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if your partner give you the ultimatum " its me or fab" ....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They wouldn't be much of a partner to give that ultimatum ...
If anyone chose fab over me , it would be okay and bye !"
 no that doesn't read write lol Oh stuff it I'm tired , I know what I mean  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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aw .... we have lots of romantics  I agree that if someone chose fab over their partner then obviously the relationship aint all that. If someone really isnt comfortable with the swinging thing though ... and the other loves it ?? I think alot would say " you darling" but open another singles profile ... i think the whole swinging thing is very addictive and not as easy to just cut off.... only my opinion though
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs N and I agreed along time ago that monogomy hadn't worked for us so we'd give swinging a go and only do it if we were both happy. As we've got older we tend to do it less and less and I guess it's me, Mr N that is the main driver to do it. However as long as Mrs N is happy to go along with it occasionally then I am happy to go along with her. If she gave me an ultimatum that it's fab or me I'm not so sure if I could hack that. Surely there is a compromise in there somewhere between you guys.
Just my pennyworth.
Best of luck
"FAB would go.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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if i was in a relationship... and we started swinging. I then discovered that actually I didnt like seeing my partner with other people. He, however loved it. Is it a bad relationship because i said" look .. i cant do this ... its me or fab" ? ... or would it be simply something id tried but cant do ? xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"agreed... but its hard to compromise when one partner doesnt want the other to to swing in any form .. how could you compromise there ? xxx"
If you can't compromise and communicate your feelings openly then shouldn't be in a relationship imo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if i was in a relationship... and we started swinging. I then discovered that actually I didnt like seeing my partner with other people. He, however loved it. Is it a bad relationship because i said" look .. i cant do this ... its me or fab" ? ... or would it be simply something id tried but cant do ? xxx"
If he actually loved you, you would come first and he would have no problem stopping.
What is the point being in a relationship if it is all one sided? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"they would be communicating .. Ie i cant do this anymore. How could you compromise on this ? xxx"
If as a couple one is not happy to continue then it should stop, you can't compromise your feelings for the sake of another as it will only cause resentment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"they would be communicating .. Ie i cant do this anymore. How could you compromise on this ? xxx"
And if as I said he does love you he wouldn't want to cause you upset! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what would your answer be ...  "
Swinging is fun when both of you want to do it. If one doesn't then where's the fun and I can't see any reason for wanting to continue. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"If a person is either on fab or expected to leave it to please their partner then there is a problem.
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Not always. Depends on the dynamics of the relationship, putting a partner before NSA sex isn't always a bad thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I lived with out it all for years so can easy do that again ..... if I had too ..... would just be one more change and life never gets boring like that . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I started a relationship I'd delete my profile immediately, no contest. I first joined Fab when I became single a few years ago just for an occasional meet now and again as I missed male company - and the sex obviously  But if I started dating I'd leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think anything should be black or white when it comes to sex and sexuality. Have you considered your partner may have Bi instincts and that is what is driving him to like Fabbing. I have come to realise that is one of the things which drive me to enjoy the scene. If you try to put a stop to that you are going to fight a losing battle. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"what would your answer be ...
Him "
To clairify...if the other half didn't want to play these games anymore we wouldn't get to an untimatum, he would just say that he didn't want to play again and we would stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"now that is asking too much
you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it
Do like I did just throw them in bin bags "
I'm not that bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"now that is asking too much
you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it
Do like I did just throw them in bin bags I'm not that bad"
Ok take her cases to the taxi and pay for the taxi x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"now that is asking too much
you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it
Do like I did just throw them in bin bags I'm not that bad
Ok take her cases to the taxi and pay for the taxi x "
im not that kind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"now that is asking too much
you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it
Do like I did just throw them in bin bags I'm not that bad
Ok take her cases to the taxi and pay for the taxi x im not that kind "
Am saying nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definatly it would be fab that went!
My wife means so much more!!
Im hit & miss wh it all.doesnt bother me!
Bambi gives me wot I need!
Who needs any1 else;-) |
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By *ach3Man
over a year ago
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"what would your answer be ... "
If it has to come down to one person making such a demand to the other ie it is not mutual - then I think the relationship is likely to be doomed. Setting up single profiles without your partners knowledge is unlikely to improve the relationship! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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FAB would be deleted. I love B and this is something we are doing as a couple so if she wasn't happy we would leave. Same goes if I wasn't
But for now we are enjoying our fun |
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