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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your messages guys and gals  I'm normally ok with my size x just recently lost my confidence x don't know why x maybe its the length of time since my last meet and getting messages deleted x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"for me, it wouldn't be your size thats offputting at all (I quite like a larger guy) but the cock pics on your profile certainly would. "
Ok noted x cock pics coming down x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your messages guys and gals I'm normally ok with my size x just recently lost my confidence x don't know why x maybe its the length of time since my last meet and getting messages deleted x"
Don't let it knock your confidence. Its just a dry spell and if you've had meets before you will again.
If your confidence has been knocked take time to find it again. Take some new and different pictures - the forums are full of posts about the sort of pics ladies like to see.
Besides, nothing gives you back that confidence like a few PMs of 'Nice Pics' or getting them Fabbed - or just seeing yourself in a positive light.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your messages guys and gals I'm normally ok with my size x just recently lost my confidence x don't know why x maybe its the length of time since my last meet and getting messages deleted x
Don't let it knock your confidence. Its just a dry spell and if you've had meets before you will again.
If your confidence has been knocked take time to find it again. Take some new and different pictures - the forums are full of posts about the sort of pics ladies like to see.
Besides, nothing gives you back that confidence like a few PMs of 'Nice Pics' or getting them Fabbed - or just seeing yourself in a positive light.
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Cheers mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As has already been said, everyone has defferent taste buddy. You just need to do all the leg work as there are so many of us vying for few spaces If someone doesn't have a preference for your body type, then it's no problem as you wouldn't want someone looking down upon you anyway! Some women love a bigger guy Just stay patient  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't look fat in your pics and loads of people don't like skinny minnies. Everyone is different. Try putting some different pics up. You're a good looking guy so am sure the current drought won't last long. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't really look that big. Attraction is a fickle thing though. I agree that confidence changes everything - I have one fb who is not my usual type (my preferred type being tall and slim) but he's so confident I had to meet him and boy was he worth it |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?"
rubbish... there could well be a myriad of other reasons, and the one you landed on is the one that makes you feel better, and means you have given yourself an easy out...
you are blameless... oh woe is me!!
look...straight up... meeting people isn't easy full stop!!
I am built like a brick.. I just try to be the best "me" I can... that is my unique selling point!!!
some people will like me.. some wont.. its called life...
but if you go into battle with a defeatist attitude... it isn't helping!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's stopping you is your own self-image which is affecting your confidence.
Looking at your pics, you are far from being a big guy, but this is what you seem to finding as a justification for why you're not getting meets.
Do you go to clubs, or a club? Take yourself to one and just go there with it in your mind that you're only there to chat and have a social. Build your confidence that way, then at a pace that suits YOU and see where it takes you... Think you might be pleasantly surprised... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have just looked at your pics and no way would I consider you to be fat, you look very nice.
I prefer a guy with meat on his bones, skinny guys and guys with a six pack don't do anything for me.
My fella thinks he is fat, but I love him as he is.
I myself am a bbw and I know I am not everyones cup of tea, but I am not aiming to be adored by everyone lol.
So long as I love myself and my OH does then anyone else who fancies me is a bonus  |
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?
rubbish... there could well be a myriad of other reasons, and the one you landed on is the one that makes you feel better, and means you have given yourself an easy out...
you are blameless... oh woe is me!!
look...straight up... meeting people isn't easy full stop!!
I am built like a brick.. I just try to be the best "me" I can... that is my unique selling point!!!
some people will like me.. some wont.. its called life...
but if you go into battle with a defeatist attitude... it isn't helping!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My fella is going through exactly the same thing so were taking a break until we can sort his confidence out which in itself is easier said than done but I'm a tryer and i don't give up easily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?
Why pic on your size?!! Personally the fact you have a girlfriend and playing away would be the deal breaker!  "
Ah missed that bit! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Ah missed that bit!"
I think most people in this thread have to be perfectly honest.... which is why I said what I did about him pinning everything on the one thing that makes him blameless..
he will probably take it out now... which is a shame, and then he can go back to blaming his size and being faultless again....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?
Why pic on your size?!! Personally the fact you have a girlfriend and playing away would be the deal breaker!
Ah missed that bit!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?"
It may very well be! But then again, it could be the fact that you have a partner who doesn't know your cheating that is putting the gals off! I know its a difficult concept to apprehend, but MOST people DO have standards that they stick to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?"
it could be
But then it could be a number of things
There are many guys on here who arnt over weight who cant find meets
So who know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fill a room with fat people and thin people......
And in both camps there will be both men and women that....for some reason....are hotter and more attractive than the others...
Its not about the size or shape.....its about the confidence you exude....
A fat man can be more attractive to females than a thin man.
And a thin man can be more attractive to females than a fat man....
And vice versa....
Its about how you carry yourself.
If you think you are attractive to the opposite sex...or if you don't think you are attractive to the opposite sex....you are probably right...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be confident in yourself. Thats what is key. I havent had any meets as such on here and thats mainly due to how i look (im not everyones cup of tea).
..but, i dont let it get to me. I know some find me attractive, and sexy as fuck - we cant be everyones cup of tea..but dont let it affect your confidence.
A confident man is better than a man who isnt comfortable in his own skin.
All my opinion anyway
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be confident in yourself. Thats what is key. I havent had any meets as such on here and thats mainly due to how i look (im not everyones cup of tea).
..but, i dont let it get to me. I know some find me attractive, and sexy as fuck - we cant be everyones cup of tea..but dont let it affect your confidence.
A confident man is better than a man who isnt comfortable in his own skin.
All my opinion anyway
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100% true.....and its also applies to women.
There is NOTHING hotter than a confident woman with a "I know I'm hot..so fuck you" attitude...not matter their size or shape... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be confident in yourself. Thats what is key. I havent had any meets as such on here and thats mainly due to how i look (im not everyones cup of tea).
..but, i dont let it get to me. I know some find me attractive, and sexy as fuck - we cant be everyones cup of tea..but dont let it affect your confidence.
A confident man is better than a man who isnt comfortable in his own skin.
All my opinion anyway
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who says hes not confidant, all because someone knows they are big that does not mean they arnt confidant?
and even if you are confidant some people still wont fancy you
I don't understand why everyones assuming hes not confident? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be confident in yourself. Thats what is key. I havent had any meets as such on here and thats mainly due to how i look (im not everyones cup of tea).
..but, i dont let it get to me. I know some find me attractive, and sexy as fuck - we cant be everyones cup of tea..but dont let it affect your confidence.
A confident man is better than a man who isnt comfortable in his own skin.
All my opinion anyway
who says hes not confidant, all because someone knows they are big that does not mean they arnt confidant?
and even if you are confidant some people still wont fancy you
I don't understand why everyones assuming hes not confident? "
Everyone interprets a post according to their own understanding..
Its up to to the OP to take whatever advice/benefit he sees in the posts...or, he can just not take it all.
Our responses are just a product of his initial posting...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In your case no. I like my men with a bit of meat on them. Nothing worse to me than feeling bigger than a guy I'm playing with. I like the idea of guys being in control so skinny guys rarely attract me. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i don't think many people got down to the last two lines of his profile...
but then again... if the answers remain the same, then maybe things are turning here...
call me a cynic.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as alarge man myself i also have these thoughts at times.. its always fellas complimenting my wife but never women comnplimenting me ( boohoo) lol,,, just the way it is on here i guess x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?"
There are bigger guys meeting people on here you just need to relax and enjoy and it will flow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?
confidence is sexy"
Definitely , hold your head up high , you are not fat in my opinion but a perfect size
We all have a few insecurities at times , too many spots ,eye squints , wrinkles , etc ...
I used to be self conscious of my tummy as its wobbly and like a de -puffed soufflé , but I turned my thoughts around and now worship my tummy as I grew 5 babes there
But guys love my tummy , it's part of me and who I am ... Learn to love your body , life is for living not dieting |
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"i don't think many people got down to the last two lines of his profile...
but then again... if the answers remain the same, then maybe things are turning here...
call me a cynic...."
everyone kept in the picture, apart from the obvious  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel that my size stops women meeting me could this be true?"
If you are too fat to swing, then we may as well just delete our profile now as there no chance for us!!!
Seriously, nice photos, and think you may find a lot of girls prefer men with a bit of meat on them (I know I do) |
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