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Has swinging impacted your body image?
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Two years ago (almost to the day) I left my dead bedroom marriage, my body confidence was at an all time low. When we met over a decade ago, I was very much a unicorn who loved the scene, and felt so beautiful and then over the years, my self confidence took a major nose dive, vanilla life wasn’t doing it for me either.
Left the marriage, met up with some old friends and then joined here! I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but there’s something about this lifestyle that makes me feel so much more comfortable with who I am and what I look like and just generally brings me out of my shell.
So how has swinging impacted your body image? I know not everyone will feel the same way xx |
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I was in a similar situation, left a bad relationship, my body confidence was at an all time low and I was just feeling so gross about myself. Since coming back, I've found my old self and my confidence again  |
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Definitely, I was comfortable enough when we started but felt insecure after having a baby, meeting couples shows him I’m desirable and so is he, and playing with a new toy is always exciting so the enthusiasm that comes with it is ego boosting |
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"I was in a similar situation, left a bad relationship, my body confidence was at an all time low and I was just feeling so gross about myself. Since coming back, I've found my old self and my confidence again "
Awww I’m so glad you’ve found yourself once again beautiful xx |
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"Definitely, I was comfortable enough when we started but felt insecure after having a baby, meeting couples shows him I’m desirable and so is he, and playing with a new toy is always exciting so the enthusiasm that comes with it is ego boosting "
Yes! That feeling of being desired by someone else (even for just the one night) can be such a boost! |
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"Definitely, I was comfortable enough when we started but felt insecure after having a baby, meeting couples shows him I’m desirable and so is he, and playing with a new toy is always exciting so the enthusiasm that comes with it is ego boosting
Yes! That feeling of being desired by someone else (even for just the one night) can be such a boost!"
Especially in long term relationships , we’ve been together 5 years and it can go stale and repetitive, it reminds us that we are still able to excite others x |
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"Definitely, I was comfortable enough when we started but felt insecure after having a baby, meeting couples shows him I’m desirable and so is he, and playing with a new toy is always exciting so the enthusiasm that comes with it is ego boosting
Yes! That feeling of being desired by someone else (even for just the one night) can be such a boost!
Especially in long term relationships , we’ve been together 5 years and it can go stale and repetitive, it reminds us that we are still able to excite others x"
I’m now with someone who’s in the lifestyle too, and we enjoy exploring together, yet to do a full swap, but can definitely get how it keeps a spark alive xx |
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"We're a bit more body confident now
4 years ago there was no way either of us would have gone to a club and no way we would have gone to a dress down club
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A dress down club used to terrify me 😂. Now I’m pretty much naked before I even go in 🤣.
Do you think seeing a range of body types, having fun in person helps? Xx |
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"We're a bit more body confident now
4 years ago there was no way either of us would have gone to a club and no way we would have gone to a dress down club
A dress down club used to terrify me 😂. Now I’m pretty much naked before I even go in 🤣.
Do you think seeing a range of body types, having fun in person helps? Xx"
I think the many different body types on display did help put us at ease
It does feel very natural
Hopefully our paths cross in a club |
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Like any woman I have ups and downs with body image and confidence. Before I’d set foot in a club I had a pre conception that it would be full of supermodels and uber confident people.
Going and seeing “normal” was a surprise, plus getting some affirming comments about my appearance, glances and hubby’s appreciation did wonders.
So all in all I think its been a big help. |
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"Like any woman I have ups and downs with body image and confidence. Before I’d set foot in a club I had a pre conception that it would be full of supermodels and uber confident people.
Going and seeing “normal” was a surprise, plus getting some affirming comments about my appearance, glances and hubby’s appreciation did wonders.
So all in all I think its been a big help. "
We had the same thoughts |
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When we first started and saw all the popular pics and vids etc, it probably didn't help.
Then we started going to clubs, and seeing the range of different body types and having people tell you they are interested/attracted to you, does boost the confidence.
Seeing attractive people, getting lots of attention, that were 'bigger' than us really opened our eyes too and made us realise that there will be people out there that are into us 🙂 |
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I would not swinging has, but I will say that since watching myself back on a few videos has made me realise I needed to get in better shape as age is not on my side anymore. I have to be more aware I am not as active sports wise and burning off calories with ease.
I really don't judge other people at all, there is beauty in everything, but for myself always being in reasonable shape, has led me to be more conscious about my body, and through this small part of my life and the scene I guess it has made me more aware of my body. |
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We started out posting pictures on a voyeur/ exhibitionist site when I was in my early 50s. I was surprised that men found me attractive and also surprised to see that I looked good in photos. I was never nit confident but I assumed that 50 was a cut off for women.
Swinging hasn't really impacted my body confidence. Age makes me view my body differently though
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"We're a bit more body confident now
4 years ago there was no way either of us would have gone to a club and no way we would have gone to a dress down club
A dress down club used to terrify me 😂. Now I’m pretty much naked before I even go in 🤣.
Do you think seeing a range of body types, having fun in person helps? Xx
I think the many different body types on display did help put us at ease
It does feel very natural
Hopefully our paths cross in a club "
Yes! You’re super local. We’re off to Libs on Friday for their curve event! Excited 😜 |
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Not body image, as such, but it definitely helped my confidence sexually. I was so disconnected from that side of myself after having kids and being in a sexless marriage. I'd not had sex for two years when I first joined, and as ridiculous as it sounds, I was so nervous because I had a fear that I'd forgotten what to do! 🙈
Obviously, I hadn't, but that anxiety was quite big. |
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"Two years ago (almost to the day) I left my dead bedroom marriage, my body confidence was at an all time low. When we met over a decade ago, I was very much a unicorn who loved the scene, and felt so beautiful and then over the years, my self confidence took a major nose dive, vanilla life wasn’t doing it for me either.
Left the marriage, met up with some old friends and then joined here! I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but there’s something about this lifestyle that makes me feel so much more comfortable with who I am and what I look like and just generally brings me out of my shell.
So how has swinging impacted your body image? I know not everyone will feel the same way xx"
Always found it boosts confidence |
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I would definitely agree it does for men and women.
I'm the husband of the couple and I think I do pretty well making my wife feel good about herself. Those looks, grabs, kisses and cheeky bites that make her feel beautiful and sexy and even better hungered for. But we all learn to dismiss these things in our insecure moments and comments like "you are biased" come out. Yeah I'm biased, my wife is my #1 but that doesn't mean she isn't beautiful, hot and fuckable as hell.
It's a little harder for her to dismiss a different guy with a rock hard cock saying what he wants to do to her. I know because I was once a single guy on here and this is something I once provided.
Looking at the wife of a couple without hiding it, complimenting her and talking to her husband about how hot she is got her blushing and embarrassed but she felt amazing. If it got to sex I would often find at least one thing about her that I really liked. I would specifically ask to run my hands over her skin or kiss her legs. If I was getting a little over excited and about to blow early I would use that... "Your wife is too fucking hot mate I'm going to have to step back and watch or this is going to be over in seconds" then I would watch and edge while they played and clearly be watching the wife the whole time.
In some cases where the couple liked a bit of hotwifing I would take her out for a meal and make her my centre of attention and tease that I wanted her to myself for the night but often it would end up with the three of us.
Done right swinging can make you feel sexy as hell and realise that the mum curves or the dad bod is still sexy as fuck. Just a different flavour in the chocolate box than when we were teens. |
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Fab definitely made me realise that I was too obsessed and critical of my body and that I compare myself to others too much. And I found it suspicious that people could actually be attracted to me, although I still often question peoples motives...
And I can't stop that self doubt completely I chose to accept myself more than I ever did before Fab.  |
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I had body/self confidence issues for a variety of reasons, having children, ex had an affair with a younger, slimmer woman but the people of the swinger community have certainly helped improve that, with their kind words.
I feel so much better about myself.
It has also given me the kick I need to get to the gym, do yoga or go for a run more often. |
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A dress down club used to terrify me 😂. Now I’m pretty much naked before I even go in 🤣.
Do you think seeing a range of body types, having fun in person helps? Xx"
This is exactly us, we used to dread the dress down when we first started, I know Celeste did. Now we’re pretty much the first to do so.
I love seeing her when she is dressed down and the attention she gets from people, I call it her sexy glow because she gets that boost of self-confidence and I get to feel lucky that she’s mine. |
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"I had body/self confidence issues for a variety of reasons, having children, ex had an affair with a younger, slimmer woman but the people of the swinger community have certainly helped improve that, with their kind words.
I feel so much better about myself.
It has also given me the kick I need to get to the gym, do yoga or go for a run more often. "
Your ex had you in their bed and cheated?! I'll never understand some people. I don't understand cheating anyway but then I'm brutally honest and have no jealousy (neurodiversity yay) and if I want to experience someone else or think my wife would benefit from doing so I'll just say it. I don't understand any cheating but when they have a beautiful person like you it's even more unbelievable. |
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I guess it’s a woman thing but my wife always compares herself unfavourably with just about every other woman on the planet. Seeing all shapes, sizes and ages having fun swinging has been reassuring to her. Seeing how positive the response from men to her naked body has been a good thing for her.
Is she now in possession of a robust and positive body image?
No. Definitely not.
However she is part of the way there. I think when she is 80 years old she will look at our old pics and finally realise just how spectacular she used to be. lol |
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A dress down club used to terrify me 😂. Now I’m pretty much naked before I even go in 🤣.
Do you think seeing a range of body types, having fun in person helps? Xx
This is exactly us, we used to dread the dress down when we first started, I know Celeste did. Now we’re pretty much the first to do so.
I love seeing her when she is dressed down and the attention she gets from people, I call it her sexy glow because she gets that boost of self-confidence and I get to feel lucky that she’s mine."
We used to hate the idea of dress down and thought it would never be for us.
Now we visit clubs in casual clothes and feel more self-conscious 😂 |
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Not me so much, but..
Last night in Club Play & there were gorgeous ladies of all ages & sizes, all wearing slinky, sexy & revealing attire & outwardly at least, all looking supremely confident.
The only bad vibe was a sour faced woman giving a sneering look at a fuller figured young lady as she walked past.
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Not really samebutme & my wife roleplay together her with others.
The roleplay has really giving her self confidence abuse boost dressing sexy for our roleplay fun.
Now she also dresses much sexier under her dresses when we out.
It's been wonderful to see her blossom
Unfortunately reality a step to far for her it seems |
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I had my son very late and my body just didn’t bounce back. I felt ugly, unsexy and like I’d lost my femininity. PPD hit me hard, and then straight into menopause.
My husband, the patient and wonderful guy he is, kept encouraging me, telling me he still thought I was sexy. But sex was basically non existent. I lost all desire.
Felt guilty. I told him he could fuck someone else. He refused and we compromised going to a club together.
It basically gave me a second sexy wind. I had an identity there as a sexy slut,our sex life exploded, it was like years past, before pregnancy, kids, life…
We have been going to clubs together ever since and I have never felt sexier. I am again, a sexual being, wanted, lusted after, desired..and that has made me feel wonderful.
I look at myself, bumps, limps, scars and rolls..and can see me again.
And hubby is happy too!
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I had a huge body confidence boost just from coming out as MtF but since staying to go to swingers clubs and being able to dress as sexy as I feel has been an even bigger boost.
I have a tummy on me and my body is still very masculine but I'm working on it and already seeing improvements. There's a bit of me that feels like I have more body confidence than I should have but fuck it. Life is too short and I want to enjoy my femininity while I still can. |
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I had my son very late and my body just didn’t bounce back. I felt ugly, unsexy and like I’d lost my femininity. PPD hit me hard, and then straight into menopause.
My husband, the patient and wonderful guy he is, kept encouraging me, telling me he still thought I was sexy. But sex was basically non existent. I lost all desire.
Felt guilty. I told him he could fuck someone else. He refused and we compromised going to a club together.
It basically gave me a second sexy wind. I had an identity there as a sexy slut,our sex life exploded, it was like years past, before pregnancy, kids, life…
We have been going to clubs together ever since and I have never felt sexier. I am again, a sexual being, wanted, lusted after, desired..and that has made me feel wonderful.
I look at myself, bumps, limps, scars and rolls..and can see me again.
And hubby is happy too!
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I love this 😍 |
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I had my son very late and my body just didn’t bounce back. I felt ugly, unsexy and like I’d lost my femininity. PPD hit me hard, and then straight into menopause.
My husband, the patient and wonderful guy he is, kept encouraging me, telling me he still thought I was sexy. But sex was basically non existent. I lost all desire.
Felt guilty. I told him he could fuck someone else. He refused and we compromised going to a club together.
It basically gave me a second sexy wind. I had an identity there as a sexy slut,our sex life exploded, it was like years past, before pregnancy, kids, life…
We have been going to clubs together ever since and I have never felt sexier. I am again, a sexual being, wanted, lusted after, desired..and that has made me feel wonderful.
I look at myself, bumps, limps, scars and rolls..and can see me again.
And hubby is happy too!
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This is such a gorgeous story, the way that motherhood can be a walking contradiction: the best and worst thing ever, is definitely something I relate to. The pressure to “bounce back” both physically and emotionally puts unrealistic expectations on women. I’m so glad you can see yourself once again 💕 |
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I have never been body confident despite constant reassurance from hubby about how sexy I am. However since being on fab my confidence has continued to grow. The first club we attended I was sure no one would find me attractive however much to my surprise I received a good bit of attention and realised maybe I could be sexy. I always liked to be quite covered and couldn’t imagine being brave enough to just be in sexy underwear like so many of the other lovely ladies however last week I attended a club wearing a basque and hold ups and felt really confident and sexy Hubby also loves my new found confidence |
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"I have never been body confident despite constant reassurance from hubby about how sexy I am. However since being on fab my confidence has continued to grow. The first club we attended I was sure no one would find me attractive however much to my surprise I received a good bit of attention and realised maybe I could be sexy. I always liked to be quite covered and couldn’t imagine being brave enough to just be in sexy underwear like so many of the other lovely ladies however last week I attended a club wearing a basque and hold ups and felt really confident and sexy Hubby also loves my new found confidence "
Huuuuun! All I’m going to say is I don’t doubt you get attention 🔥
Stunning xx |
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"I have never been body confident despite constant reassurance from hubby about how sexy I am. However since being on fab my confidence has continued to grow. The first club we attended I was sure no one would find me attractive however much to my surprise I received a good bit of attention and realised maybe I could be sexy. I always liked to be quite covered and couldn’t imagine being brave enough to just be in sexy underwear like so many of the other lovely ladies however last week I attended a club wearing a basque and hold ups and felt really confident and sexy Hubby also loves my new found confidence
Huuuuun! All I’m going to say is I don’t doubt you get attention 🔥
Stunning xx"
Thank you ❤️ you are gorgeous too ☺️ |
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