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Has anyone on here had any scares of being pregnant by another guy when swinging. Just curious to know what would yous do, would you keep it seeing as it isnt from your husband/boyfriend etc..
The reason for this thread is that we were recently meeting a cple and they told us this after a few drinks that the wife fell pregnant and they couldnt tell who the father was because on teh dates the wife concieved, they were meeting single guys,cples and had been to a few clubs and couldnt possibly trace who owned it and said it was a 40/1 chance it was her husbands. During the meets, she actully had more of other guys spunk in her than her own husbands as she just tended to swallow his.
Real shocker when we heard this and really surprising that they still do bareback with cpls/single guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.  "
Yep just what I was going to put! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I attended a 3sum once, and 9 months later got a message saying that i was a daddy. When i asked her how in gods name she knew I was the father, she replied, "because it was a mff"! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.
It happens, so ive heard  "
That would be......very unlucky! 
No more kids for me though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh no... condoms plus pill and douche after and a Dukhan every so often keeps that risk away. I personally could not keep the child but that's just me.
What's s dukhan?"
Is it bobbing for nuts? |
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"Has anyone on here had any scares of being pregnant by another guy when swinging. Just curious to know what would yous do, would you keep it seeing as it isnt from your husband/boyfriend etc..
The reason for this thread is that we were recently meeting a cple and they told us this after a few drinks that the wife fell pregnant and they couldnt tell who the father was because on teh dates the wife concieved, they were meeting single guys,cples and had been to a few clubs and couldnt possibly trace who owned it and said it was a 40/1 chance it was her husbands. During the meets, she actully had more of other guys spunk in her than her own husbands as she just tended to swallow his.
Real shocker when we heard this and really surprising that they still do bareback with cpls/single guys"
never, I am so careful when being with a man, I have done bb with 2 men, both trusted men and one who I was in a long term relationship with and someone well trusted, in my eyes it would be a nightmare! |
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"Oh no... condoms plus pill and douche after and a Dukhan every so often keeps that risk away. I personally could not keep the child but that's just me.
What's s dukhan?
Is it bobbing for nuts? "
Funny man Ruby |
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.
It happens, so ive heard
That would be......very unlucky!
No more kids for me though."
Does the coil work as ive beem told by my doctor that I should consider this before sterilisation vxx |
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.
It happens, so ive heard
That would be......very unlucky!
No more kids for me though.
Does the coil work as ive beem told by my doctor that I should consider this before sterilisation
vxx"
Yeaah it works wonders for me! Copper coil has no hormones and works for 10years, worth trying first I have the plastic one and its brill! No bleeds and no mood swings! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It happens... I know a lady that fell pregnant accidentally during a threesome. She kept baby and her and her husband just exclude the possible other father.
There are loads of women that fall pregnant in vanilla world without a clue who the father is... As long as baby is loved and wanted... No problem In my mind. |
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"Has anyone on here had any scares of being pregnant by another guy when swinging. Just curious to know what would yous do, would you keep it seeing as it isnt from your husband/boyfriend etc..
The reason for this thread is that we were recently meeting a cple and they told us this after a few drinks that the wife fell pregnant and they couldnt tell who the father was because on teh dates the wife concieved, they were meeting single guys,cples and had been to a few clubs and couldnt possibly trace who owned it and said it was a 40/1 chance it was her husbands. During the meets, she actully had more of other guys spunk in her than her own husbands as she just tended to swallow his.
Real shocker when we heard this and really surprising that they still do bareback with cpls/single guys"
This is going to sound hard and arrogant, but..... deserve everything they get then, don't they.
And you're seeing this couple again, by any chance...????? 
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not sure why anyone would be surprised that this could happen tbh..
heard an article a year or so ago on err womans hour that the number of children raised in relationships but with different fathers is about 15 to 17%..
was probably ever thus.. |
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By *oofyCouple
over a year ago
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Before I got into swinging, number one wife and I were both sterilized, about ten months later Social services called round and told me I was the father of a child, she never asked if I was she told me I was!!! this put my back up so I didn't tell her, she brought some papers with her and told me I would have to pay maintainance etc., etc., and threatened court action if I didn't agree to the terms. I let her get on with all the relevant paperwork, then one week before I was due in court I told her I had been vasectomised, and was sterile!! The old bats face was a picture, and she threw the paperwork across the room!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Am I the only one who's completely amazed at just how selfish and irresponsible these people are ? I pity the poor child but as mentioned there are many kids out there who's dad isn't their real dad but daddy and bambino think they are. Only naughty mummy has this awful secret |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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Why anyone would go bareback in this lifestyle with strangers in beyond me. There are worse things to get than pregnant.
I am very lucky that I have never had a scare and I have never had a condom break in my life. I am also on the pill though as an extra backup.
I don't want to ever get pregnant to anyone, ever. I am childless and plan to stay that way.
If god forbid I did accidentally fall pregnant I can honestly say without a doubt I would not have it. |
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil. "
same here x
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By (user no longer on site)
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So what about these women/girls that want children and insist on bareback , so use swinging as a way to get pregnant.to entrap men .?
It's all very worrisome ,I've been asked a few times in here if I do bareback ,even been turned down because I don't .
My view on this lifestyle is that if you are going to sleep with lots of people ,you have to be safe.
I always check potential meets out to see how active they have been, rightly or wrongly ,if they have slept with lots of people ,then the ones they have slept with have to.
I guess this is why swingers like regular partners . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd hate to be any kid having a conversation with my parents at 18, that I was conceived swinging "
you wouldn't tell the child though would you... lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never let's guys do my wife bareback, only myself. But accidents can happen.happen once it felt really wet down there, and checked it out. So quickly put on a new shield.
Do not know if we could have another mans baby. But that is just our view. |
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"I'd hate to be any kid having a conversation with my parents at 18, that I was conceived swinging
you wouldn't tell the child though would you... lol. "
It depend how you feel about a child's right to know their biological parentage though. I personally think everyone has a right to know this, so it doesn't sit well with me. |
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"I'd hate to be any kid having a conversation with my parents at 18, that I was conceived swinging
you wouldn't tell the child though would you... lol.
It depend how you feel about a child's right to know their biological parentage though. I personally think everyone has a right to know this, so it doesn't sit well with me. "
I disagree that biology is important.. to me loving parents are all that matters.
Although as I know who all my children's fathers are.. it's not really an issue. Although I told my oldest I had a one night stand as opposed to the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sure this shouldn't be in the stories and fantasies section?
Not just me then! There seems to be an increase of fantastic tales on Fab recently. Baron Munchausen would feel right at home here! "
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"I'd hate to be any kid having a conversation with my parents at 18, that I was conceived swinging
you wouldn't tell the child though would you... lol.
It depend how you feel about a child's right to know their biological parentage though. I personally think everyone has a right to know this, so it doesn't sit well with me.
I disagree that biology is important.. to me loving parents are all that matters.
Although as I know who all my children's fathers are.. it's not really an issue. Although I told my oldest I had a one night stand as opposed to the truth. "
I agree that a loving family unit is THE most important thing but I still think a child should have the right to know who made them. So we shall agree to disagree on that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ive seen couples profiles in the past asking for bareback esp they liked the risk of her getting pregnant ! 
nowt strange as folk!"
Easier than going through the NHS if the man knows he is the cause of them being childless maybe? |
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"ok so how do your kids in later life know who thay are shagging,your son could be shagging his sister."
could say the same with adopted children.. in my case I moved 280miles away from where his donor lives. |
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.
It happens, so ive heard
That would be......very unlucky!
No more kids for me though.
Does the coil work as ive beem told by my doctor that I should consider this before sterilisation
vxx
Yeaah it works wonders for me! Copper coil has no hormones and works for 10years, worth trying first I have the plastic one and its brill! No bleeds and no mood swings! "
so good coils are great Angel |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Of course we have that in mind. We never do bareback and only plays with other couples. My husband is sterilized and only barebacks with me. I don't take any pills or have a coil because I get so sick. So condom is what we use but we don't do much full swapping, we prefer soft Mych safer lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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so good coils are great Angel"
I wish I could use them.. I just found they were painful, ruined sex and came out lol...
I have to say I use implant and the pill and mostly condoms too.. however I did have a scare last year after a week where there would have been triple figures of guys to go through. While I hadn't gone bare it had been a few very messy sessions and it is easy for some to get where it shouldn't..
thankfully I wasn't... and I honestly don't know what I would have done in that situation. |
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"ok so how do your kids in later life know who thay are shagging,your son could be shagging his sister."
Also, some health conditions can be genetic or inherited. While I agree that having loving parents is the most important thing, there are some times when we need to know the health background of our birth parents. |
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"not sure why anyone would be surprised that this could happen tbh..
heard an article a year or so ago on err womans hour that the number of children raised in relationships but with different fathers is about 15 to 17%..
was probably ever thus.."
Finally a sensible response.
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.
It happens, so ive heard
That would be......very unlucky!
No more kids for me though.
Does the coil work as ive beem told by my doctor that I should consider this before sterilisation
vxx
Yeaah it works wonders for me! Copper coil has no hormones and works for 10years, worth trying first I have the plastic one and its brill! No bleeds and no mood swings!
so good coils are great Angel"
I've two friends both of which have got got caught whilst on the coil!!! |
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"Just found out sub is 4 weeks pregnant with another mans child. She wad always told after her son she couldnt have anymore. "
Wow, congrats. Are you two a couple? How comes you wasn't the lucky guy to get her preggers? Don't you come in her yourself?
Although the idea sounds quite a horny fantasy getting someone pregnant while swinging, or getting your partner pregnant by another guy while swinging (cuckold fantasy/pregnancy risk). For most of us, reality very quickly settles in and makes us realise that the cons far outweigh the pros.
I think it's quite deceitful for anyone to intentionally get themselves pregnant while swinging without the other party knowing. But if you're doing bareback, and come inside, then you should know that its a possibility. That's your sign right there.
That said, I think it's not a bad idea for couples where hubby is infertile. Cheaper and more efficient than going to a fertility clinic, and akin to using an NI sperm donor privately. The UK's biggest banking crisis is actually at the sperm bank |
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"Why anyone would go bareback in this lifestyle with strangers in beyond me. There are worse things to get than pregnant.
I am very lucky that I have never had a scare and I have never had a condom break in my life. I am also on the pill though as an extra backup.
I don't want to ever get pregnant to anyone, ever. I am childless and plan to stay that way.
If god forbid I did accidentally fall pregnant I can honestly say without a doubt I would not have it."
This, this, all of this. Please, cherish the fact that TERMINATION IS LEGAL IN THIS COUNTRY. Don't forget it! You don't HAVE to keep the baby if you don't want to and it will ruin your marriage and your life?
At the moment we're perfectly childless, but I would stop playing with anyone else as soon as we started trying to conceive. Just to make sure the baby is my husband's and nobody else's.  |
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By *ogetitMan
over a year ago
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"Before I got into swinging, number one wife and I were both sterilized, about ten months later Social services called round and told me I was the father of a child, she never asked if I was she told me I was!!! this put my back up so I didn't tell her, she brought some papers with her and told me I would have to pay maintainance etc., etc., and threatened court action if I didn't agree to the terms. I let her get on with all the relevant paperwork, then one week before I was due in court I told her I had been vasectomised, and was sterile!! The old bats face was a picture, and she threw the paperwork across the room!!
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Brilliant and maybe I like a bit more mischief as I would have released the info in court. Half these know it alls never do their jobs right. Anyway on the pregnancy point, anyone riding BB still needs their head seeing to, but that's only my feeling. |
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was pretty sure i had a miscarriage a few years ago, i was seeing a man who didnt use condoms, was disturbing but relieved also.
am more careful now also dont get periods anymore.
if i had of been pregnant and knew about it i would get rid of it. |
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It always shocks me the amount of woman that would use abortion ad a form of contraception, if your stupid enough to get pregnant then you should face the consequenses or theres always adoption give some one else the chance to have a family |
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"It always shocks me the amount of woman that would use abortion ad a form of contraception, if your stupid enough to get pregnant then you should face the consequenses or theres always adoption give some one else the chance to have a family "
I got pregnant on the pill.. so I chose to not keep it due to the fact I could have been paralysed if I continued.. |
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"was pretty sure i had a miscarriage a few years ago, i was seeing a man who didnt use condoms, was disturbing but relieved also.
am more careful now also dont get periods anymore.
if i had of been pregnant and knew about it i would get rid of it."
You should try condoms! They're great for helping to stop those annoying, niggly visits to the abortion clinic. |
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"It always shocks me the amount of woman that would use abortion ad a form of contraception, if your stupid enough to get pregnant then you should face the consequenses or theres always adoption give some one else the chance to have a family
I got pregnant on the pill.. so I chose to not keep it due to the fact I could have been paralysed if I continued.. "
But you was using contraception what I mean is the woman that don't use anything then just get rid using abortion as a form of contraception. I'm not saying that nobody should have terminations there's always extenuating circumstances |
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"was pretty sure i had a miscarriage a few years ago, i was seeing a man who didnt use condoms, was disturbing but relieved also.
am more careful now also dont get periods anymore.
if i had of been pregnant and knew about it i would get rid of it.
You should try condoms! They're great for helping to stop those annoying, niggly visits to the abortion clinic. "
well i had a coil, it was just after i had it taken out, i was in my late fourties and thought i was going through the menopause. its hard to tell sometimes. |
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil. "
Would u recommend the coil as I asked to be steralised and they wnt do it until I have tried the coil any advice would be grateful please xx |
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"If I got pregnant from a meet then I'd have to congratulate the guy for his awesome sperm than managed to break out of a condom and fight their way through my coil.
Would u recommend the coil as I asked to be steralised and they wnt do it until I have tried the coil any advice would be grateful please xx"
i had the coil because i had trouble with my periods, my hubby had a vasectomy. |
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"Why anyone would go bareback in this lifestyle with strangers in beyond me. There are worse things to get than pregnant.
I am very lucky that I have never had a scare and I have never had a condom break in my life. I am also on the pill though as an extra backup.
I don't want to ever get pregnant to anyone, ever. I am childless and plan to stay that way.
If god forbid I did accidentally fall pregnant I can honestly say without a doubt I would not have it.
This, this, all of this. Please, cherish the fact that TERMINATION IS LEGAL IN THIS COUNTRY. Don't forget it! You don't HAVE to keep the baby if you don't want to and it will ruin your marriage and your life?
At the moment we're perfectly childless, but I would stop playing with anyone else as soon as we started trying to conceive. Just to make sure the baby is my husband's and nobody else's. "
When u loose a child naturally its very hard to take in why some women abort a pregnancy I had no choice in the matter my son had already died inside of me would nt wish this on anyone xx |
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"women dont usualy get pregnant in their late fourties, i dont think.
They do, I did.
yes i think its less likely though."
There was an Indian woman a few year back who was in her 60s I think |
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"women dont usualy get pregnant in their late fourties, i dont think.
They do, I did.
yes i think its less likely though."
It's less likely but the gynaecologist I saw told me the oldest woman she had seen who had a natural pregnancy was 52. I'm not having a go I got caught out too although we were using contraception in the form of condoms |
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"Would u recommend the coil as I asked to be steralised and they wnt do it until I have tried the coil any advice would be grateful please xx"
I'm on my second and swear by it but I didn't get it as a method of contraception |
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"women dont usualy get pregnant in their late fourties, i dont think.
They do, I did.
yes i think its less likely though.
It's less likely but the gynaecologist I saw told me the oldest woman she had seen who had a natural pregnancy was 52. I'm not having a go I got caught out too although we were using contraception in the form of condoms"
My eldest lad is 29 and my youngest is four!!
So yes it does happen!  |
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No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants. |
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"No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants. "
Mistakes happen
And often they're due
To stupidity however the fact that you are "allowing it" rings alarm bells with me. Why would you have to allow a child to be born. Dom/sub is one thing but that just worries me |
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"No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants.
Mistakes happen
And often they're due
To stupidity however the fact that you are "allowing it" rings alarm bells with me. Why would you have to allow a child to be born. Dom/sub is one thing but that just worries me"
me too hence my . In my opinion a dom sub relationship should not spill over into child bearing and the thought of a man "allowing" a woman to keep a pregnancy makes my blood run cold |
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"No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants.
Mistakes happen
And often they're due
To stupidity however the fact that you are "allowing it" rings alarm bells with me. Why would you have to allow a child to be born. Dom/sub is one thing but that just worries me"
I understand it and still think wtf... And I was once an owned slave. |
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"I attended a 3sum once, and 9 months later got a message saying that i was a daddy. When i asked her how in gods name she knew I was the father, she replied, "because it was a mff"! "
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"No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants. "
no one 'owns' anyone, that is not our perception of sub dom at any level..
that's nearer to an abusive relationship.. |
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"No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants. "
Wow! Nice, perhaps the wrong person is being labelled the 'prick'
Just a thought |
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Well each to their own. I dont lecture anyone one some if the shit you get upto so dont lecture us. This is what we both agreed to. It seems on here if you dont understand or agree with it you slag it off. Please keep your opinions to yourself. SUB |
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"No we are not a cple she is my submissive. She was told she couldnt have kids so stupidly fucked a guy without protection. But no surprise the prick dont want to know. I now own her and am allowing her to have it as its what she wants.
Mistakes happen
And often they're due
To stupidity however the fact that you are "allowing it" rings alarm bells with me. Why would you have to allow a child to be born. Dom/sub is one thing but that just worries me
me too hence my . In my opinion a dom sub relationship should not spill over into child bearing and the thought of a man "allowing" a woman to keep a pregnancy makes my blood run cold"
Erm... This. I understand she may want you to ACT as if you're "allowing it" (as she already knows she wants to keep the child) as it possibly gets her sub side off? But if was honestly down to your decision, even if I try to imagine a Dom/sub relationship, if I got pregnant and Vince very matter-of-factly tried to tell me that I had to have an abortion, I'd tell him where to go...
Dom/sub life should NOT extend to permitting/ending the life of a child or possibly enforcing something (whether an abortion or forced pregnancy) that could be psychologically, physically and/or emotionally damaging.
May be jumping the gun here but that's my two pennies worth.
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"Well im keeping the baby ok. SUB"
I think that's a good thing personally as long as it's actually your choice. Dom/sub relationships are as fragile as all others and it would be a tragedy if someone decided for you and then 5 years from now you're in a different relationship. |
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"Well each to their own. I dont lecture anyone one some if the shit you get upto so dont lecture us. This is what we both agreed to. It seems on here if you dont understand or agree with it you slag it off. Please keep your opinions to yourself. SUB "
Why you posted your situation, keep that to yourself if you don't want comment. Also involving an unborn child in your sub/dom relationship removes their element of choice, in real life no one owns anyone not even their children let alone another persons child. |
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"Well each to their own. I dont lecture anyone one some if the shit you get upto so dont lecture us. This is what we both agreed to. It seems on here if you dont understand or agree with it you slag it off. Please keep your opinions to yourself. SUB "
I understand it as was an owned and collared slave myself. However I disagree here in the idea that he allowed it.. it's a baby... I understand the being owned.. but you had the power in this decision and I don't think that even as a sub had he said get rid I can't see any woman slave or sub getting rid of a child they wanted, because their dominant decided to play god. |
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"Well each to their own. I dont lecture anyone one some if the shit you get upto so dont lecture us. This is what we both agreed to. It seems on here if you dont understand or agree with it you slag it off. Please keep your opinions to yourself. SUB "
If you post things on a public Forum you are going to get comments and opinions! That's the whole point of the Forums! |
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"God these forums are getting like an episode of Jeremy Kyle they be having a DNA test next on here ! Poppyxx"
"Getting"? I dispute that, I'd say only thing missing is the camera crew.
The question you'd have to ask about this is where does "ownership" overlap with an abusive relationship. Not suggesting that this one is, but where does the "ownership" line get drawn? |
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"God these forums are getting like an episode of Jeremy Kyle they be having a DNA test next on here ! Poppyxx
"Getting"? I dispute that, I'd say only thing missing is the camera crew.
The question you'd have to ask about this is where does "ownership" overlap with an abusive relationship. Not suggesting that this one is, but where does the "ownership" line get drawn?"
I can't think about that rationally because the idea of being owned by someone else is abhorrent to me. I am aware that there are very satisfactory relationships such as this that exist to the mutual benefit of both parties but I am unable to understand it. That said I am happy for people to exist in whatever relationship they want to as long as it doesn't cross the line into abuse, but when a pregnancy is involved and one person is "allowing" another to continue with it I fear for the child. I have heard many women speak of being coerced into abortion, being asked to choose between their man or their child is this the other side of that coin, by implication alowing someone to do something means thatyou could also withdraw that permission? |
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"Well each to their own. I dont lecture anyone one some if the shit you get upto so dont lecture us. This is what we both agreed to. It seems on here if you dont understand or agree with it you slag it off. Please keep your opinions to yourself. SUB "
Absolutely agree each to their own and on the vast majority of what folk get up to that's fine and I would not judge or comment..
however in this instance there is something unsettling about one partner 'allowing' the other..
had he said get rid and it was not your wish would you have..
BTW it seems also on here that the common cop out is to accuse others of not understanding etc..
this is not about any level of participation in your chosen aspect of play, nor is it whether a person who may not even participate themselves in sub/dom..
its wrong..
as for the opinions of others then don't post on a public forum perhaps if you may not like the response.. |
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