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Are you single in the scene but would love to find a partner in the lifestyle? To have an ENM relationship and swing, whether that's with them or solo, stag vixen, hotwife, hothusband, cuckold, open relationship etc in whatever dynamic appeals to you.
Do you find it difficult to meet someone in the lifestyle already?
Do you find if difficult to bring up this lifestyle when you meet someone on a 'vanilla' dating app?
Would you be interested in a non-monogamous dating event/social?
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Yes, would love to meet someone 'open' to the idea. Was married to a jealous'prude' for a long time, so I 1. Won't make that mistake again, and 2. Intend to make up for wasted years. Trouble is, everything seems fine and open to begin with, then their feelings get in the way. |
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I would 100% be interested in this!! As someone in the lifestyle, finding a relationship is so difficult. As soon as it’s mentioned on the traditional dating sites people are either put off by it, or think you’re only after one thing. I’d love to find a meaningful relationship with someone I could still be involved in the lifestyle with, ideally with a hotwife or stag/vixen dynamic 🫶🏻 |
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This sounds very interesting I have met couples who thrive on there open relationship and I have seen others where one partner get more attention than the other which can lead to the break down of the relationship
Definitely think an event with the open relationship dating dynamic would do really well
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I am not currently seeking. But when I was actually single and looking it was fucking hard work pulling out the people who are actually ethically non monogamous from the sea of actually just arseholes who like to fuck around. And that's before factoring in compatibility and attraction 💜 |
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If I get into a relationship, and I'm not looking but things happen, chances are we either met here or at a swingers club, so non monogamy would presumably be our default and playing on the scene would be regular and pretty much unremarkable.
If it's not, we won't be dating. |
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After the end of a long relationship I'm not ready to settle down, but I do get a real buzz from some seeing some of the people I've met and reading about their subsequent meets and reading their verifications and talking about if, find it really sexy and horny and also happy for them as it usually brings back fond memories of our time together, so who knows maybe in time something will naturally happen with someone who we end up seeing more regularly and explore things together and separately.....in the meantime just loving meeting some amazing people and having great sex |
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By *oxy jWoman 2 days ago
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the problem for this is there are very few women in swinging compared to the zillions of men so its going to be a 100 times harder than finding a normal relationship so it will leave men even more frustrated than they already are with swinging ... mind you most of those men are already in relationships of the vanilla type wishing they were swingers..
fact is most women simply want a normal vanilla relationship not hard to see when you see how few couples and women who really do swing ... again meaning alot of couples and women on here are infacr single men |
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Looking back at my dating days personally I'm a fan of being upfront from the start about an intrest in non-monogamous practices in a relationship as well as kinks. However in the normal dating world this can be so problematic.
Form the male perspective: to state openly on a profile often gives the impression you're just a fuck boy and genuinely not into finding a serious committed relationship.
From the female perspective: to state openly on a profile gives off signals you're an easy shag and attracts fuck boys like moths to the flame.
So it's hard for either side to be open from the start about this desire for a relationship from the start because society is crap at dealing with this in an adult way. People can be so immature about it. Yet sexual desires and wants in my opinion are also pretty dam important to express to each other early on to see if you're in the same ball park before you invest too much. And just because you have a conversation about it doesn't mean you have to fuck until you've sussed each other out more. In terms of dating it just allows you to both know that down the line when it comes to finally having sex you have some compatability. I just think adults should be able to have unabashed open conversations about sex and desire. Like you would other aspects when finding out if you're a good match for a date. I would also say if they can have a grown up conversation about sex and desire without getting all creepy and eager that's a green flag.
And a lot of people just aren't swingers or intrested (although from being open on the vanilla dating scene you'd be suprised how many women are at least curious when they're comfortable talking to you openly). So yes I think more tools to help bring us together in healthy swinging relationships is a great thing. We've known some great relationships start on the scene. We ourselves are a Fab success story.
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"Are you single in the scene but would love to find a partner in the lifestyle? To have an ENM relationship and swing, whether that's with them or solo, stag vixen, hotwife, hothusband, cuckold, open relationship etc in whatever dynamic appeals to you.
Do you find it difficult to meet someone in the lifestyle already?
Do you find if difficult to bring up this lifestyle when you meet someone on a 'vanilla' dating app?
Would you be interested in a non-monogamous dating event/social?
Xx"
Yes definitely |
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"I would 100% be interested in this!! As someone in the lifestyle, finding a relationship is so difficult. As soon as it’s mentioned on the traditional dating sites people are either put off by it, or think you’re only after one thing. I’d love to find a meaningful relationship with someone I could still be involved in the lifestyle with, ideally with a hotwife or stag/vixen dynamic 🫶🏻"
Couldn't agree more |
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Yes to all of this. I am dating outside of swinging and struggling with matching with people who are a lot more "vanilla" or who tell me they are intimidated by the swinging when I explain to them.
Finding a partner who lives local to me and who is in the scene would be ideal but seems to be illusive 😅 |
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"I would 100% be interested in this!! As someone in the lifestyle, finding a relationship is so difficult. As soon as it’s mentioned on the traditional dating sites people are either put off by it, or think you’re only after one thing. I’d love to find a meaningful relationship with someone I could still be involved in the lifestyle with, ideally with a hotwife or stag/vixen dynamic 🫶🏻"
Exactly this! |
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By *zlakMan 1 day ago
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I would 100% be interested in this. I have not been looking but would certainly be open to a relationship. I'm bi and this does not appeal to all so norrows it down even more.
Have on the vanilla side and tried to be honest and got told "why can't you be happy with one patner"!! |
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By *otgirl32Woman 1 day ago
Ashton Under Lyne |
"Are you single in the scene but would love to find a partner in the lifestyle? To have an ENM relationship and swing, whether that's with them or solo, stag vixen, hotwife, hothusband, cuckold, open relationship etc in whatever dynamic appeals to you.
Do you find it difficult to meet someone in the lifestyle already?
Do you find if difficult to bring up this lifestyle when you meet someone on a 'vanilla' dating app?
Would you be interested in a non-monogamous dating event/social?
Xx"
Actively looking. Not going to find a partner in the lifestyle on a vanilla dating site |
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As my profile says, this is what I'm looking for. Won't find it on vanilla dating sites. Having lots of fun while I'm looking but do miss the actual social side of dating and would love to find someone in the scene who wants to wine and dine as well as share me 😉 |
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I've had two long-term non-monogamous relationships (now widowed) and, yes, it is difficult to find someone new, especially at my age. I can find couples (I love threesomes) and single guys but compatible women are just so rare and it's not a subject easily raised in normal conversation. |
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"Are you single in the scene but would love to find a partner in the lifestyle? To have an ENM relationship and swing, whether that's with them or solo, stag vixen, hotwife, hothusband, cuckold, open relationship etc in whatever dynamic appeals to you.
Do you find it difficult to meet someone in the lifestyle already?
Do you find if difficult to bring up this lifestyle when you meet someone on a 'vanilla' dating app?
Would you be interested in a non-monogamous dating event/social?
Xx"
absolutely brilliant idea. Being a single male makes meeting like minded people near on impossible. And to be able to experience the feeling of liberation of being able to chat openly would be amazing 😉 |
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It’s so difficult. I’m just basically not going to date anyone who wants to be monogamous, and being up front about that is the only honest way. There is one dating app (that I’m not sure I can mention?) that caters for ENM folk and have met a few women on there. The problem is that the field is smaller and then factor in compatibility makes it super tricky!
The poly crew are not really my crowd either!
No easy answers. Plan to be single and have lots of fun for now  |
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By *luttTV/TS 10 hours ago
Duns |
"Are you single in the scene but would love to find a partner in the lifestyle? To have an ENM relationship and swing, whether that's with them or solo, stag vixen, hotwife, hothusband, cuckold, open relationship etc in whatever dynamic appeals to you.
Do you find it difficult to meet someone in the lifestyle already?
Do you find if difficult to bring up this lifestyle when you meet someone on a 'vanilla' dating app?
Would you be interested in a non-monogamous dating event/social?
Xx"
Yes to all of that! |
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"Are you single in the scene but would love to find a partner in the lifestyle? To have an ENM relationship and swing, whether that's with them or solo, stag vixen, hotwife, hothusband, cuckold, open relationship etc in whatever dynamic appeals to you.
Do you find it difficult to meet someone in the lifestyle already?
Do you find if difficult to bring up this lifestyle when you meet someone on a 'vanilla' dating app?
Would you be interested in a non-monogamous dating event/social?
Xx"
Definitely interested |
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