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Pre Selection

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I was sitting next to two beautiful women, who didn't say a word to me but a stunning beautiful female acquaintance of mine walked into the bar, seen me and greeted me, hugged and then chatted for a short while and right after that, the two women where more then happy to chat with me, for the rest of the night we had a laugh.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

Also Any time I date or sleep with a women, I get asked the same set of questions every time, How many women have I dated? How many have I had sex with? When was my last relationship? ect...This is for them to determine if I am "Pre Selected"

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated."

Aren't you making assumptions too? They could have been chilling, catching up and didn't want to disturb you? They could have thought you were waiting for a date and didn't want to suffer evil stares should your girlfriend arrive and see you chatting with them. How do you know women automatically think a man on his own in a club/bar is a creep or a loser?

As to the second part of your question: you may have a point about pre selection, but isn't that life? Insurance companies have a standard set of questions we have to answer to determine risk, as do financial institutions, medical practitioners etc.

When dating I have my standard questions, and yes, they include some of those you've been asked!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You know im right, life is a risk, we take risks all the time, an entrepreneur will invest all his or her money into a project in hopes that they will double or triple there money, need I give other examples, I think not.

Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they thought you were gay, and once that notion was given up they decided to chat with you.

Maybe they thought you had been let down, as she left and they sat with you to be kind.

Maybe they saw her talking to you and decided you weren't a stalker, Who knows?

Does it matter? You enjoyed their company.

As the filters on here are used, people in life use filters too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe they thought you were gay, and once that notion was given up they decided to chat with you.

Maybe they thought you had been let down, as she left and they sat with you to be kind.

Maybe they saw her talking to you and decided you weren't a stalker, Who knows?

Does it matter? You enjoyed their company.

As the filters on here are used, people in life use filters too. "

Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time, a person cannot hide who they truly are for very long.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe they thought you were gay, and once that notion was given up they decided to chat with you.

Maybe they thought you had been let down, as she left and they sat with you to be kind.

Maybe they saw her talking to you and decided you weren't a stalker, Who knows?

Does it matter? You enjoyed their company.

As the filters on here are used, people in life use filters too.

Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time, a person cannot hide who they truly are for very long."

Up until very recently, we would have had you filtered out as a single man and because of your age...not sure exactly how that would indicate cowardice...what exactly are we meant to be afraid of? And how exactly would it have wasted either your or our time? In my opinion, they would have done the exact opposite and saved us wasting each others time...

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated."

I have found in life that we all make assumptions based on our own way of thinking, by that I mean that people will assume that other people are reacting in the same way that they would in any given situation. I'd say stop making assumptions about women and pre judging them on those assumptions and you might be pleasantly surprised

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time, a person cannot hide who they truly are for very long."

I don't understand this if someone's filtered out they don't need to hide anyway.

I think that you think too much, you assume other peoples motives while knowing nothing of them and are not prepared to enter into discussion because you assume that your asumptions are correct and everyone else is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know im right, life is a risk, we take risks all the time, an entrepreneur will invest all his or her money into a project in hopes that they will double or triple there money, need I give other examples, I think not.

Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection. "

And alot of men will only speak to beautiful scantly dressed women.

I have been asked those same questions by men !

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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"Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection. "

I wouldn't be attracted to men who have lots of beautiful women in their lives, because they would not be attracted to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time...."

An astonishing comment! Filters are a very useful tool which Fab provides for us. There is nothing cowardly about using them. And, in fact, the main purpose of using filters is to AVOID wasting other people's time!

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By *oodtimes32Man over a year ago

bridgend

"Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time....

I agree completely. Filters avoid wasting time. I have no idea what was meant by the comment very strange. Maybe a misunderstanding of the word filter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection.

I wouldn't be attracted to men who have lots of beautiful women in their lives, because they would not be attracted to me."

This for example, a guy likes you and you like him but because he didn't show a sign he is interested, women think the guy didn't find her attractive so she feels hurt so when the guy meets her next time, she rejects him so then the guy thinks she isn't interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time....

Yes there is a misunderstanding, im talking about in life.

I agree completely. Filters avoid wasting time. I have no idea what was meant by the comment very strange. Maybe a misunderstanding of the word filter?"

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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"Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection.

I wouldn't be attracted to men who have lots of beautiful women in their lives, because they would not be attracted to me.

I know I should not expect men to make the first move, but I wouldn't reject him if he finally did. What I meant was a man who attracts beautiful women won't have room for the less than beautiful women in his life. So neither of us is disappointed.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

So you think that women should be able to read a mans mind? How else can anyone man or woman tell if someone is interested unless they show it in some way? It isn't a case of feeling hurt its a case of not being a stalker, if you get no signals from a person that they like you its only polite that you don't pursue them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female."

I see! I prefer to go with the flow instead of intellectualising and analysing it all. Good discussion though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i can imagine there are certain types of women who think like that, if they are being too nosey asking you about your past relationships then just tell them to mind their own buisness.

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection.

I wouldn't be attracted to men who have lots of beautiful women in their lives, because they would not be attracted to me.

what kind of nonsense are you talking

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"because they would not be attracted to me."

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female.

I see! I prefer to go with the flow instead of intellectualising and analysing it all. Good discussion though

This seems to be the natural order of things but ain't it cruel? cynicism, pre selection and comfort in the status quo not to mention comfort in consensus.

For example, I don't have a picture of a women sucking me off on here so I don't get responses and because of that I cant get verified genuine but if I did have a pic of sexual activates I would attract women and get certified genuine, very quickly...

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

This makes you sound bitter and resentful and actually isn't true. what on earth makes you think that pictures such as that attract all women? Not saying that it doesn't attract some but you seem to have a pretty low opinion of women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive "

Yes that is possible, like I said before guy meets girl, girl thinks "oh he cant possibly be attracted to me" so she rejects him out of fear of being rejected herself then guy approaches girl gets rejected and thinks "she must not be attracted to me"

Why does it have to be this way, you see the flower, the flower blooms, pounce on the flower...flower likes this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the OP is correct people do make assumptions and most of this is from the information that they are given as this is usually all they have to go on.

For instance from the only information I have, from reading this post and looking at his profile) I have assumed that the OP can't be bothered to write a proper profile, is not getting a reply to his messages, and is bitter and annoyed by this

Just for information I personally think that the worst pictures are the very one's you mention and that they have the opposite effect to what you state

And filters work very well to stop messages from people you are not interested in, so why not use them ?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female.

I see! I prefer to go with the flow instead of intellectualising and analysing it all. Good discussion though

This seems to be the natural order of things but ain't it cruel? cynicism, pre selection and comfort in the status quo not to mention comfort in consensus.

I don't think that's the reason

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive

Why does it have to be this way, you see the flower, the flower blooms, pounce on the flower...flower likes this. "

i was clearly talking to Wyrdwoman

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not at all, I love women, im just pointing out a fact that even you cant deny pre selection is there and because of it, women often find themselves in poor company. I am pointing out, take the time to get to know people rather the taking comfort in status quo, just because X amount of people say Y is good, often is not true or factual.

I for example am an intelligent, talented person ect...why should I have to do the work? they miss out by not approaching guys in what could be the funnest time of there life's, all because the guy does not have a group around him.

For example, you go out with your lady friends to a bar, you all sit down... have you noticed not many guys are willing to go into that situation, its what I call the great wall of china.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female.

I see! I prefer to go with the flow instead of intellectualising and analysing it all. Good discussion though

This seems to be the natural order of things but ain't it cruel? cynicism, pre selection and comfort in the status quo not to mention comfort in consensus.

I don't think that's the reason "

Miss you could give me all the advice in the world and turn me into the most desirable man on this site, I could be the most hunkalicious guy on here but if I don't have a woman by my side in a picture, nothing will happen.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female.

I see! I prefer to go with the flow instead of intellectualising and analysing it all. Good discussion though

This seems to be the natural order of things but ain't it cruel? cynicism, pre selection and comfort in the status quo not to mention comfort in consensus.

I don't think that's the reason

The first guy I ever met on here didn't have any photos of him with a woman. Plenty of guys I chat to regularly don't.

In fact if you find a lot of the threads that have been started by people asking about photos and what people like a vast number of people will say that they prefer pics to be of the person in the profile and not of meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Any thoughts? I was in a bar one night, just to relax, enjoy a drink and meet new people.

I am trying to understand why, if a woman sees a guy in a bar or nightclub solo, think without even chatting and getting to know a guy, that automatically, he is just another horny or creepy loser?

I don't think its fair that women make these automatic judgements based on assumptions.

Any opinions or perspectives will be appreciated.

In respect of assumptions, I have based my information off of facts about human behaviour, pre selection is just the natural order of social dynamics between male and female.

I see! I prefer to go with the flow instead of intellectualising and analysing it all. Good discussion though

This seems to be the natural order of things but ain't it cruel? cynicism, pre selection and comfort in the status quo not to mention comfort in consensus.

I don't think that's the reason

The first guy I ever met on here didn't have any photos of him with a woman. Plenty of guys I chat to regularly don't.

Ya I would imagine you do chat to guys that don't have women in pictures but I bet they have other women in there life that you hear about or you probably know them.

Besides your one to talk, you think there is some other reason im not getting responses, why don't you help me out then?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Ok. You only have one picture which isn't great quality.

Your profile is terrible, tells people nothing about you or what you are looking for.

You can't accom which rightly or wrongly leads people to believe you are in a relationship.

You've only been here 3 weeks. It can take time to build a rapport with someone and meet them. I don't know what your opening messages are like but bear in mind single guys outnumber woman and couples by a huge amount so you need to try and stand out a bit. Not just be another boring no effort one line profile.

You send a message, probably the person checks out your profile before they even read it.

Would you bother messaging you back based on that?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

For example, you go out with your lady friends to a bar, you all sit down... have you noticed not many guys are willing to go into that situation, its what I call the great wall of china. "

I'm not really understanding what you're trying to say to me I'm afraid but that might be because its a very long time since I went out anywhere with the intention of meeting a man and I don't find myself in poor company.

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

Sorry Hulk but you are way off the mark here.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive "

Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

As for the OPs follow up points, I prefer face pics to cock pics, and as I don't meet couples, I also prefer a pic of the guy that doesn't have another female in them. And I know there are a lot of women on here who think the same.

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

to some people you are evan if you don't see it yourself

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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"Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

to some people you are evan if you don't see it yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry Hulk but you are way off the mark here.

Ok, go out to a bar that you don't know anybody in, alone and try pick a woman up...

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Sorry Hulk but you are way off the mark here.

Ok, go out to a bar that you don't know anybody in, alone and try pick a woman up... "

Eh?? Do you carry around a pic of a woman sucking you off when you go out to bars? No wonder people don't talk to you!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive

Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

Even when this happens, I have a great profile and pictures ect...message a few women then get blocked, because everyone knows that happens a lot on this site.

Its like if one trys, one fails and if one don't give a **** one wins.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry Hulk but you are way off the mark here.

Ok, go out to a bar that you don't know anybody in, alone and try pick a woman up...

Eh?? Do you carry around a pic of a woman sucking you off when you go out to bars? No wonder people don't talk to you!! "

Haaa lol no who does that? female wingman is the best wingman.

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

Sorry Hulk but you are way off the mark here.

Ok, go out to a bar that you don't know anybody in, alone and try pick a woman up... "

What has that got to do with getting responses on here with a cock pic?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive

Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

Even when this happens, I have a great profile and pictures ect...message a few women then get blocked, because everyone knows that happens a lot on this site.

Its like if one trys, one fails and if one don't give a **** one wins. "

Your profile and pics are NOT great I'm afraid. You need to read the profiles of the successful men on here and see the gaping void in quality between yours and theirs. And stop blaming women for your lack of success. Sure, there are women out there who display the tendencies you're talking about, but do you seriously think that women will only meet you if you have a beautiful woman with you? I would steer well clear personally.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time, a person cannot hide who they truly are for very long."

Absolute twoddle, do not agree wiv that all. Filters r used so ppl dont get hounded by ppl they dont wish to chat or meet wiv

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive

Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

Even when this happens, I have a great profile and pictures ect...message a few women then get blocked, because everyone knows that happens a lot on this site.

Its like if one trys, one fails and if one don't give a **** one wins.

Have you even looked into pre selection? im guessing no...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Filters are for cowards and waste peoples time, a person cannot hide who they truly are for very long.

Absolute twoddle, do not agree wiv that all. Filters r used so ppl dont get hounded by ppl they dont wish to chat or meet wiv "

I was talking about life not actual site filters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life filters? Keh?

Ive heard of coffee filters but not life filters lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Life filters? Keh?

Ive heard of coffee filters but not life filters lol"

Ok example, there is a person that is great in bed, great sense of humour ect...everything is spot on but you don't like that person because of some notion or assumption you have, instead of telling the person what you really think, which might by the way cause most people to avoid you, you tell that person in a polite way your busy or some excuse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"because they would not be attracted to me.

what makes you say that??? they might find you the most attractive

Attractive yes, beautiful, definitely not! But thank you.

Even when this happens, I have a great profile and pictures ect...message a few women then get blocked, because everyone knows that happens a lot on this site.

Its like if one trys, one fails and if one don't give a **** one wins.

When did I ever say I wasn't successful with women and not to mention im an individual, im doing just fine the way I am.

Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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"Have you even looked into pre selection? im guessing no... "

No, because my choices can be explained by a much more simple human nature - preference. If I fancy someone then I fancy them, and it has nothing to do with his past or present harem of beauties. This is because I have no interest in his experience with other women. As I don't meet more than once then a meet spent grilling him about his other conquests would be a meet wasted.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here."

Maybe, but if I'm going to let someone see me naked, it has to be someone I want to see naked.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

You mention more than once that you're intelligent and have a great profile and pictures which you seem to think entitles you to meet any woman you want except for this damn bug bear , pre selection. By doing this you're putting all the responsibility for your lack of success on to women rather than taking a look at your own processes, it's easier but it won't get you any more meets.

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By *arks38Man over a year ago

barnsley

"Most women say they are not shallow but I disagree, a woman will talk to a guy based on the beauty of the women in his life, again this is another aspect of pre selection.

I wouldn't be attracted to men who have lots of beautiful women in their lives, because they would not be attracted to me."
how could someone not be attracted to u your sexy xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Sorry Hulk but you are way off the mark here.

What a load of bollocks!

I couldn't care if a man has photos of a lady sucking his cock on his profile or not. Takes more than that to make me want to respond to his message or arrange a meet.

More about the content of his profile and message, do I think we could get on and have things in common. Am I attracted to his face pic and other photos. Is conversation/messages hard work or are they easy to chat with.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

It don't matter what is on my profile or what I say. I've done very well, pre selection is just a fact about the animal kingdom...Have you ever seen a alpha lion with just one lioness?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

It don't matter what is on my profile or what I say. I've done very well, pre selection is just a fact about the animal kingdom...Have you ever seen a alpha lion with just one lioness?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

It don't matter what is on my profile or what I say. I've done very well, pre selection is just a fact about the animal kingdom...Have you ever seen a alpha lion with just one lioness?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you even looked into pre selection? im guessing no...

You haven't even looked into pre-selection on or off line, to see if there is evidence to back it up or if it is or is not factual, you don't have a leg to stand on.

As far as the critiquing of my profile, I could just as easily critique your profile for a number of flaws but I don't because that is not what swinging is about. We are not on here for relationships...

Do you really think my profile points out the finer points of my personality traits? no it don't...

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

It don't matter what is on my profile or what I say. I've done very well, pre selection is just a fact about the animal kingdom...Have you ever seen a alpha lion with just one lioness?"

So you are just trying to make an intellectual point then.

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

It don't matter what is on my profile or what I say. I've done very well, pre selection is just a fact about the animal kingdom...Have you ever seen a alpha lion with just one lioness?

So you are just trying to make an intellectual point then."

his talking nonsense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here."

LOL Funniest thing I have read all day!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I assume (there you go that word again) that you're trying to make an intellectual point about pre selection. It's lost on me I'm afraid.

It don't matter what is on my profile or what I say. I've done very well, pre selection is just a fact about the animal kingdom...Have you ever seen a alpha lion with just one lioness?

So you are just trying to make an intellectual point then."

Yes, I am fascinated by female behaviour, like most men, I wanted to know why one is successful with the opposite sex and I would imagine women try to understand men to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here.

LOL Funniest thing I have read all day!

Women think guys are on here to put lots of time and effort into profile making, when the truth is we are just on here to party and above all put our honey spoons into your honey pots..

Yes for safety it is better to get to know the person before you meet but how can that happen when women on here have a crazy list of rules and once a guy messages they block and the ones who block most the time ain't even that attractive anyway so if your clamburger is occupied, say it in your profile.

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

"...Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here.

LOL Funniest thing I have read all day!

Women think guys are on here to put lots of time and effort into profile making, when the truth is we are just on here to party and above all put our honey spoons into your honey pots..

Do you need another shovel?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here.

LOL Funniest thing I have read all day!

Women think guys are on here to put lots of time and effort into profile making, when the truth is we are just on here to party and above all put our honey spoons into your honey pots..

And how would you know that the 'unattractive' ones block? Your not lowering your standards just for a ride are you? Or are you pre-selecting them in the hope of a reply?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"...Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here.

LOL Funniest thing I have read all day!

Women think guys are on here to put lots of time and effort into profile making, when the truth is we are just on here to party and above all put our honey spoons into your honey pots..

Do you need another shovel?"

I honestly don't get this. I mean, I am sure there are women on this site who have lists of rules and block men for messaging, but that's what the profiles are for. I only block men who are abusive or who can't take 'no' for an answer. I meet single men constantly and regularly and prefer men who don't have pics of other women and cocks on their profiles. But for the OP it's because I am too fussy (I've been called the exact opposite due to the number of my verifications) and have unrealistic expectations.

I would have thought that a man who has told us that he wants to learn more about what women think would actually take notice of the replies from women on here, but he's dismissed all of them as they don't agree with his theory. Nothing more can be said really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...Women on here have unrealistic expectations of guys on here.

LOL Funniest thing I have read all day!

Women think guys are on here to put lots of time and effort into profile making, when the truth is we are just on here to party and above all put our honey spoons into your honey pots..

Do you need another shovel?"

No, I think I've dug a deep enough hole, could you jump in and check if the its deep enough...

On a serious note, if people are not mature enough to look at this topic logically and rationally, why even comment at all? There is a ton of evidence that suggests its factual, im sure lots of men have had life experiences like this, not to mention books and ebooks.

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