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Some profiles are so long!
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Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that. |
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"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."
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"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."
Exactly this! If you can't be arsed to spend a few minutes reading why would anyone who clearly values communication entertain you? Same with messages, the amount of people who only just manage to cobble together a full sentence and then expect to walk straight on through. If someone can't put effort into reading or typing, I'm hardly convinced they're putting effort into giving me the ride of my life  |
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I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x |
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"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"
We do the same. It’s great to have something to read and get an understanding of who’s caught your eye. And we’ll always reference the things that interested us in a first message. |
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"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"
Agreed... If someone quotes something from my profile in their first message to me I am much more likely to reply to them |
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Why would we trust people who can't be arsed to read for 2/3 mins to be in this for anything more than their own, quick gratification.
Not willing to read a profile, or converse properly via message or in person for a social/club meet? Then not for us.
Keen on people that are still interested after they've finished their wank ideally |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
I'm happy with the length of my profile and my individual messages I send, ive had some great conversations, granted not always been successful on a physical level. But when I do meet it makes for a great experience. |
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Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too |
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"Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too"
Just like to say if my comment was taken in offence that was not my intention. I hope it wasn't. |
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Haven’t fully written up the old profile after it was temporarily taken down.
But reason for long profiles are to let people know what is and isn’t acceptable. If you send a message and clear you haven’t read it, don’t expect a reply. |
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By *eyeYCouple 7 days ago
Nr Leicester |
Like to read a descriptive portrayal of who they are and what they like to gauge attraction as much as their pictures.
Though it would seem many have the same thoughts as OP with 'Hey' messages 🤷🤣 |
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By *AYENCouple 7 days ago
Lincolnshire |
"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter. |
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I don't think mine is excessive but some might think it is. I see the point of a profile as being something to read before messaging to avoid wasting anyone's time. If I get asked questions where the answers are in my profile I have been known to copy and paste the whole thing into my response. |
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We used to have a short one years ago but it gradually got longer to save time. We hoped men would read what I liked, meet rules etc etc so that there was no confusion and they wouldn’t bother messaging if they weren’t interested in our way of doing things. Afterall we took the time to read theirs.
We now have a longish one to try and accomplish this but most men don’t even read the first few lines so now their messages are simply deleted ! We get messages daily from bi guys etc which the first paragraph says I will not meet !
So yes it’s long but not even being bothered to read the first few lines and ask things already there shows complete disinterest on really wanting to meet us. But those who do take the time to read it often end up in my bed and we have a great time !
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
We don't get angry if you can't be bothered to read, we just delete the messages if it's obvious you couldn't even manage a couple of minutes. Wouldn't even respond.
Its tedious repeatedly typing out the same replies to messages when the questions being asked are already answered on our profile.
It suggests to us you may not be a considerate play friend and not what we want. Scroll on by.. |
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If the site allowed more filters, people wouldn't need such long profile bios. You could simply filter out those who didn't meet your desires, no need for anyone to get upset about their profile not being read or their message being deleted/unread. |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?
Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter. "
Exactly this 👏 |
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I’m the other way - I’d get more excited by a profile that was detailed and informative than a bland/blank or samey profile.
Asking the things that should be in a profile anyway is boring and monotonous.
We make an effort - we’d expect our potential play partners to do that too.
K |
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I think mine's probably a little long but I think it's important to give as much info as possible to ensure others understand me and what I'm looking for. Pointless just having a couple of lines then have people message you who don't fit with what you want. |
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By *he SmithsCouple 7 days ago
East Devon & London |
Our profile has been honed after many years on here in an attempt to cut down on the dross we receive. It even has a section just for single guys.
For that reason it’s longer than many but for good reason, so we can delete or block with impunity when messaged by those that like pictures but not words.
Fab is mostly a huge waste of time and our longer profile attempts to reduce that not just for us but for those that write to us.
Does it work? Perhaps. It certainly speeds up our Fabmin. |
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Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.
My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
I expect mine to be read by anyone that can be bothered.
If they can't, it's a useful filter. 🤷♂️
Same on the couples profile. It's literally a couple of minutes max after all. |
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"Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.
My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading."
It is an excellent profile. Great camera work  |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top..
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"Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.
My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading.
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It is an excellent profile. Great camera work "
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top.. "
As have we and they still don’t bother reading ! |
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"I can well understand a woman wanting to spell out exactly what they do and don't want, as the amount of messages they get must be insane. Personally, if they are humorous, then it's a good read."
It's very helpful.
Me: this is something I never do
Message: I really love something you never do
You can see why that's easy. |
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To misquote the old phrase about eyes, your profile is a window to your soul. A few lines can give you an insight but with no real depth, perhaps enough to lead you to think "no" but not enough to say "yes".
I've read a number of long profiles and come to lines which then rule me out as someone they would be looking for - saving us both wasting time. Others may look at them as too long and not bother, with the same result of no message being sent. Perhaps then longer profiles receive a higher percentage of "useful" messages.
Who knows. Like food and music, you'll choose what you like and ignore the others. |
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By *ouple49Couple 7 days ago
Border of Cheshire, Shropshire and |
"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Most guys are incapable of reading a couple of sentences, so yes there’s no point in writing one as you say. If you can’t be bothered to spend a few minutes reading what folks have taken the time and trouble to write, then it’s a clear indicator that you’re not worth bothering with. |
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By *ouple49Couple 7 days ago
Border of Cheshire, Shropshire and |
"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
I think a year without any verifications at all speaks louder than any length of profile lol |
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By *aldboroMan 7 days ago
Leicestershire/Warwickshire Border |
Mine is long, but by design.
It tells people the key things about me and what I'm looking for.
I think that gives me the best opportunity of talking to people with whom I have a chance of being compatible.
Yes it might rule some out, but I reckon those would have fallen by the wayside eventually, so better to not start a conversation if you aren't going to get along.
When reading a profile I much prefer to see some detail. Otherwise what are you deciding on? |
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By *ooLou89Woman 7 days ago
Nottinghamshire |
I mean mines turned into an essay… or rather one long rant 🤦🏼♀️😂 but I guess the purpose is to avoid wasting my time or someone else’s.. do I get annoyed if it’s clear someone hasn’t read it? Not at all.. but it’s there for those who will.. people have the freedom to put what they wish in their own profile 🤷🏼♀️ |
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By *elloWoman 7 days ago
alpha centauri |
I love a long profile, the fun ones that is, a long profile consisting of demands or complaints is so annoying and not worth a read but a long jovial profile that makes you chuckle whilst reading makes the person a lot more attractive  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁 |
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"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁"
I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁
I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive "
I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.
Not reading my profile is a 'them' problem, more than it's a 'me' problem. I did my bit. I wrote it. The clues are there. If they can't go all 'Scooby Doo gang' and work them out then hey.......🤷♂️ |
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"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁
I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive
I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.
Not reading my profile is a 'them' problem, more than it's a 'me' problem. I did my bit. I wrote it. The clues are there. If they can't go all 'Scooby Doo gang' and work them out then hey.......🤷♂️"
Oh absolutely. We're 95% in agreement |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Mine is long for some, not for others. Do I expect people to read it? If they want me to interact with them then yes. If they don’t read it then this will likely be clear in a message which I will then delete. Works for me😁 |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?
Mine is long for some, not for others. Do I expect people to read it? If they want me to interact with them then yes. If they don’t read it then this will likely be clear in a message which I will then delete. Works for me😁"
Amazing isn’t it. I would like to meet you, maybe even have sex with you, but don’t expect me to read your words because that’s just too much… sometimes the world seems so back to front it’s hard to know whether you’re coming or going. |
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