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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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We don't kiss other couples, only girl to girl kissing, it's something we talked about for a long time before we started meeting people and it's just something we hold back for ourselves.
We have had people turn down meeting with us because of it and that's fine, as everyone has their own choices, although saying that nobody we have met with has ever said it's make any difference to the fun we have had x |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
For me, the intimacy of kissing is a vital part of sex, no matter who it's with.
One guy I played with in a club didn't kiss at all. I found it all too clinical and although the sex was good, I didn't feel great about him or me afterwards.
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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Is it different if you are meeting as a single or a couple though? We would obviously kiss if we were single, and maybe we would find it strange meeting just one on one without that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't kiss other couples, only girl to girl kissing, it's something we talked about for a long time before we started meeting people and it's just something we hold back for ourselves.
We have had people turn down meeting with us because of it and that's fine, as everyone has their own choices, although saying that nobody we have met with has ever said it's make any difference to the fun we have had x"
Pretty much this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't kiss other couples, only girl to girl kissing, it's something we talked about for a long time before we started meeting people and it's just something we hold back for ourselves.
We have had people turn down meeting with us because of it and that's fine, as everyone has their own choices, although saying that nobody we have met with has ever said it's make any difference to the fun we have had x
Pretty much this "
fair play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get people who kiss
I get people who don't
what I don't get are couples who say its to intimate and that they save kissing just for themselves yet they will do fem to fem kissing  |
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Kissing is essential and can be all the foreplay needed if it's horny enough
Kissing is the start, middle and end of all sexual interaction, imo.
I have played with a guy in a club who didn't kiss and it was very strange - not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So who kisses when swinging and who doesnt?
I like a pasionate kiss."
Met someone who didn't want to kiss, it made me feel like a whore. Kissing builds up the passion I think |
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I like kissing, but i totally accept that not everyone is the same.
Purely based on my own experiences, but i actually assume that most couples don't like kissing (unless they specify otherwise). Again, that's just based on meets i've had personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like kissing, but i totally accept that not everyone is the same.
Purely based on my own experiences, but i actually assume that most couples don't like kissing (unless they specify otherwise). Again, that's just based on meets i've had personally."
yeah I agree, I know a few couples who don't kiss, i've never ever met a single guy who don't want to kiss, infact pretty much every guy i've met has asked for a kiss while we're still at the flirting and getting to know each other stage  |
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"I like kissing, but i totally accept that not everyone is the same.
Purely based on my own experiences, but i actually assume that most couples don't like kissing (unless they specify otherwise). Again, that's just based on meets i've had personally.
yeah I agree, I know a few couples who don't kiss, i've never ever met a single guy who don't want to kiss, infact pretty much every guy i've met has asked for a kiss while we're still at the flirting and getting to know each other stage "
Bingo. That's how i've always seen it. I guess its less of a minefield for singles than it is for couples, who may have established boundaries or such. As one already mentioned in this thread, some like to keep/ save the kissing as something special between themselves.
I have to say, a REAL GOOD kiss is a guaranteed, all over turn on for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get people who kiss
I get people who don't
what I don't get are couples who say its to intimate and that they save kissing just for themselves yet they will do fem to fem kissing "
We've had meets where even kissing between the fems doesn't happen. Kissing is saved only for them but that doesn't bother us. It's what they're comfortable with at this present moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say, a REAL GOOD kiss is a guaranteed, all over turn on for me "
Kiss is the key that turn the ignition, without it you can't get the motor running   |
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I much prefer kissing and the intimacy involved in it. I have had meets in the past where there was no kissing allowed which I obviously respected but it did feel a little odd and restrained to me. It's something that's important to lay out in the ground rules as I can understand why some couples prefer to reserve this for themselves. |
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"I have to say, a REAL GOOD kiss is a guaranteed, all over turn on for me
Kiss is the key that turn the ignition, without it you can't get the motor running "
I can be hotwired too (pun fully intended) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do and I wouldn't go to a meet where it was banned.
Each to their own though  "
Same!
I can see why people would want to avoid kissing as it is an intimate act but if you're already a swinger I would have thought you should be more at ease about this. But as they say, different strokes for different folks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing to me is far more intimate and something while not banned I don't really do. A kiss from a stranger is just not the same as a passionate kiss from your loved one and not something I enjoy either as it is a mental and physical connection you just can't get from anyone else.
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"I get people who kiss
I get people who don't
what I don't get are couples who say its to intimate and that they save kissing just for themselves yet they will do fem to fem kissing "
Good point....
Kissing is not a deal breaker... Each to their own but we love it, and a good kiss is a massive turn on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never ever used to kiss or cuddle. Yuckity yuk. Then about 3 years ago someone changed my mind, so now I've usually got my tongue down someone's throat and I even cuddle habit if I'm in the mood"
it all about passion tho singles defo i love the passion n sensual side juat hightents the orgasm after x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we first started out we had a no kissing rule generally, it was, and still is something we see as special. However, now we have some long standing friends we meet, it just seems more natural to kiss them as part of the whole experience.
While I, Janey, aren't really that interested in kissing other men (to me, they just never compare to the Monkey so it's pointless if I have him to kiss at a meet because it does nothing for me) but absolutely love kissing women-it turns me on enormously...
If I was meeting as a single woman though, the dynamic would be totally different and kissing would be essential...confusing? probably, but I reserve the right to conduct my swinging life as I choose to... |
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A wonderful actress and beautiful human being said: "A kiss is a lovely trick, designed by nature, to stop words when speech becomes unnecessary." Ingrid bergman.
Nothing turns me on like a sensual erotic kiss! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A wonderful actress and beautiful human being said: "A kiss is a lovely trick, designed by nature, to stop words when speech becomes unnecessary." Ingrid bergman.
Nothing turns me on like a sensual erotic kiss!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people have unfortunately lost the art of kissing. ....slow, sensual, deep, breathy kissing is an absolute must for me!
If the kiss is not there....its game over for me xxxxx |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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In all my time of swinging I've only ever met one person that I played with and not kissed (her rule), it certainly made a difference to the experience (and not for the better).
I wouldn't go so far as to make it a "rule" however if someone did not want to meet because they don't kiss while I prefer to, that is their choice and I won't ask any further.
But its an interesting one, most people either kiss or don't kiss - if its so much a point of intimacy how come the "only girls can kiss" rule?
That's a new category of soft-swinging: the "only kissing between own partners.. or females - male halves not allowed to kiss the other female". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes true but being able to lay a lady down slowly strip her naked spend hours kissing and exploring her body looking for what she really enjoys and what turns her on is what i really enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was one with a girl when HIV/Aids was first being talked about, who was terrified of kissing. It was a real turnoff. If you don't kiss, it's like boring porno sex, like where say two women don't mind licking each other's clits but can't bear meeting mouth to mouth. Sometimes they do this dozy thing of licking each other's tongues from a distance. |
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We don't exactly have a "no kissing" RULE but I usually won't because it does nothing for me. - If I do, I just feel like I'm putting on an act and bowing to pressure. So no, I avoid it.
I just can't enjoy it when there's no competition... When Vince kisses me, the Earth moves whereas kisses from other people just feel bland and robotic.
Probably fair to say that I've definitely attached emotion and sentiment to kissing but it just doesn't seem to be something that's changed.
- Amy. x |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
Pontypridd |
"We don't kiss other couples, only girl to girl kissing...
Em, pardon me for asking, what's the difference if it's girl on girl?"
Personally we don't find that the same as kissing the opposite sex, but hey ho if everyone was the same wouldn't it be a boring old world lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally we don't find that the same as kissing the opposite sex, but hey ho if everyone was the same wouldn't it be a boring old world lol"
I still don't get it. You've not really thought it through, have you... |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
Pontypridd |
"Personally we don't find that the same as kissing the opposite sex, but hey ho if everyone was the same wouldn't it be a boring old world lol
I still don't get it. You've not really thought it through, have you..."
I'm sorry I'm quite lost, I didn't realise we had to think our reasons through enough to be able to explain them here, I thought we could just put out there what worked for us and meet people who wanted to meet with us?
We have been enjoying this lifestyle for the past 6 years and talked about it in length for a time before that, so please don't presume we haven't thought this through just because you don't understand our reasons. |
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kissing. Especially one of the guys I have met on here.
No kissing would mean no passion for me. 
