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By *rfab69 OP Man 15 weeks ago
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Just had an interesting exchange on here with a couple so wanted to ask the wider fab community.
They viewed my profile and I viewed there’s and reached out with a message. They had some points on profile of what they’re looking for and I ticked all but one so thought I’d ask anyway and see if there’s still a possibility to move things forward.
Is this something you don’t like if all requirements are ticked not to reach out to someone? Or would you prefer to share a few messages and tell someone it’s not something you’d overlook and then move on?
As a single male if you don’t take chances and ask the questions you’ll get nowhere so interested to see other peoples perspective on this xx
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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Preferences aren't set in stone unless it's something really specific or non negotiable. Most of the time people lay out an idea of what they are looking for but you find different things in different people.
Chatting to people to see if you vibe is the best way to filter out the best people for you but if there's something real specific on the profile you can't or won't accommodate, it's best to leave it as it will probably be a no. |
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By *rfab69 OP Man 15 weeks ago
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"Preferences aren't set in stone unless it's something really specific or non negotiable. Most of the time people lay out an idea of what they are looking for but you find different things in different people.
Chatting to people to see if you vibe is the best way to filter out the best people for you but if there's something real specific on the profile you can't or won't accommodate, it's best to leave it as it will probably be a no."
My thoughts exactly. I’m ok to take a no but feel it’s worth just reaching out and making sure it is something that won’t be overlooked xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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It’s nice for a couple to reply and say why you weren’t for them, but some get upset when you ask, and sort of understand why, this is a swingers site, and they just have far too much choice, even if all the boxes are ticked, all you can do is except it, move on and hope the next one is the right one. |
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We tend to list a bunch of things we are looking for or are interested in.
If we are flexible we will say it's not set in stone or that it's not a deal-breaker.
Others we think it's pretty clear it's non-negotiable.
If people message us missing a key bit it tends to be deleted without reply |
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You know, I don't actually mind when people outside my preferences reach out in general.
As soon as they say anything like don't ask don't get or "Shy bairns get nowt" as they say up here, I am absolutely out. |
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