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might as well leave!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hi,

I am considering leaving the site. I am getting little to no replies from any women I'm contacting. I am polite, respectful, honest and have pics available. I just don't get whats wrong. The thing is I've done well through ordinary means of meeting women (pubs, clubs etc.) but on this site the self esteem just takes a beating! Lol!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

if your self esteem is suffering it might be as well to leave, its not worth that. Have you tried clubs and socials?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having a very brief profile with "I'm new" after over a year on site seriously won't be helping!

You get out what you put in!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the amount of effort you've put into your profile is anything to go by, you won't have much luck! Probably best to just call it a day on here.

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By *llie RoseWoman over a year ago

By the seaside

"Having a very brief profile with "I'm new" after over a year on site seriously won't be helping!

You get out what you put in! "

You mean what you want isn't just served up on a silver platter with an apple stuffed in its mouth? Sod that! If I'm expected to put some effort in to get what I want than I'm off too lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're meeting women by 'conventional' means and(one assumes) getting the amount of sex you want, do you really need to be on here..??

Sites like this are not the be-all and end-all, and the Swinging scene may not be for you. It's just the way it pans out sometimes. Doesn't mean you are a failure, you may just prefer a different route to your goal..?

Ted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't slam the door on the way out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi,

Probably best you go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi Micheal

Having just looked at you, its hard to know why really s your profile is short i agree but its nice and simple and a good mug shot to got with it... stick at it fella and try getting more involved here in FORUMS

Jon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My profile looked that when I joined if your approach does not work try something diffrent.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple over a year ago

notts

it is not instashag nor are the people on here desperate to get sex by any means, we are not nymphos and we dont do it for money..... most are on here to enhance what is probably an already great sex life.

so, if you want to join in with this lifestyle, then you need to put in more effort. just because you have a profile on here don't mean people will be beating your door down for sex on demand.

so our advice to you is, put more on your profile, tell us something about yourself, your likes, dislikes, what your looking for and what you hope to get out of the site. maybe put some humour in your profile and another pic or 2, maybe a body shot or a bum shot.

sell yourself ! ! !

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By *am123Man over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"hi,

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By *arewithmeMan over a year ago

Craven Arms

I wish all the men that didn't get replies would leave, then i'd be here with just a few others men to receive replies then we could be the ones to have the fun...............

Its the same for all of us, if you don't like no replies, leave, or stick at it like most and be positive and stop moaning

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

Have you tried cock pics with toy dinosaurs?

That usually works.

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By *am123Man over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Have you tried cock pics with toy dinosaurs?

That usually works."
also try the sky remote or ketchup bottle next to your cock, so we can tell the size that is always popular with the ladeeeeees

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair , a year on the site , no meets and only two friends ....I would call it a day x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair , a year on the site , no meets and only two friends ....I would call it a day x"

As your profile says 'you love meeting newbies' maybe you could invite the OP down and pop his swinging cherry?

..you know, save our souls one at a time....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair , a year on the site , no meets and only two friends ....I would call it a day x"
That sounds like my life before coming in here lol

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By *tomComMan over a year ago

Wellingborough

"hi,

Why are you telling people you are considering leaving? What was you expecting from this site?

Is it a case of "Screw you guys, I am going home!" ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wish all the men that didn't get replies would leave, then i'd be here with just a few others men to receive replies then we could be the ones to have the fun...............

Its the same for all of us, if you don't like no replies, leave, or stick at it like most and be positive and stop moaning"

It wouldn't make a difference to any blokes really. The men who get boots galore would still be having the same joy. And if it was only the blokes who got no replies who left then its not like you'd get a share of their none existent nazzams.

Though it would make a positive difference to women and couples as their inboxes wouldn't be so eternally rammed with shite and all the blokes left would be decent specimens.

Therefore I imagine they'd welcome this phenomenon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always say effort in = what you get out.

Spent ages on your profile did you?

Made yourself stand out?

Joined in the banter and got known?

Participated in socials?

Or sat there sending messages shorter than your profile? Perving pics and expecting women to fall on your lap?

Only you know the answer....

Sorry if this has been said, I skipped to a reply without reading the thread

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By *arewithmeMan over a year ago

Craven Arms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ouch to be a single guy on this site.

Think of it this way a woman on here has the pick of the crop. She's in demand from nearly every male on here.

Why should she pick you? What have you done to stand out from the no doubt hundred of emails she gets daily?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was thinking of posting a thread but not bothering now .. You lot dont suffer fools lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi,

well u must leave so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ta ra!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the replies. Some good reasonable and funny but others just enforced a few views I already had. I have recieved a few encouraging PM's too which was nice.

My expectation wasn't instant gratification. I can get that from simply clicking on a video site, booking an escort or taking a chance at the local meat market.

Yes, the profile is short. Why? I am not going to write a thesis on sex. A profile with 20 odd paragraphs of text is time consuming and daunting for the reader.

Reading the profiles that do, they normally list a dozen generic negative views of single men anyway.

At best they come across as patronising or a history of negative experiences. You could argue some are just aggressive.

Mind you, I am a single male after all. Surely its OK to assume I'll also be some desperate, sex starved ignoramus you only have to ignore?

In terms of standing out, I wouldn't cartwheel across a bar with a rose in my mouth to seek out a woman in real life so why fake it here? Should I pretend I am not here just for sex or some other bullshit? Is that the popular choice? haha.

Its a shame there is such a sweeping generalization of single males before anyone actually gets to know an individual person.

Yes, I have participated in the chat rooms so not just browsing profiles but I can only describe that as a clique.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mikko - you are trying to sell sand in the desert as a male on here. Truth be told pal, you probably could not sell water with your profile.

If you want meets you must improve you own site as well as put effort into communications with others.

good luck whatever you choose to do.

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By *oulou45Woman over a year ago

Bucks

"Thanks for the replies. Some good reasonable and funny but others just enforced a few views I already had. I have recieved a few encouraging PM's too which was nice.

My expectation wasn't instant gratification. I can get that from simply clicking on a video site, booking an escort or taking a chance at the local meat market.

Yes, the profile is short. Why? I am not going to write a thesis on sex. A profile with 20 odd paragraphs of text is time consuming and daunting for the reader.

Reading the profiles that do, they normally list a dozen generic negative views of single men anyway.

At best they come across as patronising or a history of negative experiences. You could argue some are just aggressive.

Mind you, I am a single male after all. Surely its OK to assume I'll also be some desperate, sex starved ignoramus you only have to ignore?

Its a shame there is such a sweeping generalization of single males before anyone actually gets to know an individual person.

Yes, I have participated in the chat rooms so not just browsing profiles but I can only describe that as a clique.

"
use this as your profile lol. Mine is probably shorter than yours.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

ok, bye bye

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead