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How do you reject someone you initiated chat with?
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This is a real issue, I know some just never message again and that works for them, however, for us coming across anything other than genuine is difficult, somebody's physique may look amazing but then when you see the other person there just doesn't scream phwaor, we're both aware we're no oil paintings, but we find one another sexually attractive, how do you say your body's fit but I don't want to sit on your face without sounding up your own a**e? |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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You don't say it, there's no need to pick out the parts you do and don't like. If someone isn't completely for you just politely say I'm looking for something different. |
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No need to say anything about their physical appearance.
'thanks for chatting we've decided not to take things further' ought to do it.
It helps if your first contact explains that you are chatting to establish compatibility...or otherwise |
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I take this on for her she is a people pleaser to her own demise.
If she isn't into someone when we meet and I'm not exactly picking up on it i just ask her to say "thanks for the night my husband and I will talk about moving forward".
Then simply let them know that we enjoyed the meet but the feeling wasn't there. |
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Obviously we wouldn't point out what we didn't like about othwrs, it just feels really awkward to initiate a conversation with anybody and then change our minds, but as I'm writing this that is our right free will and all that, it is however awkward lol |
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"Obviously we wouldn't point out what we didn't like about othwrs, it just feels really awkward to initiate a conversation with anybody and then change our minds, but as I'm writing this that is our right free will and all that, it is however awkward lol"
Most have taken it well, one didn't but nothing crazy. |
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"I take this on for her she is a people pleaser to her own demise.
If she isn't into someone when we meet and I'm not exactly picking up on it i just ask her to say "thanks for the night my husband and I will talk about moving forward".
Then simply let them know that we enjoyed the meet but the feeling wasn't there. "
Yes, this. |
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"I take this on for her she is a people pleaser to her own demise.
If she isn't into someone when we meet and I'm not exactly picking up on it i just ask her to say "thanks for the night my husband and I will talk about moving forward".
Yes, this. "
Most in this community are mature enough and appreciate the honesty.
Then simply let them know that we enjoyed the meet but the feeling wasn't there. |
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This is an interesting discussion. We have had a couple of instances recently where another couple, after initiating chat or sending a wink, has just disengaged from the chat without saying why. Obviously they are entitled to do as they see fit but it would have been nice to have just said something like "..we've decided you're not for us.." or " we don't think we'll be compatible". We are absolutely fine about being rejected by others but knowing why can sometimes be helpful |
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"This is a real issue, I know some just never message again and that works for them, however, for us coming across anything other than genuine is difficult, somebody's physique may look amazing but then when you see the other person there just doesn't scream phwaor, we're both aware we're no oil paintings, but we find one another sexually attractive, how do you say your body's fit but I don't want to sit on your face without sounding up your own a**e? "
Don't engage in too much chat with others regarding meeting unless you've swapped face pics. There are plenty of swingers whose bodies look good but you won't be attracted to their face. Some people just block the other profile if they don't fancy them. If there's a chance you could bump into them in a club come up with an excuse. "Due to personal reasons we're not meeting at the moment". Most will get the message and leave you alone. |
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Body for Baywatch, face for crime watch.
Obviously for comedic effect only, I wouldn’t recommend actually saying this!
It’s already been said, “sorry not for us”. It would be wrong not to say anything and just rude to block.
We’ve stopped play before as it wasn’t working for one of us. We said “sorry this isn’t working”
You’ve got to have your big person pants on in this game, even before you take them off.
Good luck
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"Obviously we wouldn't point out what we didn't like about othwrs, it just feels really awkward to initiate a conversation with anybody and then change our minds, but as I'm writing this that is our right free will and all that, it is however awkward lol"
You are overthinking it
Saying no to someone even after a bit of a chat doesn't make you any less genuine except in your head
You don't need to explain
If you feel you must message
"Thank you, don't feel that we want to take further"
You can either block or
Depending on how much an arse the other person is potentially getting a begging/abusive/polite reply.
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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If you're not going to ghost then I'd go with being politely honest.
Just think about job interviews, the "Thanks, but no thanks" letter is better than tumble. |
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By *TWboyMan 5 weeks ago
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"If you're not going to ghost then I'd go with being politely honest.
Just think about job interviews, the "Thanks, but no thanks" letter is better than tumble."
Quite often it feels like a job interview for single guys 😀 |
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By *eyeYCouple 5 weeks ago
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"Body for Baywatch, face for crime watch.
Obviously for comedic effect only, I wouldn’t recommend actually saying this!
It’s already been said, “sorry not for us”. It would be wrong not to say anything and just rude to block.
We’ve stopped play before as it wasn’t working for one of us. We said “sorry this isn’t working”
You’ve got to have your big person pants on in this game, even before you take them off.
Good luck
Xx"
Yup!! 👍 |
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