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By *oxy jWoman 2 weeks ago
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"hi Me and my partner are new to swinging only starting this summer, after 25 years of marriage, how did you all get started in this life style?"
talk talk and talk make sure you are both 100% on the same page and have a rock solid marriage/relationship ... if your thinking it will repair bits of your relationship (if) it wont it will just tear you apart seen so many split after swinging for the wrong reasons |
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Start = Pillow talk
Then lots and lots of talking
We started going to clubs socially, did so for a year or so, then started taking things further slowly.
You have to have 100% trust and confidence in each other, following this road will find cracks if they exist and turn them into chasms.
For us it brought us closer together, the sheer level of closeness/trust it brings while being able to fully be ourselves in front of each other is magical.
Fantasy and reality can be very different, communicate and be prepared for feelings you may not of thought you would get.
As long as you are both on the same page for your own individual reasons as well as those of each other I wish you the best on your journey.
Jay
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We stumbled on a nudist beach while on holiday and found it the sexiest thing ever, a naked couple came over and chatted to us, it was a bit overwhelming.
From there it was chat, chat, chat and then after more chat it was a visit to a club, Cupids in Manchester.
We were so nervous we drove around and around for ages until I needed a pee and decided it was now or never.
Sat at the bar all night absolutely terrified but the staff and fellow visitors were so kind and understanding.
Went home and chatted more.
Visits to several clubs and eventually had a furtive play, home to more chatting in the cold light of day.
The chat has to come out of the bedroom, it can be a bit difficult at first, but perseverance pays off.
Then posts on swingers sites and this was a disaster at first.
Timewasters, dreamers, people who showed up were a disappointment.
We almost packed the sites in but then had a few lovely meets.
Once we started networking the private party invites started to roll in and it just got better and swinging holidays the icing on the cake.
It can take time but keep talking and keep having fun.
Good luck, it's a great journey.  |
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Having met some nervous newbies, do your homework, check their verifications, social meets always a good shout if they don’t agree to that then they’re not for you don’t ever feel pressured.. No mean no and don’t worry if you feel you need to back out last minute.. if they are decent people they will understand - best of luck |
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