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We are new to all this but 1 thing that's on our bucket list is going to our first swinger club
Can couples explain how they felt on their first experience going to 1, did you go to a club first before arranging personal meets or after x |
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I (mr) was so, so nervous I drank too much. Once inside, I thought why did I drink so much as everyone was so laid back and friendly.
It was an amazing experience and has been repeated many times since and every time is different. |
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We went to have fun in the dungeon and that’s exactly what we did and have done since. We enjoy the audience that gathers.
We knew our limits when we first went we had discussed before going and still do every time.
The last thing you want to be is the arguing couple at a swing club it’s not fun for you and it’s not fun for everyone else to watch.
Pick a club that has the kind of crowd you want, we don’t mind being watched by all so we tend to use clubs that allow single guys as that gives us the most voyeurs, but if you are not looking for single guys go to a couple only club.
We go to have a fun night out with like minded open people who are also there for the same thing. You can do all the things you want to do to each other on a a night out when you are turning each other on without worrying about being thrown out by a bouncer.
You’ll find a very welcoming very friendly atmosphere at most clubs. Just go and enjoy the hedonism.
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Our first time was awful, followed by groups of Asian men all night - HOWEVER, that club is now closed.
Our second club visit was AWESOME! We went to The Attic (old venue) met some great people and became regulars there. We love the new venue too. |
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Our tips would be:
Research the club you think you want to go to. There’s some dingy ones, there’s some upmarket ones. ‘Bring your own booze’ or not? Private or open play?
Research the night. Event nights will typically be packed. Certain nights allow/prohibit single guys. Most clubs will have a ‘stock’ Friday and Saturday night which will likely be a little quieter.
Read the club rules and understand them. Read then again. Don’t be the couple stood in their clothes watching at the end of the bed if it’s dress down in playrooms. Or the excited person that responds to their phone on a club where they should be in the lockers.
Agree your rules/boundaries before you go. Never change on the night.
For a first night. Just go and absorb it . Try and talk to as many people as possible in the bar. No one knows you, be the best version of yourself and be a social butterfly.
If you agree beforehand, maybe play together only.
Go home and debrief. Then debrief some more.
And always have fun. There are clubs (drop us a line and we’ll share) where you can go and have a great night speaking with like minded people and not leave the bar or take your clothes off.
Our last point is you can always do something next time, you can never undo it once it’s done. |
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First time was more curiosity as always looking to try new experiences. We took it slowly but soon got into the swing of things and never looked back. Pretty much all swinging for us now happens in clubs. |
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In honesty......so incredibly uncomfortable the first time.
I've never really seen other people have sex in real life.....when you then end up in a place surrounded by it, its a strange feeling.
We still go though....so we clearly enjoyed it.
Mr. |
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"Any advice welcome
We are new to all this but 1 thing that's on our bucket list is going to our first swinger club
Can couples explain how they felt on their first experience going to 1, did you go to a club first before arranging personal meets or after x"
Incredibly nervous...sitting in the car park for what seemed like ages deliberating on whether we would go in or not. Eventually we did (go in) and as everyone will tell you it gets better very quickly after that! Everyone was friendly and 'normal' and the place did not seem in the least seedy. Had a wonderful evening just watching and being watched. Needless to say we've moved on a bit from watching now!  
And meeting at a club always feels so much safer in the begining than inviting strangers into your home |
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1st time was a very big party overseas, went with a FWB who had been before with a couple. Slow afternoon waiting until it was open, but within about half an hour we were meeting some fun people chatting away and then having some fun.
For couples I'd suggest one that doesn't admit single guys for your first time, keeps things a bit more relaxed. |
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They are fun, can be a bit of a step though to start I suppose.
Our recommendation, have a look on the forum, and find a night you will like (loads on there, we like the bbw nights at chams for example) and go along to one of them, usually don't have to be a member then, and get a feel for it all in a like minded group setting. |
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"Our tips would be:
Research the club you think you want to go to. There’s some dingy ones, there’s some upmarket ones. ‘Bring your own booze’ or not? Private or open play?
Research the night. Event nights will typically be packed. Certain nights allow/prohibit single guys. Most clubs will have a ‘stock’ Friday and Saturday night which will likely be a little quieter.
Read the club rules and understand them. Read then again. Don’t be the couple stood in their clothes watching at the end of the bed if it’s dress down in playrooms. Or the excited person that responds to their phone on a club where they should be in the lockers.
Agree your rules/boundaries before you go. Never change on the night.
For a first night. Just go and absorb it . Try and talk to as many people as possible in the bar. No one knows you, be the best version of yourself and be a social butterfly.
If you agree beforehand, maybe play together only.
Go home and debrief. Then debrief some more.
And always have fun. There are clubs (drop us a line and we’ll share) where you can go and have a great night speaking with like minded people and not leave the bar or take your clothes off.
Our last point is you can always do something next time, you can never undo it once it’s done."
Great advice.
I’d also add to get there early. It’s far easier to walk into a quiet pub than a bar that is loud and busy. Same with clubs, you can enjoy the atmosphere building and people watch to get an idea of who you’d like to talk to. New members will be offered a tour of the place and it’s easier for staff to take you round whilst the bar is quiet.
Have fun! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Mrs SW |
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