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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Massively!
Social first always / also gives time to reflect.
Coffee, drinks, dinner.
I live by the mantra - if I wouldn’t want to socialise with you, why would I want to sleep with you.
Also in the words of Q from Bond - always have an escape plan  |
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Will not, nor ever had, played with anyone off this site without at least meeting for a no pressure social meet first. I need to like you as a person first and foremost before considering anything else. |
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We have never done a meet for any type of drink etc - its alwus been, years ago a beach encounter and then at our place and a few times at their place - started with a massage and if guy was as decent as stated then possibly more - sometime first meet went all the way but often seccond - we find the intial encounter really hard, ie shy, unsure wtc then its easy once undressed if guy is as he said he is. |
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I never meet for coffee because of my busy life but choose my social meet be at a club
If there’s no chemistry both parties can still have a fun night out and if there is then can play or meet up properly at a later date |
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We had a social yesterday with a lovely person. We met at a cafe for coffee and cake then walked along the beach front to another cafe for a coffee to warm ourselves up before the return walk.
We have all agreed to plan a meet in the near future, and it was a good way to start building a friendship.
Mrs x |
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By *CExeCouple 4 weeks ago
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I prefer a social and getting to know folks. Especially if there's a few days of flirty messaging before the next meet and playtime.
Chels on the other hand has huge social anxiety so gets straight into it on meets. |
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We try to sort out a social catch up first. Plenty of people visit our area, it's nice to meet over a coffee/brew - beverage of your choice!
We have done the turn up at someone's place with an agenda....then spent the whole time chatting anyway. |
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I don’t understand how anyone can not have a social first. How can you know you’re attracted or does it not matter? No matter how long I’ve chatted to someone for there’s no way I can know without meeting them first. I know we’re all different but I really can’t get my head around it. I couldn’t do it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"I don’t understand how anyone can not have a social first. How can you know you’re attracted or does it not matter? No matter how long I’ve chatted to someone for there’s no way I can know without meeting them first. I know we’re all different but I really can’t get my head around it. I couldn’t do it. "
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I always have a social first...yes someone may catch my eye on here and I think he's a bit of alright but then in person may be as dull as dishwater...if things go well on the first encounter only then do they progress x |
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" anyone on here not straight into fucking?
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I prefer to have a social meet first over a coffee. It confirms;
The person/couple matches their profile;
They meet when they say they will;
There’s a connection face to face.
Doesn’t need to be much more than 30 minutes of your time, if it doesn’t work out  |
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Most of our socials happen in clubs - will always have a chat and a drink (usually coffee as neither of us drink at clubs) and generally get a gauge of who we're chatting with. We don't tend to play on a first meet, even in the club as it gives us and the other person/people time to reflect on us and us on them x |
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"Massively!
Social first always / also gives time to reflect.
Coffee, drinks, dinner.
I live by the mantra - if I wouldn’t want to socialise with you, why would I want to sleep with you.
Also in the words of Q from Bond - always have an escape plan "
Couldn’t of said it better myself, absolutely this |
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Always have a social first. Meet over a coffee or drink. Make sure there’s chemistry but mainly to make sure both of us look like our photos… lots of photoshopped and decade old pics about. All mine are recent but I still send direct pics before a social is arranged. |
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I want a social meet first. Sometimes leads to a sexual meet at a later date but not always. Sometimes people are using old photos and look completely different to them now. Also I like to know that they fancy me too..x |
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I've met purely for a coffee / lunch to see how things go but tend to meet at clubs now more. If we dont hit it off then we can all still enjoy ourselves and if we do hit it off, then happy days.
Alot depends on the person i'm meeting and their preferences for our first meet. |
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A social first is my preference, doesn't have to be coffee, but something where you can at least spend time with someone to make sure you like each other and get on, all without pressure and expectation. |
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We enjoy both. Sometimes we like the social first, and if the chemistry is there we do like to go on to fuck straight away. So we ask our prospective playmates to leave the rest of the day clear just in case.
We also enjoy the excitement of our cum and go meets where the stranger comes straight to the house and Ruth is waiting for him in the bedroom. No small talk or preamble, just straight down to the fun in hand. |
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