don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Just enjoy yourself. Xx"
What she said |
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"If you're happy then it really shouldn't matter what anyone else says... Especially a random stranger. My concern is that it really seems to upset you... Even to the point of tears and making you feel dirty?
If someone becomes abusive or is clearly not on the same wavelength as you then just block them.
It just seems that these comments are making you second guess yourself and that can't be a good thing.
Only you know what is right for you, what you want and how you want it so don't let 'haters' tarnish your experience.
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This! Doesn't surprise me though: some people seem to crave validation from strangers to boost their confidence, follows therefore some will be bereft if someone throws a bratish name calling tantrum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get bullies and control freaks everywhere, don't respond they are not worth the energy and life is too short, just block and carry on doing what you enjoy x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if your a slut were all sluts, so now were all sluts were all happy, so go and be a happy slut, with our blessing.
ps I like sluts my wife is one hee hee |
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"I adore sex, and have a huge appetite. But why oh why have I had grief from guys who say I'm too good for this site and I shouldn't be putting it around? Or have been called a slut. Its what I love and suits me for now. I thought we were all on here for the same reason?"
You are not a slut. We are all on here for the same reason. Block the abusive people. If you have met that person never meet them again. It sounds like they are getting possessive and jealous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In some ways Id be thankful (bear with me) for the opportunity to find out what they are really like before they got anywhere near you.....
Also please bear in mind that someone's opinion of you is just that ... An opinion, does have to be the same thing as the right opinion x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In some ways Id be thankful (bear with me) for the opportunity to find out what they are really like before they got anywhere near you.....
Also please bear in mind that someone's opinion of you is just that ... An opinion, does have to be the same thing as the right opinion x"
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