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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know what you are all going to say. Not her again going on about meets lol. Well, yes me again. I just want to know are there any genuine guys out there who definately want to meet and if they got to cancel have a sensible genuine reason, but who will also re-arrange at time of cancelling? Im not the only female out there who feels this way I know. Its not only single guys who get the problem, we do too. Oh and for those who dont know, Im married but playing without OH's knowledge. |
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I'm a single guy and I get cancelled on as well, and as I'm not looking to meet married men it can't be just them!
It is annoying as because I only ever agree to meet when I know I'm free so don't cancel, even if that does limit availability sometimes |
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"I'm a single guy and I get cancelled on as well, and as I'm not looking to meet married men it can't be just them!
It is annoying as because I only ever agree to meet when I know I'm free so don't cancel, even if that does limit availability sometimes "
I always said I wouldnt meet married men as I felt it would complicate things more but I cant understand why it feels to me that single guys have complications of the same level. I can only meet when im free really but some of my veris are meets where ive just taken the risk and gone for it. Ive never cancelled, whats the point in me making a meet appointment if im going to cancel. would have to be a very good reason for me to |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know what you are all going to say. Not her again going on about meets lol. Well, yes me again. I just want to know are there any genuine guys out there who definately want to meet and if they got to cancel have a sensible genuine reason, but who will also re-arrange at time of cancelling? Im not the only female out there who feels this way I know. Its not only single guys who get the problem, we do too. Oh and for those who dont know, Im married but playing without OH's knowledge."
i know what you mean.i have that too.then you get the ones who expect to meet immediately,and shag like rabbits.
remember its their loss not yours.we have more men to choose from than they have ladies.xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out!"
bend over...take it ..we're done... now how hard was that?...er..the meet I mean |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out!
bend over...take it ..we're done... now how hard was that?...er..the meet I mean"
LOL I know you're kidding (at least I hope you are  ) but I would actually prefer a short intense meet, so if they've chickened out because they think I'm going to get clingy then they're missing out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been stood up twice in the last three weeks and it's really really annoying. At least the first one had the decency to let me know he was held up [when he was 10 minutes late]. The one last week didn't log on for three days but he's been on-line last two days and hasn't even bothered to make an excuse let alone apologise!  Single men complain but it's not easy being a single woman on here either!! |
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"I'm a single guy and I get cancelled on as well, and as I'm not looking to meet married men it can't be just them!
It is annoying as because I only ever agree to meet when I know I'm free so don't cancel, even if that does limit availability sometimes I always said I wouldnt meet married men as I felt it would complicate things more but I cant understand why it feels to me that single guys have complications of the same level. I can only meet when im free really but some of my veris are meets where ive just taken the risk and gone for it. Ive never cancelled, whats the point in me making a meet appointment if im going to cancel. would have to be a very good reason for me to"
I think it's just a reflection that single guys have outside FAB lives too, family, work etc
Some people on here thing single guys just sit on their own in a dingy flat waiting for a meet on FAB to materialise! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been stood up twice in the last three weeks and it's really really annoying. At least the first one had the decency to let me know he was held up [when he was 10 minutes late]. The one last week didn't log on for three days but he's been on-line last two days and hasn't even bothered to make an excuse let alone apologise! Single men complain but it's not easy being a single woman on here either!!"
I report no shows. I particularly liked the one who didn't show up, even though we had each others mobile number so he could have texted me, then messaged me a couple of weeks later to arrange a meet as if we'd not even spoken before. I have a bad memory but that takes the whole bakery! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out!
bend over...take it ..we're done... now how hard was that?...er..the meet I mean
LOL I know you're kidding (at least I hope you are ) but I would actually prefer a short intense meet, so if they've chickened out because they think I'm going to get clingy then they're missing out."
Define short intense meet? I had, once we got there, a very short 5 min fuck, not intense and i got nothing out of it, he is just a user. I havent named names or described him so hopefully I wont get told off  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just love the guys who text saying they have some spare time and shall we meet in about an hour? Ermmm no thanks lol. "
I could do that this afternoon? lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out!
bend over...take it ..we're done... now how hard was that?...er..the meet I mean
LOL I know you're kidding (at least I hope you are ) but I would actually prefer a short intense meet, so if they've chickened out because they think I'm going to get clingy then they're missing out.Define short intense meet? I had, once we got there, a very short 5 min fuck, not intense and i got nothing out of it, he is just a user. I havent named names or described him so hopefully I wont get told off "
5mins?-i'd still be licking ur pie by that time ffs lol |
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I'd even like the chance to cancel a meet !! ( I've not ever cancelled ). It's bloody hard for a single guy to get a meet so I would never waste the opportunity !! If only I could actualy get a meet it would've great.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a single guy and I get cancelled on as well, and as I'm not looking to meet married men it can't be just them!
It is annoying as because I only ever agree to meet when I know I'm free so don't cancel, even if that does limit availability sometimes I always said I wouldnt meet married men as I felt it would complicate things more but I cant understand why it feels to me that single guys have complications of the same level. I can only meet when im free really but some of my veris are meets where ive just taken the risk and gone for it. Ive never cancelled, whats the point in me making a meet appointment if im going to cancel. would have to be a very good reason for me to
I think it's just a reflection that single guys have outside FAB lives too, family, work etc
Some people on here thing single guys just sit on their own in a dingy flat waiting for a meet on FAB to materialise!"
I dont think that but some single guys on here do give the others a bad name. am i correct? |
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I can't speak for other males but I work 6 x12hour shifts per week at the moment and at the drop of a hat new business had to be tendered for which had me travelling from Nottingham down to Billinghurst in the South of the country, I managed to arrange a meet in Enfield with a regular friend then drove all the way up to Chester but C & Myself were so tired we didn't go to the club as planned and made sure that anyone we said we might meet knew. But in the week I was asked to meet on both Thursday by a couple and Friday by a single woman near to where I live.... What I didn't do was say yes to them and hope for the best but will arrange to meet another time.
But work as an on call manager can have me changing shifts or going in to deal with problems at short notice , I have even had to cancel holidays due to new contract demands from clients. But luckily so far only a broken fan belt slowed me down ....even in the snow I arrived in my 4x4. But I have had people cancel on me too so it does go both ways...such is life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out!
bend over...take it ..we're done... now how hard was that?...er..the meet I mean
LOL I know you're kidding (at least I hope you are ) but I would actually prefer a short intense meet, so if they've chickened out because they think I'm going to get clingy then they're missing out.Define short intense meet? I had, once we got there, a very short 5 min fuck, not intense and i got nothing out of it, he is just a user. I havent named names or described him so hopefully I wont get told off
5mins?-i'd still be licking ur pie by that time ffs lol"
Oh, um well my pie as you put it would be grateful if you were closer |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am lost, did he turn up and only give 5 mins"
He picked me up, we drove hour and half trying to find somewhere off the beaten track so was private, I got a quick kiss and a grope through my top and bra, then back of car and 5 minute fuck. so yes he did. No fun for me, didnt even get very wet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single guy and I get cancelled on as well, and as I'm not looking to meet married men it can't be just them!
It is annoying as because I only ever agree to meet when I know I'm free so don't cancel, even if that does limit availability sometimes I always said I wouldnt meet married men as I felt it would complicate things more but I cant understand why it feels to me that single guys have complications of the same level. I can only meet when im free really but some of my veris are meets where ive just taken the risk and gone for it. Ive never cancelled, whats the point in me making a meet appointment if im going to cancel. would have to be a very good reason for me to
I think it's just a reflection that single guys have outside FAB lives too, family, work etc
Some people on here thing single guys just sit on their own in a dingy flat waiting for a meet on FAB to materialise!I dont think that but some single guys on here do give the others a bad name. am i correct?"
 couldn't agree more, I speak to a few women on here and it baffles me some off the messages they get off men abusive when turned down for example, no wonder some single men struggle as more than likely all probably painted with same brush. Think I should try and arrange a meet myself that's if I ever can drag myself off forums lol  |
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"I can't speak for other males but I work 6 x12hour shifts per week at the moment and at the drop of a hat new business had to be tendered for which had me travelling from Nottingham down to Billinghurst in the South of the country, I managed to arrange a meet in Enfield with a regular friend then drove all the way up to Chester but C & Myself were so tired we didn't go to the club as planned and made sure that anyone we said we might meet knew. But in the week I was asked to meet on both Thursday by a couple and Friday by a single woman near to where I live.... What I didn't do was say yes to them and hope for the best but will arrange to meet another time.
But work as an on call manager can have me changing shifts or going in to deal with problems at short notice , I have even had to cancel holidays due to new contract demands from clients. But luckily so far only a broken fan belt slowed me down ....even in the snow I arrived in my 4x4. But I have had people cancel on me too so it does go both ways...such is life"
I can understand what you are saying about work hrs as I can be at work for 30+ hrs at a time. I have had to cancel a few meets due to work. I always try to rearrange. I've been lucky as have been on fabs over 2 yrs and never had a no show, but would be vexed if it happend and I didn't get a message to let me know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples "
Anytime babe's  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples
Anytime babe's "
just let me know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples
Anytime babe's just let me know "
Now really need a good seeing too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples
Anytime babe's just let me know "
Now really need a good seeing too
Tried to message you but cant x |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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remember its their loss not yours.we have more men to choose from than they have ladies.xxx"
not sure that it was his loss, he had sex and went home
communication is key to ensuring both parties are satisfied |
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Need to add,the above said with no negativity toward you Sgirl x your profile reads well and seems openmined x I would suggest there is a tell for most shall we say players x maybe your preference clouds yourjudgmentx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples "
Could do with a few men like you down my way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would like to suggest,it appears the problem is your selection process not single men per se x
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I just state what my preferences are, I dont message guys or select them. I have adjusted my preferences quite a bit since I joined. Met some different types of men, bodyshape and personalities. Any suggestions as to what I might change and I will listen to them too. |
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I think this thread shows that finding a genuine and decent meet can be a struggle for any member of fab despite gender, sexual orientation or relationship status. I do think the longer you're on the site the wiser you get but there are always gonna be those who just don't have the backbone to admit they've changed their mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples Could do with a few men like you down my way "
I would love to visit Southampton some time, I hear the scenery is breathtaking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The way I see it is if I want to get the most out of being on here then I will put in the effort and stay true to my word, it seems to be working for me so far and if I have arranged to meet someone then I will meet them
Simples
Anytime babe's just let me know
Now really need a good seeing too
Tried to message you but cant x "
tweaked my filters just for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know what you are all going to say. Not her again going on about meets lol. Well, yes me again. I just want to know are there any genuine guys out there who definately want to meet and if they got to cancel have a sensible genuine reason, but who will also re-arrange at time of cancelling? Im not the only female out there who feels this way I know. Its not only single guys who get the problem, we do too. Oh and for those who dont know, Im married but playing without OH's knowledge."
There are many women who simply do not turn up after confirming!Annoying to say the least...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a shame we can't match up all these serial time wasters...ironically it seems the couples/women who rant on about cancelling on their profiles seems to do the most cancelling!
PS - I say couples/women as I don't look at the guys profiles |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think this thread shows that finding a genuine and decent meet can be a struggle for any member of fab despite gender, sexual orientation or relationship status. I do think the longer you're on the site the wiser you get but there are always gonna be those who just don't have the backbone to admit they've changed their mind. "
Thanks Ellie. Id prefer if they were honest said changed my mind or if they are unsure, then dont arrange at all
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this thread shows that finding a genuine and decent meet can be a struggle for any member of fab despite gender, sexual orientation or relationship status. I do think the longer you're on the site the wiser you get but there are always gonna be those who just don't have the backbone to admit they've changed their mind. "
I totally agree - I'd not mind if someone said they had changed their mind, it happens and can't be helped...I often wonder if people have the same lack of manners in their vanilla life or just think they don't apply when swinging?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive never cancelled. I arrange meets because I want to meet and have some fun. If I get a meet I want to keep it"
That's the best and only reason to arrange a meet I think - it's nice to have some like minded people to let of steam with! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Changing minds happens all the time, here and in our other lives. But on here we have the option mostly of seeing pics of people and if we dont like the look of them then dont chat to them or arrange to meet them. |
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I don't tend to pre arrange meets. How am I to know if I'm going to feel horny or what I'm going to be in the mood for in two weeks on Friday. I prefer to use the meet today option and see who is interested. I'm quite aware that due to being a single woman with no dependents I'm lucky to be that spontaneous. It doesn't always work out but to be honest I'd prefer to go without then settle for something I'm not really in the mood for or let someone down. |
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I've never cancelled a meet but I have turned them down or not been able to meet and people have asked for pics and then not been in contact afterwards (thank the gods for my leonine self-confidence misplaced as it might be) and I have been let down once but apart from those, I've met everyone I said I would.
If I'm available to meet I will but I am aware we are all adults with lives outside fab and kids and 'real life' etc can get in the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't tend to pre arrange meets. How am I to know if I'm going to feel horny or what I'm going to be in the mood for in two weeks on Friday. I prefer to use the meet today option and see who is interested. I'm quite aware that due to being a single woman with no dependents I'm lucky to be that spontaneous. It doesn't always work out but to be honest I'd prefer to go without then settle for something I'm not really in the mood for or let someone down. "
You'll have to let us know on 31/05 what you're in the mood for now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I develop self-confidence due to guys wanting to meet me and the meets ive had, then cancellations come along and it disappears away leaving you feeling like the most awful person on the planet |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
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"I develop self-confidence due to guys wanting to meet me and the meets ive had, then cancellations come along and it disappears away leaving you feeling like the most awful person on the planet"
These timewasters annoy me, even more-so if their actions make people feel less confident or negative about themselves 
When some twat backs out at the last minute it only reflects on them.
But don't you just wish they had a bit of honesty and empathy? Either that or had never agreed to meet in the first place?
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I develop self-confidence due to guys wanting to meet me and the meets ive had, then cancellations come along and it disappears away leaving you feeling like the most awful person on the planet"
I know exactly what you mean.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am lost, did he turn up and only give 5 minsHe picked me up, we drove hour and half trying to find somewhere off the beaten track so was private, I got a quick kiss and a grope through my top and bra, then back of car and 5 minute fuck. so yes he did. No fun for me, didnt even get very wet"
From your profile, I would have spent time getting you wet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am lost, did he turn up and only give 5 minsHe picked me up, we drove hour and half trying to find somewhere off the beaten track so was private, I got a quick kiss and a grope through my top and bra, then back of car and 5 minute fuck. so yes he did. No fun for me, didnt even get very wet
From your profile, I would have spent time getting you wet. "
Thank you. Your profile is good, made me have a little smile. Nice underwear too etc |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"I develop self-confidence due to guys wanting to meet me and the meets ive had, then cancellations come along and it disappears away leaving you feeling like the most awful person on the planet"
I've had a couple of cancellations (with flimsy excuses) and some cancellations with valid excuses (and I've had to cancel myself on occasion, life gets in the way even for singletons); it never does anything to my self-confidence, I tend to chalk it up to experience...not meaning to offend Scorpio, but if I found my self-esteem getting knocked by stuff like that, I'd probably take a break for a while |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would be nice to get a cancellation! I don't get stood up as much as when I first came on the site as I have sussed out that going quiet/ignoring texts is the latest way to say 'I'm not interested'. I don't why they don't just say 'I am sorry, I have changed my mind'.
I know that, as a single female, I stand a higher chance of getting a meet than a man. However its still blimmin' hard work to sort one out!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a faff trying to arrange a meet via the site! That feeling of being on a high because you have at last arranged a meet, then days of wondering if it will actually happen. Getting ready preening pampering making sure you look your best and then comes the big let down, the sorry can't make it, or the silence or the intended meet suddenly leaves the site and for us that gut renching feeling when we have been let down....again!!
After years of going through this over and over I plucked up the courage to visit a club and woohoo!! I've made more friends and had more sexy fun in the last 4 weeks than I've had via the site in months, I should have done it years ago!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am lost, did he turn up and only give 5 minsHe picked me up, we drove hour and half trying to find somewhere off the beaten track so was private, I got a quick kiss and a grope through my top and bra, then back of car and 5 minute fuck. so yes he did. No fun for me, didnt even get very wet
From your profile, I would have spent time getting you wet. "
I sent you a friend request - hope thats ok? |
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over a year ago
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"After years of going through this over and over I plucked up the courage to visit a club and woohoo!! I've made more friends and had more sexy fun in the last 4 weeks than I've had via the site in months, I should have done it years ago!!! "
Clubs are good. Unfortunately the last time I went I got no play at all, although there were lots of lovely people to chat to. If it wasn't for my FB I suspect I would go months without a shag. |
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Clubs are good. Unfortunately the last time I went I got no play at all, although there were lots of lovely people to chat to. If it wasn't for my FB I suspect I would go months without a shag."
I have to admit that not all my club visits have resulted in play, but I can honestly say I have enjoyed every visit and have come home with a smile rather than that gut renching feeling you get when a planned meet goes botty up.
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"I know what you are all going to say. Not her again going on about meets lol. Well, yes me again. I just want to know are there any genuine guys out there who definately want to meet and if they got to cancel have a sensible genuine reason, but who will also re-arrange at time of cancelling? Im not the only female out there who feels this way I know. Its not only single guys who get the problem, we do too. Oh and for those who dont know, Im married but playing without OH's knowledge."
Sorry, I'm not genuine. I'm just a casual Sydney uni researcher plodding along  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I develop self-confidence due to guys wanting to meet me and the meets ive had, then cancellations come along and it disappears away leaving you feeling like the most awful person on the planet"
exactly that! |
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"I would like to suggest,it appears the problem is your selection process not single men per se x
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Reading some of the posts above, I am beginning to think the same.
I assume that people get into this lifestyle because they want to have fun unlike what they are used to in a vanilla lifestyle, right? So I can't for the life of me understand why you would meet someone, then have the patience to drive around with them cos they didn't have the decency to treat you with respect and book a hotel or take you somewhere, then get in the back of the car and have a 5 min fuck! If women put up with this kind of behaviour, then seriously you need to work on your selection criteria.
I mean some of the stuff I have read on this topic has been really depressing.
But saying that, sometimes it's hard to see that coming but why, oh why don't you make your excuses and end the meet when it looks like its going the way of you being used.
No wonder women and couples on here rant and rave in their profiles, lol. Understand some of that now. |
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I mean we all have busy lives and sometimes that gets in the way of a meet.
I had a meet a few ago and found myself working until very late. Despite the fact that I had been telling her that I was definitely coming several times in the day, I couldn't make the meet and I felt so guilty. So I didn't text, write an email but actually called and explained and apologised and then arranged another meet then and there. We met last weekend and it was absolutely fantastic. Proof that not all men are timewasters and not all women will bite your head off if you CALL to explain yourself.
Some of these things can be avoided if you treat the other person with respect. |
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"I know what you are all going to say. Not her again going on about meets lol. Well, yes me again. I just want to know are there any genuine guys out there who definately want to meet and if they got to cancel have a sensible genuine reason, but who will also re-arrange at time of cancelling? Im not the only female out there who feels this way I know. Its not only single guys who get the problem, we do too. Oh and for those who dont know, Im married but playing without OH's knowledge."
It really pains me to read posts like this , because I guess like me there are loads of other guys on here that just wouldn't mess people around like this . I think the reality is that your not picking the right guys !!! |
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I do not meet often as sex is just another recreational activity that I enjoy from time to time when I feel like it.
I have had my fair share of "promise the earth then nothing a few days leading up to a meet".
I don't fret about it, as there is always something else that I can do, like having a well-earned rest.
Luckily, the bad eggs are far and between.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Scorpiogirl25 you should never apologize
for having a rant after all this is what forums are about
the place to get things off your mind or chest lol
I have had 2 people cancel 1 was when the lady of a couple had her monthly happen 2 hours
before the meet she did ask if I still wanted to turn up & she would give me a blow job instead but I declined after all I think giving me a blow job is the last thing a lady would want to do when just coming on
the second was a couple that gave me their postcode arranged the meet I was chatting online while on my way to them
then when in their road they went off line & left the site
that was not nice
but I have never let anyone down
if you arrange a meet then turn up simple |
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I have only been on two weeks but had three meets so i dont think i,m doing too bad,But my first arranged meet was with a girl at a pub in bristol.
We said to meet outside,I was there 10 mins early as i like to be punctual and was waiting until 15 mins after our said time,so decided to message her on fab from my phone and she had blocked me.
I can laugh about it now but was going to cancel my membership as i was well and truley p off.
But i have met three lovely ladies since so glad i persevered |
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I had a meet a couple of years ago where the guy came twice within 20 mins and I didn't even come once. Sometimes you wish they HAD cancelled! 