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By *eyeY OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age?? |
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"A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age?? "
You must remember, where some of us have a life outside of this website, others don't. |
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By *CExeCouple 9 weeks ago
Lincoln/Exeter |
We've had this a couple of times. One time I'd read the message, but was preparing food for my nephews, came to reply 5 minutes later and had a passive aggressive message about being left on read. Lunacy. |
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We had a couple who sent face pics with first message, which weren't requested, after literally 5 mins of me and Mrs chatting, they'd sent another message saying "not for you then" and removed the pics.
I usually reply now with a "we'll get back to you when we've had chance to both look"
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I think people forget A) not everyone lives on here, replying can take time and B) a message presents a choice.
Just because you message someone (even with a conversation) doesn't mean it will turn into anything.
I think too many people test this place like Tesco. If you put something in your online basket (the message of interest ) you expect it to be delivered  |
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The etiquette I like to use on here is if it's been read, but not deleted then it might be of interest to them and get a reply a few days down the line.
Usually if its read and deleted straight away then I tend to block the account so I don't go messaging them again down the line, especially if it includes a face picture.
The yellow, unread ones, always feel like an unclaimed lottery ticket, that maybe if they read it they might be interested. But after a week or so (when they have appeared online in that time) you know they aren't getting read. |
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A guy messaged us and we exchanged a few messages. He sent face pics and within 5 mins of him sending them, he’d blocked us
Er, hello! 🤦🏻♂️
It’s also amazing how many delete their pics after the message has been opened! We aren’t together most of the time and it’s highly likely I’ll open the message first and so C doesn’t get to see them 🤷🏻♂️
It’s a couples profile so there’s two people that need to view pics!
K |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"A guy messaged us and we exchanged a few messages. He sent face pics and within 5 mins of him sending them, he’d blocked us
Er, hello! 🤦🏻♂️
It’s also amazing how many delete their pics after the message has been opened! We aren’t together most of the time and it’s highly likely I’ll open the message first and so C doesn’t get to see them 🤷🏻♂️
It’s a couples profile so there’s two people that need to view pics!
K"
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People think they are entitled to a response immediately it drives me crazy.
I rarely respond quick even someone I'm chatting to I'll go days between messages I can't stand the daily how's your day, what you up to crap, it bores me.
Fab is a bit of fun and people need to realize we have life's away from here, they never will be a high priority.
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By *bflirtyCouple 9 weeks ago
Milton Keynes |
"A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age?? "
Just curious, but had you seen their face pics before messaging or were the face pics in their reply? Sometimes people are self conscious and feel no reply must mean not interested but you didn't want to hurt their feelings by saying so. If someone has had a lot of rejections they may be automatically pessimistic.
If the face pics were in the reply do you think you would have still been interested having seen them, and if not how would you respond? |
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By *bflirtyCouple 9 weeks ago
Milton Keynes |
"Yeah it happens. It's really silly as some of them we were interested in till their strop "
Imagine if you had replied quickly and not encountered an online strop. They could well have been equally as demanding in real life. You probably dodged a bullet. |
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"A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age?? "
I see this as a positive thing - you get to figure out they’re actually complete arseholes early on in the process and have avoided a great deal of wasted effort. Dodged a bullet, block and go and find a perfect couple that are out there looking for you |
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"A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age?? "
Getting the hump after 4hr, what's wrong with people?
Well we clearly wouldn't have worked for them. Our fabmin is terrible. Alot because our life is hectic and we genrally don't like to invest too much online effort until we've meet face to face.
If we are interested we'll send a couple of messages to judge the vibe. Then we'll say we're not in a position to meet in the near future and that we like to save the talking till we meet in person. So no one is wasting any time on each other, just putting things on the back burner till our calendar frees up. After all no ones got exclusive rights, they're free to pursue others in the mean time. |
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Get it loads, being a couple ill normally browse a lot while at work as wife sleeps from working nightshift, and we can get a message that I'll see but not open as I want wife to check and as they've seen me online they think that's it and get passive aggressive, well by that point their chance has long gone |
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We get this really often.
Usually a message saying something really basic and then when we haven't replied within 5 minutes of reading we get a 'obviously not then...' message.
Absolutely unhinged. |
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"A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age?? "
Sounds potentially like someone finished their perve/wank and lashed out.
We very rarely get excited over people who are really keen instantly and want to make plans fast - come back in a few hours or tomorrow when we can be more sure you've got a clear mind and we might get somewhere... |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 8 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"We get this really often.
Usually a message saying something really basic and then when we haven't replied within 5 minutes of reading we get a 'obviously not then...' message.
Absolutely unhinged. "
Hadn't experienced it previously, but as others have said, a good swerve! 😜 |
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"A new one for us.. A wink and a few fabs caught our eye, (purposely not mentioning the demographic) messaged our interest with face pictures.
Had response and less than 4 hour's later another passive aggressive message saying obviously not then and how we were ghosting and wasting their time.. 🤷🤦 seriously we'd not even seen each other by that point.
Do we really live in such an 'instant' age??
You must remember, where some of us have a life outside of this website, others don't. "
Wait there's a life outside the internet??? I don't believe you! Why are you lying? |
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