This may apply more to couples but feel free to have an opinion. When you're out socially with fab friends but not in a meet capacity is it OK for your partner to be kissing them or is this a boundary crossed as it isn't a meet? How do you draw a line on what's ok when swinging/social time out with fab friends? |
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By *ony MannMan 2 days ago
Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover |
I have a fab and we have a rule, we play together when together. She can kiss who she likes, but if she gets to the point of real play, then we do it together.
Boundary, we together we play together. |
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So I am married and yes, we have a couples account (mentioned in my profile).
In my case, I'm free to do what I want because that's what my wife likes. She likes watching me flirt with other women and other women flirting with me..or more. Be it if shes present and involved... or not!
We enjoy the social side of things and yes, I can snog who I like when I like.
Obviously I respect their boundaries as well but yeah, it's all good with us.
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"So I am married and yes, we have a couples account (mentioned in my profile).
In my case, I'm free to do what I want because that's what my wife likes. She likes watching me flirt with other women and other women flirting with me..or more. Be it if shes present and involved... or not!
We enjoy the social side of things and yes, I can snog who I like when I like.
Obviously I respect their boundaries as well but yeah, it's all good with us.
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Is this something you discussed beforehand though? |
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If either of us was out with our close Fab/NM pals, we are happy for each other to do as we please. This would be because the people would be considered close, trusted individuals that we have a strong social relationship with. If it was a case of either of us going out alone to meet someone for a social or we weren't as close with them, then it would require a quick discussion around boundaries.
We are secure in our relationship though and are happy for one another to be autonomous in making decisions with our close pals.
It would also depend very heavily on who we were with and what the other person's relational dynamics are too.
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I think I'd need to consider a few things:
1) what are the rules when you are in a "meet capacity"? Is either of you allowed to kiss the people you're meeting? If not, then obviously kissing them when just out socially would be a breach of trust, depending on the kind of kiss.
2) the type of kiss - are just being polite and it was a peck on the cheek or is it a fully blown locked mouth "I forgot about the entire world, I'm about to come" or "get a room, you too" kind? Or anything in between.
Only you can answer that question, OP.
Both me and my partner are allowed to kiss others as kissing is very important to me. If we're in public, I'd expect the kissing to be much more discreet than it would be, for example, in a swingers club. |
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