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I know we’re probably gonna get a lot of hate but bloody hell lads! This should be easy right, message couples all full of it, I’ll be there, I’m reliable etc etc. then nothing, or a crap excuse why you’ve bottled it. Just be honest  is it just us or do other couples get a lot of this? |
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Post wank clarity, everyone’s billy big bollocks until they’ve shaken those hot white coconuts from the veiny love tree all over their belly, then they go about their daily business until the next wank, rinse and repeat. |
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Yeah we understand that but you’d think at least a fairly large proportion would actually be looking for an actual meet right? We should just also clarify we have met some lovely guys through the site, but it’s becoming harder to sort the wheat from the chaff so to speak. |
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"Would be alot easier if people actually replied when you messaged them aswell. Doesn't help the confidence "
undoubtedly, but do you realise just how many messages some couples, let alone females get. It’s literally impossible to reply to them all. It would be a full time job sometimes.
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Judging by the little amount of interest in a Female friends profile and thread I started yesterday she will be better of asking 4-5 Men for a meet, She's only looking for 2 Men for a threesome but struggling to get any interest and worryingly the amount of Men who back out at the last minute  |
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When we had a couples profile my wife used to get a lot of interest and in some cases abuse for not replying or saying no.
Now we are back but only male meeting and no-one seams interested
Would love to do a meet |
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By *aveonMan 3 weeks ago
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I agree - message and then nothing, I’d rather have a thanks but no thanks -
I’m totally fine with rejection if I’m not someone’s type
But also couples I guess get so many that won’t have time to respond to them all or not brave enough to say no thanks |
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"Judging by the little amount of interest in a Female friends profile and thread I started yesterday she will be better of asking 4-5 Men for a meet, She's only looking for 2 Men for a threesome but struggling to get any interest and worryingly the amount of Men who back out at the last minute "
She may have had more interest if she had started the thread herself or from a couples profile.
Similar threads are started almost every week on here from single male profiles and most are reluctant to respond positively because they can't confirm consent directly or even that the woman actually exists.
I would be much more concerned if there had been a big uptake on any threads like that. |
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By *dc1Man 3 weeks ago
essex and all over the south |
Its not just men that let people down. I used to book hotels if couples couldnt accomodate. And you could bet at the last hr they would come up with some excuse. I dont bother now. Like some have said, stick to clubs. |
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I've always turned up at the allotted time.
Only had one experience where the couple didn't show (with no explanation or further contact).
It's frustrating, but hey, the world carries on!
Always willing to put my money (or someone's wife) where my mouth is! |
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"Yeah we understand that but you’d think at least a fairly large proportion would actually be looking for an actual meet right? We should just also clarify we have met some lovely guys through the site, but it’s becoming harder to sort the wheat from the chaff so to speak. "
Had ladies and couples do this to me so not just the guys |
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I would love to meet new people , but because of my disability & having a non working bladder , wearing bags I’m scared of someone seeing it , also because I’m classed as vulnerable adult I’m also scared of the thought of someone hurting me , also I’m short in height and I find alot of people like to meet taller men, but is hight the be end of all things ? |
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"I know we’re probably gonna get a lot of hate but bloody hell lads! This should be easy right, message couples all full of it, I’ll be there, I’m reliable etc etc. then nothing, or a crap excuse why you’ve bottled it. Just be honest is it just us or do other couples get a lot of this? "
Reason we gave up on this site. We even had text saying on way be 5mins not letting you down blah blah
Men also go on about not getting replies to messages, well so many are mass sent copy and paste junk mail. Others are, well, just not worth replying to as they couldn't read a profile ir just hi, how's you, wanna suck this.🥱
So we just stick to reading forums on here now. |
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"I know we’re probably gonna get a lot of hate but bloody hell lads! This should be easy right, message couples all full of it, I’ll be there, I’m reliable etc etc. then nothing, or a crap excuse why you’ve bottled it. Just be honest is it just us or do other couples get a lot of this? "
It should be easy and is, if you look to meet people through specific avenues. Me personally, the days of attempting to meet anyone directly off here are long gone for the reason you mentioned above plus other things. So much better going to a club and having a plethora of options who are reliable because you’re already in the same place. |
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I've rocked up late a couple of times but never not shown up for a meet, and touch wood noone has bailed on me,🤞
I would be gutted if it did happen though and completely understand people's frustrations when it does happen. |
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"Would be alot easier if people actually replied when you messaged them aswell. Doesn't help the confidence undoubtedly, but do you realise just how many messages some couples, let alone females get. It’s literally impossible to reply to them all. It would be a full time job sometimes. "
So true! don't think people understand that sometimes. We can get upwards of 100 messages a day...even more in our first couple of weeks, and so many could avoid disappointment if they'd read the couples profile and only message if they're what the couple/person is looking for. We do try to read every message but with such high volume, only messages with a great degree of effort and attention to detail ever get more than a brief glimpse before moving to the next one. |
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This is probably why a lot of couples and females don't give most guys a chance or even reply to a message,
I'd certainly not bottle it and would certainly turn up for sure given the chance.
This sort of thing spoils it for us genuine guys on here in my opinion. |
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It should be but it isn't. We only do clubs as its just easier full stop... and because I'm weird and don't like all the build up to meets if private. The chit chat etc puts me off... so clubs just work better |
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"I know we’re probably gonna get a lot of hate but bloody hell lads! This should be easy right, message couples all full of it, I’ll be there, I’m reliable etc etc. then nothing, or a crap excuse why you’ve bottled it. Just be honest is it just us or do other couples get a lot of this? "
Before we blocked single lads - not that we've ever really wanted another one joining us - yes we had exactly the same: messaging giving it billy big bollocks about what they were going to do to Mrs, how she was going to scream in pleasure, how they'd be the best she'd ever have.... you get the picture.
When we offered a social, only one guy has ever taken us up on it and didn't expect anything more - the rest either stopped messaging immediately or worse, sulked when it became clear a coffee was just a coffee.
It should be simple, you are right. It's either one of three things:
1 - join presuming it's like T*nder and the like, can get sex with little effort and then find out its completely different hence all the "why can't I get a meet" type posts daily.
2 - They aren't truly single at all, have a partner, and can't get out of the house without raising suspicion.
3 - Fantasy v reality is completely different. Making an account and jerking off when your're horny is one thing - actually meeting a stranger you've chatted to for an hour purely just to fuck is another, especially if your're not exactly "experienced" in one night stands and the likes. A lot of people give it large but that's all it is, bravado and putting a mask on. |
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"Would be alot easier if people actually replied when you messaged them aswell. Doesn't help the confidence "
Spot on!
I don’t struggle in the real world, I’m smart, funny and confident but on here I find that the vast majority of women I message don’t reply.
I notice that some read the message the. Mark it as unread.
Someone’s mental health can be fragile at the best of times but FAB and a certain sense of entitlement by some can destroy you. |
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"Would be alot easier if people actually replied when you messaged them aswell. Doesn't help the confidence
Spot on!
I don’t struggle in the real world, I’m smart, funny and confident but on here I find that the vast majority of women I message don’t reply.
I notice that some read the message the. Mark it as unread.
Someone’s mental health can be fragile at the best of times but FAB and a certain sense of entitlement by some can destroy you."
if it’s messing with your mental health it’s maybe worth thinking about coming off outside fab your a real person on here your just a profile and I mean that about all of us not just you personally |
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"Judging by the little amount of interest in a Female friends profile and thread I started yesterday she will be better of asking 4-5 Men for a meet, She's only looking for 2 Men for a threesome but struggling to get any interest and worryingly the amount of Men who back out at the last minute
She may have had more interest if she had started the thread herself or from a couples profile.
Similar threads are started almost every week on here from single male profiles and most are reluctant to respond positively because they can't confirm consent directly or even that the woman actually exists.
I would be much more concerned if there had been a big uptake on any threads like that."
"Judging by the little amount of interest in a Female friends profile and thread I started yesterday she will be better of asking 4-5 Men for a meet, She's only looking for 2 Men for a threesome but struggling to get any interest and worryingly the amount of Men who back out at the last minute
She may have had more interest if she had started the thread herself or from a couples profile.
Similar threads are started almost every week on here from single male profiles and most are reluctant to respond positively because they can't confirm consent directly or even that the woman actually exists.
I would be much more concerned if there had been a big uptake on any threads like that."
She doesn't bother with the forums and I can see why she doesn't,
I was trying to generate more traffic to her couples profile, She did get a handful of messages but nowhere near the amount I expected, The profile name was posted on the thread, She has pics etc and loads of veris on her singles profile that she has had for years, The point of the thread was mainly to get Men to look and message if interested then if she liked the look of them she would start a conversation about a potential meet
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"Just out of curiosity, don’t the verifications help decide whether someone is meets reliable. One would assume a guy who’s actually met couples is more of a sure thing than a guy who hasn’t?"
There's always rounds 2, 3, 4.....  |
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"Would be alot easier if people actually replied when you messaged them aswell. Doesn't help the confidence undoubtedly, but do you realise just how many messages some couples, let alone females get. It’s literally impossible to reply to them all. It would be a full time job sometimes.
So true! don't think people understand that sometimes. We can get upwards of 100 messages a day...even more in our first couple of weeks, and so many could avoid disappointment if they'd read the couples profile and only message if they're what the couple/person is looking for. We do try to read every message but with such high volume, only messages with a great degree of effort and attention to detail ever get more than a brief glimpse before moving to the next one. "
Fab could resolve this issue but as they don't want to put of single Men who will be there biggest customer they wont do anything about it
Limit messages per day
A more descriptive search option, Height body size, cock, breasts etc then people can only send messages to people who match what they're looking for
Have a few pre set replies like No thanks, sorry you're not what I'm looking for, I'll get back to you when I'm meeting again etc
arrange messages into categories like Men, Women, Couples, friends etc
So many things fab can do but money talks |
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I disagree with your post, ima cd and have arranged a meetings with couples I'm single and can accommodate, so I've shaven, showerd,etc,put my stockings and suspenders on, dress,tits on,etc,etc,sat in my front room waiting for a knock at the door, but they never turn up,or come out with a bull crap excuse ,so please excuse me if you think I'm wrong. Xxstaceyxx |
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"I know we’re probably gonna get a lot of hate but bloody hell lads! This should be easy right, message couples all full of it, I’ll be there, I’m reliable etc etc. then nothing, or a crap excuse why you’ve bottled it. Just be honest is it just us or do other couples get a lot of this?
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I generally go by the rule of chatting to get to know people over a sustained period and when there's that connection a meet can then be arranged when all parties are comfortable to do so |
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"I know we’re probably gonna get a lot of hate but bloody hell lads! This should be easy right, message couples all full of it, I’ll be there, I’m reliable etc etc. then nothing, or a crap excuse why you’ve bottled it. Just be honest is it just us or do other couples get a lot of this? "
Ok, I don't get many meets, but I've been let down plenty of times.
So I know how it feels and wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone. Therfore, I would let anyone down (intensionally) |
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I’m pretty good and managing my own mental health but that’s because I work within a healthcare field so spot the signs in myself when I may be struggling.
My female fab friend however couldn’t handle the amount of messages she was getting so she’s come off. |
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"Would be alot easier if people actually replied when you messaged them aswell. Doesn't help the confidence undoubtedly, but do you realise just how many messages some couples, let alone females get. It’s literally impossible to reply to them all. It would be a full time job sometimes.
So true! don't think people understand that sometimes. We can get upwards of 100 messages a day...even more in our first couple of weeks, and so many could avoid disappointment if they'd read the couples profile and only message if they're what the couple/person is looking for. We do try to read every message but with such high volume, only messages with a great degree of effort and attention to detail ever get more than a brief glimpse before moving to the next one.
Fab could resolve this issue but as they don't want to put of single Men who will be there biggest customer they wont do anything about it
Limit messages per day
A more descriptive search option, Height body size, cock, breasts etc then people can only send messages to people who match what they're looking for
Have a few pre set replies like No thanks, sorry you're not what I'm looking for, I'll get back to you when I'm meeting again etc
arrange messages into categories like Men, Women, Couples, friends etc
So many things fab can do but money talks"
I think there's many things Fab could do to help improve the community such as enforcing verification. It's not exactly hard or justiafiable for not doing. That would out a huge proportion of fakes. |
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