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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right as I'm fairly new, might get slated who knows but just like to know people's thoughts. I messaged a lady other day without any face pictures on her profile, only picture of her breasts ,anyway received message back and not attracted to her one bit and feel terrible now as going have to send message back saying sorry. Surely this isn't me this has happened to??? Just a thought but maybe fab should insist on a face picture been on your profile. I know some people are married and playing away from partners so could be awkward, I know about friends pictures but what if they haven't got any pictures in said gallery. Like I said my opinion and probably not valid with been a newbie but would be interested to know others thoughts???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its happened to us all !!!!! You can't ask people to put face pictures in their profiles if they don't want to. Unfortunately you can only be honest ....
Most will be ok with it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If fab insisted on public face pics you'd get one of two things in my view.
1. Folk would stick on some random face from the Internet or, more likely...
2. People would leave the site in droves and Fab wouldn't want that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, thanks for input, yes basically I need to man up  . Great to be able to get reaction like it on the fab forums, maybe I was been a bit naive in my thinking on subject, can see plus and negative points now. Thanks again for replies, have good weekend everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't feel bad about it as I agree there has to be an attraction on both parts.I always send a face picture privately if a meet is imminent but wouldn't have it on public view for various reasons.  |
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I think we have all been on the receiving end of that too. After all we are not everyone's cup of tea. I know I have had it?, and if they reply saying that I am not their type I admire their honesty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have any face pics on my profile, public gallery or friends gallery, they are private, so I can send when I choose to, would never have them public, for numerous reasons...if fab made it compulsory, I'd be gone, so would many I think.
if you're not attracted to her, just tell her! we can't all be everyones cup of tea, i'm sure she understands that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very honest, I just say thank but your not for me and good luck. It's ok and most are fine with it. I don't want s full on face pic on my profile and I don't have a prob with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to know someone has a face picture; I'm not interested in it being given via email, unless they have one on here, I wouldn't chat further as it saves me wasting time chatting to someone that I might arrange to meet then find I don't like them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right as I'm fairly new, might get slated who knows but just like to know people's thoughts. I messaged a lady other day without any face pictures on her profile, only picture of her breasts ,anyway received message back and not attracted to her one bit and feel terrible now as going have to send message back saying sorry. Surely this isn't me this has happened to??? Just a thought but maybe fab should insist on a face picture been on your profile. I know some people
are married and playing away from partners so could be awkward, I know about friends pictures but what if they haven't got any pictures in said gallery. Like I said my opinion and probably not valid with been a newbie but would be interested
to know others thoughts???? "
rubbish .people have jobs where they can't be outed .after the face book thing a few weeks ago where profile pics were stolen and put on a Facebook page people are even more careful what they post .i think you are being very naive as a single guy and a newbie to think that everyone would be happy putting face pics on here .also lots of people dont want their friends and family or work colleagues to find out either .thats why all profiles don't ave face pics and friend invites aren't
accepted easily . I think you need to look at the bigger picture before making such a bold statement .  poppyx |
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OP it's happened to me a lot! And I've sent face pics to then have no further communication either. So it's to be expected on a site like this. I'm sure it will happens the other way round at some point too and you'll just need to take it on the chin. After all we can't find everyone attractive now can we? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have mine on profile but will send privately if asked.If Im not your cup of tea just say so I have no problem with being told so. "
thats what we do.poppyxx  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
This is the way it works with me. I expect a clear face pic first. If the face is cleverly disguised with a mobile phone, hoody or whatever then no reply. If I like the face I respond with pics of my own with a message like ; before we get in to conversation, here's me so you can make a more informed choice. If they don't get back to me then I know they're not for me and vice versa. If their pic doesn't appeal its a simple 'no thanks' and no further discussion. |
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The op has made an opening statement listened to the replies and modified his view point, that deserves respect in my eyes x
It's an interesting dynamic as often its us men who send the first message thus our first messages are of course crafted to impress then on sight of more revealing pics, not always face,we then feel bad for blowing cold
A polite you're not my type let's everyone know where they stand x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The op has made an opening statement listened to the replies and modified his view point, that deserves respect in my eyes x
It's an interesting dynamic as often its us men who send the first message thus our first messages are of course crafted to impress then on sight of more revealing pics, not always face,we then feel bad for blowing cold
A polite you're not my type let's everyone know where they stand x "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the way it works with me. I expect a clear face pic first. If the face is cleverly disguised with a mobile phone, hoody or whatever then no reply. If I like the face I respond with pics of my own with a message like ; before we get in to conversation, here's me so you can make a more informed choice. If they don't get back to me then I know they're not for me and vice versa. If their pic doesn't appeal its a simple 'no thanks' and no further discussion. "
Just out of interest when you say you expect a clear face pic first , is that if they mail you first and if you mail them first do you include your face pic ? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"This is the way it works with me. I expect a clear face pic first. If the face is cleverly disguised with a mobile phone, hoody or whatever then no reply. If I like the face I respond with pics of my own with a message like ; before we get in to conversation, here's me so you can make a more informed choice. If they don't get back to me then I know they're not for me and vice versa. If their pic doesn't appeal its a simple 'no thanks' and no further discussion.
Just out of interest when you say you expect a clear face pic first , is that if they mail you first and if you mail them first do you include your face pic ? "
If they mail me I expect a pic first, and if I mail them I do the same. Personally I take that as site etiquette. Anyone who has a problem with that ends up in my ever-expanding block list. I won't get into sexy chat with someone who's face I have never seen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the way it works with me. I expect a clear face pic first. If the face is cleverly disguised with a mobile phone, hoody or whatever then no reply. If I like the face I respond with pics of my own with a message like ; before we get in to conversation, here's me so you can make a more informed choice. If they don't get back to me then I know they're not for me and vice versa. If their pic doesn't appeal its a simple 'no thanks' and no further discussion.
Just out of interest when you say you expect a clear face pic first , is that if they mail you first and if you mail them first do you include your face pic ?
If they mail me I expect a pic first, and if I mail them I do the same. Personally I take that as site etiquette. Anyone who has a problem with that ends up in my ever-expanding block list. I won't get into sexy chat with someone who's face I have never seen."
I have my face pic on my profile and it reads to send a pic with first message. It's amazing how many don't so I feel no guilt at all in not replying. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"This is the way it works with me. I expect a clear face pic first. If the face is cleverly disguised with a mobile phone, hoody or whatever then no reply. If I like the face I respond with pics of my own with a message like ; before we get in to conversation, here's me so you can make a more informed choice. If they don't get back to me then I know they're not for me and vice versa. If their pic doesn't appeal its a simple 'no thanks' and no further discussion.
Just out of interest when you say you expect a clear face pic first , is that if they mail you first and if you mail them first do you include your face pic ?
If they mail me I expect a pic first, and if I mail them I do the same. Personally I take that as site etiquette. Anyone who has a problem with that ends up in my ever-expanding block list. I won't get into sexy chat with someone who's face I have never seen.
I have my face pic on my profile and it reads to send a pic with first message. It's amazing how many don't so I feel no guilt at all in not replying. "
Me too. And also never feel guilty. Why should I? If they have something to hide about their appearance then, perhaps, they are not for me. I send mine and if they don't like what they see then I'm fine with that. Some guys will fancy me, some won't - that's the way the world works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right as I'm fairly new, might get slated who knows but just like to know people's thoughts. I messaged a lady other day without any face pictures on her profile, only picture of her breasts ,anyway received message back and not attracted to her one bit and feel terrible now as going have to send message back saying sorry. Surely this isn't me this has happened to??? Just a thought but maybe fab should insist on a face picture been on your profile. I know some people are married and playing away from partners so could be awkward, I know about friends pictures but what if they haven't got any pictures in said gallery. Like I said my opinion and probably not valid with been a newbie but would be interested to know others thoughts???? "
The best thing to do is to only contact people with face pics on their profiles and insist in your profile that anyone messaging you includes a face pic.
It saves wasting time and any embarrassment. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah, its annoying when the body shot makes you go mmmm and the face shot makes you go hmmmm. I just say I am sorry, you're not my type and hope to god they take it well."
I didn't moan when you said it to me! |
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