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Interacting with strangers on any platform comes with its own set of challenges and risks and we all have to trust our gut and make sensible decisions about interacting with others.
What red flags are you aware of on Fab that put you on alert, steer you to not engage in the first place or disengage from interacting pretty fucking swiftly.
I’ll start with the obvious one. Friends requests from people you’ve had no interaction with. Immediate red flag and I’m unlikely to engage with them at all. |
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Too many to mention them all. The main ones for me as a woman are single profiles that ask other people to 'surprise' their partner. This is mostly but not exclusively men.
Another huge red flag for me was a thread some time ago talking about 'hate fucks', it made my blood run cold and made me see every contributor who commented positively in a very different light.
Apart from that if I just get a 'feeling' that's enough for me to walk away
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Profiles and status updates that spend an inordinate amount of their content to complain about things or people on here, it just makes me think the people behind them are as miserable as sin and not worth interacting with. |
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All the pictures are taken in the bathroom.
But the main one is use of language and tone. From some guys you can just tell that they believe every woman they encounter is interested in them sexually or their 6 pack guarantees them a meet. |
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Its a bit of everything you can come across a profile that will tick all the checks, but then you find out it was a couple that spilt up an now it's just the guy using the profile. A good variety of pics a few veris and a bit of a bio is normally a good indication they are genuine. |
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Learned that a few people on here especially guys in particular that have no member verifications, no pictures and limited profile info.
Makes me leave the convo prompt especially if they are vague and quite secretive I just block now. |
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"Cannot accommodate is the biggest one on a single profile....there are very occasional good reasons if they are to be believed but it's a red flag."
A good reason can be they simply don’t want strangers in their home… nosey neighbours, whatever. It’s not a red flag for most.
I will choose a hotel for most meets even if my kids aren’t around because a high heel that accidentally went through my leather sofa cost me more than 5 years of hotel room bookings to repair.
I like the very expensive mattress I have and cleaning a duvet is an absolute ball-ache. Also… hotel meets feel more exciting. |
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My red flag is their profile has that stupid meaningless legal word soup on it and refers to an antipodean university.
Also 🚩the ones that are obviously being kept running by the husband 5 years after the wife quickly had enough of the swinging experiment he was so fascinated by.
🚩 Obvious spelling mistakes in a profile - no care and attention - not interested.
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By *eyeYCouple 6 weeks ago
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Too many to list, D is bloody fantastic at gauging tone and intentions..
I know now to trust his feelings on how people interact with us, I vetoed him on numerous occasions initially saying he was reading too much into things said and done and how I was sure it wasn't the case..
Hand's up he was right every fucking time!! 🤷😘 |
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By *eyeYCouple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"i dont share my red flags as they are part of my filter and the only reason most guys ask is to try and get around them..
yes i said guys as i only meet guys via fab"
Very good point! A little like those asking for pointers and advice on how to make their profiles better/more appealing..
We feel a crap profile is a fair indicator.. |
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Profiles with no pics & /or one line of text. I always think they have something to hide.
Anyone who writes that they like to push boundaries, that makes me think they wouldn't respect mine.
Any mention of swapping wife's pics /underwear when it's a single male profile, with no mention of a wife.
Couple profiles full of just the lady, when they say they're looking for other couples. |
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Instant friend requests, strange behaviour that. And then when you initiate a conversation, radio silence!
Photo verifications mean nothing nowadays, but it's a one minute task. Get it done.
No verifications in a prolonged period of time with no reasonable explanation. |
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"i dont share my red flags as they are part of my filter and the only reason most guys ask is to try and get around them..
yes i said guys as i only meet guys via fab"
This. But for us it includes couples! |
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Age range 18-99
Single Females with all verifications via webcam - give me the impression they are promoting their socials more than anything, and then OF.
Lists of rules, do's, dont's etc - especially on couples profiles. I want a meet to bring mutual pleasure, not to be someone's puppet.
Been on a year but not verified through meeting - women could meet anyone they want, there is so much choice. So not verified through meeting after so long gives me the impression they are not here to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Any mention of doing lines or smoke or anything like that, no chance. And those who offer money, instant block. Been on over a year, no pics or even a profile pic, no veris or photo verified, and "will fill in later" profile |
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"Single females been on the site for more than a couple of months, with no veris.
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Sometimes not the case. It’s a very big step to take for some and takes a long time before they take the plunge. A year in one case I had. Agree though lots fakes |
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Pics are all Snapchat screenshots.
Pics that are very obviously not the same woman.
Always “male half here” and underwear/candid shots. Does she REALLY know, mate? Really?
As above but wanting to chat about wives. |
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I have so many red flags
I won’t message anyone if:
No veri’s and been on over a year.
As a female not willing to share pics or none on profile.
All Webcam veri’s
All social veri’s.
Very limited profile or nothing. (Make an effort)
If you have a pic of you bending over and I see genital warts on your hoop.
Anyone with a million and one demands or just ‘no’s’
Not exhaustive.
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Asking for a face pic then saying they are worried about privacy so don't have any themselves.
Repeatedly asking for more pics.
The classic "I'm trying to persuade the wife"
And a few messages.
"You're so close it needs to happen, oh by the way I lied about my age I'm 9 years younger!"
"Fancy a gangbang?"
"I bet your Mrs would love to be slept open by my 10.5 inches."
Read a profile guys  |
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Any profile that says "Like to party"
When what they are actually saying is I want you to buy me drugs.
A massive no for me!
And couples profiles where it's only the man talking and all he wants to here from you is what you'd do to his missus! Just after wanking fodder! |
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