Are swingers “using” one another?
We must never forget that everyone is in some way using everyone in swinging, particularly in threesomes.
1.The Hotwife thinks she’s using the bull to give her satisying energetic lustful sex and using the hubby to procure the safest and best cock for her.
2. The Bull thinks he’s using my wife to satisfy his lust and using the husband to deliver his wife to him on a plate.
3. The husband/stag/cuckold is using both his wife and her bills to deliver a live sex show experience for him to enjoy in almost a puppeteer way.
Everyone is convinced they are the user and the beneficiary.
Your thoughts?
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In BDSM you'll often hear the phrase "topping from the bottom", where the submissive is actually the person in control with the Dominant acting out their fantasies for them.
I have encountered some cuckolding couples where the wife is doing it to please the husband, and isn't really into shagging other men. I'm sure there's a few out there were the man feels he has to let his wife play with others in order to not lose her. But in general it is just fantasy fulfilment. |
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"Ultimately, the answer is yes.
As long as its mutually beneficial to all parties concerned , then there's no harm.
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Agree just enjoy it "
Totally agree, making fantasy reality and feeling great afterwards  |
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"We would agree with this, everyone is hoping to get maximum enjoyment from others, we always hope that everyone walks away smiling. "
Connection is key and it’s sadly not always there when you meet |
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I think it all depends on what kind of intent is behind the people involved and what their play dynamics are.
"Using" givens off a self-focussed intention and somewhat of a lack of consideration for the other person involved. Sure, this can be very desirable to someone being "used" but not everyone wants to be treated this way.
Yes, it could be argued that the act of playing with another person's body could be "using" their person to achieve some gratification, but i guess that's where it requires slightly more clarity on context from OP (not having a dig at you OP, just to be clear) 
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I think “using” is a very cynical way of looking at things. With that logic you could say are couples “using” their partner for company? Are pets “using” their owners for food? Are we all “using” our friends for entertainment?
So no in short I don’t think anyone’s using anyone. |
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If one person in the play is not getting excitement or pleasure then that person is being used or letting themselves used. If all are into it and having a good time in the rest they want, then no one is being used, they are cooperating to achieve their own goal. |
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