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Having a threesome for first time.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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Hi all,
I am interested in inviting a woman to join me and my partner. I've noticed a lot of trust issues , fakes etc out there.
Would you look at paying for someone the 1st time so you know what getting and can set your stall.
Or would you look at a club for more chance ?
I know having another woman is rare and hard to find.
How did you all instigate, meet or get involved in your first threesome ?
Thanks for any help x x |
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You just need a lot of patience on here. We have chatted to lots of women
They fall into three categories in our experience
1) They aren't actual women at all- plethora of fakes or men using girlfriends pictures at best
2) They are a genuine woman, but have so much choice they often blow hot, then go cold, as the next interested party pops up. Chat goes with it
3)A genuine woman, who is interested in getting to know couples and is worth pursuing (They are on here  ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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Handpextra
Sorry if I don't reply correctly in the forum 1st time posting.
I have had a lot of men pretending to be the female and then calling me out to prove myself asking for rude pics etc. I understand it's hard and have to have some trust in people I suppose.
I know a lot of people are looking for same thing, so hard to find and build on communication.
Can I ask how you met your 1st swinging experience?
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Any couples who are looking for a male to join them and fulfil their fantasies please message me. I'm hoping to meet and make friends with like minded people who like to have fun. I'm not shy so come and find out anything you want to know about me x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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Yes he is , but he's a little bit more forward than me and has suggested paying someone so no confusion etc.
I just don't know if I like the idea of that I would prefer a bit of conversation, flirting , etc |
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Chat plenty by message and either 0h9ne or video call. Honestly w3 feel that we have to meet the person socially first in public so everyone is safe and confident of who will be there for a play meet when arranged |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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That makes sense , I would prefer a bar meet or club i think just to make sure everyone is comfortable and the chemistry is there. Especially for the 1st time. |
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We ended up on here as clubs weren't working for us (they do for lots of people, but we didn't really meet anyone I found attractive enough to want to play with there,plus I realised I enjoyed the build up and getting to know people first)
Hence coming on here.
It is hard work tbf
Many people, even when you manage to filter out the fakes are more interested in "fuck and go" (again, not a criticism, simply doesn't work for me)
So I am now looking in a very narrow pool of people, females, prepared to have a video call with me on their own, prior to a social only meet, prior to play.
You need to set your stall out for what you are looking for and expect and then be prepared to invest the time and effort into finding it. Even then you may not find it, but if you don't look...
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Op if you're paying, you're not likely to get the genuine thing are you? They're just in it for the money.
The genuine thing is what most of us guys & some girls want. Frankly I reckon it's more likely to happen at a club then off here. Given that most genuine women on fab aren't getting any. It's not going to be easy here. |
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Hi op a couple of points I've noticed,you don't show the man, is there any reason, if he's going to be involved.
Also you've written straight for the lady, then maybe bi curious with the right lady. That doesn't come across as you specifically seeking another woman to join you both.
Bi ladies are well in demand here as most couples want that ffm, so you need to offer them something enticing and they need to see you both.
So you may do better in a club meeting women ftf. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"We ended up on here as clubs weren't working for us (they do for lots of people, but we didn't really meet anyone I found attractive enough to want to play with there,plus I realised I enjoyed the build up and getting to know people first)
Hence coming on here.
It is hard work tbf
Many people, even when you manage to filter out the fakes are more interested in "fuck and go" (again, not a criticism, simply doesn't work for me)
So I am now looking in a very narrow pool of people, females, prepared to have a video call with me on their own, prior to a social only meet, prior to play.
You need to set your stall out for what you are looking for and expect and then be prepared to invest the time and effort into finding it. Even then you may not find it, but if you don't look...
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Thanks so much for the information , I really appreciate it.
Like you say just need to keep an open mind and keep trying x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"Hi op a couple of points I've noticed,you don't show the man, is there any reason, if he's going to be involved.
Also you've written straight for the lady, then maybe bi curious with the right lady. That doesn't come across as you specifically seeking another woman to join you both.
Bi ladies are well in demand here as most couples want that ffm, so you need to offer them something enticing and they need to see you both.
So you may do better in a club meeting women ftf. "
Thank you , I have been deciding what I want and how much i want to be involved. I need to update my profile to be more clear thanks x |
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We have been quite lucky with the rare unicorn, but it takes a lot of work. We found clubs to be the best way to meet ladies. An event like What Women Want would be a great place to start as there are a very high number of bi ladies there compared to other clubs. They host at Vanilla Alternative once a month. Definitely worth a go. Also, they do a group chat leading up to the event so you get to chat to the ladies going before hand, a good way to break the ice so to speak. Worked well for us x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"We have been quite lucky with the rare unicorn, but it takes a lot of work. We found clubs to be the best way to meet ladies. An event like What Women Want would be a great place to start as there are a very high number of bi ladies there compared to other clubs. They host at Vanilla Alternative once a month. Definitely worth a go. Also, they do a group chat leading up to the event so you get to chat to the ladies going before hand, a good way to break the ice so to speak. Worked well for us x"
Thank you will have a look x |
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There are some amazing women that meet couples here, we've had the pleasure of meeting a few.
The fakes are easy enough to spot and not converse with.
I prefer to meet people at social events it's just easier face to face.
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"We ended up on here as clubs weren't working for us (they do for lots of people, but we didn't really meet anyone I found attractive enough to want to play with there,plus I realised I enjoyed the build up and getting to know people first)
Hence coming on here.
It is hard work tbf
Many people, even when you manage to filter out the fakes are more interested in "fuck and go" (again, not a criticism, simply doesn't work for me)
So I am now looking in a very narrow pool of people, females, prepared to have a video call with me on their own, prior to a social only meet, prior to play.
You need to set your stall out for what you are looking for and expect and then be prepared to invest the time and effort into finding it. Even then you may not find it, but if you don't look...
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If I am brutally honest I think you highlight two reasons why you are not meeting.
1. Most people who meet tend to meet quite quickly. If a conversation drags on (“for the buildup”) then that’s a strong signal to someone who meets that the other person isn’t going to meet.
2. If you don’t find any one attractive in a club then you won’t find anyone different out here - it is all the same people.
I am sure there will be a horde telling me I am wrong but I have met many single women and they all basically say the same thing. |
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"We ended up on here as clubs weren't working for us (they do for lots of people, but we didn't really meet anyone I found attractive enough to want to play with there,plus I realised I enjoyed the build up and getting to know people first)
Hence coming on here.
It is hard work tbf
Many people, even when you manage to filter out the fakes are more interested in "fuck and go" (again, not a criticism, simply doesn't work for me)
So I am now looking in a very narrow pool of people, females, prepared to have a video call with me on their own, prior to a social only meet, prior to play.
You need to set your stall out for what you are looking for and expect and then be prepared to invest the time and effort into finding it. Even then you may not find it, but if you don't look...
If I am brutally honest I think you highlight two reasons why you are not meeting.
1. Most people who meet tend to meet quite quickly. If a conversation drags on (“for the buildup”) then that’s a strong signal to someone who meets that the other person isn’t going to meet.
2. If you don’t find any one attractive in a club then you won’t find anyone different out here - it is all the same people.
I am sure there will be a horde telling me I am wrong but I have met many single women and they all basically say the same thing."
Youve misread it .
We didn't say we aren't meeting.
We are
It's a choice thing; I'd rather have 1 great meeting with someone in very attracted to and like as a person, than 10 meetings that may not be as good for various reasons.
If that means we meet up a couple of times a year I'm entirely comfortable with that. |
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"Hi all,
I am interested in inviting a woman to join me and my partner. I've noticed a lot of trust issues , fakes etc out there.
Would you look at paying for someone the 1st time so you know what getting and can set your stall.
Or would you look at a club for more chance ?
I know having another woman is rare and hard to find.
How did you all instigate, meet or get involved in your first threesome ?
Thanks for any help x x"
Let me save you all the trouble of looking on here. Since youre in the North East...
My wife and I (couples account in our profile) have been on the site
For 13 ish years.
We have had 4 women join us in that time (through fab directly). In it's hard to do as so many people are messaging them.
The real place to find those women are at the clubs. Quest in Leeds does a couples and single ladies night every other Saturday i have been told (not sure if that is true or not) but I know my wife and I do just fine at Club F in Stanley (which i highly recommend).
Clubs and socials are absoultely the best way to go.
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By *dwalu2Couple 7 weeks ago
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"Good look finding a genuine single girl , if do my advise is your wife is the centre of attention x "
Don’t agree with this at all. All three should share the attention, unless your scenario is specific and has been agreed as otherwise beforehand.
Honest, open and equal play between all three is what makes a successful FFM.  |
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"Good look finding a genuine single girl , if do my advise is your wife is the centre of attention x
Don’t agree with this at all. All three should share the attention, unless your scenario is specific and has been agreed as otherwise beforehand.
Honest, open and equal play between all three is what makes a successful FFM. "
I agree and this is what would put single bi ladies off meeting couples, the feeling that they're being used to fulfill your fantasy and not to be treated equally and with respect. |
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"We have been quite lucky with the rare unicorn, but it takes a lot of work. We found clubs to be the best way to meet ladies. An event like What Women Want would be a great place to start as there are a very high number of bi ladies there compared to other clubs. They host at Vanilla Alternative once a month. Definitely worth a go. Also, they do a group chat leading up to the event so you get to chat to the ladies going before hand, a good way to break the ice so to speak. Worked well for us x"
Also wanted to add to this: early on in our journey we pondered paying for it too but always decided against it for the following reason....we wanted to have fun with someone who actually liked us and who we are, if we hired someone she is solely doing it for money and may not even be attracted to either of us. We wanted the person we played with to want to be with us because the are attracted to us not because they were being paid to. It just kind of killed the fun of it for us but I'm sure others will have their own opinions.
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Guess weve been lucky and met some lovely ladies over the years on weve been on and off here.
Be prepared for being ignored or a no thanks ladies have hundreds of messages a day , but dont then that get to you.
Talk to each other set boundries if you want and communicate this to any ladies you chat to.
I was a little jealous at first watching hubby with another woman but soon discovered it really turns me on and ive enjoyed exploring my sexuality as well now and i have gone much further with a lady than i though i would at first amd certainly not bi curious anymore defo Bi lol.
Good luck
Mrs W&W xx |
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"Hi all,
I am interested in inviting a woman to join me and my partner. I've noticed a lot of trust issues , fakes etc out there.
Would you look at paying for someone the 1st time so you know what getting and can set your stall.
Or would you look at a club for more chance ?
I know having another woman is rare and hard to find.
How did you all instigate, meet or get involved in your first threesome ?
Thanks for any help x x"
Definitely a club do not depend on this site because when someone doesn’t turn up it ballses your night up plus with clubs comes security.
General practice with a mf f 3 some is leave no one out of play and then when it’s complete the male must kick the extra female out of bed onto the floor like a discarded snotty tissue to settle his wife’s mind at ease with cuddles  |
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By *r.XratedMan 7 weeks ago
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Organising a MFF threesome can be more difficult than you think even if everyone is keen. Everyone being free at the same time is the main one. The girls don't want to be on their period so that narrows down the calendar considerably. Add in childcare, shift patterns or family care ect for all involved. If you do get everyone together and it's the first time for the girls or one of them things like anxiety or d*unkenness (usually a knock on from feeling anxious) can still cock block the man.
If you do manage it and it goes well it's amazing and you'll want more and more. Good luck! |
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