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stopping myself... (BDSM related)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been involved in bdsm for a longggg time now and although I pride myself on being a good submissive the rule I always break cause I just can help it is cumming without permission ...
I ask permission and if the answer is no I struggle and struggle to hold back but dont seem to be able to stop!
So my question is... if you were reaching your peak and someone told you you had to stop (insert reason here) ... Could you? and how? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been involved in bdsm for a longggg time now and although I pride myself on being a good submissive the rule I always break cause I just can help it is cumming without permission ...
I ask permission and if the answer is no I struggle and struggle to hold back but dont seem to be able to stop!
So my question is... if you were reaching your peak and someone told you you had to stop (insert reason here) ... Could you? and how? "
I would love to know this too, I find it impossible! |
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is it possible to stop yourself once you're past a certain point? Keeping yourslef or being kept on teh edge is very pleasurable I find but there does come a point where the very dogs from hell couldn't drag me back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can stop myself when made to, up to a point. For me I have to focus on everything else apart from what's going in between my legs. If i'm tied up I focus on the feel of the ropes on my skin, or the breeze through the window or anything else that is a feeling in my skin.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You can.. you have to think how much it would please your dominant to not cum... To be honest orgasm control isn't something that works terribly well with me... As I can take or leave it.. which then makes it pointless lol
it takes time... Think about spanking... Could you take a full on spanking at the start... Did you cry out and wriggle..
takes time...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I have been devious and thought I could ask wayyyyy before hand... therefore if I get a refusal.. by the time I ask again and am ready.. id be allowed
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been devious and thought I could ask wayyyyy before hand... therefore if I get a refusal.. by the time I ask again and am ready.. id be allowed
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some dominants would realise that and just refuse you totally lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been devious and thought I could ask wayyyyy before hand... therefore if I get a refusal.. by the time I ask again and am ready.. id be allowed
some dominants would realise that and just refuse you totally lol "
Or realise that and grant you permission to cum when you're not ready and then refuse for the rest of the session!!
Kinda like cutting you're own nose off lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have been devious and thought I could ask wayyyyy before hand... therefore if I get a refusal.. by the time I ask again and am ready.. id be allowed
some dominants would realise that and just refuse you totally lol "
Yeaaaa I know lol...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So my question is... if you were reaching your peak and someone told you you had to stop ... Could you? and how? "
Of course you can't stop your orgasm when you're on the edge. But you should be chastised for your presumption later... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Really don't see the point! Cum if you want to. Women have been submissive for centuries, take hold of your sexuality a be who you want to be. Cum!!!"
Yes women have been submissive for centuries without choice. These ladies are making a choice to submit, therefore taking hold of their sexuality and being exactly who and what they want to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Really don't see the point! Cum if you want to. Women have been submissive for centuries, take hold of your sexuality a be who you want to be. Cum!!!"
I totally agree lol...does nothing for me to stop...i love to cum and if someone can make me cum then im cumming for england lol....sorry im not into it and im glad u guys get fun from it but not for me....happy playing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Really don't see the point! Cum if you want to. Women have been submissive for centuries, take hold of your sexuality a be who you want to be. Cum!!!"
I am submissive & don't feel my sexuality has suffered because of it. I feel whole submitting and obeying my Dominus fulfil me & makes for better sex |
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Master here, love watching Ruby squirm moan and writhe around restrained as she struggles not to cum as I relentlessly stimulate her and tell her she can only cum if she accepts punishment, usually 10 strokes of my cane across her bottom. She can hold out for ages then if she really wants to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can.. you have to think how much it would please your dominant to not cum... To be honest orgasm control isn't something that works terribly well with me... As I can take or leave it.. which then makes it pointless lol
it takes time... Think about spanking... Could you take a full on spanking at the start... Did you cry out and wriggle..
takes time...
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My ass still aint right after my xane session lol certain points are tender to touch but I want it again lol xxx |
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"I'm pretty sure anyone can stop themselves cumming, but whether you would appreciate the means to stop yourself is another matter.
I'm sure a dildo made of ice would cool you off double quick."
I met a pro domme the other week, she had a restrained guy who kept begging her to wank him off. She was kinnd in the end and did so, after covering her hands and his cock with chilli  |
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Ruby here,
Takes SO much control (or attempting to), lots of controlled breathing, pushing back of feeling and the desire to want to serve my Master and submit to his control.
In instances where I 'fail' i just have to accept the punishment. |
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Surely your Dominant would realise you struggle with this aspect and help you find control. Teaching a submissive to wait isn't that hard you just have to find the right motivation and encouragement. Why not ask your Dominant for help?
Trying to manipulate the situation is never going to help you get to where you want to be...
Just my random ramblings |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Surely your Dominant would realise you struggle with this aspect and help you find control. Teaching a submissive to wait isn't that hard you just have to find the right motivation and encouragement. Why not ask your Dominant for help?
Trying to manipulate the situation is never going to help you get to where you want to be...
Just my random ramblings "
I currently dont have a dominant... was just interested in what people have to say on the matter xxx |
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Ahhh there goes me making assumptions I shouldn't have made in the first place!
My apologies...
How about playing around with edging? You can do that yourself and you could use it to teach yourself control and maybe have some monster orgasms in the process lol.
Unless its a case of you simply don't want to do it in which case your going to need a Dominant to help you out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry if I'm cumming then so be it!
Although must admit I find the whole sub Dom thing fascinating and would love to learn more... "
Me too! Its really not for me but i love hearing about other peoples experiences. |
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