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"I love a good wink "Fancy a furious winking session Bambi | |||
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"Yes it can save a lot of time wasted on crappy messages. Lets all have a wink together "A wink a day keeps the Doctor away....or in maybe  | |||
"I love a good wink Fancy a furious winking session Bambi "Soft, smooth and sensual winks please  | |||
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"I would rather we get a message to be honest. Although we have been known to wink back at a Hottie!! " If the message was really good but you weren't attracted would you still want to continue? I think that's the whole point of winking anyway... | |||
"I would rather we get a message to be honest. Although we have been known to wink back at a Hottie!! If the message was really good but you weren't attracted would you still want to continue? I think that's the whole point of winking anyway..." We will chat to most people. Not against being winked just prefer a message says more. | |||
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"personally I think it's a great way to show an interest in someone. " Yup! It also allows all you genuine single guys to show your interest in couples/ladies that have message filters on, thus bypassing the blocks that the idiot single guys encourage us to put up.
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"personally I think it's a great way to show an interest in someone. Yup! It also allows all you genuine single guys to show your interest in couples/ladies that have message filters on, thus bypassing the blocks that the idiot single guys encourage us to put up.
"Nope, the filters affect winks too. | |||
" Nope, the filters affect winks too. " Oh really?  Derp. 
Not paid too much attention really as we've only just put the filter back on.
Well, it allows us to wink at them anyway, to similar effect. So yeah, winks are great still.
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" Nope, the filters affect winks too. Oh really? Derp.
Not paid too much attention really as we've only just put the filter back on.
Well, it allows us to wink at them anyway, to similar effect. So yeah, winks are great still.
"But they won't be able to wink back. Unless it works the same as messages, which override any filters you've got in place. I'm not sure, maybe admin could let us know, if they're watching. | |||
" But they won't be able to wink back. Unless it works the same as messages, which override any filters you've got in place. I'm not sure, maybe admin could let us know, if they're watching. " It says on the filters page that once you wink at someone the blocks are lifted - "PS. The filters don't apply and still people can message you if you... Have mailed someone before (so if you mail someone you have otherwise filtered, they can reply) Winked at someone (because if you wink we figure they should be able to reply) Have them as a friend (because that makes sense)" | |||
" It says on the filters page that once you wink at someone the blocks are lifted - "PS. The filters don't apply and still people can message you if you... Have mailed someone before (so if you mail someone you have otherwise filtered, they can reply) Winked at someone (because if you wink we figure they should be able to reply) Have them as a friend (because that makes sense)" " Strangely though, the first one doesnt seem to apply. We've blocked guys that we have messaged previously, and no sign of them yet. I know this doesnt confirm that suspicion, but at least one of those guys were continuing to argue, and I suspect would've continued after the block if they could do so. I think that's just ambiguous wording though. The use of the word 'before' inplies that if you messaged before the block they can still message you. I think that's supposed to mean that if you block someone and THEN message them, they can reply. Remove the word 'before' and it makes a lot more sense. | |||
" It says on the filters page that once you wink at someone the blocks are lifted - "PS. The filters don't apply and still people can message you if you... Have mailed someone before (so if you mail someone you have otherwise filtered, they can reply) Winked at someone (because if you wink we figure they should be able to reply) Have them as a friend (because that makes sense)" Strangely though, the first one doesnt seem to apply. We've blocked guys that we have messaged previously, and no sign of them yet. I know this doesnt confirm that suspicion, but at least one of those guys were continuing to argue, and I suspect would've continued after the block if they could do so. I think that's just ambiguous wording though. The use of the word 'before' inplies that if you messaged before the block they can still message you. I think that's supposed to mean that if you block someone and THEN message them, they can reply. Remove the word 'before' and it makes a lot more sense." Blocking a specific user is different from using the filters to say, stop all single guys messaging you. If you block someone they won't even be able to view your profile, nevermind wink or message you. | |||
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" Blocking a specific user is different from using the filters to say, stop all single guys messaging you. If you block someone they won't even be able to view your profile, nevermind wink or message you. " Yeah I know that - the ambiguous wording of the filters pages describes filtered users as 'blocked', and actions to restrict users based on preferences are the same - ie 'block them'. I accept that this is not the same as blocking a specific user, however the wording quoted above is poor, and I can see why people have expressed some confusion in the past over this too. | |||
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"I can see why guys would want to wink at women and couples due to the amount of mail they get and wanting to see if they're interested first, but women and couples winking at guys is just plain lazy." It's no different!
It's not *just* about the amount of mail anyone gets. A wink is a wink - a 'feeler' if you will, regardless.
Gender/couple status is irrelevant.
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"I can see why guys would want to wink at women and couples due to the amount of mail they get and wanting to see if they're interested first, but women and couples winking at guys is just plain lazy. It's no different!
"It sure is! You wink at people when you like them and want to let them know it, I understand that, but messaging them is much better. Now as I explained, guys may not want to take the time to write a message to a woman or couple, because due to the amount of mails they get by comparison it may simply be deleted, however single guys get barely any mail at all (I logged in the other day to 5 messages, that's fantastic for a male on here), so chances are if a woman or couple writes a mail, its almost certainly going to get read. | |||
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"I can see why guys would want to wink at women and couples due to the amount of mail they get and wanting to see if they're interested first, but women and couples winking at guys is just plain lazy. It's no different!
It sure is!
You wink at people when you like them and want to let them know it, I understand that, but messaging them is much better. Now as I explained, guys may not want to take the time to write a message to a woman or couple, because due to the amount of mails they get by comparison it may simply be deleted, however single guys get barely any mail at all (I logged in the other day to 5 messages, that's fantastic for a male on here), so chances are if a woman or couple writes a mail, its almost certainly going to get read."That's a one-sided argument based on your logical failure to accept that it's not the *only* reason someone might wink. Consider this - Single men are not the only ones whom do not wish to waste someones time. A wink sent, and then subsequently ignored (or returned), serves exactly the same purpose, regardless of gender/relationship status. It's not that hard to understand. | |||
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"I can see why guys would want to wink at women and couples due to the amount of mail they get and wanting to see if they're interested first, but women and couples winking at guys is just plain lazy. It's no different!
It sure is!
You wink at people when you like them and want to let them know it, I understand that, but messaging them is much better. Now as I explained, guys may not want to take the time to write a message to a woman or couple, because due to the amount of mails they get by comparison it may simply be deleted, however single guys get barely any mail at all (I logged in the other day to 5 messages, that's fantastic for a male on here), so chances are if a woman or couple writes a mail, its almost certainly going to get read.
That's a one-sided argument based on your logical failure to accept that it's not the *only* reason someone might wink.
Consider this - Single men are not the only ones whom do not wish to waste someones time."I very much doubt that single males who choose to wink are concerned with wasting SOMEONE ELSES time but rather their own, writing mails that have a high probability of not being read. " A wink sent, and then subsequently ignored (or returned), serves exactly the same purpose, regardless of gender/relationship status." Perhaps, but again, given that single males are far more likely to read 100% their mails than women and couples due to receiving nothing like as many, I see little excuse for women and couples not to make more of an effort with regards to establishing a proper, friendly contact as opposed to simply winking and expecting the male recipient to then have to initiate conversation. | |||
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"Why do people not like to wink? "wink | |||
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"No idea, personally I think it's a great way to show an interest in someone. " | |||
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"I can see why guys would want to wink at women and couples due to the amount of mail they get and wanting to see if they're interested first, but women and couples winking at guys is just plain lazy. It's no different!
It sure is!
You wink at people when you like them and want to let them know it, I understand that, but messaging them is much better. Now as I explained, guys may not want to take the time to write a message to a woman or couple, because due to the amount of mails they get by comparison it may simply be deleted, however single guys get barely any mail at all (I logged in the other day to 5 messages, that's fantastic for a male on here), so chances are if a woman or couple writes a mail, its almost certainly going to get read.
That's a one-sided argument based on your logical failure to accept that it's not the *only* reason someone might wink.
Consider this - Single men are not the only ones whom do not wish to waste someones time.
I very much doubt that single males who choose to wink are concerned with wasting SOMEONE ELSES time but rather their own, writing mails that have a high probability of not being read.
A wink sent, and then subsequently ignored (or returned), serves exactly the same purpose, regardless of gender/relationship status.
Perhaps, but again, given that single males are far more likely to read 100% their mails than women and couples due to receiving nothing like as many, I see little excuse for women and couples not to make more of an effort with regards to establishing a proper, friendly contact as opposed to simply winking and expecting the male recipient to then have to initiate conversation."You just made yet another logical error by presuming that couples/women expect men to return a wink with a message. Nobody said that except you. I would expect the wink returned (or not), thus signalling a mutual interest in each others profiles, and therefore opening the way to a message from the party that initiated the wink in the first place. Again - regardless of gender/couple status.
You are clearly an intelligent chap, sexybrain, but you have continued to invent and distort situations to support your initial erronous generalisation (which I have already successfully refuted).
I like a good debate as much as the next person, but it's time for you to put the shovel down.
I'll leave it here, and if you want the last word please, be my guest, but I wont be back to continue discussing it with you, as you are clearly not able to conceed you initial error!
It's ok! There's honestly no hard feelings, mate!
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