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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are looks important to people?
Does it make you a shallow person if you don't want to meet someone you may get on with because your not physically attracted to them?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I don't fancy someone then I'm not likely to even kiss them. However, looks are subjective so what I find attractive might not be the same as the next person.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course it doesn't make you shallow!
How the hell can you have great sex, with someone your not sexually attracted to?
I know for a fact I can't "
Neither can I! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course it doesn't make you shallow!
How the hell can you have great sex, with someone your not sexually attracted to?
I know for a fact I can't "
I totally agree.....I wouldn't bother even meeting someone for sex if I didn't like the look of them in the first place  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Are looks important to people?
Does it make you a shallow person if you don't want to meet someone you may get on with because your not physically attracted to them?
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If I do not fancy them, I ain't getting naked with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this is a swinging site,not a dating site
we are proudly very fussy and we wont change it.
having standards is not shallow
ugly people may say it is but we know why they say it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks are important, and it's not shallow to admit too! I not talking model looks I'm talking mutual attraction... If it's there then it's definetly a good start.
Not only is there looks, there has to be good communication.... If a guy ain't got that, they he don't get a meet, with me anyways! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looks are important, and it's not shallow to admit too! I not talking model looks I'm talking mutual attraction... If it's there then it's definetly a good start.
Not only is there looks, there has to be good communication.... If a guy ain't got that, they he don't get a meet, with me anyways!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am choosy and and have types I go for, I like people my age and slim, but I also very much like a lady all the way up to in her late 50's and probably older in many cases. It's all about if she looks good in my eyes, I also like a bbw as well as slim.
For me if you have nice eyes then your probably my type. The personality has to come with it though.
It's important that you are bothered about looks otherwise I feel you don't get any sort of connection in the bedroom, and immediately there are boundaries set between you both preventing something that could be so much better. That's my thoughts anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"this is a swinging site,not a dating site"
Surely in dating good looks (or at least being attracted to each other) is even more important? If you hit it off there's a chance you could be having sex with each other for the rest of your lives - you have to fancy one another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are looks important to people?
Does it make you a shallow person if you don't want to meet someone you may get on with because your not physically attracted to them?"
Good looks don't have anything to do with physical attraction. Women were queuing up to sleep with Bogart. A lot of conventionally attractive people - models, actors etc - are really boring and probably rotten in bed.
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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Of course looks are important, and if you say they aren't then you are lying to yourself. But saying that we all find different things attractive in a person. To me sexy is different than good looking. Of course a person can be both, but I would choose sexy over gorgeous any day. I have met some gorgeous men who I just don't find sexually attractive. And I have met some averae looking men who are sexy as hell. And besides, we all find different thngs sexy in a person. Sometimes it can be the smallest little thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of the sexiest women I have known have not been the most beautiful in the classical sense. Some women just have an aura about them that makes them so damn sexy... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course it doesn't make you shallow!
How the hell can you have great sex, with someone your not sexually attracted to?
I know for a fact I can't "
Well said, me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think theres possibly a mindset instilled in us through media literature etc from early age that having good looks equals some sort of success or makes you better than other people hence people bragging about good looking people theyve slept with instead of character of people theyve slept with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some of the sexiest women I have known have not been the most beautiful in the classical sense. Some women just have an aura about them that makes them so damn sexy..."
I agree that some people ooze sexiness without even realising |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course looks are important - but equally if somebody good looking turns out to be a prick, or have their ego jammed up their own arse, looks suddenly don't matter so much. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Of course it doesn't make you shallow!
How the hell can you have great sex, with someone your not sexually attracted to?
I know for a fact I can't "
Sexual attraction comes in different forums, not just on how they look.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course looks are important - but equally if somebody good looking turns out to be a prick, or have their ego jammed up their own arse, looks suddenly don't matter so much."
Well said underandover, well said! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok what about size guys... seen loads of profiles saying no over sz 14 etc etc... im a 16 but in lingerie etc I think it can be worn well..
Many wouldnt meet me because of my size on paper (16) but on looking at my pics/ meeting me they would...
so are you strict on sz..for eg...despite looking at my pics and thinking hmm she looks nice..would u still not meet because ive stated sz 16? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok what about size guys... seen loads of profiles saying no over sz 14 etc etc... im a 16 but in lingerie etc I think it can be worn well..
Many wouldnt meet me because of my size on paper (16) but on looking at my pics/ meeting me they would...
so are you strict on sz..for eg...despite looking at my pics and thinking hmm she looks nice..would u still not meet because ive stated sz 16? Xx"
size is irrelavent if a woman looks good she looks good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok what about size guys... seen loads of profiles saying no over sz 14 etc etc... im a 16 but in lingerie etc I think it can be worn well..
Many wouldnt meet me because of my size on paper (16) but on looking at my pics/ meeting me they would...
so are you strict on sz..for eg...despite looking at my pics and thinking hmm she looks nice..would u still not meet because ive stated sz 16? Xx size is irrelavent if a woman looks good she looks good"
 better work on looking good or start dropping sizes then lmaoo xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course looks are important - but equally if somebody good looking turns out to be a prick, or have their ego jammed up their own arse, looks suddenly don't matter so much."
that's true I would no more shag a good looking guy with no personality than a ugly guy who I got on with great
has to be a good mix of the two, but looks come first then I find out if I like them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weve met couples who weve never seen face pics of, you can tell by chatting to someone if your gonna get along,, sexiness is mostly personality we think, weve met some gorgeous couples and not been the slightest bit attracted to them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"weve met couples who weve never seen face pics of, you can tell by chatting to someone if your gonna get along,, sexiness is mostly personality we think, weve met some gorgeous couples and not been the slightest bit attracted to them "
We've done that and had that moment just before you meet of thinking 'should we have asked for face pics?'. But has always worked out well - probably just lucky but strange how you can sometimes just know you'll get on.
Having said that it is handy to have seen who you're looking for in a bar! |
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By *isser36Man
over a year ago
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Size and looks are entirely subjective,one person might like one thing another might find unattractive. I do think there has to be a connection though or you wouldnt get the spark and passion out of a meet. |
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I'm in the attraction matters to me more than purely looks camp. I like a nice smile, eyes are very important and go weak for dimples. However what really turns me on is a man (or girl ) who can put me at ease, have a good conversation with and feel a spark.
Now that in my opinion makes the sex exciting, fun and generally more enjoyable.
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"If I don't fancy someone then I'm not likely to even kiss them. However, looks are subjective so what I find attractive might not be the same as the next person.
Agreed! "
Agreed as well... if we all liked the same people the world would be a dull place!
Variety is the spice of life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"weve met couples who weve never seen face pics of, you can tell by chatting to someone if your gonna get along,, sexiness is mostly personality we think, weve met some gorgeous couples and not been the slightest bit attracted to them "
Exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are looks important to people?
Does it make you a shallow person if you don't want to meet someone you may get on with because your not physically attracted to them?
If I do not fancy them, I ain't getting naked with them. "
Agree with you there. |
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"Ok what about size guys... seen loads of profiles saying no over sz 14 etc etc... im a 16 but in lingerie etc I think it can be worn well..
Many wouldnt meet me because of my size on paper (16) but on looking at my pics/ meeting me they would...
so are you strict on sz..for eg...despite looking at my pics and thinking hmm she looks nice..would u still not meet because ive stated sz 16? Xx size is irrelavent if a woman looks good she looks good"
Good lad! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am choosy and and have types I go for, I like people my age and slim, but I also very much like a lady all the way up to in her late 50's and probably older in many cases. It's all about if she looks good in my eyes, I also like a bbw as well as slim.
For me if you have nice eyes then your probably my type. The personality has to come with it though.
I like this post well said !! Annie xx
It's important that you are bothered about looks otherwise I feel you don't get any sort of connection in the bedroom, and immediately there are boundaries set between you both preventing something that could be so much better. That's my thoughts anyway."
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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago
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We will meet most couples that want to meet us but there must be an initial look that is appealing. Meat shots do not do much for us, over a certain size, and to much out of our age group do not appeal. It's the lady that appeals most to us and am sure when we are rejected, it's not the woman but the male that is the reason. But a bit of honesty does save a lot of time wasting as there are so many nice couples we have met that the pics did not show in a good light, and once met have been good company. It is the character that will decide with us as we'll as the looks.
D and C |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It must be said thought that as a single male its nice when a lady compliments me on my cock, but when she compliments you on your looks its far more flattering x |
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