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"if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it." I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. I think people are sometimes too quick to judge other peoples situations without knowing the full details. | |||
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"if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. I think people are sometimes too quick to judge other peoples situations without knowing the full details. " I so agree with this, try that persons shoes on even if u can't walk in them, u might find it impossible | |||
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"-if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. - I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. " Playing devils advocate here, but please could you give examples of 'all sorts of circumstances' that justify cheating? | |||
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"as there is no other option for you i dont see any problem " The option is to get some balls and end the failing/failed relationship, or heaven forbid, actually open a dialogue with his partner about their differences and seek a mutual resolution. | |||
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"if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. I think people are sometimes too quick to judge other peoples situations without knowing the full details. " I would never tell my partner of 17 years but would love her to get involved. I have talked to her in the past about threesomes ie: 2 men and her. But she got upset at the thought of it. So I left it alone. | |||
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"There can be circumstances of ill health and having had no physical contact your spouse for a few years so you end up lookin elsewhere. I know this thread is on about married men playing as singles but lets not forget that some married women also state they are single too. Lets not all jump on the one sex." I don't mind who jumps on my sex lol | |||
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"... I'm off now before the 'cheating' debaters make their entrance " I'm one of the ones who disapproves of married-but-cheating. I agree that there are one or two reasons why someone would do this (e.g. medical reasons preventing the partner from having sex). However, I would have more respect for someone who visited prostitutes for relief in these circumstances, rather than using a swingers site. Cheating isn't swinging. Although, fair play to the OP for making his status clear on his profile. This does at least mean that people who feel like me can avoid him. | |||
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"-if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. - I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. Playing devils advocate here, but please could you give examples of 'all sorts of circumstances' that justify cheating?" Disabilities, mental illness, compliant denial to name 3. | |||
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"My approach is that if someone else's personal life doesn't directly affect me then it's up to them what they do and I'm not going to judge them" I think I love you! .... Great post | |||
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" My approach is that if someone else's personal life doesn't directly affect me then it's up to them what they do and I'm not going to judge them" Too right! I'm a very strong believer in free will. (I'm not judging anyone by the way. Just engaging in adult conversation.) | |||
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"Balls I've got, we have talked, and sex she doesn't want that often, we have 2 kids, and we do get along well, thanks for your opinions people" Good good. How did she react when she found out you were cheating? | |||
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"Balls I've got, we have talked, and sex she doesn't want that often, we have 2 kids, and we do get along well, thanks for your opinions people" If you have kids mate totally understand you wanting to keep this quiet sex is important but not as important as your kids. I am in the same position as you i adore my wife and kids and just because my wife lost her sex drive due to health problems mine is still there and this seems best way to satisfy it (albeit very seldom lol). At least im not stealing money from our account to pay for sex | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat." Are all church married swinging couples to be condemned? After all didn't they promise to forsake all others? They are surely breaking their vows? | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? " My thoughts are be happy in who and what you are doing, but consider others in doing so. That will include your wife. As a point in mind, assuming that you thought you were happily married (not happyish, but totally 100% happy), how would you react if you stumbled, one day, across your wifes profile on a swingers site ? Think about it before answering that question the male way, strip away all the 'oh it would be something we could enjoy together' thoughts and get back to how it would make you feel as a man and as a husband. I am not preaching (or even trying to) in asking that because I fully recognise that people do things for their own reasons and often for the good of their marriage as a whole, but just stop for a minute and ask yourself why you are here. That may help you answer your own question. | |||
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"Do we all tell our friends, children, parents, children's friends parents, neighbours, colleagues, ocado delivery person..... That we are swingers? Most probably don't. We are all hiding something from others... I bet there are a lot of couples who swing where one partner is more in To it than the other and has coerced their partner a little so that they can swing. Is this not cheating? Swingers, you are a funny bunch " Well said mate | |||
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"if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. I think people are sometimes too quick to judge other peoples situations without knowing the full details. I would never tell my partner of 17 years but would love her to get involved. I have talked to her in the past about threesomes ie: 2 men and her. But she got upset at the thought of it. So I left it alone. " And how do you think you partner of 17 years will feel if she ever finds out about this? Secrets have a way of rising to the surface. If she was upset then, about a suggestion, maybe consider how she would feel if she finds out about you wanting to/trying to sleep with other people. It's cheating and it is something very hurtful and can devastate the person getting hurt. | |||
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"well you swinging as one person ...... so that make you a single not a couple ...." A swingle lol | |||
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"I once heard "women can fake orgasms but men can fake whole relationships". We pretty much assumed all single males who could not accommodate were not really single." I met with a single man that house shared, and hence couldn't accom... not everything is cut and dry and with the job market/housing market being what it is. I also know of single's that live in tiny flats and 1 has a 'mold' problem that the landlady wont sort out, so they wont accom. I always ask why someone cant/wont accom. Some of those that can, may have a girlfriend but just arn't at sharing homes just yet, Or use a single mates place.. | |||
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"Do we all tell our friends, children, parents, children's friends parents, neighbours, colleagues, ocado delivery person..... That we are swingers? Most probably don't. We are all hiding something from others... I bet there are a lot of couples who swing where one partner is more in To it than the other and has coerced their partner a little so that they can swing. Is this not cheating? Swingers, you are a funny bunch " Sorry, what point are you trying to make? Some people on here tell all and sundry, including their kids they swing, there's even a mother and daughter on here who also visit the same club, what has that got to do with cheating?!! I don't meet married men any more. Not because they're cheating, couldn't give a monkies truth be told, I'm here for my own hedonistic pleasure and a playmate that comes into my house with soap his wife uses for me to use so my scent doesn't linger on him isn't going to escape with his balls intact and that'll need explaining. I also do not meet anyone who doesn't accommodate, so that in itself rules married men out by default. | |||
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"I once heard "women can fake orgasms but men can fake whole relationships". We pretty much assumed all single males who could not accommodate were not really single. I met with a single man that house shared, and hence couldn't accom... not everything is cut and dry and with the job market/housing market being what it is. I also know of single's that live in tiny flats and 1 has a 'mold' problem that the landlady wont sort out, so they wont accom. I always ask why someone cant/wont accom. Some of those that can, may have a girlfriend but just arn't at sharing homes just yet, Or use a single mates place.. " If my ex-husband were on here, 100% single, he wouldn't accommodate. He'd sold his house to move into his mums one bed flat to look after her. She died a month ago and I know he wouldn't "disrespect" her home by bringing random women there, so I don't assume all men that can't accommodate are married. I'm sounding like a broken record but after a playmate told me (whilst in my bed) he'd never invite people he met off the internet into his home, I assume all men that don't accommodate treat their homes as sacrosanct and mine like a knocking shop. Therefore you can't accommodate? Not a problem, just don't expect an invite to mine! | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat. Are all church married swinging couples to be condemned? After all didn't they promise to forsake all others? They are surely breaking their vows?" Exactly my sentiments Narrowmindedness at its best | |||
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"There can be circumstances of ill health and having had no physical contact your spouse for a few years so you end up lookin elsewhere. I know this thread is on about married men playing as singles but lets not forget that some married women also state they are single too. Lets not all jump on the one sex." Indeed , I was poorly over a 6 yr span where I didn't have sex .. If I'd known about swinging then may have saved our marriage | |||
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"Do we all tell our friends, children, parents, children's friends parents, neighbours, colleagues, ocado delivery person..... That we are swingers? Most probably don't. We are all hiding something from others... I bet there are a lot of couples who swing where one partner is more in To it than the other and has coerced their partner a little so that they can swing. Is this not cheating? Swingers, you are a funny bunch Well said mate " Wow that really is scraping at the bottom of the barrel to try and justify cheating lol Even if someone is cohered, there is no lying or deception involved.. Big difference! | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat. Are all church married swinging couples to be condemned? After all didn't they promise to forsake all others? They are surely breaking their vows? Exactly my sentiments Narrowmindedness at its best " Fordsaking others means not running off with someone else, cos if you put it in the context of the vows in whole. You are committing to live in partnership no matter what and stay together throughj the good and bad and face everything as if you were one person. Therefore no lying or decieving each other in any sense! So if a couple are open and honest about having sex with others then they are still partaking as one and a partnership | |||
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"Do we all tell our friends, children, parents, children's friends parents, neighbours, colleagues, ocado delivery person..... That we are swingers? Most probably don't. We are all hiding something from others... I bet there are a lot of couples who swing where one partner is more in To it than the other and has coerced their partner a little so that they can swing. Is this not cheating? Swingers, you are a funny bunch Well said mate Wow that really is scraping at the bottom of the barrel to try and justify cheating lol Even if someone is cohered, there is no lying or deception involved.. Big difference!" Oh and what person vanilla or not tells family and friends about their sx life and share details?? So what point u trying to make there? So ur not decieving anyone as family and friends do not need to know about such intamacies in your life, on the otherhand ur partner ur committed to u are meant to share intamacy with! So again they are the only ones u can decieve when it comes to sexual matters | |||
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"If your a true believer in your religion wouldn't you be at church and not on fab after all according to the bible any sexual position other than missionary is considered perverted. I'm sure I will be corrected if I'm wrong" Is this aimed at me? 1. I'm an atheist 2. I'm very much single 3. I'm not lying or decieving anyone through selfish actions And ur right, why do people bother to take the vows or make a commitment if they don't live up to them? I agree But I don't see how swinging together is in anyway making a mockery of your marriage as in the way a cheater is | |||
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"I was married for 13 years, and found out that my now ex cheated for most of that time. We now have conversations about 'if only we had talked more' maybe then we would be on here swinging together. " Yes I was cheated on a few times when ill , only found out last year .. It hurt me a lot ... But him being able to sleep with other ladies , but not leave the marriage could have been a better solution .. | |||
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"If your a true believer in your religion wouldn't you be at church and not on fab after all according to the bible any sexual position other than missionary is considered perverted. I'm sure I will be corrected if I'm wrong" when has getting married in a church mean you have to be catholic and abide by the bible, i got married in a church but im protestant. vows are vows and if your not prepared to live by the 1 you say them to why say them in the 1st place. cheating no matter which way you butter it up or what circumstances arise is wrong simple as that and as for narrow mindness, can you actually get any more narrow minded than cheating. | |||
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"If your a true believer in your religion wouldn't you be at church and not on fab after all according to the bible any sexual position other than missionary is considered perverted. I'm sure I will be corrected if I'm wrong" You are wrong, the bible does not discuss sexual positions in a right and wrong context. | |||
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"I'm not here to judge either, each to their own but I'd rather be able to make an informed choice as to who I meet so prefer those who are honest about it. As an aside... I'm curious as to why someone would stay in a 'happy-ish' relationship when clearly there's something missing... " I can't comment from personal experience but do 2 people have to stop loving each other and wanting to live and spend time together and get divorced if one parties libido goes or has health issues etc? Seems a bit harsh | |||
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"I'm not here to judge either, each to their own but I'd rather be able to make an informed choice as to who I meet so prefer those who are honest about it. As an aside... I'm curious as to why someone would stay in a 'happy-ish' relationship when clearly there's something missing... I can't comment from personal experience but do 2 people have to stop loving each other and wanting to live and spend time together and get divorced if one parties libido goes or has health issues etc? Seems a bit harsh " I have no idea... that's sort of why I asked. I have no experience of that either. I just know that when things don't work in a relationship then it tells me that it's time to stop. When something no longer makes you happy, what's the point? I get the whole having kids/responsibilities etc. but I don't think I could cheat on someone either so I'm curious I guess. It's not meant to be a judgement... just questions escaping from my head! It happens sometimes! | |||
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"I'm not here to judge either, each to their own but I'd rather be able to make an informed choice as to who I meet so prefer those who are honest about it. As an aside... I'm curious as to why someone would stay in a 'happy-ish' relationship when clearly there's something missing... I can't comment from personal experience but do 2 people have to stop loving each other and wanting to live and spend time together and get divorced if one parties libido goes or has health issues etc? Seems a bit harsh " But none of that is any reason to lie and decieve to the other one.. That's not what commitmewnt is about. Its about sorting out problems. If one has health issues and the other can go out and shag behind their back then they can't care much about them! Who knows what life will throw at us.. But if u make a commitment you live by it! I have a son and if not having sex again ever was what was best for him.. Then I wouldn't have sex again in a heartbeat! Its called being selfless for those you love | |||
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"Very strange reading all these posts.. this is a swinging site for ppl to meet ppl for fun and sex..not a dating site do to me if the woman is married or not or the man is married or not does it really matter... to be honest you probably going to have less chance of them being a stalker lol... if the partner knows nothing and no chance of finding out I say each to their own.. " So you say 'each to their own' yet you think the other people who are giving their opinions strange? | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? " That your in a relationship and not single so shouldn't be here | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? " My thoughts are that you have been honest with everyone on here enabling us to make a choice about whether to meet you or not, you have not tried to justify your actions too much or ask for pity or sympathy. You can't set your profile up any other way so it is what it is. You haven't asked for advice or further opinions so I'll keep them to myself. | |||
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"Can't win! Imagine the grief he'd get if he had a couple profile that said 'although I am married, my wife doesn't know I'm on a swinging site'!" | |||
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"*there sorry " You were right the first time their- as in people there - as in place | |||
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"I once heard "women can fake orgasms but men can fake whole relationships". We pretty much assumed all single males who could not accommodate were not really single. I met with a single man that house shared, and hence couldn't accom... not everything is cut and dry and with the job market/housing market being what it is. I also know of single's that live in tiny flats and 1 has a 'mold' problem that the landlady wont sort out, so they wont accom. I always ask why someone cant/wont accom. Some of those that can, may have a girlfriend but just arn't at sharing homes just yet, Or use a single mates place.. If my ex-husband were on here, 100% single, he wouldn't accommodate. He'd sold his house to move into his mums one bed flat to look after her. She died a month ago and I know he wouldn't "disrespect" her home by bringing random women there, so I don't assume all men that can't accommodate are married. I'm sounding like a broken record but after a playmate told me (whilst in my bed) he'd never invite people he met off the internet into his home, I assume all men that don't accommodate treat their homes as sacrosanct and mine like a knocking shop. Therefore you can't accommodate? Not a problem, just don't expect an invite to mine! " | |||
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"-if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. - I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. Playing devils advocate here, but please could you give examples of 'all sorts of circumstances' that justify cheating?" Justify to you? Why? Morality is a fairly personal thing and there's no absolute rights or wrongs for all people. So let's say they are married and love each others company but don't enjoy sex with each other. Perhaps she is also sleeping around? | |||
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"I really live by the saying " don't judge others unless you have walked in their shoes " " i dont see what there is to judge.. cheaters have to lile and decieve there other half just to get what they want.. thats fact not judement.. they lie cos they know it will cause upset to the other half.. another fact cos if it wasnt going to cause upset they wouldnt lie.. so they are only thinking of themselves and being selfish.. i dont liek selfish behaviour.. not judging just going on fact XD | |||
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"-if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. - I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. Playing devils advocate here, but please could you give examples of 'all sorts of circumstances' that justify cheating? Justify to you? Why? Morality is a fairly personal thing and there's no absolute rights or wrongs for all people. So let's say they are married and love each others company but don't enjoy sex with each other. Perhaps she is also sleeping around? " then guessing they are being honest with each other and defining their relationship.. so isnt cheating.. when you make a commitment its about the 2 of you and both parties need to be honest and open.. lying and deciving the other is just selfish actions.. its threads liek this make me so happy to be single lol | |||
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"I really live by the saying " don't judge others unless you have walked in their shoes " i dont see what there is to judge.. cheaters have to lile and decieve there other half just to get what they want.. thats fact not judement.. they lie cos they know it will cause upset to the other half.. another fact cos if it wasnt going to cause upset they wouldnt lie.. so they are only thinking of themselves and being selfish.. i dont liek selfish behaviour.. not judging just going on fact XD" When put like that , it's a fair comment | |||
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"if you are doing this behind your partners back then theres no other word apart from "wrong" to describe it. I dont agree with this at all... there are all sorts of circumstances that would make it wrong to tell a partner. I think people are sometimes too quick to judge other peoples situations without knowing the full details. " Totally agree with this, far too many people make judgements about situations they do not fully understand. | |||
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"It's simple. ..is this a dating site or a swinging sit whether u are in a relationship or not. ...isn't swinging supposed to be NSA in nature? Im I'm prepared to be lambasted..... " Without a trace of irony you write this, whilst on your profile you state you're seeking "uncomplicated" sex. Guess what Kemosabe, aren't we all: for some of us single men are "uncomplicated!" | |||
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"I say strange due to the fact we all have opinions but I do not concern myself with other ppls.. its a swingers site saying cheating is wrong..maybe it is but think we all know that but I would not say that on a swingers sure because most single ppl on here prob are in a relationship one way or another....if you are a cpl then we'll done to you both doing it.. but unless you are the type of ppl who are honest completely and all their friends and family including their kids know about what you do then I say ok voice your opinion..if not then we are all liers " For us simple folk, please explain the correlation between having sex with strangers whilst your partner is unaware and having a "private" life as a couple that you don't tell your kids about. Please, enlighten us. | |||
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"Married for twenty years, my wife is disabled. It's been ten years since we had full sex, four years since we had any real intimacy. To be perfectly honest, if she wasn't so ill I'd have left years ago but what kind of man walks out on a disabled woman? I'm her husband, her carer and her friend and just as I couldn't break her heart by leaving, I couldn't hurt her by rubbing her nose in her inability to be a wife for me. I don't meet often and I'm very choosy who I do meet, but it's a pressure relief valve that helps relieve the stress in a dysfunctional relationship and possibly keeps us together. Go ahead, judge me. Am I a bad man?" Hardly her fault she ended up with a disabilty As I said earlier you live by your commitments you make! If my son was disabled and I could never have sex again It would be no problem cos he is way more important than getting my leg over! In sickness and health | |||
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"Married for twenty years, my wife is disabled. It's been ten years since we had full sex, four years since we had any real intimacy. To be perfectly honest, if she wasn't so ill I'd have left years ago but what kind of man walks out on a disabled woman? I'm her husband, her carer and her friend and just as I couldn't break her heart by leaving, I couldn't hurt her by rubbing her nose in her inability to be a wife for me. I don't meet often and I'm very choosy who I do meet, but it's a pressure relief valve that helps relieve the stress in a dysfunctional relationship and possibly keeps us together. Go ahead, judge me. Am I a bad man?" Prime example of a duplicitous married man! Forum thread, married man, staying with his disabled wife, won't leave her as he's not a cad, just wants occasional sexual relief. Profile: separated from a sexless marriage now looking to make whoopy with a merry band of regulars! Spot the difference! | |||
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"No matter what anyone says, cheating has gone on since the dawn of mankind and will continue to go on.......its obviously in our makeup, and even if you have strong feelings against it, there will always be someone you probably know very well who has done it. Maybe one day it will be your son, daughter, brother sister who is the "cheater" I hope they don't get slandered down with the rest of them........" yeahh...it will..but not everyone... and not everyone, brother,sister,son etc will come looking for validation...essentially, If im reading the same usual posts of this nature, to basically exclaim: "I'm not getting enough shags from this site,I've been honest about my relationship..so I should get more sex.I'm available and very small windows through the day..so essentially, I'll get a hotel room or come to urs and fuck u for a bit" | |||
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"No matter what anyone says, cheating has gone on since the dawn of mankind and will continue to go on.......its obviously in our makeup, and even if you have strong feelings against it, there will always be someone you probably know very well who has done it. Maybe one day it will be your son, daughter, brother sister who is the "cheater" I hope they don't get slandered down with the rest of them........" If I found out my son was cheating I would be having very strong words with him and be very upset and I think he would deserve to been seen in a bad light for soing so! As a parent it would be my job to help him with his problems | |||
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" Prime example of a duplicitous married man! Forum thread, married man, staying with his disabled wife, won't leave her as he's not a cad, just wants occasional sexual relief. Profile: separated from a sexless marriage now looking to make whoopy with a merry band of regulars! Spot the difference! " She's in a care home, hence "separated" and able to accommodate. | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat. Are all church married swinging couples to be condemned? After all didn't they promise to forsake all others? They are surely breaking their vows? Exactly my sentiments Narrowmindedness at its best Fordsaking others means not running off with someone else, cos if you put it in the context of the vows in whole. You are committing to live in partnership no matter what and stay together throughj the good and bad and face everything as if you were one person. Therefore no lying or decieving each other in any sense! So if a couple are open and honest about having sex with others then they are still partaking as one and a partnership" Yep, a holy man would accept that! | |||
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"No matter what anyone says, cheating has gone on since the dawn of mankind and will continue to go on.......its obviously in our makeup, and even if you have strong feelings against it, there will always be someone you probably know very well who has done it. Maybe one day it will be your son, daughter, brother sister who is the "cheater" I hope they don't get slandered down with the rest of them........ If I found out my son was cheating I would be having very strong words with him and be very upset and I think he would deserve to been seen in a bad light for soing so! As a parent it would be my job to help him with his problems" And what would you say if he told you he'd been unhappy for years, tried to talk to his wife but she wouldn't listen, told you he had been taken for granted and controlled and now he'd met someone who made him feel alive and wanted again......... I'm not saying its right but people cheat for a reason, anyone who's been to relate knows that its not just the person who cheats that is to blame for the situation, the other person also needs to look at themselves at what they have failed to bring to the relationship. | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat. Are all church married swinging couples to be condemned? After all didn't they promise to forsake all others? They are surely breaking their vows? Exactly my sentiments Narrowmindedness at its best Fordsaking others means not running off with someone else, cos if you put it in the context of the vows in whole. You are committing to live in partnership no matter what and stay together throughj the good and bad and face everything as if you were one person. Therefore no lying or decieving each other in any sense! So if a couple are open and honest about having sex with others then they are still partaking as one and a partnership Yep, a holy man would accept that! " Did u also read my next post about forsaking? | |||
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"I'd want my son to be happy." Me too.. So would hate to see him in a relationship that he couldn't feel fulfilled no matter what. Also I would consider a daughter in law my family too (is that not what the in law part means) and would hate to see my son disrespecting her for his selfish reasons! If they have problems I hope I would be able to offer the support needed to help them through it.. | |||
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"I'd want my son to be happy. Me too.. So would hate to see him in a relationship that he couldn't feel fulfilled no matter what. Also I would consider a daughter in law my family too (is that not what the in law part means) and would hate to see my son disrespecting her for his selfish reasons! If they have problems I hope I would be able to offer the support needed to help them through it.." Well that's fair enough. All I'd say is we can't all find the ideal solution and most of us muddle through trying to do the best we can. | |||
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"I'd want my son to be happy. Me too.. So would hate to see him in a relationship that he couldn't feel fulfilled no matter what. Also I would consider a daughter in law my family too (is that not what the in law part means) and would hate to see my son disrespecting her for his selfish reasons! If they have problems I hope I would be able to offer the support needed to help them through it.. Well that's fair enough. All I'd say is we can't all find the ideal solution and most of us muddle through trying to do the best we can." Well as I said before, I don't like selfishness Altho I accept a lot of people cheat, I will never understand how anyone can put the need for sex before the wellbeing and feelings of loved ones | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? " I would not meat you. You are cheating. You also seem to be using you lack of sex with your partner as an excuse to cheat. Either end the relationship or try and make it work. Find out why she does not want sex often. | |||
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"I'd want my son to be happy. Me too.. So would hate to see him in a relationship that he couldn't feel fulfilled no matter what. Also I would consider a daughter in law my family too (is that not what the in law part means) and would hate to see my son disrespecting her for his selfish reasons! If they have problems I hope I would be able to offer the support needed to help them through it.. Well that's fair enough. All I'd say is we can't all find the ideal solution and most of us muddle through trying to do the best we can. Well as I said before, I don't like selfishness Altho I accept a lot of people cheat, I will never understand how anyone can put the need for sex before the wellbeing and feelings of loved ones" Probably because by the time they cheat for what ever reason they have lost respect for their other half and the term loved one doesn't really apply.......... | |||
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"I meet people for NSA, uncomplicated, no hassle, no grief sex. And I make sure of this before meeting anyone, so I'm not really interested in worrying myself sick about whether they're married, single, cheating, etc etc etc. This is a site where adults join to meet strangers for sex. This isn't a dating site, or a relationship counselling site, or a family nurturing site, or a site where we join to grade people's morals. It is a site people join for the sake of sex. Therefore, I'm not particularly interested in what people get up to in their private lives or who they're hiding their presence on this site from. And please nobody should ask me to consider the feelings of those partners being cheated on or the possibility of a family break up, because frankly that has got absolutely nothing to do with me. Besides how many of us feel guilty that a large part of the lifestyle we enjoy in this part of the world comes at the great expense of people living in developing countries. A 10 year old child works 60 hrs a week & earns less than £1 per day, so we can eat seasonal fruits all year round, or buy cheap clothes & shoes, etc etc. How many of us lose sleep over this. Or do our morals only kick in when it comes to sex? Bottom line is, live & let live. Do your own thing and don't judge others when they do theirs. After all, it is only sex!" If someone handed me fruit and told me it was from child labour I wouldn't touch it.. Same as if someone says their attached I wouldn't touch them. I wouldn't loose sleep over either but I have the choice to walk away from the situation and not support it by being a part of the process! As I said I'm not judging, just don't like selfishness.. Which is also exactly the attitude of ur statement too.. "Not my problem as I'm only thinking of myself" I'm here for uncomplicated sex that has no comebacks or upset for anyone.. I'd like to think everything I do in life is not knowlingly causing problems for anyone else. I accept each to their own, but if someone is going to start a thread trying to make people see its ok to cheat, then we are all allowed to air our opinions on the subject | |||
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"And with respect, that's a very female viewpoint and comes from the gender who can usually have as much sex as they want whenever they want it. It's like the wealthy saying they can't understand the lengths poor people go to earn a little money. Men are wired differently to women - we seem to find it far easier to disassociate emotions from sex. " I can't have as much sex as I want as I have responsibilities in my life.. As my profile states I'm not meeting atm and I haven't for months. That's cos of respect towards me son and not taking anymore timeout from him as my life is so busy with work and things atm. As I said before he will always come first and has nothing to do with disattaching emotions from sex, that statement applies surely to the person ur having sex with! | |||
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"I'm single in every sense of the word. However, I do not have a problem with this at all. I know I will be slaughtered by some for my feelings on this. I may be wired differently or really selfish but my thoughts and attentions are on the person I am meeting with. If there is a moral issue regarding the partner that I have not met with or discussed anything with then I can not reason why I should consider their partners. The moral issue should lie with the person presenting themselves as single not the person playing with them. The issue regarding someone's relationship is not mine. Questions about whether their relationship should continue is between them. Personally I would play with someone who was cheating, I find it a turn on to some extent. Just my thoughts!" I guess other people have had the same as me and been contacted by these unknowing other halves.. 3 in total for me who I had no idea exsisted.. Well it makes that other person very real and the situation very real when it happens and it certainly isn't very nice in my books | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? I would not meat you. You are cheating. You also seem to be using you lack of sex with your partner as an excuse to cheat. Either end the relationship or try and make it work. Find out why she does not want sex often. " I agree . We should all respect what we have at home and think how it makes the other half feel. I have been playing away on here and there is no excuse for it. I want to experiment and try new thing that wife ain't willing to do.....but at the end of the day she is worth that sacrifice. I count my behaviour as a selfish immature action that needs be corrected . I want to play on this site I don't need to. (I'll be taking my own advise soon and deleting this account ) | |||
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"Forsaking all others means exactly that! You're not allowed to redefine it to fit your own personal sexual beliefs its a pretty clear church vow in my book The other person knowing/ agreeing surely doesn't alter that vow being broken?" To be pedantic, people who get married in a registry office do not make these vows. | |||
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"I meet people for NSA, uncomplicated, no hassle, no grief sex. And I make sure of this before meeting anyone, so I'm not really interested in worrying myself sick about whether they're married, single, cheating, etc etc etc. This is a site where adults join to meet strangers for sex. This isn't a dating site, or a relationship counselling site, or a family nurturing site, or a site where we join to grade people's morals. It is a site people join for the sake of sex. Therefore, I'm not particularly interested in what people get up to in their private lives or who they're hiding their presence on this site from. And please nobody should ask me to consider the feelings of those partners being cheated on or the possibility of a family break up, because frankly that has got absolutely nothing to do with me. Besides how many of us feel guilty that a large part of the lifestyle we enjoy in this part of the world comes at the great expense of people living in developing countries. A 10 year old child works 60 hrs a week & earns less than £1 per day, so we can eat seasonal fruits all year round, or buy cheap clothes & shoes, etc etc. How many of us lose sleep over this. Or do our morals only kick in when it comes to sex? Bottom line is, live & let live. Do your own thing and don't judge others when they do theirs. After all, it is only sex!" | |||
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"Married for twenty years, my wife is disabled. It's been ten years since we had full sex, four years since we had any real intimacy. To be perfectly honest, if she wasn't so ill I'd have left years ago but what kind of man walks out on a disabled woman? I'm her husband, her carer and her friend and just as I couldn't break her heart by leaving, I couldn't hurt her by rubbing her nose in her inability to be a wife for me. I don't meet often and I'm very choosy who I do meet, but it's a pressure relief valve that helps relieve the stress in a dysfunctional relationship and possibly keeps us together. Go ahead, judge me. Am I a bad man? Hardly her fault she ended up with a disabilty As I said earlier you live by your commitments you make! If my son was disabled and I could never have sex again It would be no problem cos he is way more important than getting my leg over! In sickness and health" Our children are not the issue here .. The guy has a wife who is disabled , not a child .. A big difference I would say | |||
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"I meet people for NSA, uncomplicated, no hassle, no grief sex. And I make sure of this before meeting anyone, so I'm not really interested in worrying myself sick about whether they're married, single, cheating, etc etc etc. This is a site where adults join to meet strangers for sex. This isn't a dating site, or a relationship counselling site, or a family nurturing site, or a site where we join to grade people's morals. It is a site people join for the sake of sex. Therefore, I'm not particularly interested in what people get up to in their private lives or who they're hiding their presence on this site from. And please nobody should ask me to consider the feelings of those partners being cheated on or the possibility of a family break up, because frankly that has got absolutely nothing to do with me. Besides how many of us feel guilty that a large part of the lifestyle we enjoy in this part of the world comes at the great expense of people living in developing countries. A 10 year old child works 60 hrs a week & earns less than £1 per day, so we can eat seasonal fruits all year round, or buy cheap clothes & shoes, etc etc. How many of us lose sleep over this. Or do our morals only kick in when it comes to sex? Bottom line is, live & let live. Do your own thing and don't judge others when they do theirs. After all, it is only sex!" I agree with you 100%: that's why I'm here for uncomplicated, hedonistic fun. Having to play to a stop watch, being careful not to mark, being asked to wear wife's brand of toiletries to avoid leaving scent trail, being blown out at last minute because wife wants to go to Waitrose kind of puts a damper on "just sex" for me. The no drama, go for it no holds barred coupling I get from single men fulfils my needs...but each to their own! | |||
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"You clearly state you have a partner so if people dont like that then they know upfront and if its not their thing, they know not to contact you. Im in the same boat, im married and he doesnt know but it is in my profile. No doubt like has been said the anti-cheaters will be on my case, but I have my reasons" You are here doing your thing. You're not justifying your reasons or throwing a strop because people have on their profiles "no married", and seeking sympathy with a disabled spouse. I've met married men in the past with no qualms but the encounters weren't satisfying for me for reasons I've stated above. I'm here for me, married men play no part! | |||
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"I meet people for NSA, uncomplicated, no hassle, no grief sex. And I make sure of this before meeting anyone, so I'm not really interested in worrying myself sick about whether they're married, single, cheating, etc etc etc. This is a site where adults join to meet strangers for sex. This isn't a dating site, or a relationship counselling site, or a family nurturing site, or a site where we join to grade people's morals. It is a site people join for the sake of sex. Therefore, I'm not particularly interested in what people get up to in their private lives or who they're hiding their presence on this site from. And please nobody should ask me to consider the feelings of those partners being cheated on or the possibility of a family break up, because frankly that has got absolutely nothing to do with me. Besides how many of us feel guilty that a large part of the lifestyle we enjoy in this part of the world comes at the great expense of people living in developing countries. A 10 year old child works 60 hrs a week & earns less than £1 per day, so we can eat seasonal fruits all year round, or buy cheap clothes & shoes, etc etc. How many of us lose sleep over this. Or do our morals only kick in when it comes to sex? Bottom line is, live & let live. Do your own thing and don't judge others when they do theirs. After all, it is only sex!" If anything I prefer married men, they're less likely to develop any sort of feelings. A fair few of the (genuinely) single guys on here are looking for a relationship, I find... | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? I would not meat you. You are cheating. You also seem to be using you lack of sex with your partner as an excuse to cheat. Either end the relationship or try and make it work. Find out why she does not want sex often. I agree . We should all respect what we have at home and think how it makes the other half feel. I have been playing away on here and there is no excuse for it. I want to experiment and try new thing that wife ain't willing to do.....but at the end of the day she is worth that sacrifice. I count my behaviour as a selfish immature action that needs be corrected . I want to play on this site I don't need to. (I'll be taking my own advise soon and deleting this account )" Sake man...ye don't need to beat yer'sel up over it, just tell yer mrs you're not happy and find a compromise that makes both of you happy...don't you trust her to understand and support you? | |||
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" Justify to you? Why? " No, not to me. To the persons that are being cheated on. After all is said and done, they are the ones that will be hurt by the deeds of those that are deceiving them. Not me. | |||
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"I meet people for NSA, uncomplicated, no hassle, no grief sex. And I make sure of this before meeting anyone, so I'm not really interested in worrying myself sick about whether they're married, single, cheating, etc etc etc. This is a site where adults join to meet strangers for sex. This isn't a dating site, or a relationship counselling site, or a family nurturing site, or a site where we join to grade people's morals. It is a site people join for the sake of sex. Therefore, I'm not particularly interested in what people get up to in their private lives or who they're hiding their presence on this site from. And please nobody should ask me to consider the feelings of those partners being cheated on or the possibility of a family break up, because frankly that has got absolutely nothing to do with me. Besides how many of us feel guilty that a large part of the lifestyle we enjoy in this part of the world comes at the great expense of people living in developing countries. A 10 year old child works 60 hrs a week & earns less than £1 per day, so we can eat seasonal fruits all year round, or buy cheap clothes & shoes, etc etc. How many of us lose sleep over this. Or do our morals only kick in when it comes to sex? Bottom line is, live & let live. Do your own thing and don't judge others when they do theirs. After all, it is only sex!" very very well said ! | |||
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"Me thinks there some insecure people on here who are trying to preach morality to the masses ! Usually these people have been hurt by cheating and thus given them there chip on the shoulders where cheating is concerned ! This should be a place where everyone can play without prejudice ! Leave your views and concerns private and let others have fun ! There business is there business . Im sure the cpls preaching on here dont tell there loved ones " your mother was gangbanged lastnite whilst daddy photographed it " do they ... " Can't beat a good bit of generalizing, eh? (Just for the record, I'm not preaching. I firmly believe in free will. I'm engaging in open discussion with others that are too. *If* your comment was directed at myself then I would respectfully ask that you read the thread in its entirety. ) Go ask a psychologist or relationship counsellor if you don't believe me, but you'll find it's those that cheat that tend to have more pressing issues with insecurities. Those that do, and have no issues with it, are demonstrating a pathological detachment from emotional bonding. As funny as it was, your last point is reductio ad absurdum. | |||
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"Wasnt meant for u couple420 ! Touchy touchy" lol not in the slightest! I did say 'if'! I used happy smileys and everything! | |||
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"I'm in a happy ish relationship, but with very little sex involved, which I find frustrating, now I state on my profile that I'm in a relationship but my profile is single male, what's your thoughts? I would not meat you. You are cheating. You also seem to be using you lack of sex with your partner as an excuse to cheat. Either end the relationship or try and make it work. Find out why she does not want sex often. I agree . We should all respect what we have at home and think how it makes the other half feel. I have been playing away on here and there is no excuse for it. I want to experiment and try new thing that wife ain't willing to do.....but at the end of the day she is worth that sacrifice. I count my behaviour as a selfish immature action that needs be corrected . I want to play on this site I don't need to. (I'll be taking my own advise soon and deleting this account ) Sake man...ye don't need to beat yer'sel up over it, just tell yer mrs you're not happy and find a compromise that makes both of you happy...don't you trust her to understand and support you? " We have spoke about stuff.... its one of those things where we couldn't and still have a relationship ..... I know what I should do then I see your profile and all I think of now is getting hold of you lol | |||
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" which is why there is no place in swinging for cheating, they are 2 very different things." Using your definitions and views on swinging which doesn't make it factual I'm afraid. Lots of people have different views on this. Your view, like mine is just an opinion not a fact! | |||
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"I once heard "women can fake orgasms but men can fake whole relationships". We pretty much assumed all single males who could not accommodate were not really single." You can't accomodate and you're a couple. Whats your excuse? I'm willing to bet its the same reason as a huge number of single guys and women can't or won't accomodate i.e. kids, lodger / flatmate, bad experience with people coming to their house etc. I've had mets where you can just tell one half of the couple was only doing to please the other half (I made my excuses and left THAT one!), women who were actually married etc, there are a LOT of people on here with things to hide! | |||
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"slightly different things really arent they, cheating and telling family about sexlife, how you can even compare the two is beyond me. the thing is this is a swinging site, swinging means to enjoy nsa with whoever you want, but if a person is cheating its not nsa as there are strings there. in a couple its about exploring fantasies, in an honest and trustworthy way, if a person is cheating then they arent honest or trustworthy. it is not about just getting your hole and willingly/unwillingly putting peoples feelings at risk and putting swingers at risk of a cheated spouse contacting/visiting them. its not a chip on peoples shoulders its the truth and no matter how you try to justify it or what circumstances there is nothing that makes cheating right. which is why there is no place in swinging for cheating, they are 2 very different things." Just playing devils advocate here for a minute but I've seen your views on cheating on a number of threads before and so I'm well aware of what you think of cheating however surely if someone had a traditional marriage with traditional vows, wouldn't the very fact that the 'forsake all others' vow didn't have a additional part that said 'unless you want to swap partner through a swingers sex site then its ok', mean that anyone that didn't forsake all others would be cheating on their wife / husband? Many of the online definitions of swinging state that its considered a 'non-monogamous' activity but surely monogamy is one of the most highly prized elements of being married? I'm not married and never have been so I don't know but it struck me as odd that married couples who are vehemently against people on here who are cheating, could be accused of the very same thing, depending on which vows they recited at their wedding. | |||
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"slightly different things really arent they, cheating and telling family about sexlife, how you can even compare the two is beyond me. the thing is this is a swinging site, swinging means to enjoy nsa with whoever you want, but if a person is cheating its not nsa as there are strings there. in a couple its about exploring fantasies, in an honest and trustworthy way, if a person is cheating then they arent honest or trustworthy. it is not about just getting your hole and willingly/unwillingly putting peoples feelings at risk and putting swingers at risk of a cheated spouse contacting/visiting them. its not a chip on peoples shoulders its the truth and no matter how you try to justify it or what circumstances there is nothing that makes cheating right. which is why there is no place in swinging for cheating, they are 2 very different things. Just playing devils advocate here for a minute but I've seen your views on cheating on a number of threads before and so I'm well aware of what you think of cheating however surely if someone had a traditional marriage with traditional vows, wouldn't the very fact that the 'forsake all others' vow didn't have a additional part that said 'unless you want to swap partner through a swingers sex site then its ok', mean that anyone that didn't forsake all others would be cheating on their wife / husband? Many of the online definitions of swinging state that its considered a 'non-monogamous' activity but surely monogamy is one of the most highly prized elements of being married? I'm not married and never have been so I don't know but it struck me as odd that married couples who are vehemently against people on here who are cheating, could be accused of the very same thing, depending on which vows they recited at their wedding." i have explained this further up.. forsaking all others means anyone who would break up the marriage!! whether its family, friends or by cheating. so sleeping with another person with your partners consent isnt going to break the marriage up and therefore noone needs forsaking | |||
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"Me thinks there some insecure people on here who are trying to preach morality to the masses ! Usually these people have been hurt by cheating and thus given them there chip on the shoulders where cheating is concerned ! This should be a place where everyone can play without prejudice ! Leave your views and concerns private and let others have fun ! There business is there business . Im sure the cpls preaching on here dont tell there loved ones " your mother was gangbanged lastnite whilst daddy photographed it " do they ... " if someone starts a thread on the subject of cheating then everyone is allowed to view their opinions.. simple really. i dont like cheating but i certainly have never been cheated on that i know of! | |||
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"Married for twenty years, my wife is disabled. It's been ten years since we had full sex, four years since we had any real intimacy. To be perfectly honest, if she wasn't so ill I'd have left years ago but what kind of man walks out on a disabled woman? I'm her husband, her carer and her friend and just as I couldn't break her heart by leaving, I couldn't hurt her by rubbing her nose in her inability to be a wife for me. I don't meet often and I'm very choosy who I do meet, but it's a pressure relief valve that helps relieve the stress in a dysfunctional relationship and possibly keeps us together. Go ahead, judge me. Am I a bad man? Hardly her fault she ended up with a disabilty As I said earlier you live by your commitments you make! If my son was disabled and I could never have sex again It would be no problem cos he is way more important than getting my leg over! In sickness and health Our children are not the issue here .. The guy has a wife who is disabled , not a child .. A big difference I would say " how is it a big difference? is a wife not a commitment and responsibility the same as a child? you choose to have a child and you choose to have a wife.. both decisions should be made for a lifelong commitment.. not much different to me wife = family children = family | |||
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"cheating is doing an act without your partners knowledge that will knowingly hurt them, which funnily enough is the exact opposite of swinging, which is why the two things (cheating) and (swinging) have absolutely no part within each other." . Got to agree with you there. Everyone I know who has cheated on their partners have been found out eventually. Why would anyone want to be part of the inevitable mud slinging. | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far......" not much you could do is there | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far......" Surely you mean 'knowingly play with marrieds' because the vast majority of times its happened to me, I had no idea they were attached. If the guy in question has chosen to lie to both his partner AND me, there's not much I can do about it apart from not meet again. | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat." Doesn't it also say forsaking all others!!! | |||
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"I take the single to mean your swinging as a single and not the two of you. After all it's not a dating site. Maybe there should be a naughty boy/girl I'm doing it without my partner knowing category " Im sorry but there is NOTHING naughty about cheating on someone.....swinging is NOT about cheating of any sort in my opinion.... Have you ever witness the fallout when someone finds out about the cheating??? | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far......" I think all they could do was head down the hospital to get their faces realigned | |||
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"cheating is wrong in any circumstances, im not been judgmental im speaking the truth, when you get married its til death us do part, if circumstances mean that you can no longer have sex, then you learn to see to yoursef, thereis no reason or circumstance that makes it right to cheat. Doesn't it also say forsaking all others!!!" Jez read the whole thread! Forsaking all others who will break the marriage up! Certainly doesn't mean forsake ALL others or you would have no friends or contact with anyone The foresaking part was also put in there so people would no longer live with their parents and would make sure they lived together as one | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far...... I think all they could do was head down the hospital to get their faces realigned " in a sense that is why I don't see the risk of knowingly playing with people who are playing away without consent.... there is a sense of "bulletproofness" about it... arrogance in the fact they think they will never get caught | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far...... I think all they could do was head down the hospital to get their faces realigned in a sense that is why I don't see the risk of knowingly playing with people who are playing away without consent.... there is a sense of "bulletproofness" about it... arrogance in the fact they think they will never get caught" i think alot has to do with them being so self centred they truely cannot understand how it could be their fault.. cos they have the inibility to consider others | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far...... I think all they could do was head down the hospital to get their faces realigned " I cant imagine the type of married man i meet, would have a wife who behaved like that. | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you " what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you " your right each to their own and each to thei rown opinion! i have gone to the church of england website and found the meaning of foresaking all others and i can guarantee if i ask my vicar he will state that as long as nothign is breaking the marriage up then what happens in the marriage is up to them. marriage is about god bringing 2 people together as one, no lies, no dishonesty and working together as one.. Cheating hardly falls under that catergory, but swinging couples do. there is no definite rules to swinging.. some say its couples only, some say single people can do it.. some do soft and define the rules of soft between themselves.. some say its vanilla some say it should have kinks.. | |||
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"can i ask a genuine question of those who play with marrieds without consent.... if their partner was staring you in the face, hurt and angry confronting you..... What would you do????? as much as we hear the bluster and bravado on here... what honestly would you? because the "no my fault, not my issue" line I don't think would go very far...... I think all they could do was head down the hospital to get their faces realigned I cant imagine the type of married man i meet, would have a wife who behaved like that." pretty ignorant then really its amazing how hurt can make a person do things you never thought they could! | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. " But in some people's eyes all those who swing are cheats. Everyone has different perceptions this should be a site of open minded individuals to cover all tastes and fetishes and whilst everyone is entitled to an opinion that doesn't excuse outright damnation. If you don't agree move on | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. But in some people's eyes all those who swing are cheats. Everyone has different perceptions this should be a site of open minded individuals to cover all tastes and fetishes and whilst everyone is entitled to an opinion that doesn't excuse outright damnation. If you don't agree move on " the OP ended with "whats your thoughts?" i gave my thoughts and now being told i should move on cos my thoughts dont agree with yours?? yh right lol | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. But in some people's eyes all those who swing are cheats. Everyone has different perceptions this should be a site of open minded individuals to cover all tastes and fetishes and whilst everyone is entitled to an opinion that doesn't excuse outright damnation. If you don't agree move on " maybe someone would like to explain how a swinger is a cheat? a cheat is someone who does something for personal gain regardless of the feelings of others.. whether its cheating in a relationship or cheating at a game or cheating someone out of their belongings.. how is a swinger with consent cheating there partner? explain please | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. But in some people's eyes all those who swing are cheats. Everyone has different perceptions this should be a site of open minded individuals to cover all tastes and fetishes and whilst everyone is entitled to an opinion that doesn't excuse outright damnation. If you don't agree move on the OP ended with "whats your thoughts?" i gave my thoughts and now being told i should move on cos my thoughts dont agree with yours?? yh right lol" Read to mean thoughts on a single profile as apposed to couple and how can you say your thoughts don't agree with ours when we haven't said if we agree or not ??? | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. But in some people's eyes all those who swing are cheats. Everyone has different perceptions this should be a site of open minded individuals to cover all tastes and fetishes and whilst everyone is entitled to an opinion that doesn't excuse outright damnation. If you don't agree move on the OP ended with "whats your thoughts?" i gave my thoughts and now being told i should move on cos my thoughts dont agree with yours?? yh right lol Read to mean thoughts on a single profile as apposed to couple and how can you say your thoughts don't agree with ours when we haven't said if we agree or not ???" but you said if you dont agree dont comment.. and thats was to the statement "cheats deserve all they get" so that would indicate you saying that if you dont liek cheating then dont comment | |||
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"definition of a cheat = Noun A person who behaves dishonestly in order to gain an advantage. how is a swinger being dishonest within their relationship and commitment to their partner?" Didn't say it has to make sense please feel free to go in to any church synagog temple and ask the priest,rabbi,imam or any other religious leader their opinions on swinging | |||
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"if my hubby cheated on me i wouldnt get angry with the other woman, i might get angry with him though, also i might wonder why he did it and if it may have been partly my fault. " well not everyone sees things the way you do.. plenty will see it as the woman sticking her 2 fingers up at the wife and family. | |||
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"As always will state each to their own. It does seem however that people have a very narrow mind when it comes to their own opinions. Marriage vows = are not open to interpretation unless you wrote your own ask any padre victor priest swinging is not acceptable under such vows. Cheating and swinging are totally separate somebody engages in the lifestyle with or with out partners consent is still a swinger same as a cheat is a cheat. As for honesty how far does that go do we all tell prospective meets all about our private life away from the scene (ex partners,children,jobs,number of sexual partners, mental disorders) ???? Again each to their own you either do or don't. Please don't condem those that choose different from you what a load of tosh, a cheat is a cheat and they deserve all the vitriol coming their way. But in some people's eyes all those who swing are cheats. Everyone has different perceptions this should be a site of open minded individuals to cover all tastes and fetishes and whilst everyone is entitled to an opinion that doesn't excuse outright damnation. If you don't agree move on the OP ended with "whats your thoughts?" i gave my thoughts and now being told i should move on cos my thoughts dont agree with yours?? yh right lol Read to mean thoughts on a single profile as apposed to couple and how can you say your thoughts don't agree with ours when we haven't said if we agree or not ??? but you said if you dont agree dont comment.. and thats was to the statement "cheats deserve all they get" so that would indicate you saying that if you dont liek cheating then dont comment" Again you take one sentence out of context and create your own meaning | |||
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