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It looks like a lot of men on here are in similar situation to you, OP. I personally don't care whether someone is married or not, it's none of my business. However, as my availability won't be suitable due to working during the day, I don't meet anyone married/attached. If they're in a club at the same time when I am, and we hit it off, I don't ask about their marital status. |
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there are many married men on here in sexless marriages that's why we come here to get a little bit of excitement and to reduce the frustration, there are also many married women on here who are in a similar situation although many of those don't do it secretly but enjoy cuckold relationships and are open about the desire for sex with somebody else |
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"Not had sex since before Covid, Mrs bluntly told me Im rubbish so just toys and fingers now. "
Very similar. I got told I was no longer fancied sexually by the wife (ouch!!).
We've had separate bedrooms for 15 years now. We still get on great, but really miss that naked contact.
Needless to say porn plays a big part now!  |
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By *ornycougaWoman 6 weeks ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
Exactly. We all have different feelings and likes or nots. It’s so much better if talk about it as end results do much better. |
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I/we meet married, however it kills the vibe, if when chatting before sex, they go on about not getting any at home. Just keep your mouth shut and info to yourself. I'm not tgere for a sympathy shag. |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
Fantastic reply, if only!! X |
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"I/we meet married, however it kills the vibe, if when chatting before sex, they go on about not getting any at home. Just keep your mouth shut and info to yourself. I'm not tgere for a sympathy shag. "
Yeah that’s why my wife no longer on here. Too many guys like this giving her hassle . They just wanted her for own use and rude. In end she could not be bothered as she has contacts anyway and nice friends |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
The world would be a happier place and solicitors a bit poorer! |
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sorry i dont see the point in being married anymore in a sexless enviroment.
for those that are on here id say it was time to move on in this situation.
I also see it as using each other for different benefits but dont want sex with you.
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
Couldn't agree more  |
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"Just like to know if there are others on here who are in a sex starved marriage??"
Yes, there are plenty of people — men and women — who are confined within a sexless marriage.
"And if there are people on here who would meet someone who’s married??"
Speaking from experience, past and present, there are indeed people on here — men and women — who would engage in sexual trysts. |
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By *a1970Man 6 weeks ago
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
well said thank you
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I went through something similar, I went sexless for the last year of my marriage, but that's what gave me the courage to end it and move on.
Even though I have great love for the ex, I know she'd never accept a swinging lifestyle. I'm much happier now. |
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"I went through something similar, I went sexless for the last year of my marriage, but that's what gave me the courage to end it and move on.
Even though I have great love for the ex, I know she'd never accept a swinging lifestyle. I'm much happier now."
We are the opposite of this...our love for each other means everything and comes before sex ..if the sex stops for whatever reason we would still continue to be together. |
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"I was reading the other day that half of all marriages in Japan are sexless. I'm still shocked. Like wth is going on there?"
It might have something to do with many of the men leaving the house early and getting back very late.
The birth rate is so low in Japan that the government is serious worried |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Well if some of you folks are in sexless marriages then why not seek some help first with a professional before deciding to be unfaithful to your husband or wife |
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"Well if some of you folks are in sexless marriages then why not seek some help first with a professional before deciding to be unfaithful to your husband or wife "
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Perhaps they are looking for clandestine encounters and therefore not interested in professional help. |
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"I was reading the other day that half of all marriages in Japan are sexless. I'm still shocked. Like wth is going on there?
It might have something to do with many of the men leaving the house early and getting back very late.
The birth rate is so low in Japan that the government is serious worried"
Don’t want to offend Japanese. I really don’t know any. But apparently, it’s very common for Japanese men to visit prositutes.
So, the men are getting their action away from home. |
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"I was reading the other day that half of all marriages in Japan are sexless. I'm still shocked. Like wth is going on there?
It might have something to do with many of the men leaving the house early and getting back very late.
The birth rate is so low in Japan that the government is serious worried
Don’t want to offend Japanese. I really don’t know any. But apparently, it’s very common for Japanese men to visit prositutes.
So, the men are getting their action away from home. "
I know a lot of Japanese people. None of them have ever said this but it's unlikely that they would. |
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By *essTTWoman 6 weeks ago
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"I was reading the other day that half of all marriages in Japan are sexless. I'm still shocked. Like wth is going on there?
It might have something to do with many of the men leaving the house early and getting back very late.
The birth rate is so low in Japan that the government is serious worried
Don’t want to offend Japanese. I really don’t know any. But apparently, it’s very common for Japanese men to visit prositutes.
So, the men are getting their action away from home. "
It's common for men of all races/cultures to visit prositutes, they don't call it the oldest profession for nothing |
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It's still odd that half are doing this? Thats a very high ratio. Given I know a lot of guys, I doubt half of them would pay. I know some who would, but they are a small proportion. I've never done it, nor would I contemplate it. |
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I was in a sexless marriage for around the last 20 years and never once thought of straying . Mind you my wife had a neurodegenerative illness, I was her primary carer, and had very little time or energy for anything else. |
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By *omRachCouple 6 weeks ago
Wirral |
"Look elsewhere. I have fucked many married guys. You can see the indentation on their finger. Some don’t even care to remove it. I don’t mind. I get sex. "
We have met a couple of attached guys, it is not an issue for us - it's 'he' who is cheating (not us) with the need to get his head around it.
One reason we are happy to meet attached guys is that they usually tend to be discreet. |
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"One reason we are happy to meet attached guys is that they usually tend to be discreet."
Being assured of discretion, and a lower risk of emotional involvement have both been reasons why a few playmates have chosen me... 
....one couple who I visited a handful of times told me they'd stopped meeting unattached guys because they'd had too many problems with them - including one putting pictures of the wife on his social media as his 'new girlfriend'...  |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
Exactly this. It’s the only area where someone can control what someone else does. Imagine your partner said they only wanted to eat salad for the rest of their lives and you must too. That would be called controlling behaviour yet someone can deny the other sex and crucially also deny that same person the opportunity to go elsewhere for sex. It’s crazy if you think about it that way.
It’s also well researched that women especially need novelty in sex and that’s why so many get bored in a relationship and go off sex. |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.)
Exactly this. It’s the only area where someone can control what someone else does. Imagine your partner said they only wanted to eat salad for the rest of their lives and you must too. That would be called controlling behaviour yet someone can deny the other sex and crucially also deny that same person the opportunity to go elsewhere for sex. It’s crazy if you think about it that way.
It’s also well researched that women especially need novelty in sex and that’s why so many get bored in a relationship and go off sex. "
So true, finally 🙌 |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.)
Exactly this. It’s the only area where someone can control what someone else does. Imagine your partner said they only wanted to eat salad for the rest of their lives and you must too. That would be called controlling behaviour yet someone can deny the other sex and crucially also deny that same person the opportunity to go elsewhere for sex. It’s crazy if you think about it that way.
It’s also well researched that women especially need novelty in sex and that’s why so many get bored in a relationship and go off sex. "
Novelty? You mean I need buy her a kinder egg, I'll have the chocolate, she can have the toy, magic!  |
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There are lots of men and women who are married on here and meeting behind their partners backs.
We only ever hear their side of the story though.
I wouldn't knowingly meet anyone cheating on their partner and always ask. Why, because I'm half a couple and I'd hate this done to me. |
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I'm curious to know what this novelty is that women want in long term relationships. I've been married 27 years and although sex seems to be more regularly than some (probably about once a month) it's been made clear to me for some time that's it's a box ticking exercise before she goes back to watching TV or browsing social media (or going to sleep!). Even she's admitted I do about 90% of the housework but whatever I do I just don't seem to be able to get a spark of desire from her. She has no problem with me watching porn and a few years ago she told me she was quite happy for me to be on here but she didn't want to know what I got up to. However I've not met anyone (I'm really looking for a couple) but even if the opportunity came along I'm not sure I could actually go through with it. Tough decision but not one I've had to make. |
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"The sooner we rid ourselves of the belief that we should mate for life the better. There are so many relationships where one or both partners don't want sex with the other person any more, but they don't want to break up an otherwise satisfactory union. Wouldn't it be great if we could have that conversation and both be free to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere without having to sneak around. (I say this as someone who didn't have the guts to be honest and left.) "
Hear, hear !!!
Well said and absolutely right.
Don't break up otherwise good relationships with a lot of shared "water under the bridge", home, children and/or grandchildren, etc., just because sexual needs have diverged. To wish that is cold-hearted and wrong. |
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Twice in 8 years I no longer want or think about sex with her as it was always horrendous. Plod on for the kid and accept it and wank to the odd pic that turns me on when I can be arsed to have a wank |
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"Why do females call the shots"
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Because they make for better 'marksmen', they are the femme fatales, the enchantresses...
They are not to be trifled with, because in doing so you are sealing your fate.
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