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So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
5 letdowns in a row.
Swear they get off on it or something.
Baffles me |
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This is just a guess, and not really from experience because not my thing. But, I wonder if couples looking for bi, or bi curious men get let down more.
Just because perhaps for some married men on here who are bi curious, it’s a first time, and a meeting sounds great when wanking about it…..but in the cold light of day they bottle out of it.
If I’d made an arrangement to meet a straight couple I’d go. If I’d made an arrangement to meet a bi male couple, or a dom, or pegging, or bdsm because I fantasised about it, I might bottle it on the day. Could be miles out, but just thinking why so many change their mind? |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
We have had the same thing! I still like a private meet but I think club events are easier xx |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this?
5 letdowns in a row.
Swear they get off on it or something.
Baffles me "
Oh my - you are gorgeous. Unbelievable you get let down x |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
usually means there married,  |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this?
usually means there married, "
They are. Or, they’re |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
Sorry to read this and sadly, I’m reading it more and more frequently
There are clearly a huge group of singles (or not) whom are giving the genuine guys a bad rep - not all of us suffer from a massive Ambition Vs Ability imbalance…………….
I’m not Bi, but hope you guys start to experience better results and you achieve what it is you seek on your journey
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this?
5 letdowns in a row.
Swear they get off on it or something.
Baffles me "
Definitely their loss!! X |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
I say this all the time and I truly believe that anyone that has been let down would never do it to anyone else as I don’t think people realise how not just annoying it is but the mental side of it and how it makes you feel. It’s not just single men I’ve had the same with single women. It’s still the same thing though regardless. I feel your frustration 100% |
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This is exactly why we only meet in clubs ..... which is such a shame as we would like to explore a more private and intimate side rather than a little more rushed on pleather experience.
Even our single female friends are being let down so often by single guys...
Fab is not a great place at all right now to arrange meets 
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
Had one last night. Messaging right up to the point they said they were setting off then vanished. Clearly had no intention of meeting. That or his wife/partner arrived home unexpectedly (these single guys eh).
It's almost as if, for whatever their reason, they're hellbent on stopping you having a meet so leave it to the last minute before ghosting you. Pathetic really. |
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I am not single (I'm not cheating either, but that's not what this thread is about)
I know when I can meet
It is occasional weekday afternoons (once every 2-3 weeks) and weekend mornings. That's it.
The rest of my spare time is non-Fab time
I don't meet evenings any day, I I don't do overnights and, for the time being, I don't accom
I did accom until recently, but have had to have cameras installed because we have a dickhead neighbour
We both play, but separately, and neither of us is interested to see who the other is meeting, would whilst the cameras are there, no meets at home
(We did try playing together and it's not our bag)
If that costs me meets, so be it - so does being over 50, short, chunky, hairy and likely a multitude of other things
I think where a lot of guys slip up is that they try to mould their meets around couples as opposed to being honest about the scope they have for meeting
Even if they do show, the meets are normally shit - either a quick 'splash and dash' or they are as nervous as fuck - often ridiculously so, to the point of paranoia and/or so time conscious that everything feels rushed and cold
Behaving like that, I find, is pretty disrespectful towards those who you are meeting - it puts them on edge too
For me, having multiple sexual partners is a lifestyle choice - I am in no rush and it's not a numbers game
Neither is it a game of jeopardy, of looking over your shoulder, of fear of being caught, or of bottling it at the last minute because of these factors
It isn't the case for many though
That's not me sounding big headed or me saying 'I'm different' or 'I'm better than them' - it's just that I am very aware of self and very conscious of respecting myself, my other half and those that choose to invite me in to their sexual journey  |
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"Shame this isn't like eBay, where you can leave negative feedback !  "
Theoretically you could leave negative feedback. The recipient just wouldn't make it public. It would, however, make it look as if they've had a positive review (I'm sure many of us are guilty of believing that if someone's left them a veri it must be positive - right?) |
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OP, whilst this isn't my demographic or my type of sexual persuasion, do you meet these single guys beforehand? As in, in a bar or pub to break the ice over a social or a coffee, before taking things further, either on the same day or at a later date?
That would be an ideal litmus test to see if they can commit to a coffee then there's a higher chance of them being authentic and earnest in their desires to meet you for the next stage?
Or is this all planned over the ether and on the back of frivolous chatting and messaging? |
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If I got three strikes in a row then I would most certainly start to question how I validate whether someone is likely to meet or not.
In my view this is an OP issue as much as the guys they are trying to hook up with. |
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"OP, whilst this isn't my demographic or my type of sexual persuasion, do you meet these single guys beforehand? As in, in a bar or pub to break the ice over a social or a coffee, before taking things further, either on the same day or at a later date?
That would be an ideal litmus test to see if they can commit to a coffee then there's a higher chance of them being authentic and earnest in their desires to meet you for the next stage?
Or is this all planned over the ether and on the back of frivolous chatting and messaging?"
All 3 had a social meet beforehand. We do our due diligence...we've been at this a long time...
Every now and again, we decide to branch out from our usual club/party meets... |
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"If I got three strikes in a row then I would most certainly start to question how I validate whether someone is likely to meet or not.
In my view this is an OP issue as much as the guys they are trying to hook up with."
Yep...you're probably right...it's why it isn't our usual MO and won't be again... |
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"If I got three strikes in a row then I would most certainly start to question how I validate whether someone is likely to meet or not.
In my view this is an OP issue as much as the guys they are trying to hook up with.
Yep...you're probably right...it's why it isn't our usual MO and won't be again..."
And all these males will be complaining in their statuses that they can't get any meets.
Poor them 😆 |
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I’m married. We play separately as is my wife’s choice. She is aware I am on here and also when I meet (have done so before on other sites): clearly states this on my profile so anyone looking can make an informed choice. |
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I usually make plans at least two weeks in advance, with Saturdays being the preferred day since we all have work commitments during the week. Additionally, I make it a point to clarify upfront that I am straight. This transparency sometimes leads the couple to reconsider, which I believe is better for everyone involved. |
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"There are to many men on this site that ruin it for others. There should be a way of getting rid of the time wasters."
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The number of men on this site has little or no relevance to ruining things for people. |
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"There are to many men on this site that ruin it for others. There should be a way of getting rid of the time wasters.
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The number of men on this site has little or no relevance to ruining things for people."
Yeah, it's just shit luck that's all. Can't be helped. Best thing is to develop thicker skin and stop caring quite so much. That's how I roll these days and it works great. |
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So disappointing (but not surprising) to read this. The [great looking] couples on this thread would be guaranteed a 'show' rather than a 'no show' if I was lucky enough to arrange a meet with them. We know why it'll have happened but I for one just wouldn't arrange a meet if I knew there chance i couldn't make it.
Then we all get tarred with same brush. |
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There will always be some that let the others down it Halle s with couples too see sound like you have been very unlucky
Even as a single male in the day of a meet meeting a couple I still half expect something to go wrong
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan 4 weeks ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
Imagine going through all that trouble. Finally able to secure what you are after and then not bother turning up. Truly baffling as stated already.
Never mind. Am sure another meet will come along for those men. Just a question of sending out another 2098 messages.
It would be great if there was a section where people could reply anonymously and state their reasons why they do this sort of thing.
Swinging really ain't all it's cracked up to be. |
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I don't understand, it's so difficult for single guys to get a meet, you finally find someone and don't turn up or cancel at the last minute. This seems to happen a lot and I'm sure its not just single guys. Do they just cancel or try to reschedule ? |
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"So...three "single guys" in a row have let us down on the day now.
We had made firm arrangements to meet in advance, and on the day, we text to confirm they were still coming. We host in our child free house, just to make things easier. Turns out that "they could not get away" so the feckers are partnered or married....For Christ's sake guys, if you are on here and partnered without their knowledge....have a word with yourself!
This is not from a moral standpoint, your relationship is your business, but good grief. Do not make arrangements if you can't honour them. For all the "single bi guys" on here who would like to meet a couple, well, we have given a few of you a chance, but it turns out you "can't get away".
So, clubs and parties it is from now, no more offers to host at ours. Anyone else had experience of this? "
It happens more on here now, clubs are the answer. You can see who attracts you and have a chat. See if there any chemistry. |
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By *W72Man 4 weeks ago
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Clearly they want their bumps feeling if they’re turning down Brunette n Jay or Wacky Racers but, for perspective, when we were organising the bi bukkake/bi group meets a few months ago it was mainly the ladies that let us down both times. The majority of single guys turned up.
Unfortunately, there are just rude people who have no respect for your time, but there should be a reporting/feedback option which could ultimately increase safety etc as well. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan 4 weeks ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"Clearly they want their bumps feeling if they’re turning down Brunette n Jay or Wacky Racers but, for perspective, when we were organising the bi bukkake/bi group meets a few months ago it was mainly the ladies that let us down both times. The majority of single guys turned up.
Unfortunately, there are just rude people who have no respect for your time, but there should be a reporting/feedback option which could ultimately increase safety etc as well. "
That won't stop people from making new profiles as some do on a daily basis according to my feed. It's why I think a premium section would be a good idea and an option to be fully vetted by the site. Members could have badges awarded to distinguished who is verified, vetted and trusted. If you don't wish to be subject to it then you don't. But those who do, can. |
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