Seen a similar thread that was full (and old), so its an opportunity for a refresh.
How do you lean? Dom, domme, sub, or switch...which one are you, or if multiple, which one do you lean towards?
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Sometimes I lean on lampposts, sometimes on walls with my shoulder against it, my feet a little away from the wall. Sometimes I lean on my back, but I never lean on my front, it would make it look like you’d been sent to stand in a corner for being in trouble. I try desperately not to lean on people on the train, though they aren’t so considerate. Sometimes the dog leans on me, sometimes she doesn’t. Leaning can be very enjoyable. Everyone should lean more. |
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I'm "dominant", but not in the sense of some guy with severe emotional hangups or insecurities that cause him to act in an overly controlling or abusive manner - as is often portrayed in the swinging community.
I don't need to be an arsehole with women. I'm not abusive, I don't command them, and I don't get off on causing a woman human pain. I don't need to tie a woman up and force her into submission with humiliation, etc. So as far as the swinging community is concerned, maybe I'm not dominant, I don't know.
I simply talk with a woman or hold her with my own strength if necessary. A lot of women will naturally submit without the man having to force her if his reasoning skills are good enough. The same as in a professional scenario. If he's good, she'll submit.
For me, it's more of a mental dominance rather than that of a physically abusive bastard. I like to earn respect - I never command it. I like to retain the upper hand from a mental perspective.
Physically, in bed yes, too... I'm on the assertive side. If I need it and I need her in a certain position or something, I just put her in that position! Maybe I'll hold her down a bit if I feel like it, I might pull her hair occasionally, I might grab her by the throat - not to hurt her, but just because it's sexy!
Sometimes it's hot to just take complete control, but I'm never an arsehole with it.
I don't know though... From past experience, this isn't considered "dominant". Who knows... |
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I’m naturally dominant, I like to be in control because I wasn’t so much during my earlier life. So it’s transitioned into my personality as I’ve grown up and it means that I can be empathetic whilst being quite sadistic if the need arises
It’s not totally who I am though as I do enjoy being plain and vanilla more often than not |
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