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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon??? |
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over a year ago
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totatly agree single myself but why the double standards. I see this all the time on profile. " Discression needed married he does not know i.m here! Read on no attached or married men!!. Double standards and rules for one etc. Give the married/ attached man a break all here to have fun?
I agree takes all and everyone allowed an opinion but give em a break too |
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"i think its peoples double standards i think if people want to swing by all means go ahead
who are we to frown upon other peoples hoime life  "
Think you will fund mostly it's the low moral standards of men who want a fuck lol
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"totatly agree single myself but why the double standards. I see this all the time on profile. " Discression needed married he does not know i.m here! Read on no attached or married men!!. Double standards and rules for one etc. Give the married/ attached man a break all here to have fun?
I agree takes all and everyone allowed an opinion but give em a break too"
Well if I was married and looking to play away I probably wouldn't be meeting married men either. What are the chances of two married people being able to sneak out at the same time? Just makes things even trickier.
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"totatly agree single myself but why the double standards. I see this all the time on profile. " Discression needed married he does not know i.m here! Read on no attached or married men!!. Double standards and rules for one etc. Give the married/ attached man a break all here to have fun?
I agree takes all and everyone allowed an opinion but give em a break too
Well if I was married and looking to play away I probably wouldn't be meeting married men either. What are the chances of two married people being able to sneak out at the same time? Just makes things even trickier.
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What I find is; two married people playing away don't have time to waste, and therefore when a meet is planned, it's (usually) successful. Also, married people are way more discreet..... |
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Deff double standards, I have cpls and single profile on here, so not sour grapes. But couple and single women on here complain about males but their rudeness and behaviour in the main is appalling. Treat other as you would expect to be treated is not to hard is it. As to whether people are married or not, their issue not mine and much less hassle deff NSA  |
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" What I find is; two married people playing away don't have time to waste, and therefore when a meet is planned, it's (usually) successful. Also, married people are way more discreet....."
That may be so but it will still cut down on who they can meet due to time constraints. I don't avoid married men but I do say it's probably not likely to happen as my own time to meet is so limited and unlikely to coincide with that of someone playing away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"married ladies run the household and swinging not men and men accept it  "
We have been together 18 years and I certainly would not
1 do anything that my husband was unhappy with
2 do anything my husband was not aware of
As with a marriage it's a partnership and I certainly don't control everything. |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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Personally I wouldn't plan to meet either sex if I knew they were married, I've been cheated on myself in the past, it was horrendous and the last thing I would want is to be part of making another poor dab feel like I did, male or female. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
Why is it anyone else's business. This is a fun site why can't people have fun instead of judging? We are all on for different reasons |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
its not....next question!!! |
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
It isn't ok on my opinion and I don't know why there are such double standards, just the way it is I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
Oh no, enough already!!! This subject has been so exhausted.
There is NO difference, whether its a man or woman. We all have an opinion on cheating.............
Do what feels right for you and shut up please, this is a swinging site for fun and to do what is ok for you within your own moral boundaries  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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IMHO, women who cheat tend to just get on with it, whereas men would try and justify their actions and usually blame it on the other person instead of taking some of the responsibilities for the relationship's failure.
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???
Oh no, enough already!!! This subject has been so exhausted.
There is NO difference, whether its a man or woman. We all have an opinion on cheating.............
Do what feels right for you and shut up please, this is a swinging site for fun and to do what is ok for you within your own moral boundaries "
All he did was ask a legitimate question, and rightly so. The issue may have been done to death, but continues to rear its head due to the continued display of double standards, and lack of discretion in some cases, displayed on the forums daily.
No need to jump all over his query with ashitty reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"totatly agree single myself but why the double standards. I see this all the time on profile. " Discression needed married he does not know i.m here! Read on no attached or married men!!. Double standards and rules for one etc. Give the married/ attached man a break all here to have fun?
I agree takes all and everyone allowed an opinion but give em a break too
Well if I was married and looking to play away I probably wouldn't be meeting married men either. What are the chances of two married people being able to sneak out at the same time? Just makes things even trickier.
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I say this, is why I dont want to meet married men because im married. How do you do it? Im free and they are not - wont work out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???
Oh no, enough already!!! This subject has been so exhausted.
There is NO difference, whether its a man or woman. We all have an opinion on cheating.............
Do what feels right for you and shut up please, this is a swinging site for fun and to do what is ok for you within your own moral boundaries
All he did was ask a legitimate question, and rightly so. The issue may have been done to death, but continues to rear its head due to the continued display of double standards, and lack of discretion in some cases, displayed on the forums daily.
No need to jump all over his query with ashitty reply."
It wasnt a legitimate question, he stated, why is there double standards??? Thats not a question, its his opinion. There are no double standards. its down to everyones own reasons and morals. So please dont say my thoughts are shitty, i was being honest. Do what feels right for you, is what i said, thank u |
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There's evidence in this very thread that his "opinion" borders on truth. It is one shared by enough people on the forums that it extends beyond an anecdote.
And you told his to shut up (quoting you). In what way is that not a shitty response to a legitimate query? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont really matter to me freedom of choice we all have the choice of who we will or wont sleep with and if a married woman want to meet me for fun then great if we both click but if she is single then that dont change things think it may be if the man is single it makes it easy for the married woman easy as if both are married it aint as easy to arrange |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Question. Does anyone think that people that say they're married really aren't? Maybe that's to spice it up for some or to have the non-commitals drop their guard a bit? (yes I DO tend to overthink things at times)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Question. Does anyone think that people that say they're married really aren't? Maybe that's to spice it up for some or to have the non-commitals drop their guard a bit? (yes I DO tend to overthink things at times) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
because there isn't enough single women on here for people to be as choosy as they are wit men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Basically, who cares? If people don't want to meet me, for whatever reason, or to judge me, then I wouldn't want to meet them anyway.
I don't see why some people are so hung up on what people's home circumstances are. Anyway, if some profiles say 'no married', then this site is hardly renowned for the honesty. People will lie and find a way around it.
I do have a softer spot for married profiles. It's not always the case, but if they are married they do tend to have less problems communicating and are not usually the type to have personality disorders. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.
(ALERT: generalisation coming, please read the word "usually" and don't post to say "that doesn't apply to me")
However, when men cheat, it's usually because they're not getting enough sex at home. Whereas when women cheat, it's usually because they're not getting enough love and affection at home.
Therefore, cheating men are more likely (than cheating women) to use this site to find the sex they're lacking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
It's not ok !!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you do then your partner who you love to bits develops a condition preventing them from having sex you know that the thought of you cheating would destroy them even though they have suggested you find it somewhere else do you
Never have sex again yourself ,
Leave them ,
Find sex in other places
Or stick to DIY  |
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"cheating is wrong regardless of sex, and no reason can justify it.
It must be nice to lead a life by rules that are so black and white."
it's easy to take the moral high ground when a particular situation doesn't affect you |
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"I personally think its wrong for both men and women who are married to cheat on their partners but i guess we all have our own thoughts on this....."
we are all entitled to our own opinion on this matter it's true, but judging people without knowing them or their situation is wrong too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally think its wrong for both men and women who are married to cheat on their partners but i guess we all have our own thoughts on this.....
we are all entitled to our own opinion on this matter it's true, but judging people without knowing them or their situation is wrong too"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
I don't agree with either men or women cheating so personally would react to both in the same way (although married men are more likely to affect me than married women due to how I play). There are double standards on here, but I think part of the reason the married guys get the harder time is they are the ones that usually start threads attempting to defend their actions rather than the married women based on the creators of the hundreds of previous threads on the topic! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.
(ALERT: generalisation coming, please read the word "usually" and don't post to say "that doesn't apply to me")
However, when men cheat, it's usually because they're not getting enough sex at home. Whereas when women cheat, it's usually because they're not getting enough love and affection at home.
Therefore, cheating men are more likely (than cheating women) to use this site to find the sex they're lacking. "
What if there is no sex, love and affection at home? It doesnt make it right, but I think it makes it understandable?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is all amazing as god life is full of rules and laws and i aint a saint and spent years being told how to live my life as a child then left home joined the forces to be told what to do and when now i live my life how i want do as i want and no one to judge me so i aint going to judge anyone we all have reasons for what we do when we do if life aint a dream and we all have our own ways and know what we want so live let live and enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is all amazing as god life is full of rules and laws and i aint a saint and spent years being told how to live my life as a child then left home joined the forces to be told what to do and when now i live my life how i want do as i want and no one to judge me so i aint going to judge anyone we all have reasons for what we do when we do if life aint a dream and we all have our
own ways and know what we want so
live let live and enjoy "
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"If you're in a crap relationship, get out of it. THEN swing."
I'm pleased for you, that you're in such a complete, loving, swinging relationship, and at such a young age.
Other people aren't so fortunate. |
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Bunch of men with no balls. Tell your married half what you need and that you are going after it. Come along , stay home, or let's split. If your relationship is so bad you have to lie, its probably over any way. Thank god my wife and I met in the life style. We tell no lies by word , deed or omission. And its sweet. We could not imagine it any other way. Get a life. |
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"Personally I wouldn't plan to meet either sex if I knew they were married, I've been cheated on myself in the past, it was horrendous and the last thing I would want is to be part of making another poor dab feel like I did, male or female. X"
This is the same for me. I reckon most people have experienced this at some point in their lives and anyone who doesn't have the decency not to be a part of an act that would hurt another can take a hike as far as I'm concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bunch of men with no balls. Tell your married half what you need and that you are going after it. Come along , stay home, or let's split. If your relationship is so bad you have to lie, its probably over any way. Thank god my wife and I met in the life style. We tell no lies by word , deed or omission. And its sweet. We could not imagine it any other way. Get a life."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"cheating is wrong regardless of sex, and no reason can justify it.
It must be nice to lead a life by rules that are so black and white.
it's easy to take the moral high ground when a particular situation doesn't affect you"
its not a moral high ground, ive seen this from both sides alot of times, ive experienced it and done it, its wrong to cheat no matter how you butter it up, it causes no good at all, its a selfish lowlife act simple as that. |
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"Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender.
(ALERT: generalisation coming, please read the word "usually" and don't post to say "that doesn't apply to me")
However, when men cheat, it's usually because they're not getting enough sex at home. Whereas when women cheat, it's usually because they're not getting enough love and affection at home.
Therefore, cheating men are more likely (than cheating women) to use this site to find the sex they're lacking. What if there is no sex, love and affection at home? It doesnt make it right, but I think it makes it understandable? "
No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband knows but I rarely get asked if he does. I'd prefer not to meet a cheat but how many are honest to admit to cheating especially with the attitude against it? |
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"My husband knows but I rarely get asked if he does. I'd prefer not to meet a cheat but how many are honest to admit to cheating especially with the attitude against it?"
i answer every question honestly, it's probably why this site hasn't been a roaring success for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"cheating is wrong regardless of sex, and no reason can justify it.
It must be nice to lead a life by rules that are so black and white.
it's easy to take the moral high ground when a particular situation doesn't affect you"
Except that it could affect me when the wife finds out about the cheating and possibly turns up at my home or place of work to confront me about why I had sex with her husband, so I choose to keep cheats at arms length as I don't want to be mixed up in their drama...plus there is the fact that I wouldn't want it done to me so I wouldn't knowingly do it to someone else. If that's taking a moral high ground then so be it...I'm not ashamed to have morals |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm confused by the double standards people are talking about
Surely double standards is if one perdon says they would meet a married woman but not a married man?
So far on here individuals have said they either do or don't meet cheaters regardless of gender..
Its been answered how men and woman have different moral views in general over this..and I am guessing that as there is more straight people than bi then people only have views over one gender
Or am I missing something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i think its peoples double standards i think if people want to swing by all means go ahead
who are we to frown upon other peoples hoime life
Think you will fund mostly it's the low moral standards of men who want a fuck lol
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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"Personally I wouldn't plan to meet either sex if I knew they were married, I've been cheated on myself in the past, it was horrendous and the last thing I would want is to be part of making another poor dab feel like I did, male or female. X
This is the same for me. I reckon most people have experienced this at some point in their lives and anyone who doesn't have the decency not to be a part of an act that would hurt another can take a hike as far as I'm concerned."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whats the point in being married if you are a swinger...& the other one isnt!
Or doesn't know that you are...
Selfish..pointless...In both respects! ..
If dee wasnt into swinging I would of never married him, let alone be seeing him would of been unfair to him!..
We would never meet a married guy/girl
Whos other half doesnt know of his ways!...thats disrepectfull! !.....bambi |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"cheating is wrong regardless of sex, and no reason can justify it.
It must be nice to lead a life by rules that are so black and white.
it's easy to take the moral high ground when a particular situation doesn't affect you
its not a moral high ground, ive seen this from both sides alot of times, ive experienced it and done it, its wrong to cheat no matter how you butter it up, it causes no good at all, its a selfish lowlife act simple as that."
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By *C69Man
over a year ago
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"married ladies run the household and swinging not men and men accept it
We have been together 18 years and I certainly would not
1 do anything that my husband was unhappy with
2 do anything my husband was not aware of
As with a marriage it's a partnership and I certainly don't control everything."
Well said. We are not married but in a partnership. Neither of us would meet the opposite sex on our own, let alone play away from each other. We r an equal partnership and know our boundaries.What other people do is of little or no concern to us. |
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"Basically, who cares? If people don't want to meet me, for whatever reason, or to judge me, then I wouldn't want to meet them anyway.
I don't see why some people are so hung up on what people's home circumstances are. Anyway, if some profiles say 'no married', then this site is hardly renowned for the honesty. People will lie and find a way around it.
I do have a softer spot for married profiles. It's not always the case, but if they are married they do tend to have less problems communicating and are not usually the type to have personality disorders. "
Well actually I care who I invite into my home. As I don't allow anyone into my home who doesn't accommodate and sometimes put temporary tattoos saying "property off Miss Vee" on playmates arse, I think it's fair to say married men would care, don't you?  |
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"They should remember their marriage vows"
Thing is, if we're going to go down the married vows route, swinging couples are breaking them too: foresaking all others and all that.
What I will say I did feel sorry for one wife, a woman I would never know. Her husband is on here stating he's not getting enough sex at home, has multiple verifications and a gallery of pictures showing him leaving cream pies in the pussies of various women.
God knows what he's bringing home to his unsuspecting wife. That kind of reckless selfishness is beyond me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They should remember their marriage vows
Thing is, if we're going to go down the married vows route, swinging couples are breaking them too: foresaking all others and all that.
What I will say I did feel sorry for one wife, a woman I would never know. Her husband is on here stating he's not getting enough sex at home, has multiple verifications and a gallery of pictures showing him leaving cream pies in the pussies of various women.
God knows what he's bringing home to his unsuspecting wife. That kind of reckless selfishness is beyond me. "
I asked a vicar I know and he said forsaking all others means anyone who would break the marriage up.. Family and friends included. So if swingers aren't going to run off with the person they meet then its not an issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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God knows what he's bringing home to his unsuspecting wife. That kind of reckless selfishness is beyond me. "
While I have no issue with people doing what they want in their life as it is their business if they choose to cheat, I think it is utterly immoral and pretty disgusting any cheat, be it male or female trying to condone their actions when their spouse is oblivious and does not have a choice in the matter whether their OH gives them a std for the sake of 5 minutes of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it ok for married women to play on here without their husbands knowing but married men that play without their wife knowing get so frowned upon???"
We have the same opinion on both so no favouritism from us and there are many more with the same attitude as us from what we have seen. |
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