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Does repeated rejection not phase you?
Why we ask is if we have simply responded to someone telling them they aren't what we are looking for, why do we continue to receive repeated winks and messages for months after?
Yes, we could block and yes, we know it isn't all men or couples infact. But if we had been rejected, as a couple or as singles, there's no chance we'd pursue that again and move on?
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By *neforutoMan 7 weeks ago
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im thinking they dont care about your response and polite 'no ty'. I think its pretty awesome you even give a no ty reply in the first place and i would be happy knowing someone has read my messgage and take that as a win  |
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"Does repeated rejection not phase you?
Why we ask is if we have simply responded to someone telling them they aren't what we are looking for, why do we continue to receive repeated winks and messages for months after?
Yes, we could block and yes, we know it isn't all men or couples infact. But if we had been rejected, as a couple or as singles, there's no chance we'd pursue that again and move on?
Thoughts on a postcard! "
Nope as bloke we are used to it bit meh as you get older but it is what it is  |
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I would rather receive a polite no thanks than be ignored. Either way I’d just leave it as it is and move on.
The only other message I’d send would be to say thanks for replying and good luck in the future. |
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One rejection is enough for me - I’ll just bow out gracefully. Even if it’s a read and deleted message, I understand what they are saying. No point spending any time or energy chasing or getting pissy about it. Just shrug the shoulders and remember not everyone is to everyone else’s taste. |
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Echoing most other responses here, if I’ve had a ‘no Ty’ I wish them luck and move on, most don’t even reply so it’s certainly courteous of you to do so. I’ve heard a few times about guys repeatedly messaging when told no etc and I simply don’t understand why they do it. It’s hardly going to make them suddenly attractive. |
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One has to accept that rejection is more likely than acceptance. I tend to send a follow up message if left unread as I appreciate the amount of messages women get…after that I’ll take it as not interested and continue doom scrolling |
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"Does repeated rejection not phase you?
Why we ask is if we have simply responded to someone telling them they aren't what we are looking for, why do we continue to receive repeated winks and messages for months after?
Possibly they have forgotten they contacted you but if not then who knows.
Rejection is part of life and personally I thank people for responding even with a no thanks
Yes, we could block and yes, we know it isn't all men or couples infact. But if we had been rejected, as a couple or as singles, there's no chance we'd pursue that again and move on?
Thoughts on a postcard! "
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"Does repeated rejection not phase you?
Why we ask is if we have simply responded to someone telling them they aren't what we are looking for, why do we continue to receive repeated winks and messages for months after?
Yes, we could block and yes, we know it isn't all men or couples infact. But if we had been rejected, as a couple or as singles, there's no chance we'd pursue that again and move on?
Thoughts on a postcard! "
It starts to feel a bit of a waste of time after a while. But other than that it's never bothered me. I have come to accept that its the way it is.
Women have a lot of guys to chose from and it only makes sense they would pick the best guys.
I think the guys who egos can't accept that the majority of women will never be interested in them must have a very difficult time, with the rejection.
I think thats why some guys get abusive. |
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We often get another message from someone we’ve rejected a few days earlier.
We change our profile pic almost daily so I guess people may think they haven’t messaged us before.
If you don’t pay for the site it doesn’t show you’ve messaged but if you do it’ll show the email trail too so we usually just screenshot the ‘no thanks’ message 
We do block if it’s continuous though.
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By *lthomasMan 7 weeks ago
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If I message a couple I’m interested in and get a no thank you not for us, I tend to send 1 mile back thanking them for the reply and then I tend to block them simply so I don’t message them again
Nothing malicious nothing nasty just better for both of us |
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"Does repeated rejection not phase you?
Why we ask is if we have simply responded to someone telling them they aren't what we are looking for, why do we continue to receive repeated winks and messages for months after?
Yes, we could block and yes, we know it isn't all men or couples infact. But if we had been rejected, as a couple or as singles, there's no chance we'd pursue that again and move on?
Thoughts on a postcard! "
Personally as a single man this time it’s definitely harder than playing as a couple but if I message and get no reply or it’s deleted for me the answer is a sorry not interested so I don’t persistently badger with more messages |
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Not a single man but play sepeatly from my wife often due to our dynamic (also have a couples account).
I don't bother trying on fab anymore for the most part. It's a constant stream of "no" on here. It's annoying as there's a mentality I'm cheating (I'm most certainly not) or I'm not meeting someone else's requirements.
I go to the clubs or socials...no such worry. I'm a popular fella there.
For me it's the difference between online and real life. Online I'm just a voice in a large crowd. At the club, I get attention because I have the social skills for it.
I'm lucky that way because I know it's not the same for other men.
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"I suspect that if they can still wink and message they will.
Out of interest why don't you block?"
We've always used block for the worst offenders on Fab, not exclusively to men. People use it in different ways but out of all we've encountered, we've only had like 5 terrible responses from people.
The mannerisms in this lifestyle we find intriguing, hence the question. People's responses have certainly opened our eyes! |
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Nah, been around fab over a decade and learned pretty early on it's an absolute cock fest on here. Your lucky if your message even gets read the amount women and couples get bombarded so just take it for what it is and keep it moving. The minute you start taking fab seriously and it's affecting your mood / mental health it's time to Jack it in.  |
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Good on u for replying even though it's not the reply they were hoping for.. for me no 1 enjoys rejection if we are honest but let's be nasty with a horrible reply if the reply isn't positive ..
What i dislike is u make the effort to send a message sometimes at length then with no answer back it's deleted .. |
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We second that! Constant
"Hey"
"Meet"
"You free now"
All within minutes of each other and we open the message and don't reply but constantly get bombarded with the same message. As a guy I'd defo get the hint after the first ignored message..second at worst! But some people really don't give up! |
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It's difficult getting yourself across in a single message, plus guys know that women and couple's get bombarded so pretty hard to stand out or not get mass deleted.
Me and the wife met on here but took 2 or 3 messages before she even noticed me before we got together |
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