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Being honest about not being single
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
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So here's the thing....
I don't hide from the fact that I'm not single, I display my couple profile name, and have even agreed on occasion for a lady to speak to my GF.....and after all that, I STILL get accused of cheating!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will accuse you of all sorts on here. As a rule, swingers just like the general population will make judgments on the information they think they have, add their own information and then prosecute from there. Can't be helped, so don't let it bother you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached. Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"99 percent of the time it doesn't bother me..... But when I get accused, I just think "am I being to honest"? Would it be easier to pretend I'm single?? Lol... "
Probably wont help mate  |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached.
Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Fair point
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached. Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause "
because we take the time to get to no a little about potential meets before we invite them to our home, a cheat will slip up at some point and if we have any doubt about there status then we dont meet.
i do agree at a club it is very hard to tell if they are genuinely single or not, but a few well placed questions normally gets a slip up and again if we have any doubt we dont play simple as that. |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached.
Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause
because we take the time to get to no a little about potential meets before we invite them to our home, a cheat will slip up at some point and if we have any doubt about there status then we dont meet.
i do agree at a club it is very hard to tell if they are genuinely single or not, but a few well placed questions normally gets a slip up and again if we have any doubt we dont play simple as that."
That's a good way of looking at it, and a fair way to filter the liars! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why have a single male profile if you aint single?
I ask this of women too.
Your either a single, or a couple on this site.
Just as people are fed up of reading/contacting 'single women' that actually are not, the same holds true for single men.
The answer for when it is women is report the profile, if they dont meet alone.
If she knows all about it, why not do it all through the couples profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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always be honest no one can say anything then , if you don't and get caught out the outcome will be worse in the end,
but as others have said weve met cples in clubs that admit they are fuck buddies going behind their partners back as they have a sexless relationship, whos wrong and whos right. lets not judge lets just have some naughty fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So here's the thing....
I don't hide from the fact that I'm not single, I display my couple profile name, and have even agreed on occasion for a lady to speak to my GF.....and after all that, I STILL get accused of cheating!! "
to be honest I wouldn't even offer them all that
my profile says I don't accommodate and that's all people need to know, I don't answer or explain myself to anyone on here, if they want to think in cheating so be it, move on 
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"So here's the thing....
I don't hide from the fact that I'm not single, I display my couple profile name, and have even agreed on occasion for a lady to speak to my GF.....and after all that, I STILL get accused of cheating!!
to be honest I wouldn't even offer them all that
my profile says I don't accommodate and that's all people need to know, I don't answer or explain myself to anyone on here, if they want to think in cheating so be it, move on
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again, a fair comment. I didn't used to put so much but I got sick of having to prove myself all the time Tbh |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Why have a single male profile if you aint single?
I ask this of women too.
Your either a single, or a couple on this site.
Just as people are fed up of reading/contacting 'single women' that actually are not, the same holds true for single men.
The answer for when it is women is report the profile, if they dont meet alone.
If she knows all about it, why not do it all through the couples profile?"
Because all we got were couples or single men wanting to meet my girlfriend in her own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So here's the thing....
I don't hide from the fact that I'm not single, I display my couple profile name, and have even agreed on occasion for a lady to speak to my GF.....and after all that, I STILL get accused of cheating!!
to be honest I wouldn't even offer them all that
my profile says I don't accommodate and that's all people need to know, I don't answer or explain myself to anyone on here, if they want to think in cheating so be it, move on
again, a fair comment. I didn't used to put so much but I got sick of having to prove myself all the time Tbh "
but you don't have to prove yourself
I get it regular where people think because I don't accommodate i'm married, there's nobody on here i'm that bothered about meeting that I feel the need to explain myself to |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"So here's the thing....
I don't hide from the fact that I'm not single, I display my couple profile name, and have even agreed on occasion for a lady to speak to my GF.....and after all that, I STILL get accused of cheating!!
to be honest I wouldn't even offer them all that
my profile says I don't accommodate and that's all people need to know, I don't answer or explain myself to anyone on here, if they want to think in cheating so be it, move on
again, a fair comment. I didn't used to put so much but I got sick of having to prove myself all the time Tbh
but you don't have to prove yourself
I get it regular where people think because I don't accommodate i'm married, there's nobody on here i'm that bothered about meeting that I feel the need to explain myself to"
Actually, I like the way you think!
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"This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached. Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause "
We don't knowingly meet attached people and we're tired of being accused of taking the moral high ground because of a choice we make. Neither of us gives a damn what anyone else does until they try and involve us, we respect other peoples right to make choices about their lives and how they conduct themselves on this site but it seems those accusing us of taking some sort of moralistic stance aren't prepared to allow us the same respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached. Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause "
Because despite he fact I enjoy sex I have morals...god forbid! I won't knowingly play with someone that is attached and playing without their partners knowledge & consent because I don't want the grief on my doorstep when someone's wife finds out they have had sex with me. It is possible some have slipped through and I have unknowingly played with a cheat, but at least then if I do get faced with a disgruntled wife I can honestly say I had no idea and not have to lie to her face...may not mean anything to you but that does to me.
OP - just continue to be honest. Those that are happy with the situation will meet you, those that aren't won't...just like with an age preference or a height preference, etc. You'll never please everyone on here so don't try to! Just be yourself and then surely the meets you do have will be right for you |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"This always amuses us when swingers on here take a moral high ground and state they will not meet married. People. Accusing them of cheating.
How can they be sure the person they meet in a club. Hotel or invite round to their home is not attached. Its not like married people wear a tag is it.
Guess it just makes them feel better if they place this on their profile as some sort of get out jail clause
Because despite he fact I enjoy sex I have morals...god forbid! I won't knowingly play with someone that is attached and playing without their partners knowledge & consent because I don't want the grief on my doorstep when someone's wife finds out they have had sex with me. It is possible some have slipped through and I have unknowingly played with a cheat, but at least then if I do get faced with a disgruntled wife I can honestly say I had no idea and not have to lie to her face...may not mean anything to you but that does to me.
OP - just continue to be honest. Those that are happy with the situation will meet you, those that aren't won't...just like with an age preference or a height preference, etc. You'll never please everyone on here so don't try to! Just be yourself and then surely the meets you do have will be right for you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why have a single male profile if you aint single?
I ask this of women too.
Your either a single, or a couple on this site.
Just as people are fed up of reading/contacting 'single women' that actually are not, the same holds true for single men.
The answer for when it is women is report the profile, if they dont meet alone.
If she knows all about it, why not do it all through the couples profile?
Because all we got were couples or single men wanting to meet my girlfriend in her own "
I agree. I think if you're allowed to play alone it is fitting to have a single male profile explaining the situation. All too often we get messages from "couples" where it is quite obvious that only the male half is communicating and if a "couples" profile mentioned playing alone i would feel like we are being manipulated. I feel the relationship status on this site should indicate the playing style not the actual relationship status. While i dont condone cheating i wouldnt expect a married man to create a couples profile simply because he is actually married. Now if only one person play but the other will always be present then they should have a couples profile. It should reflect who the other couple should expect to show up on a meet. |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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Nice to see someone who is open and honest!
I'm married and it's on my profile for all to see. If I like someone I will happily play with other attached people, all I ask is that they are honest about it. If I find out someone has lied I get very angry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice to see someone who is open and honest!
I'm married and it's on my profile for all to see. If I like someone I will happily play with other attached people, all I ask is that they are honest about it. If I find out someone has lied I get very angry "
I agree. You give the person you're playing with the choice to decided if they want to be involved or not. No matter what the persons situation it is better to be honest then to deceive. |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Why have a single male profile if you aint single?
I ask this of women too.
Your either a single, or a couple on this site.
Just as people are fed up of reading/contacting 'single women' that actually are not, the same holds true for single men.
The answer for when it is women is report the profile, if they dont meet alone.
If she knows all about it, why not do it all through the couples profile?
Because all we got were couples or single men wanting to meet my girlfriend in her own
I agree. I think if you're allowed to play alone it is fitting to have a single male profile explaining the situation. All too often we get messages from "couples" where it is quite obvious that only the male half is communicating and if a "couples" profile mentioned playing alone i would feel like we are being manipulated. I feel the relationship status on this site should indicate the playing style not the actual relationship status. While i dont condone cheating i wouldnt expect a married man to create a couples profile simply because he is actually married. Now if only one person play but the other will always be present then they should have a couples profile. It should reflect who the other couple should expect to show up on a meet."
couldn't agree more! |
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By *enguy30 OP Man
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Why have a single male profile if you aint single?
I ask this of women too.
Your either a single, or a couple on this site.
Just as people are fed up of reading/contacting 'single women' that actually are not, the same holds true for single men.
The answer for when it is women is report the profile, if they dont meet alone.
If she knows all about it, why not do it all through the couples profile?
Because all we got were couples or single men wanting to meet my girlfriend in her own
I agree. I think if you're allowed to play alone it is fitting to have a single male profile explaining the situation. All too often we get messages from "couples" where it is quite obvious that only the male half is communicating and if a "couples" profile mentioned playing alone i would feel like we are being manipulated. I feel the relationship status on this site should indicate the playing style not the actual relationship status. While i dont condone cheating i wouldnt expect a married man to create a couples profile simply because he is actually married. Now if only one person play but the other will always be present then they should have a couples profile. It should reflect who the other couple should expect to show up on a meet."
couldn't agree more! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So here's the thing....
I don't hide from the fact that I'm not single, I display my couple profile name, and have even agreed on occasion for a lady to speak to my GF.....and after all that, I STILL get accused of cheating!! "
Be true to yourself and bugger what others think. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive been accused of cheating and i must have a gf because i don't accommodate, i don't accommodate, end of. I don't let it bother me either way, i just move on, i have been in a relationship whilst on here, i joined as a single, when i started seeing someone i logged off for about 8 weeks, it didn't work out with her and i logged back onto my profile after that, ppl will make up their own minds, we all just have to get on with it, |
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