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How many verifications are enough?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
You have enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort
exactly this.....who gives a damn???
this lol  "
Ive lost out on meets...but to be honest..really past caring, who or when how much,where whatever
I love the verifications, mostly they reflect how the meet was(in whatever capacity it was)..I'm passed the being 'genuine' stage...so now its what others like to write about me...and yes..I could give my password out and show the bad verifies..if there was any(ppl tend not to bother verifying really if thats the case lol)
some people are a buit thick mind..they see every verify as being someone uve shagged....perhaps they dont understand some of the social aspects of the scene... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think they are good and bad depending on the person reading them,i certainly do not want to shag someone who has had hundreds of meets on here and yet theres others who love it,also theres a certain type of fabber who emails people saying they were reccommended by one of your verifications...sad wankers usually |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I think it astonishing that in the 21st century and on a site like this anyone would consider a woman to be a slapper.
I show all veris. Any guy who is too 'precious' to handle that is not the type I would meet. I'm not here to be judged. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will show all mine altho I had 2 block 1 guy cos he was getting nasty cos I had met the same guy 3 times like it was anything 2 do with him "
sorta pointless having the same verification so near each other really...
not that it is anyones business..but it still is rather futile, unless there was something especially standoutable..like u's had a shag one day..then attended a party the next |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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sorta pointless having the same verification so near each other really...
not that it is anyones business..but it still is rather futile, unless there was something especially standoutable..like u's had a shag one day..then attended a party the next"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to "
why would anyone on here worry about being promiscuous. |
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"If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to
why would anyone on here worry about being promiscuous. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive hidden mine as i got some comments on a few and someone who had left one was mailed for an opinion on me lol
I will just send a couple if anyone asks for them but otherwise its my business...if there are dozens noone will read them all a couple is enough to get an idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've a few I'm happy with now, any new ones I get I will drop the oldest one off the profile. Just so new people interesred on me know I'm current, so to speak.
For example, I think one verification from 2 years ago proves nothing. You could have changed out of all proportion in that time. |
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I publish the ones I like, that make me blush and giggle. If it's a 'met at a social nice girl' I don't really bother, though I will thank the person for it. I agree with others re: promiscuity, as long as you don't have 50 veris from a week saying how they all barebacked you I wouldn't think it's anyone's business |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a Swingers sex dating/meeting site and i think if someone writes nice things about your meet, why shouldn't we display them regardless of how many  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ps;
I guess some might see me as a Bi male tart and dont care what others think of me; im only concerned what the people i meet think ...the others can take a run and jump lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I DO read VERIs BUT two profiles I viewed had over 100 each!!! I thort that was unnecessarilly excessive posting em all. Very few people would bother reading 100 - it comes over as 'look how popular we are n all the sex we're having ' . They weren't social VERIs but shag VERIs
Surely it makes sense to post a sensible number that can b read but not go OTT - still woteva floats ya boat I guess  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
Is one not enough and the rest hidden so you can show whoever may be interested a few more if they do work on the verification system and have any doubts?
We dont ask for verifications from other couples we meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to
why would anyone on here worry about being promiscuous. "
I've heard it all now!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I DO read VERIs BUT two profiles I viewed had over 100 each!!! I thort that was unnecessarilly excessive posting em all. Very few people would bother reading 100 - it comes over as 'look how popular we are n all the sex we're having ' . They weren't social VERIs but shag VERIs
Surely it makes sense to post a sensible number that can b read but not go OTT - still woteva floats ya boat I guess "
to be honest I can't be bothered to go through and hide my old ones... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its better just to display your recent ones, say the last 6 months or so...
Whats the point in showing veris for 3 plus years ago, waste of time as ppl change so quickly!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I use them as a filter - if anyone tells me I have to many I won't meet that person. It's my profile. I'll do what I want with it.
HOWEVER!!
I do believe that people won't scroll for ever so have hidden any more than a year or so old. I know they are read because some of the guys I meet tell me that they read them. |
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One.
Surely all you need is for someone to have verified that you're a genuine person?
I like discretion and I don't need to read the ins and outs (ooer) of other people's sex lives on their profiles. I have a mind of my own and can decide for myself whether I'm going to meet someone or not. I don't need references.
All too often the content of verifications can just as easily put me off meeting someone. If they're there I'll read them and follow the trail. More for my own amusement than anything else.
As everything goes, each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The other thing with veri's that i have found is that when you get a good one - every man and his dog go knocking on the door of the person who gave it asking if they can have some sex......now i know we all deal with the dickheads in our own ways ; but sometimes its annoying and can prevent the genuine veri's being posted - i have two couples and both will not post veri's for that reason |
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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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Well I'm always suspicious of people with only one or two verifs especially if other parts of the profile don't ring true. Funny how many people with very few vers are verified by others with just one or two the word fake springs to mind..
That said I know a lot of the real active swingers on here do a verification cull now and then to avoid some of the points above.. Maybe lose some of your older ones but keep the more recent? |
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I don't show mine because who I've fucked is my business. I'm happy to give verifications to people I've met but it would never be graphic. The whole point of a verification system is to show someone is genuine. It shouldn't be a reference. Or maybe that's what people want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort
exactly this.....who gives a damn???
this lol
Ive lost out on meets...but to be honest..really past caring, who or when how much,where whatever
I love the verifications, mostly they reflect how the meet was(in whatever capacity it was)..I'm passed the being 'genuine' stage...so now its what others like to write about me...and yes..I could give my password out and show the bad verifies..if there was any(ppl tend not to bother verifying really if thats the case lol)
some people are a buit thick mind..they see every verify as being someone uve shagged....perhaps they dont understand some of the social aspects of the scene..."
I think it's a bit like reading profiles, some people don't actually read them to find out if it was a social meet or a shag meet...if only they would read things before they comment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
It varies depending on who is reading your profile. I've had ladies say over 3 veris marks out a slapper or that it makes me the male equivalent.
Likewise I've had ladies contact me based on my having more than this as it marks me out as having something that makes lots of women want to sleep with me.
My own personal opinion is similar to Fucktographer's near the top. I like to read through my veris as then I can happily reminisce on damn good times!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really think people should be able to put what they like or show how ever many verifications they like. You will always find those who don't like but then again they will probably be the type of people you don't want to meet anyway. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.
It varies depending on who is reading your profile. I've had ladies say over 3 veris marks out a slapper or that it makes me the male equivalent.
Likewise I've had ladies contact me based on my having more than this as it marks me out as having something that makes lots of women want to sleep with me.
My own personal opinion is similar to Fucktographer's near the top. I like to read through my veris as then I can happily reminisce on damn good times! "
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I really think people should be able to put what they like or show how ever many verifications they like. You will always find those who don't like but then again they will probably be the type of people you don't want to meet anyway. "
Precisely. |
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
You got two veris on the same day !! Impressive . I think the ideal number is three . I have two , can anyone help me ?? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.
You got two veris on the same day !! Impressive . I think the ideal number is three . I have two , can anyone help me ?? "
It is possible to end up with multiple veris on the same day but have only had one meet that day - some people can take a while to send a veri. Sometimes I have verified people when they returned to the site after deleting a previous profile and they re-sent one to me. Makes it look like you have met more than one in a day but may not be the case. |
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"I really think people should be able to put what they like or show how ever many verifications they like. You will always find those who don't like but then again they will probably be the type of people you don't want to meet anyway. "
That pretty much hits the nail on the head... from both sides. |
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Do what pleases you as you can't please everyone so why try? |
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"I DO read VERIs BUT two profiles I viewed had over 100 each!!! I thort that was unnecessarilly excessive posting em all. Very few people would bother reading 100 - it comes over as 'look how popular we are n all the sex we're having ' . They weren't social VERIs but shag VERIs
Surely it makes sense to post a sensible number that can b read but not go OTT - still woteva floats ya boat I guess
to be honest I can't be bothered to go through and hide my old ones... "
And you don't have to. Since when did swinging become about so much rules? Boring! I say people should mind their own business!! If it bothers them, they shouldn't email that person, period!! |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.
You got two veris on the same day !! Impressive . I think the ideal number is three . I have two , can anyone help me ?? "
Think my record is 7 from the same event...I show all mine, if folk want to read them, fair enough, if not, also fair enough |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Everyone has so many opinions on this. I have been through many stages of thought now.
Initially when I joined I was put off by lots of verifications. But that was a confidence issue really, just thought I would not measure up.
Then I started using them to see what the guy had wrote. Rather than what was wrote about them. So liked seeing lots of them. Also showed that they had experience.
Now I see verifications just as what they are meant to be. They verify the person is real. The number makes absolutely no difference to me. If I like the man he could have 1 or 100. Who cares!
I only hide mine because of my wee stalker.
We are a fickle bunch aren't we? You really cannot please all if the people all of the time can you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone has so many opinions on this. I have been through many stages of thought now.
Initially when I joined I was put off by lots of verifications. But that was a confidence issue really, just thought I would not measure up.
Then I started using them to see what the guy had wrote. Rather than what was wrote about them. So liked seeing lots of them. Also showed that they had experience.
Now I see verifications just as what they are meant to be. They verify the person is real. The number makes absolutely no difference to me. If I like the man he could have 1 or 100. Who cares!
I only hide mine because of my wee stalker.
We are a fickle bunch aren't we? You really cannot please all if the people all of the time can you?"
Perhaps there is an argument to b made then that people could post say 20 max of their favourite VERIs n then a little box where u can just display number of meets u have had. Cos if u get to 500 VERIs NO ONE is gonna b reading all if dem! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
not bothered if you have 100 or none Aslong as the person meets your requirements go for it, as we have said before yet to see a bad verification and we don't for 1 min think everyone's encounter have always been good
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By (user no longer on site)
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First two weeks on here I had 3 meets (like ya do wen ya 'fresh' meat! ) . I never thort to ask for verifications BUT then in fourth meet the couple said we nearly didn't contact u cos u had no verifications - I pooh poohed it saying 'oh I don't need everyone knowing who I been wiv ' but they convinced me otherwise! So now I do sort verifications. where possible - from 32 meets I've posted up 13 - of course ya can't ALWAYS get a verification, particularly from ahem 'straight' guys lol   |
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