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Leaving aside the profiles with no photos at all (how do they get to meet anyone?), very few of the profiles we look at seem to have any photos of the male half; possibly a dick pic or several, which isn't going to do it for Ms Love2Lurve. We have been ghosted quite a few times following Ms. L2L asking for a picture of the man. The lack of any photos of the the bloke just seems strange to us if we're both expected to think -'yep, looking good, wonder if this pair would be up for a social meet'
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By *rpeggioCouple 24 hours ago
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There's many reasons: some are looking for a male or female so the name in the couple is inconsequential. Others are a male posing as a couple trying to attract chat and photos by using his partner photos as bait.
The most difficult one to spot is the "besoted hubby" couples. What turns them on is the constant admiration of others towards the lady, so you see hundreds of photos of her, regularly posted, but none of him, and they rarely meet.
If you OP are like us, looking for a swap with another couple, aim for those that tend to meet other couples for a social and or a play meet. Those will usually have photos of the male in the profile. If they don't, ask to share photos of both at the start of the chat (no nudes, just face pics exchange). If they don't do it... No need to waste time. |
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We stopped interacting with those profiles.
Mostly because the couple of times we did meet where they only reluctantly provided a sketchy photo of the guy he so obviously wasn't into it that it resulted in a rather depressing and lack lustre encounter. |
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We don’t have many pictures of me (mr) on public display but we do send pictures of us both fully clothed and face to people who we’d be interested to chatting to and hopefully arrange a meet . I think what puts people off us is what we’re looking for I think most people want a bit more |
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We take it that there’s a reason why the gent has no pics or just dick pics and the reason is never good 😬
We don’t bother with profiles with no pics of Mr as asking for pics is too difficult and never surprising in a good way.
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"We don’t have many pictures of me (mr) on public display but we do send pictures of us both fully clothed and face to people who we’d be interested to chatting to and hopefully arrange a meet . I think what puts people off us is what we’re looking for I think most people want a bit more "
This is us to a degree- what we are looking for is very specific- he is less participatory than me so we are in essence asking for people to play with me, not him. Plus, I enjoy posing, he doesn't. Hence there is far more pics of me.
However, we do and will send pics of us as a couple and him on request to parties we are interested in meeitng. |
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"We don’t have many pictures of me (mr) on public display but we do send pictures of us both fully clothed and face to people who we’d be interested to chatting to and hopefully arrange a meet . I think what puts people off us is what we’re looking for I think most people want a bit more
This is us to a degree- what we are looking for is very specific- he is less participatory than me so we are in essence asking for people to play with me, not him. Plus, I enjoy posing, he doesn't. Hence there is far more pics of me.
However, we do and will send pics of us as a couple and him on request to parties we are interested in meeitng. "
I (mr) hate posing for photos I much prefer photos that I’m not aware are being taken . I do enjoy taking photos tho which is probably the same for most of the men on here |
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"We don’t have many pictures of me (mr) on public display but we do send pictures of us both fully clothed and face to people who we’d be interested to chatting to and hopefully arrange a meet . I think what puts people off us is what we’re looking for I think most people want a bit more
This is us to a degree- what we are looking for is very specific- he is less participatory than me so we are in essence asking for people to play with me, not him. Plus, I enjoy posing, he doesn't. Hence there is far more pics of me.
However, we do and will send pics of us as a couple and him on request to parties we are interested in meeitng. I (mr) hate posing for photos I much prefer photos that I’m not aware are being taken . I do enjoy taking photos tho which is probably the same for most of the men on here "
A highly genuine and understandable response to the “man less” couples topic!
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I think people should run their profile exactly how they want to. The only time I have a problem with it is if they complain they aren't getting meets and the reason is...their profile 🤷♀️.
So if couples don't want photos of the guy it's fine by me. They obviously have their reasons. We have our reasons for feeling we're not compatible with them . All fair. |
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We make a conscious effort to make sure there are some of Mr, but ultimately ladies are far more photogenic and when there is a vast array of sexy clothing and lingerie for women, it's common for our pics to be showing off those looks/outfits - particularly as we don't tend to go down the 'explicit/action' shot route.
When we share face pics, it's always the pair of us, and our friends pics have a few more of Mr, but we always struggle with the more discreet shots involving Mr |
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"We don’t have many pictures of me (mr) on public display but we do send pictures of us both fully clothed and face to people who we’d be interested to chatting to and hopefully arrange a meet . I think what puts people off us is what we’re looking for I think most people want a bit more
This is us to a degree- what we are looking for is very specific- he is less participatory than me so we are in essence asking for people to play with me, not him. Plus, I enjoy posing, he doesn't. Hence there is far more pics of me.
However, we do and will send pics of us as a couple and him on request to parties we are interested in meeitng. I (mr) hate posing for photos I much prefer photos that I’m not aware are being taken . I do enjoy taking photos tho which is probably the same for most of the men on here "
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So if couples don't want photos of the guy it's fine by me. They obviously have their reasons. We have our reasons for feeling we're not compatible with them . All fair. "
We sort of agree with your approach, but it does mean that a really tiny proportion of couples who say they want to meet others will ever end up face to face; or hopefully face to 'down there'  |
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So if couples don't want photos of the guy it's fine by me. They obviously have their reasons. We have our reasons for feeling we're not compatible with them . All fair.
We sort of agree with your approach, but it does mean that a really tiny proportion of couples who say they want to meet others will ever end up face to face; or hopefully face to 'down there' "
That's how it is. If these people were serious about meeting couples who both play and respected that the woman in the other couple needed to see the guy they'd put photos up or send them with a first message. They either don't really want to meet or think that the other woman isn't important. I can't think of any other reasons. |
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"We only show the Mrs as we are after single guys only and I doubt any are bothered what I look like. "
Same here, we do send a face pic of the Mr as well, and will send body pics if its a couple, bi guy, or TV that we're both looking to play with. |
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"We can't find anyone too take pics of us both, hubby hates pics of him alone but would be happy with pics of both of us having fun together x"
buy a tripod with a clicker button it works well for stills and videos
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"We make a conscious effort to make sure there are some of Mr, but ultimately ladies are far more photogenic and when there is a vast array of sexy clothing and lingerie for women, it's common for our pics to be showing off those looks/outfits - particularly as we don't tend to go down the 'explicit/action' shot route.
When we share face pics, it's always the pair of us, and our friends pics have a few more of Mr, but we always struggle with the more discreet shots involving Mr"
Exactly this! I encourage him to take more pics but he's not too bothered. We have lots of vanilla couple pics on our friends only but don't want to show our faces to the world of fab ✌️ |
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Yeah if couples are only looking for single guys then it makes sense to have mainly the lady.
If couples are both meeting then it makes sense to have pics of both.
There will always be more pics of ladies as they attract more people to your profile.
K
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"Yeah if couples are only looking for single guys then it makes sense to have mainly the lady.
If couples are both meeting then it makes sense to have pics of both.
There will always be more pics of ladies as they attract more people to your profile.
K
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But then when I was a couple I did the majority of the browsing.
So yes I might be thinking if my fella would like the Mrs but I wanted to know about the guy and it was a constant frustration that couples saying they were looking for couples didn't have any pics and worse got arsy when asked.
Unless it is a specific dynamic then there are four people all equally important.
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"Yeah if couples are only looking for single guys then it makes sense to have mainly the lady.
If couples are both meeting then it makes sense to have pics of both.
There will always be more pics of ladies as they attract more people to your profile.
K
But then when I was a couple I did the majority of the browsing.
So yes I might be thinking if my fella would like the Mrs but I wanted to know about the guy and it was a constant frustration that couples saying they were looking for couples didn't have any pics and worse got arsy when asked.
Unless it is a specific dynamic then there are four people all equally important.
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Fully agree - all 4 need to have that attraction or get on. We’ve stopped trying to meet couples as it’s too hard.
If there’s no pics of both we just don’t bother. Like you say it turns into a battle just trying to get pics.
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By *ony MannMan 14 hours ago
Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover |
"Leaving aside the profiles with no photos at all (how do they get to meet anyone?), very few of the profiles we look at seem to have any photos of the male half; possibly a dick pic or several, which isn't going to do it for Ms Love2Lurve. We have been ghosted quite a few times following Ms. L2L asking for a picture of the man. The lack of any photos of the the bloke just seems strange to us if we're both expected to think -'yep, looking good, wonder if this pair would be up for a social meet'
What do you think? "
I've been told the woman is more attractive than the man, but I don't buy that. |
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"Leaving aside the profiles with no photos at all (how do they get to meet anyone?), very few of the profiles we look at seem to have any photos of the male half; possibly a dick pic or several, which isn't going to do it for Ms Love2Lurve. We have been ghosted quite a few times following Ms. L2L asking for a picture of the man. The lack of any photos of the the bloke just seems strange to us if we're both expected to think -'yep, looking good, wonder if this pair would be up for a social meet'
What do you think?
I've been told the woman is more attractive than the man, but I don't buy that."
Neither do I. I'm straight and although I can appreciate that a woman is very attractive I won't be having sex with her. |
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