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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
A Single Swinger. We've decided to add a new date to our monthly diary, aimed just at single swingers, to try to assist them in finding regular playmates and fuck buddies, in the safety of a club environment. We know that the lads massively outweigh the gals, but thought it would be an interesting experiment to see who we could find. Might even try some speed dating ideas as well just to make it really fun. Let us know if you have any ideas for the night. Adding a thread on the Meets Forum for name adding...please don't ask to come along here, this is just for ideas. |
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I think it's a great idea. Something I've seen at, well might have just been gay nightclubs, is a 'shag tag' system (maybe needs another name lol) where everyone has a badge with a number or word or other unique reference on it and somewhere in the club is a board where, if someone likes the look of someone but is too shy to say, they can note it, like 'banana22 wants to buy chicken27 a drink/lick her senseless/fuck her rotten' etc.
If chicken27 sees this and likes the look of banana22 when she spots the tag, well it's a bit of an ice breaker. |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"I think it's a great idea. Something I've seen at, well might have just been gay nightclubs, is a 'shag tag' system (maybe needs another name lol) where everyone has a badge with a number or word or other unique reference on it and somewhere in the club is a board where, if someone likes the look of someone but is too shy to say, they can note it, like 'banana22 wants to buy chicken27 a drink/lick her senseless/fuck her rotten' etc.
If chicken27 sees this and likes the look of banana22 when she spots the tag, well it's a bit of an ice breaker. "
Brilliant idea, love this.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Above idea sounds great providing people don't get offended or are rude to the other person. Like.
Innocentblonde21 wants to lick bigbaddazs bum. Then when they cross eachother one shows a disgusted face or is rude to them ! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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May sound like a daft idea, but wouldn't it be easier if those people who can't find playmates all post in one particular forum? Someone is bound to find their match that way. |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"May sound like a daft idea, but wouldn't it be easier if those people who can't find playmates all post in one particular forum? Someone is bound to find their match that way."
Not quite the same as a face to face meeting in a safe environment. Blank pictures and over enthusiastic profiles can create high expectations which reality fails to deliver!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"May sound like a daft idea, but wouldn't it be easier if those people who can't find playmates all post in one particular forum? Someone is bound to find their match that way. Not quite the same as a face to face meeting in a safe environment. Blank pictures and over enthusiastic profiles can create high expectations which reality fails to deliver! "
True, but if they get along in a forum. They can speak to each other off the site via messenger or something and chat for a bit. Then you know when you meet it's all about chemistry and nothing else. |
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"I think it's a great idea. Something I've seen at, well might have just been gay nightclubs, is a 'shag tag' system (maybe needs another name lol) where everyone has a badge with a number or word or other unique reference on it and somewhere in the club is a board where, if someone likes the look of someone but is too shy to say, they can note it, like 'banana22 wants to buy chicken27 a drink/lick her senseless/fuck her rotten' etc.
If chicken27 sees this and likes the look of banana22 when she spots the tag, well it's a bit of an ice breaker. "
We had shag tags at clubs when I was at uni, another one is a traffic light party where a red badge means "not playing", amber means "maybe/playing hard to get" and green means "a big ol' yes, come and get me" |
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"May sound like a daft idea, but wouldn't it be easier if those people who can't find playmates all post in one particular forum? Someone is bound to find their match that way. Not quite the same as a face to face meeting in a safe environment. Blank pictures and over enthusiastic profiles can create high expectations which reality fails to deliver!
True, but if they get along in a forum. They can speak to each other off the site via messenger or something and chat for a bit. Then you know when you meet it's all about chemistry and nothing else. "
Not everyone reads the forums tho, I've tried this myself.
I think a swingle night is great & it's always better to meet in person. If I get my car back, I'll certainly be up for attending.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like a good idea to me, I would love to go to a club but worried I would feel a bit awkward if it was full of couples. Are you hoping to get a good balance of male/female singles? |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"Sounds like a good idea to me, I would love to go to a club but worried I would feel a bit awkward if it was full of couples. Are you hoping to get a good balance of male/female singles? "
We're keeping it open to couples but on the basis that they'd be happy to play alone. No point in offering it to those who want to play together as they have other nights to attend. So its single guys and gals, the trick is going to be getting a balance, or if we can't do that, then run something like speed dating, where the gals get to meet 10 guys in an hour say for a fast chat round....that way it doesn't need the numbers to be equal.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a good idea to me, I would love to go to a club but worried I would feel a bit awkward if it was full of couples. Are you hoping to get a good balance of male/female singles? We're keeping it open to couples but on the basis that they'd be happy to play alone. No point in offering it to those who want to play together as they have other nights to attend. So its single guys and gals, the trick is going to be getting a balance, or if we can't do that, then run something like speed dating, where the gals get to meet 10 guys in an hour say for a fast chat round....that way it doesn't need the numbers to be equal. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love this idea as a swingle I wish more clubs did stuff for us.
I've seen lock and key work quite well where the girls are given a pad lock on entry and the guys gave keys, it's an ice breaker asking people if the can try their key in your lock.
Hope it goes well and more places consider some swingles nights. |
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"Love this idea as a swingle I wish more clubs did stuff for us.
I've seen lock and key work quite well where the girls are given a pad lock on entry and the guys gave keys, it's an ice breaker asking people if the can try their key in your lock.
Hope it goes well and more places consider some swingles nights."
So can I put my key in your lock   |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"Love this idea as a swingle I wish more clubs did stuff for us.
I've seen lock and key work quite well where the girls are given a pad lock on entry and the guys gave keys, it's an ice breaker asking people if the can try their key in your lock.
Hope it goes well and more places consider some swingles nights."
Yep, another good idea, thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
I don't want a regular fb, and couples complain when single fems 'couple up' with a fwb/fb. So I'm guessing this is aimed mostly at single men.
I don't partake in speed dating, as I don't date and I don't go to swingers clubs to date
Say you do 2 of these nights and 20 single females turn up, 10 of them 'couple up' at the first event, where is the supply of single females going to come from for the second/subsequent event(s)?
I know I am probably nit picking but given how the number of single women attending clubs is already low, 'coupling them up' seems an unusual idea 
Should you run a singles only night, then let me know, as I used to attend a singles only party and that was good fun |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
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Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love this idea as a swingle I wish more clubs did stuff for us.
I've seen lock and key work quite well where the girls are given a pad lock on entry and the guys gave keys, it's an ice breaker asking people if the can try their key in your lock.
Hope it goes well and more places consider some swingles nights."
That sounds like great fun  |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
I don't want a regular fb, and couples complain when single fems 'couple up' with a fwb/fb. So I'm guessing this is aimed mostly at single men.
I don't partake in speed dating, as I don't date and I don't go to swingers clubs to date
Say you do 2 of these nights and 20 single females turn up, 10 of them 'couple up' at the first event, where is the supply of single females going to come from for the second/subsequent event(s)?
I know I am probably nit picking but given how the number of single women attending clubs is already low, 'coupling them up' seems an unusual idea
Should you run a singles only night, then let me know, as I used to attend a singles only party and that was good fun "
Yea, we've had a few comments about the couples bit, so maybe that's not such a good idea, however the point re coupling up singles isn't the aim. Its to help them find a play partner for that night, or maybe a future meet, but not a permanent partner. Most singles we know who swing, certainly aren't looking for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your'e too far away for me  "
Make a weekend of it, go to the swingles night, stay in the hotel next door and go again to the club on Friday night, then head back home Saturday. Think that might well be my plan for July's one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In your op, you did state 'regular playmate or fb', hence my confusion.
As I said, a singles only night, so no couples and no speed dating things then I'm in
Adding couples and speed dating to the mix just takes it somewhere else entirely |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
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"In your op, you did state 'regular playmate or fb', hence my confusion.
As I said, a singles only night, so no couples and no speed dating things then I'm in
Adding couples and speed dating to the mix just takes it somewhere else entirely "
Would happily agree with the couples bit, but if the speed dating only allowed questions like "What's a fantasy for a one night stand" rather than "What would you consider to be the perfect family size" would that help? |
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I'm not sure why swingles need a special night to find regular FB's.
I'm sure it might sound attractive to pull some more ladies in and of course the thought of more ladies in pulls more blokes in....... but how soon will the novelty wear off if the women (or men) don't want to play because they went there to find something else.
I'd think this sort of thing would be better set in a purely social environment.... but that's just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered."
Agree
Sounds fun though ! And it would be nice to be in a club with a few more single fems to buddy up with |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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interesting idea...
the thing that would put me off is that the assumption is that swingles would only want to play with other swingles... with the idea of coupling up...
for a lot of people that couldn't be further from the truth....
I tend to agree with polo that it may have been better in a non-play enviroment, and how you are going to gerrymander the numbers... but i wish you well...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"List is slowly growing so some interest in the idea. Will let it run and mature with ideas over the next few weeks and see where it takes us. "
Onwards and upwards with lots more swingles getting along to the event I hope |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"interesting idea...
the thing that would put me off is that the assumption is that swingles would only want to play with other swingles... with the idea of coupling up...
for a lot of people that couldn't be further from the truth....
I tend to agree with polo that it may have been better in a non-play enviroment, and how you are going to gerrymander the numbers... but i wish you well...
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There is no assumption here, we have our Friday nights where singles can meet couples if they wish to attend that one instead. This is about a preference, to attend when there are only other singles present...and I'm not sure the idea is to get them to couple up either, that kind of blows the longevity of it all. Its for singles to have fun with singles, and leave as singles at a guess.  Format still emerging though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your'e too far away for me
Ditto. Not that I am a club virgin at all, but it can get awkward trying to catch someone's eye when there are so many other people in the way."
You caught my eye?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In your op, you did state 'regular playmate or fb', hence my confusion.
As I said, a singles only night, so no couples and no speed dating things then I'm in
Adding couples and speed dating to the mix just takes it somewhere else entirely
Would happily agree with the couples bit, but if the speed dating only allowed questions like "What's a fantasy for a one night stand" rather than "What would you consider to be the perfect family size" would that help? "
I'm still sat on the fence, your place is on my 'to try' list, so I'll see how this pans out
Good luck with it, I hope you manage to get gen single women in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In your op, you did state 'regular playmate or fb', hence my confusion.
As I said, a singles only night, so no couples and no speed dating things then I'm in
Adding couples and speed dating to the mix just takes it somewhere else entirely "
What about voyeur couples? The males half watching his partner being chatted up then going with a guy?
I don't think that couples would ruin that
Obviously people arnt looking for 'dates' but someone to share an evening with |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered."
I have never found that in a club, quite the opposite in fact. Guys seem to go more for the single ladies rather than trying to get past the ladies partner.
OK, mine can be like my own personal guard dog at times, but I am well able to handle myself in a club situation. He still worries
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In your op, you did state 'regular playmate or fb', hence my confusion.
As I said, a singles only night, so no couples and no speed dating things then I'm in
Adding couples and speed dating to the mix just takes it somewhere else entirely
What about voyeur couples? The males half watching his partner being chatted up then going with a guy?
I don't think that couples would ruin that
Obviously people arnt looking for 'dates' but someone to share an evening with "
See I don't go to clubs on couples nights, and it would offset the numbers with all the extra men hanging around to 'watch' that alone would put me off.
Singles can meet with couples any time. Singles for singles parties are rare... if the club is looking to increase single numbers, then singles for singles is a great idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"List seems to be building so they are out there. Just need to watch the balance now. "
The balance depends on how many greedy girls there are on the list as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A Single Swinger. We've decided to add a new date to our monthly diary, aimed just at single swingers, to try to assist them in finding regular playmates and fuck buddies, in the safety of a club environment. We know that the lads massively outweigh the gals, but thought it would be an interesting experiment to see who we could find. Might even try some speed dating ideas as well just to make it really fun. Let us know if you have any ideas for the night. Adding a thread on the Meets Forum for name adding...please don't ask to come along here, this is just for ideas. "
I think it's a great idea X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a good idea to me, I would love to go to a club but worried I would feel a bit awkward if it was full of couples. Are you hoping to get a good balance of male/female singles? We're keeping it open to couples but on the basis that they'd be happy to play alone. No point in offering it to those who want to play together as they have other nights to attend. So its single guys and gals, the trick is going to be getting a balance, or if we can't do that, then run something like speed dating, where the gals get to meet 10 guys in an hour say for a fast chat round....that way it doesn't need the numbers to be equal. "
I can't see the point of keeping it open to couples if it's for singles |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered.
I have never found that in a club, quite the opposite in fact. Guys seem to go more for the single ladies rather than trying to get past the ladies partner.
OK, mine can be like my own personal guard dog at times, but I am well able to handle myself in a club situation. He still worries
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i've never found that either, I have actually found that when men talk to me they are a little reserved till they know i'm single then they seem a lot more full on and forwards |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered.
I have never found that in a club, quite the opposite in fact. Guys seem to go more for the single ladies rather than trying to get past the ladies partner.
OK, mine can be like my own personal guard dog at times, but I am well able to handle myself in a club situation. He still worries
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i've never found that either, I have actually found that when men talk to me they are a little reserved till they know i'm single then they seem a lot more full on and forwards "
Must be just me they don't want to play with then. |
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered.
I have never found that in a club, quite the opposite in fact. Guys seem to go more for the single ladies rather than trying to get past the ladies partner.
OK, mine can be like my own personal guard dog at times, but I am well able to handle myself in a club situation. He still worries
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i've never found that either, I have actually found that when men talk to me they are a little reserved till they know i'm single then they seem a lot more full on and forwards
Must be just me they don't want to play with then. "
What blindness as I would love to play with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered.
I have never found that in a club, quite the opposite in fact. Guys seem to go more for the single ladies rather than trying to get past the ladies partner.
OK, mine can be like my own personal guard dog at times, but I am well able to handle myself in a club situation. He still worries
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i've never found that either, I have actually found that when men talk to me they are a little reserved till they know i'm single then they seem a lot more full on and forwards
Must be just me they don't want to play with then. "
No sometimes I feel like wearing a sticker saying 'single' so they arn't looking around for my 'other half' all the time |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Now if it was a singles only night, not open to couples and without the 'find a regular fb' then I'd be in.
Having a 'swingle' night but inviting couples seems a bit self defeating to me. Couples already have a partner, and as single men tend to prefer them it will just leave most of the single women wondering why they bothered.
I have never found that in a club, quite the opposite in fact. Guys seem to go more for the single ladies rather than trying to get past the ladies partner.
OK, mine can be like my own personal guard dog at times, but I am well able to handle myself in a club situation. He still worries
N
i've never found that either, I have actually found that when men talk to me they are a little reserved till they know i'm single then they seem a lot more full on and forwards
Must be just me they don't want to play with then.
No sometimes I feel like wearing a sticker saying 'single' so they arn't looking around for my 'other half' all the time "
That's it exactly. The first time I went to Chams I went with a male friend and was beating them off with a stick. The other two times I went alone and really struggled to get people to chat to me. I remember arranging to hook up with a guy in the orgy room and he just didn't turn up. I don't know why all it takes is a male friend to attract other men but for me that seems to be the case. |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"I like this idea... If only I lived closer I'd consider going!
More clubs should think about this, hope it goes well."
There's always a big hotel next door, lol. Try asking your local club for one!! |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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"In your op, you did state 'regular playmate or fb', hence my confusion.
As I said, a singles only night, so no couples and no speed dating things then I'm in
Adding couples and speed dating to the mix just takes it somewhere else entirely
Would happily agree with the couples bit, but if the speed dating only allowed questions like "What's a fantasy for a one night stand" rather than "What would you consider to be the perfect family size" would that help? "
You know, the speed dating could be an optional fun activity. Doesn't have to be one or other.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You know, the speed dating could be an optional fun activity. Doesn't have to be one or other.. "
Speed dating isn't even on the agenda (yet), it was just one of the things mentioned earlier in the thread. It may be introduced at a later date, but even then, that doesn't mean you have to do it if you don't want to, it's just a bit of fun that may or may not be added if the evening takes off on a regular basis.
Don't forget one of the main rules of swinging, NO means NO, that goes for taking part in speed dating as well |
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By *tasia OP Couple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
If we did run the speed dating idea, the questions would be things like "whats your favourite place to shag" and deffo not "how many children would you like" lol. Anyway, idea to start will be to build up a regular night, then we can start to try the daft stuff once everyone is comfortable. So, list still building on the meets forum, anyone else wish to add themselves. Interestingly there's more ladies than gents currently! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A Single Swinger. We've decided to add a new date to our monthly diary, aimed just at single swingers, to try to assist them in finding regular playmates and fuck buddies, in the safety of a club environment. We know that the lads massively outweigh the gals, but thought it would be an interesting experiment to see who we could find. Might even try some speed dating ideas as well just to make it really fun. Let us know if you have any ideas for the night. Adding a thread on the Meets Forum for name adding...please don't ask to come along here, this is just for ideas. "
Great Idea i would be well up for that one |
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