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Hi all.
I need some help. Is there a sign ,or some kind of dressware that identifies you as a swinger.
The thing is, my wife and I have tried clubs and other stuff, but my wife hated the 'clinical' nature of it, and the 'i feel i am pressured to act'feeling.
She is open to playing with another couple, if it happens 'naturally' the problem is, how on earth do you meet swingers 'naturally' i cant wear a tee shirt stating 'swingers, please speak to us'.
If you read my profile, I think i have explained the situation - but I have just received abuse saying 'I am going behind my wifes back'. I don't want to, I want us to meet swi gers couples, but if I dont arrange it on here - how can I ?
So - if we are in a bar etc.. is there anything i should look out for that gives me a clue ? Or a code sentence etc..
Thanks |
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But my wife hated the club scene. She hated (whether right or wrong) that she felt that everyone there was thinking she was there to have sex. She hated the fact sex was going on around her etc...
She wants to play , but doesnt want to visit clubs or go on sites / apps.
So, if we are out and about, is there something that may give me a clue, so i could introduce us and let it grow naturally |
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Try going to an organised social. Great way to meet people without any pressure if you want to take things further after then you can. Either way they are always a great night out with like minded people |
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"Hi all.
I need some help. Is there a sign ,or some kind of dressware that identifies you as a swinger.
The thing is, my wife and I have tried clubs and other stuff, but my wife hated the 'clinical' nature of it, and the 'i feel i am pressured to act'feeling.
She is open to playing with another couple, if it happens 'naturally' the problem is, how on earth do you meet swingers 'naturally' i cant wear a tee shirt stating 'swingers, please speak to us'.
If you read my profile, I think i have explained the situation - but I have just received abuse saying 'I am going behind my wifes back'. I don't want to, I want us to meet swi gers couples, but if I dont arrange it on here - how can I ?
So - if we are in a bar etc.. is there anything i should look out for that gives me a clue ? Or a code sentence etc..
Thanks"
Lots of people want to become swingers but it remains a fantasy.
Apart from swingers hotels/resorts or socials or festivals/events, most swingers, I've met have not met other swingers outside the scene.
I think true swingers don't necessarily need to advertise the fact.
Honestly, your wife doesn't seem that keen and she's probably just saying this to please you or to appear sexually confident but when faced with the reality, she is disappointed or avoidant.
I have a play partner who's wife has a similar issue. Curious sexually but not enough to override her anxiety in real life. Some people are voyeurs only and never actually use their bodies in public.
Also normal men and women do not look like porn stars and porn videos are often sanitised of all bodily fluids apart from the final cum shot. Getting squirted on at a club definitely a a good dose of reality check. |
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"Hi all.
I need some help. Is there a sign ,or some kind of dressware that identifies you as a swinger.
The thing is, my wife and I have tried clubs and other stuff, but my wife hated the 'clinical' nature of it, and the 'i feel i am pressured to act'feeling.
She is open to playing with another couple, if it happens 'naturally' the problem is, how on earth do you meet swingers 'naturally' i cant wear a tee shirt stating 'swingers, please speak to us'.
If you read my profile, I think i have explained the situation - but I have just received abuse saying 'I am going behind my wifes back'. I don't want to, I want us to meet swi gers couples, but if I dont arrange it on here - how can I ?
So - if we are in a bar etc.. is there anything i should look out for that gives me a clue ? Or a code sentence etc..
Thanks
Lots of people want to become swingers but it remains a fantasy.
Apart from swingers hotels/resorts or socials or festivals/events, most swingers, I've met have not met other swingers outside the scene.
I think true swingers don't necessarily need to advertise the fact.
Honestly, your wife doesn't seem that keen and she's probably just saying this to please you or to appear sexually confident but when faced with the reality, she is disappointed or avoidant.
I have a play partner who's wife has a similar issue. Curious sexually but not enough to override her anxiety in real life. Some people are voyeurs only and never actually use their bodies in public.
Also normal men and women do not look like porn stars and porn videos are often sanitised of all bodily fluids apart from the final cum shot. Getting squirted on at a club definitely a a good dose of reality check."
Melanin Maverick you make some very valid points here which I agree with. Most couples don’t advertise the fact that they sleep with others and my wife is very much a secret swinger and wants to keep it that way and we’ve enjoyed many MMF meets because we simply found clubs and four way attraction impossible to achieve. We have to play the cards that we are dealt and adapt OP. |
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